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Anyone else have 2 of the same gender and nervous about finding out the 3rd? I keep trying to convince myself I’m ok with it, and I will be happy as long as their healthy but I seem to be getting a bit nervous as my scans approaching next week. I guess I’d like a girl more than I’d like to admit and prob will be a tiny bit miffed if we’re having a 3rd boy, I guess it’s because it means I won’t get to experience having a girl. Also it’s everyones else comments and expectations that are hard to deal with, of which there are a lot this time around. I almost don’t even want to announce on Facebook we’re expecting.
I feel ready to be told it’s a boy as I knew before getting preg that obviously it can go either way and I’m kinda convinced it will be a boy, I’ve tried not to let myself think about girl stuff so much but it’s hard now people are getting their scans and having gender guesses, especially people with 2 boys and strong chance of 3rd been a girl, my feelings towards that make it clear I’m still holding out some hope for a girl.
Don’t mean to offended anyone, I do feel these feelings are natural though, I think most poeple would like the opposite gender to what they already have, bar a few maybe. and I don’t think anyone else can really understand unless you have experienced it. I love having 2 boys they are best friends and enjoy some of the same things etc, but it would be nice to have a girl also. But what will be will be and I will love them like mad just the same.
 
twinklestar25 said:
Anyone else have 2 of the same gender and nervous about finding out the 3rd? I keep trying to convince myself I’m ok with it, and I will be happy as long as their healthy but I seem to be getting a bit nervous as my scans approaching next week. I guess I’d like a girl more than I’d like to admit and prob will be a tiny bit miffed if we’re having a 3rd boy, I guess it’s because it means I won’t get to experience having a girl. Also it’s everyones else comments and expectations that are hard to deal with, of which there are a lot this time around. I almost don’t even want to announce on Facebook we’re expecting.
I feel ready to be told it’s a boy as I knew before getting preg that obviously it can go either way and I’m kinda convinced it will be a boy, I’ve tried not to let myself think about girl stuff so much but it’s hard now people are getting their scans and having gender guesses, especially people with 2 boys and strong chance of 3rd been a girl, my feelings towards that make it clear I’m still holding out some hope for a girl.
Don’t mean to offended anyone, I do feel these feelings are natural though, I think most poeple would like the opposite gender to what they already have, bar a few maybe. and I don’t think anyone else can really understand unless you have experienced it. I love having 2 boys they are best friends and enjoy some of the same things etc, but it would be nice to have a girl also. But what will be will be and I will love them like mad just the same.
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Perfectly normal everyone ideally would love at least one of each. I would love a boy but I'm ok and excited if it is another girl. I know on my dd2 we found out we where having a girl I will admit I was taken aback I was fully convinced she was a boy so i did suffer with pre natal depression. But as soon as she was born all my worries where gone. And I'm so happy she was a girl cause my dds are best friends.
 
I think your feelings are completely normal. I will likely never be able to relate but I used to worry about the dynamic of our family and whether we would end up in a situation like yours. It's hard when you really want something and literally have no control over how it turns out. It's not like you can go to the baby store and say I want this one (like you can a pet!) It's a human life and while you'll love it all the same I'm sure there is worry about gender disappointment. I think though as time moves forward you'll come around to letting that go if it ends up being another boy. It just....is what it is. But that's what makes BnB so awesome, we're here to help you and support your feelings so you have a safe place to work through it so you CAN eventually feel great about whatever the outcome will be. :hugs:
 
Thank you everyone, I feel overall I’m fine with either, just a slight preference that rears every so often. but this is our baby and a new member of our family we will love them no matter what & really just want them to be healthy more than anything, I even feel guilty for feeling like this i try not to let my mind go there too much. Thanks again everyone for being so lovely x
 
I think it’s totally normal like you said so have these feelings! I have one of each and we’re staying team yellow, but my dd is so set on this being a girl (she was set on ds being a boy too) and all of my gut instincts have been girl so far that I am totally all in for a girl and am so scared I’ll be disappointed if it ends up being a boy!
Like I have gotten all of dd baby clothing and blankets out that I kept, my decor so far and ideas for nursery and all girly, we have a girl name. Everything. So while I’m not in the same exact situation I still feel these feelings!
 
Oh yes I remember being so disappointed Elias was a boy :haha: I was actually surprised how disappointed I was!! Then he was born and I can’t imagine it any other way. Still want a girl this time though :p
 
We would love a boy this time as it will be our last more than likely and the idea of one each is lovely. I think my husband would especially love to have a boy. We were team yellow with our DD but will get a private scan at 16 weeks this time providing all is good at the dating scan x
 
I've convinced myself that I'll have a girl so I think I'll be surprised and slightly disappointed if I find out it's a boy but originally I wanted my first to be a boy so will be happy either way. I'm sure once he/she is born I wont be able to picture it being any other way.
 
Grr I've run into drama today. I've had a private album on my facebook where I'm tracking by belly shots that no one can actually see other than me. However yesterday I posted a picture late at night and didn't see that it auto tagged a family member in the pic and sure enough woke up to find out this family member saw it and went and told half my family already without even speaking to me first. Luckily I managed to stop her from spreading the news further but I'm devastated I now wont be able to have the chance to talk to people face to face. I was excited to tell a few people in the next week or so and this one person pretty much ruined it for me.

Also I went on my first maternity clothes shopping spree today. The pants are so comfy I didn't want to take them off in the store haha.
 
Oh my word Teanna the same thing happened to me with DS, I was SO angry. It was my dad - he told other family and even random people I barely knew were texting me (at 4 WEEKS pregnant) congratulating me. I was so unbelievably upset so I’m sooo sorry it’s happened to you too. Especially because you dealt with infertility - I’m sure you spent a ton of time planning how you wanted to tell people.

