OH liking half naked pics of women on fb!!! >:( MAD!!

[immie]

Omg i'm so mad!! I've just been browsing on fb and noticed my OH has been liking pictures of women on fb, one of them is of this woman in kinky lingerie!! I'm so self conscious lately because of my changing body and shape and I told him this the other day and said I don't feel like I'm enough for him lately. His response was 'don't be so stupid I don't even look at othet women in that way, I only have eyes for you'

Well I'm sorry but he clearly had eyes for these other women when he was oggling at pictures of them and liking them! This has just made me feel like utter shit and I honestly feel like he's been disloyal. What would you be thinking if you were in my position? Am I over reacting or are my feelings valid?

 

[cookette]

For me, I think you're over reacting. A lot of women arent going to agree with me though, I know Im the minority. I dont get all worked up over that kind of stuff; men are visual. Have you ever watched a movie and thought "Oh, he's hot..." To me its no different.

However, pretty much every other poster is going to disagree with me, lol.

 

[Pixiedust22]

I think it depends on if it's women he knows or not. I don't at all mind my OH looking at "naughty stuff" (you know what I mean) online but I might mind if he was looking at women we know.

Your feelings aren't invalid at all, it's a bit weird him liking the pictures and then claiming he doesn't look! Would be better if he just admitted that he does look but he only actually wants you.

And cookette, I don't disagree with you; I think both men and women do look, all the time! But it's better if you're honest about it.

 

[immie]

For me, I think you're over reacting. A lot of women arent going to agree with me though, I know Im the minority. I dont get all worked up over that kind of stuff; men are visual. Have you ever watched a movie and thought "Oh, he's hot..." To me its no different.

However, pretty much every other poster is going to disagree with me, lol.

Even though our opinions differ, thanks for the reply. I wish I could be more like you, just makes me think about how far he's willing to let his mind wonder, or his hands!

 

[Yo_Yo]

Are you sure he has Liked them? My hubby accidently liked a link that appeared on his news feed the other day.

If he has liked them knowingly, if it were me, I would take the p**s and say "that underwear wouldn't suit you/it's not your colour etc" on his Facebook wall

 

[immie]

Are you sure he has Liked them? My hubby accidently liked a dodgy thing that appeared on his news feed the other day.

If he has liked them knowingly, if it were me is take the p**s and say "that underwear wouldn't suit you/it's not your colour etc" on his Facebook wall

Yeah I'm sure he's definitely liked them! god I'm so annoyed. You know when you find something out and gives you horrible butterflies in your tummy? Well that's what I have:/ xxx

 

[messica]

I would remind him that everyone who's friends with him on fb, as well as people who are friends with his friends on fb, can see *everything* he "likes" on fb......including you and other family members.

Although I think it's in bad taste to do something like that that publically, I do don't see the harm in it at all. Doesn't mean it is or should be any kind of ok for you and your marriage, but I surely don't believe just because a man looks at a half naked woman on the internet that that means they'd ever have the balls or lack of love for their spouse to take it any further than that.

 

[Yo_Yo]

Are you sure he has Liked them? My hubby accidently liked a dodgy thing that appeared on his news feed the other day.

If he has liked them knowingly, if it were me is take the p**s and say "that underwear wouldn't suit you/it's not your colour etc" on his Facebook wall

Yeah I'm sure he's definitely liked them! god I'm so annoyed. You know when you find something out and gives you horrible butterflies in your tummy? Well that's what I have:/ xxx

Definitely talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel honey. It's not nice to feel like that when your pregnant especially.

 

[mysteriouseye]

I have to admit me personally I wouldn’t like my husband liking photo’s of naked women on facebook where people can see that he has liked pictures of naked women etc…but I am not bothered if he does his own thing in private like porn sites because a man has his needs xx

 

[Sunseal]

Whilst I wouldn't be hugely angry, it would make me feel like crap. I understand that our bodies are changing, not in the most ideal of ways and if my OH starting 'liking' pics of naked/almost naked girls with amazing figures online, whilst I wouldn't go "Oh my god, you're so disloyal, how could you?!" I would be thinking "Thanks... I can see what you would rather I looked like, and I'm not that at all."
What I'm saying is whilst I wouldn't get mad, I would feel like rubbish and completely self concious every time he looked at me naked, wondering if he was secretly yearning or imagining these other amazing bodies!

