OH liking half naked pics of women on fb!!! >:( MAD!!

[immie]

I don't buy this "men have needs" stuff, sorry. Women have needs too, and unless you're looking at naked/half naked men, that would not fly. I'd be printing out some gorgeous men with perfect bodies to make him feel like a loser. I'm mean like that though, lol.

He crossed the line, IMO. Is it forgivable? Of course.

THANK YOU! This is exactly my way of thinking. The only NEEDS men have are the same needs we have, food, water and maybe shelter! Women are not a mans need, especially a woman that isn't their partner. Idk, maybe I'm just uptight

 

[N27murray]

I think I'm the only one but I would feel just as op does. I know exactly how those terrible butterflies feel... First thing I would do is get my dh and sit him down for a chat. Tell your oh how you feel about it. Its upset you and he should know that. I think its 100% not ok...same with porn. Unless you both agree its ok to do those things of course. I say, if he wouldn't do in front of you then don't do it all.having said that, he did like these things on a public forum where he knows you can see it so maybe to him its nothing and he doesn't realize its affect on you. So talk to him. Ask him to explain why he said he only has eyes for you but then is liking half naked women. Because then he's sending you conflicting messages.
I know most women could care less if their oh looked at other women ..especially online. But that is NOT me and dh/oh need to understand how it makes us feel.
good luck

 

[N27murray]

I don't buy this "men have needs" stuff, sorry. Women have needs too, and unless you're looking at naked/half naked men, that would not fly. I'd be printing out some gorgeous men with perfect bodies to make him feel like a loser. I'm mean like that though, lol.

He crossed the line, IMO. Is it forgivable? Of course.

THANK YOU! This is exactly my way of thinking. The only NEEDS men have are the same needs we have, food, water and maybe shelter! Women are not a mans need, especially a woman that isn't their partner. Idk, maybe I'm just uptight

yes!

 

[mysteriouseye]

I bet a mens needs are not as strong as my needs for digestive biscuits right now …sorry thought I’d lighten up the thread a little xx

 

[EmzyJA]

My step dad does this all the time and it grosses me out!! My husband has in the past liked the odd picture but it doesn't bother me too much. It did bother me when he added a stripper as a friend on fb even though he didn't know her and she lives over the other side of the world I told him I didn't like it and thought it was inappropriate. He did delete her but gave a lame excuse that he adds everyone that requests him :-/
If it bothers you just have it out with him and tell him how it makes you feel. I don't care about my husband looking at other women so long as he doesn't touch but as said previously fb is hardly the place to do that, do it in private lol

 

[N27murray]

I bet a mens needs are not as strong as my needs for digestive biscuits right now …sorry thought I’d lighten up the thread a little xx

hehe

 

[vickyandchick]

I'd be annoyed, it's one thing to look at the photo but liking it so you and their entire Facebook feed can see it? Whole other story.

I think best thing to do is to sit down and just tell him x

 

[immie]

I think I'm the only one but I would feel just as op does. I know exactly how those terrible butterflies feel... First thing I would do is get my dh and sit him down for a chat. Tell your oh how you feel about it. Its upset you and he should know that. I think its 100% not ok...same with porn. Unless you both agree its ok to do those things of course. I say, if he wouldn't do in front of you then don't do it all.having said that, he did like these things on a public forum where he knows you can see it so maybe to him its nothing and he doesn't realize its affect on you. So talk to him. Ask him to explain why he said he only has eyes for you but then is liking half naked women. Because then he's sending you conflicting messages.
I know most women could care less if their oh looked at other women ..especially online. But that is NOT me and dh/oh need to understand how it makes us feel.
good luck

Thank you so much for this response. We obviously have exactly the same ideas on what is morally right and what isn't. It's good to know that someone else would be feeling exactly as I do now. I couldn't have put it better myself by the way, if a man wouldn't do something in front of their partner then they clearly shouldn't be doing it at all. Thanks again

 

[moomin_troll]

My oh liked some slutty girls page, you know the type, calls herself a model when I don't think a friend taking your photo counts lol
It popped up on my newsfeed, I had a right go at him.
Like another woman's said, men don't need to look at these types of pictures, and if they do then that's just weak. I'm sure even men have slight self control. Especially when it's upsetting their oh

 

[immie]

My oh liked some slutty girls page, you know the type, calls herself a model when I don't think a friend taking your photo counts lol
It popped up on my newsfeed, I had a right go at him.
Like another woman's said, men don't need to look at these types of pictures, and if they do then that's just weak. I'm sure even men have slight self control. Especially when it's upsetting their oh

Completely agree! Funny thing is, all my friends AND his friends tell him and I that he is punching well above his weight with me, I know looks aren't important, but if this is true, why is he even looking elsewhere?? I get so many pervy men messaging me on fb trying to chat me up but i'm completely uninterested and don't even click on the messages to read them fully! I don't get it!