Honestly nothing makes it better it’s just so disappointing. Eventually it won’t matter as much to you - once your LO is here - but I 100% understand how you must be feeling. I hope that family member keeps quiet so you can tell the rest of your family yourself!
 
Sander said:
Oh my word Teanna the same thing happened to me with DS, I was SO angry. It was my dad - he told other family and even random people I barely knew were texting me (at 4 WEEKS pregnant) congratulating me. I was so unbelievably upset so I’m sooo sorry it’s happened to you too. Especially because you dealt with infertility - I’m sure you spent a ton of time planning how you wanted to tell people.

Honestly nothing makes it better it’s just so disappointing. Eventually it won’t matter as much to you - once your LO is here - but I 100% understand how you must be feeling. I hope that family member keeps quiet so you can tell the rest of your family yourself!
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I think I got the problem handled now with that family member. It's my grandmother and she's a bit of a gossip so I'm sure she'll go back to talking about it soon though. I've had a blighted ovum before and 2 CP's though so really was trying to not say anything until my first appointment Monday, I should be able to hear the heart beat at least. I wanted to tell family in person as I'm single and this was unplanned so I don't expect it to go over well with everyone in my family.

I was going to announce this week at least, I can't imagine everyone finding out at only 4 weeks along. At that point you'd have barely had a chance to process the news never mind dealing with all the family too.
 
Gah Teanna I’m sorry I just realized I got you confused with Nolimit in regards to infertility :wacko: sorry guys!!

Thankfully Monday is coming soon so you should hear baby’s heartbeat and be able to tell everyone yourself! I’m sure your family will be happy even if they’re surprised at first. But I hope they have a positive, excited reaction for you!

Yes ha I was absolutely livid. I was convinced I’d miscarry and have to tell all these random people that I had lost the baby. It was awful! Needless to say I waited a long time to tell my dad this time since he just blabs away to everyone.
 
Happy mothers day ladies.. it's currently 5:45 am in Ireland and for the 3rd night in a row I'm wide awake.. the joys of pregnancy...

13 weeks today woohoo hello 2nd tri (based on my hospitals calender) :dance:

I meant to say after my 12 week scan. I went for bloods and answered the million questions they ask.. they have me down for risk of GD (I had it on my dd1) so I have to go for bloods every 6 weeks. My next appointment and mini scan is the 25th of April. Big scan booked for the 31st of May.. feels like ages away but I have the busiest month in April so it should fly for me.

Slowly getting my appetite back and woohoo was not sick today fist time in a long time I haven't. Hoping this is the light at the end of the tunnel.
 
happy mothers day, its a sad day for me cos my mum isnt with us, been nearly 5 years but its still hard. exciting that some of us are in 2nd tri, and some of us will be soon :) just over a week and i will be in 2nd tri! x
 
Re: other people announcing my pregnancy. I would be equal parts heartbroken and livid. I don't really forgive easily and that would almost make me want to have as little interaction with that person as possible. But that's just me. Good thing you ladies were able to nip it in the bud before way more people knew. I dunno how people can be so rude and thoughtless.

Re: gender hopes. I was pretty well convinced DS was gonna be a girl until I was told otherwise at my 20 week scan. I'd even bought a few outfits and a cute plush doll. I ended up spending 3 hours in bed, crying. Once I kinda grieved and he was finally born, I'm definitely happy to have him. I still want a girl really bad though. This pregnancy feels a lot like my one with him, except this baby's HB seems to be on the higher side. So, I'm trying to convince myself it's a boy again, so I'll be less disappointed if it is and more excited if it's a girl. I think the only issue with having one of each is it'll be harder to convince SO for one more. He asked me once, if we had another boy, would I want to try one more time for a girl. I said I want 3 anyway. lol. But we'll see. Probably gonna do my SneakPeek blood test in 9 days and then have the results less than 2 weeks after that. Then we'll just need the anatomy scan to confirm.

Congrats to everyone whose MS is starting to subside. :)

Not much news from me. Still just happy to keep finding the HB on the doppler.
 
Gender: I’ve already had my input on mine but I just want to add.. heartbeat has been spot on with my other two and according to it for this one it should be girl, my gut has always been right and so again should be girl, but everyone well majority is saying boy and I’m having a hard time with it! I really don’t know why. I have one of each so in all honesty healthy is what we want, but my daughter wants a sister so badly and I’m so obsessed with all the girly things and have went through dds things that I kept.. it’s probably a good thing we aren’t finding out because in the moment I find out I’ll be looking at it’s sweet face and gender won’t matter at that point! But you know how middle babies always get that “reputation” of being left out or whatever.. I was actually secretly hoping my ds would stay the only boy so that he has his own “title”.. like dd is the oldest, he would be only boy and this baby would be the baby! Lol silly I know, but I suppose he would take oldest boy title if this is a boy! Sighhhh.. I guess I need to start amping myself up for this being a boy so I don’t have any disappointing feelings if it’s a boy! Anyway, rant over!

As far as Mother’s Day.. happy Mother’s Day to you ladies! Mother’s Day here isn’t until May! And it’s also my anniversary weekend every year! Lol!

And... I am officially calling myself in the second trimester! At my scan I was measuring ahead a good bit which practically had me skip the entire 12th week! I didn’t see my doc that day because he had to run over to the hospital for a surgery so I will see him Monday and get to ask then. But I changed my ticker because I know more of how my body works and I know those final days preeclampsia will sneak up and I like to be on top of it!
 
Teanna said:
View attachment 1058361 Here's my 10 week bump pic taken first thing in the morning before I've gotten a chance to blow up like a balloon. It's crazy how much bigger I am in the evenings from bloating but definitely got something going on there now.
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U look lovely hon. Such a cute little bump.
 
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