*October Bumpkins*2014* 43 Babies Born!

[staceymxxx]

Girls i'm so angry.. i was on a probation with work & my manager isn't keeping me on as according to him i work slower then others its a load of crap hes using that as an excuse and hes getting rid of me because i'm pregnant!!!

That's awful! any chance of negotiation? Such as extending your probationary period? Any meeting prior to this to review how your getting on?
Surely they should have given you a chance to put right these supposed issues prior to your probation meeting?

If it's a big company, I'd take it above his head to HR or his boss. It's very dodgy.
So sorry

I am its a very big company, there is so much stuff i can say like how drugs were found in the shop dropped by a customer and i don't even think police have been rung yet, that happened last week! x

 

[staceymxxx]

Anatomy scan on Thursday! Nervous and excited

I have a scan on thursday for his heart then around 22nd its my anatomy, i'm so excited!!! Have you had a letter for glucose test?X

 

[Loopy Laura]

Stacey - if you're in the uk, not keeping you on during or after probation is still a dismissal so you should be able to appeal that. They should give factual evidence of why they feel you're slower than others and if you say it is sex discrimination that should make them concerned enough to keep you on! You may not want to stay on after that anyway - that's horrible for you and hope you find something else soon.

I am in the UK. Going to ring ACAS & head office tomorrow and explain how i'm not happy etc, he also said and i quote "off the record you will be better off on benefits when baby is here" The thing is, it was in a shop, i put 4 huge trolleys out to another girls 1, she is slower no reason and she got kept on and another girl failed i.d test with alcohol and shes been kept on! x

That's really bad. You should definitely contact your HR department and they will be able to advise what to do about raising a grievance or appealing the decision. ACAS will also be able to help, and your trade union if your company has one. Hope you're able to sort it out.

 

[staceymxxx]

Stacey - if you're in the uk, not keeping you on during or after probation is still a dismissal so you should be able to appeal that. They should give factual evidence of why they feel you're slower than others and if you say it is sex discrimination that should make them concerned enough to keep you on! You may not want to stay on after that anyway - that's horrible for you and hope you find something else soon.

I am in the UK. Going to ring ACAS & head office tomorrow and explain how i'm not happy etc, he also said and i quote "off the record you will be better off on benefits when baby is here" The thing is, it was in a shop, i put 4 huge trolleys out to another girls 1, she is slower no reason and she got kept on and another girl failed i.d test with alcohol and shes been kept on! x

That's really bad. You should definitely contact your HR department and they will be able to advise what to do about raising a grievance or appealing the decision. ACAS will also be able to help, and your trade union if your company has one. Hope you're able to sort it out.

Thankyou, he hasn't even done 1 risk assesment and he has known i was pregnant since the 28th of january! its just ridiculous, my complaint is a mile long! x

 

[fides]

wow - i can't imagine a 35 minute labor (or even 3 hours)!

reminds me of a story my m/w had last year - the lady had a couple contractions and called the m/w to give her a head's up. m/w said to call back once she reached the 5min apart/1min long mark. after she got off the phone, she went to go brush her teeth, and baby started coming. her husband rushed in to catch the baby - she delivered while standing there in the bathroom at the sink!!

 

[Jcliff]

Anatomy scan on Thursday! Nervous and excited

I have a scan on thursday for his heart then around 22nd its my anatomy, i'm so excited!!! Have you had a letter for glucose test?X

They don't usually do glucose test here until later, unless you are showing signs

 

[zephyr]

Omigosh fides!! I dont know how id feel delivering or having hubby deliver our own baby eeek how scary!

Reminds me of when I was newly pregnant with my twins I wemt to my doctors appointment which was the first of the morning. I always show early but as I walked up the drive I realised something was terrible wrong!
There was a car skidded right outside the front door door wide open kids sitting in the car.
no one at reception so I sat down and could hear screaming and people going its okay love! You are doing great!!
I didnt know what the heck was going on. Then an ambulance pulled up and this lady was still screaming. Before the paramedics could get out of the ambo I hear this tiny newborn screaming its head off and I lost it. Burst into tears lol it was such a relief as I thought someone was dying

my appointment was very late and I got to hear from my nurse about the birth as she delivered the baby. First time she delivered one.

Its a very small practice an old house converted into two doctors rooms so it wasnt a huge place with long halls.

apparently this ladys husband was away and she couldnt make it to the hospital, the doctors wasnt open so she was banging on the pharmacy next door yelling for help.
my nurse had decided to go in early that day which is good else she probably would of had to deliver on the side of the street with her kids in the car.

Why she didnt phone an ambulance from home is beyond me, I guess she thought maybe she would make it to hospital.