 

[moomin_troll]

Yeah it shouldn't bother you, but it has and he should respect your wishes about things like this. I would tell him you have seen this if you already haven't and tell him how upset you are.

We can all see someone else in the street, tv and think woo yeah he/she is gorgeous, but for me liking a picture like that is crossing a line for me. I don't wana see that crap. And my bf had liked afew pics where the girls, I thought weren't even as attractive as I am, so it wasn't for me anything to do with looks, even tho I would love my pre baby stomach back lol it's just showing some respect.
Some couples are fine and others aren't

 

[Belle2528]

I have to agree with Cookette and say I don't think it's that big a deal. Everyone does a bit of window shopping! Whether they admit it or not. For me, if he was taking the time to write comments on etc then I'd be mad. But just liking something wouldn't wind me up.

Having said that, if it makes you feel uncomfortable I'd have to say something. Just be honest and tell him that it doesn't make you feel great, especially whilst feeling insecure about yourself. Hope it goes ok.

Belle xxx

 

[angiepie]

I'd be upset. I agree, I have no porn issues, but facebook isn't the place for that- do it in private!! I'd also be waaaay more upset if it was a person he knew vs a glamour model.

 

[zigee]

I'd try not to get too caught up in the emotion of it. The trith is men are men and their urges/the way they look at sex/women is totally different from us. It isn't something emotional like it is for us, belive you me Ive had my fair share of blow outs with my hubby over it. But Ive been with him 16 years and come to realize, it doesnt mean he doesnt love me, he'd never cheat. The pictures etc are just something they all do, if you can just avoid digging into it ( ie looking at what he's looking at etc) as long as you trust him b/c otherwise it'll just needlessly piss you off.

Also try to keep in mind the pregnancy is stressful for them too even though they dont have a bump, its probably just idle behavior or blowing off steam.

 

[RinnaRoo]

I think that Im part of the minorty too, saying I wouldnt really care. Its just a picture on FB. Its not like hes out getting $5 BJs or anything.

 

[AMB2013]

If I was in your shoes, I'd have a serious talk with him to make sure he wasn't doing this because he was unhappy or unsatisfied for any reason. Long as he can truthfully tell me that isn't the case, I say he can look to his heart's content (within reason, of course). Sometimes, you want to fantasize. It happens.

Also, I dunno what the situation was, but it's also possible he was looking at girls who reminded him of you in some way. Maybe they had similar figures or facial features...perhaps he did this because he assumed you weren't available or interested at the time. Only he knows.

It sort of all comes down to talking to him. Good luck.

 

[moomin_troll]

Or maybe he liked the pic because he didn't realise she would be able to see he had haha

 

[KatyKat]

I'm always seeing crap that my friends boyfriends/husbands etc have 'liked' on FB as it seems to pop up on my timeline, ususally half naked pics on websites with lovely titles like 'rack of the day' or 'arse of the day' or something equally tasteful..........

Personally I hate it, if you want to look at something, fair enough, but why feel the need to 'like' it or make some pervy comment on it? What's worse is that loads of them have kids, of varying ages, and at some point the chances are their kids are going to 'discover' what Daddy likes to look at on FB

I do wonder sometimes if these people realise that what they are 'liking' is being put out there for the rest of their friends/family to see!!!

So, in short, I think I would also be extremely narked if my DH started liking shit on FB, fingers crossed for his sake that he doesn't...........

 

[mrspeanut]

Whilst I think you shouldn't read too much into it, I know I'd be a bit upset in your position. I'd be embarrassed it could come up on the news feed of members of the family. I'd be sad as well that now my body has changed so much due to having babies, I'd never have the guts to to stick a nice pic of me up on fb for him to like instead!

 

[Mypreciouskid]

I don't buy this "men have needs" stuff, sorry. Women have needs too, and unless you're looking at naked/half naked men, that would not fly. I'd be printing out some gorgeous men with perfect bodies to make him feel like a loser. I'm mean like that though, lol.

He crossed the line, IMO. Is it forgivable? Of course.