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It's such a joke I'm disgusted in the way the are treating you and feel really angry it's not fair
 
Baby brain can you go to a different hospital? I agree with Nolimit you could say you’re spotting and have them give you a scan. That’s if you want to go through all that though, I’m sure this is all so stressful already :hugs: Either way we’re here for you to talk to
 
Baby_brain said:
Just saying goodbye. Missed miscarriage confirmed today. Have had two spots of blood, literally the tiniest amount. Panicked and booked a private scan. Should be 11 weeks. Measuring only 8 and no HB. Need to contact midwife in the morning and go into hospital. There are no words to describe the pain. It is nearly 2am and I am just lying awake sobbing.

Wishing you all the best of luck and healthy lovely babies.
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Oh I am so so so sorry love! I’ve been there, it hurts and there’s nothing that really helps! My prayers and thoughts are with you
 
Thank you lovely ladies for all your thoughts and well wishes. A new day and another private version of hell. I have morning sickness. The spotting has stopped completely and I have no pain whatsoever.

I am going to try ringing round other hospitals today and seeing desperately if anywhere can fit me in for the confirmation internal scan. But all the hospitals around here and in the same hospital trust so probably have the same rules and wait times.

I am also going to my GP this morning as I really feel my mental health is suffering. I haven’t slept or at least had any proper sleep since this nightmare began and I am starting to feel like I am going crazy. Because all the symptoms have gone and I FEEL pregnant and the scan I had was so unclear what if there is some tiny glimmer of hope?

I know I shouldn’t do that to myself because then it will hit me harder again when it is confirmed. I am just struggling to make it through the days at the moment. I don’t know what to do guys.
 
Baby_brain said:
This comment just made me cry. You are so thoughtful. Please all be proud and happy about your wonderful healthy babies. I will never be upset to hear about healthy pregnancies. I would never wish this sadness on anyone.

I have had the worst day ever. EPU need to scan me to confirm MMC before giving me any help or options as my scan was private. But they won’t give me an appointment until Monday. I spent all day today in the ER and EPU and had bloods, urine test and an internal. Absolutely no bleeding now. Cervix is closed.

Because the private scan was abdominal and they couldn't get a very clear picture (due to section scar tissue and tilted uterus) the EPU kept saying not to worry until I have had an internal scan with them. I think trying to give me this hope and then making me wait 5 days for a scan is the most cruel sick joke.

I have no hope. I know that there was not a hint of a HB.

I have cried so much my head and eyes hurt. I have been physically sick from the shock and thought of the waiting. My whole family has spent all day trying to find someone anywhere that will scan me (needs to be NHS for them to accept it as proof and offer me medical management or D and C).

I have had to call work and say I don’t know how long I will be off for. I feel in limbo. Have to keep going for my LG but just want to curl up and give in.
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@Baby_brain this happened to me. I had a private scan on the Saturday where I was told their was no heartbeat. I had to wait to call epu on the Monday, they brought me in for an internal to confirm on the Tuesday but I had to wait till they had something available to get my d and c. It was a unnecessary horrible wait and in my hospital in attending when you are checking in it is the same place as where the woman in active labour check in. So heartbreaking. They really don't take into a count our mental health to them it's just another miscarriage but to us that is out heart. We had plans for that baby we envisioned what they would look like, if they where a boy or girl, life plans.

I really am sorry for your loss and I know it feel a this is just another blow having to wait. I hope they can get you in quicker x
 
I am so sorry Baby_brain.. may god give you all the strength to cope up this.. :hug:
 
I have not been able to find the HB on doppler. Could be the doppler (it says 12-14 weeks detection) or me ( i m plus size) but i m kind of worried as well. Are doctors' dopplers any better? ill just visit my gynaec then in any case
 
I have not been able to find the HB on doppler. Could be the doppler (it says 12-14 weeks detection) or me ( i m plus size) but i m kind of worried as well. Are doctors' dopplers any better? ill just visit my gynaec then in any case
 
Right guys, I think this will be my last post. I feel like I should leave this thread as I am worried you are all feeling like you can’t post about your pregnancies in case you upset me. I don’t want this and I don’t want to bring the thread down.

I managed to get another private scan at a fertility clinic this morning. Confirmed with an internal that my baby died at 8w6d. I am now waiting until Monday to see the EPU and hopefully book in a D and C.