 

[Laelani]

Super exhausted as I went out to the Backstreet Boys concert last night and stood for like 4 hours straight so yeah very tired and super sore today!! Anyway I just wanted to give a quick update that I will be 18 weeks tomorrow and we have a prenatal appointment in the morning to make sure things are good and then we have our private gender scan tomorrow afternoon!!! Will make sure to pop in to update! Hope you are all well.

 

[rbourre]

I have been feeling baby move a lot the last 3 days. I love it. A couple little thumps, but mostly just wiggling around.

 

[AshleyLK]

I also have been referred to a dietitian. I have gained 25 lbs so far

Considering your baby and placenta probably weigh no more than two pounds (I'm overestimating) I'm sure you find that weight gain very discerning.. I hope you can find a resolution

 

[newlywed2013]

I also have been referred to a dietitian. I have gained 25 lbs so far

Considering your baby and placenta probably weigh no more than two pounds (I'm overestimating) I'm sure you find that weight gain very discerning.. I hope you can find a resolution

Thank you., it is hard, and very unhealthy. She didn't want me gaining until 20 Weeks, as I am quite overweight to begin with. I just am so hungry. hopefully we can figure something out and limit weight gain for the rest of my pregnancy.

 

[Jcliff]

I also have been referred to a dietitian. I have gained 25 lbs so far

Considering your baby and placenta probably weigh no more than two pounds (I'm overestimating) I'm sure you find that weight gain very discerning.. I hope you can find a resolution

Thank you., it is hard, and very unhealthy. She didn't want me gaining until 20 Weeks, as I am quite overweight to begin with. I just am so hungry. hopefully we can figure something out and limit weight gain for the rest of my pregnancy.

Have they said anything about checking for GD yet?

 

[Kittycat155]

My thought too about GD. I am overweight and nothing worse then being hungry and trying not to eat enough to gain. So far I lost 20 lbs and am maintaining 260. But I fear going the opposite way at some point.

Did you have thyroid looked at?

 

[newlywed2013]

She hasn't says anything about gd or thyroid. I think it's just my terrible eating habits, so we will see if changing helps any

 

[sprite30]

I wish you luck newlywed, weight gain is hard. I'm holding steady at the moment but when I went in for my first appointment with my regular obgyn they really attempted to scare the crap out of me. I was 202 when we started the cycle with the fertility specialist so I'm blaming the first 5lbs I gained on the fertility meds and the regular obgyns official start weight was 207 and I just weighed in with them 9 weeks later and I was only 207.8 so I was very very happy with that but still feel fat lol

I'm starting to feel very sore now tho. I woke up this morning and my stomach hurt like I was doing crunches all night. And after sitting on my butt for nearly 8 hours today when I finished with work my tummy just hurt. I had some gardening to do tonight bc dh decided that tonight was a great night to lay down mulch and pulling the weeds is my job so I was bending and sitting low for awhile by the time I had a chance to rest and lay in bed my tummy was so sore. Ugh def taking it easy now. Those weeds can wait until October now, lol

 

[StarBrites]

I have only gained two pounds so far and I'll be 20 weeks next weekend.. Is that bad? :/ I don't know how much we should be gaining. It worries me she won't grow properly.

 

[SisterRose]

I hope that you manage to sort something out Newlywed, and if you'd like we can encourage each other eating healthy, and not to gain much more weight. I've gone from 10st(about 140lbs) to 220lb in two-three years with pregnancy and whatnot. I didn't overly gain with dd2 but I did gain quite a bit afterards, and in this pregnancy ive put on around 14lbs already. I'm aiming not to gain any more now which I know is possible as I only gained around 21lb with each other baby including baby, placenta, waters and lost a good 9-10lb of that right after birth.
I did have GD in my first pregnancy but as far as I'm aware GD doesn't make YOU gain weight rapidly, it just increases the babies risk of being a big baby.

 

[kiki28]

I'm off to the drs this morning as I'm still getting bad pains in my stomach I'm also going to complain about the midwife I saw there the other day for just brushing off all my concerns too!

 

[SisterRose]

Good luck Kiki, hope you get some answers. x

 

[zephyr]

Good luck kiki!

Its different that you guys are weighed at your appointments and your weight is watched. We dont get weighed, except my twin pregnancy I got weighed during the last 10 weeks of that but all my other pregnancies I was just asked a starting weight.

I eat very healthy gluten free mostly veg and meat diet yet I have gained 10kgs last I checked. I actually hid the scales cos I didnt want to stress about it.
if that makes anyone feel better you are not alone on the weight gain!!
Ive been slipping with the healthy eating the last week or two tho :/ tonight I gorged on pickles dipped in cream cheese. Yum!