Thank you for all your support and love. I am sad and hurt but I know that this storm will pass. I only hope that in time I will have the courage to try again.
 
Demotivated said:
I have not been able to find the HB on doppler. Could be the doppler (it says 12-14 weeks detection) or me ( i m plus size) but i m kind of worried as well. Are doctors' dopplers any better? ill just visit my gynaec then in any case
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Hi sweety please don't worry because my midwife won't even try to to find HB untill week 14 onwards because they can be very hard to find b4 then. I'm sure ure baby is fine. Remember baby is only the size of a kidney bean so still really teeny I hope that reasures you hon.
 
Crying my eyes out reading Baby brains and shorty comments. So sad why is life so cruel:cry:
 
Baby_brain said:
Right guys, I think this will be my last post. I feel like I should leave this thread as I am worried you are all feeling like you can’t post about your pregnancies in case you upset me. I don’t want this and I don’t want to bring the thread down.

I managed to get another private scan at a fertility clinic this morning. Confirmed with an internal that my baby died at 8w6d. I am now waiting until Monday to see the EPU and hopefully book in a D and C.

Thank you for all your support and love. I am sad and hurt but I know that this storm will pass. I only hope that in time I will have the courage to try again.
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Sending all my love. It really is such a sad time. Make sure you take enough time off work and put yourself first for a bit. The pain never leaves you but it does get easier over time. Stay strong x
 
Baby_brain said:
Right guys, I think this will be my last post. I feel like I should leave this thread as I am worried you are all feeling like you can’t post about your pregnancies in case you upset me. I don’t want this and I don’t want to bring the thread down.

I managed to get another private scan at a fertility clinic this morning. Confirmed with an internal that my baby died at 8w6d. I am now waiting until Monday to see the EPU and hopefully book in a D and C.

Thank you for all your support and love. I am sad and hurt but I know that this storm will pass. I only hope that in time I will have the courage to try again.
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Don’t feel like you have to leave the group, we are here for you xx
I’m so sorry this has all happened, and I’m especially sorry you’re still having symptoms. I hope this weekend passes quickly for you and that you’re able to rest. Big hugs xx
 
Baby_brain - I know you said that would be your last post, but I hope you see this.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I just dealt with something like this this past December. Went in for a scan at 11w1d and was told the baby had stopped growing at 8w5d. So, I definitely know how you feel. 2 cycles later, I'm now pg again, but I'm still so shaken by everything. At least you have a LO at home (as do I), so we are capable of viable pregnancies and I'm sure things will go better next time. I also thought about not wanting to put myself through the possibility of another MC, but the reward is worth the risk 1000%. Take time and heal and don't give up hope.

As for the medical aspect, my MW told me they generally give women who've lost a baby this young a few weeks to pass things naturally before going with a d and c, unless the woman requests one. I've also heard you need to wait a few months after a d and c to try again, but you can get right back at it after a natural passing. Obviously, this is all stuff to discuss with your Dr, but it's just a little food for thought.

Overall, my heart goes out to you. But us ladies are always here for you. DM me if you'd like to.
 
Hi ladies
So in 2011 I had a liver transplant. I had to have it done in a city hospital that's about an hour and a half drive away from where I live. I cudnt have it at my home hospital because they don't do transplants so I had my transplant done at the queen Elizabeth in Birmingham.
I rang them at 5 weeks pregnant to tell them I am pregnant. Anyway they have just rang me back and they want me to go there on the 1st April to have all my liver and kidney bloods done annnnd there gonna do a scan to check my liver and kidneys but they will have a look at baby as well.
I'll be 11+6 and then on the 9th April I have my main dating scan I'll be 13 weeks. So 2 more scans coming up. I'm excited but I bet I'll be nervous again.
 
Baby brain.
Please don't feel u have to leave this group we are all here for you. I had a MC at 10+4 so I know what ure going through and the heartache but just know we are all here for you to talk to and also if u want to privet message me you can sending loads of love and warm hugs :hugs:<3
 
This exhaustion is kicking my butt. Who else has babies/toddlers? I’m struggling to keep up with my son - he ends up in front of the TV which isn’t really ideal :dohh:
 
Sander said:
This exhaustion is kicking my butt. Who else has babies/toddlers? I’m struggling to keep up with my son - he ends up in front of the TV which isn’t really ideal :dohh:
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I have a just turned 4 year old and 1 year old!! Struggle is real! So grateful for an amazing husband
 
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