 

[moomin_troll]

I've noticed men tend to look at women who to me don't seem to be as attractive as their partners..it's weird.
Looks aren't top of the list, but when he clicked like, he made it about it by liking sure a profile for my oh and a picture for yours.
I totally get why you are upset, I'd be fuming. But please try not to be too upset, have a word with him and get it off your chest. It's not nice clicking like on pictures his partner and everyone else had to see. He can look without liking or commenting

 

[BaybeeMama]

I think it all depends on the woman like i.e. is she a model or just some whore on the internet lol, my OH does that all the time and I don't care anymore. I could get mad all I wanted but he wasn't going to stop. I like guys' pictures but these are pics of guys on a group called hot cowboys, trucks, and something else lol I cant remember and a page called Lady Boners lol...... If he can do that then I can too so idgaf anymore.

 

[AMB2013]

I feel like saying that men don't have sexual needs or that they're generally bad for looking at pictures of attractive women is a little outrageous and unfair. If things were flipped and the original poster was saying she was going crazy and had her own sexual needs, we would all be encouraging her to speak with him to get this satisfaction with no questions.

Truth is, this is obviously something OP's husband has never discussed with her, and no boundaries were set by them on how to handle this, so it needs to be done. That being said, I hardly think saying "you don't need this. Get over it" and invalidating him is going to be counter-productive. Imagine if he invalidated HER needs when she had them. Staying fair is the best way to go with it.

Hope this straightens out. I'm sure it will, but tense conversations are never easy...

 

[LoveMyBaby786]

Op I would feel the same as u especially since I am also self conscious and always have been of my body but oh always assures me he loves me the way I am. But then if I saw him like a pic like that then I would also feel like shit basically and have words with him x

 

[BigAl]

What on earth is the need to like these pics on fb?? If he wants to look, then just look, no need to press like.

I would be pretty mad and embarrassed if my oh starting "liking" slutty pictures on fb, but I couldn't/wouldn't stop him looking.

 

[wookie130]

Look, it really doesn't matter what everyone's opinions of his behavior are, or how WE would react to this behavior.

What matters, is how his behavior is making the OP feel, and that is the only issue at hand.

It's hurting her, denigrating her, and making her feel less-than. It does not matter if others find those feelings irrational, over-the-top, or whatever. She is entitled to those feelings, and if we're being honest with ourselves, a lot of would admit that if our own OH's were doing this, we'd be hurt too.

That is the first thing that needs to be conveyed to OH. That this behavior hurts, and if the tables were turned, and she were liking hunky scantily-clad men on FB (no matter WHO they were), then he would probably feel insecure and hurt too.

I am a believer of being mentally faithful. Fidelity is more than how things play out in the flesh.

 

[emicakess]

I think you are 100% okay to have whatever feelings you have. I would be upset and sad if my OH did that too. Like I know he has his own brain and thoughts but I think he can keep those types of things to himself. I think your DH can too. The way I see it is yeah he can have his own thoughts but why does he need to let the other women know? Idk that's just my opinion. you have a right to be upset and sad but don't get too upset with him. Just talk to him and tell him to keep that crap to himself but it hurts your feelings/esteem.

 

[qe76]

i point out hot women at the beach- on our honeymoon even! lol Im 5'1" and 220! Im all about the you go girl if you either have great genes or hard work to look amazing - I used to be 98 lbs- Im not happy being this fat but more worried about health- I eat like a bird too- Even before pregnancy I had issues with my gut- a few bites of anything and Im in horrid pain- docs only put me on antacid- I dont know whats wrong with me- the antacid never helps..
but im too tired and in too much pain to care- well i care I should say to let it upset me- but as far as other woman- I rather celebrate their success- Im happy for them- I don't mind if hubby appreciates it too- but there is a differance between being a dog and gross about it like woman are only meant to sexually please a man and appreciating beauty-

 

[ToughhGal]

I honestly would be upset about it. Only because this is how my OH and I run our relationship. If we have other needs, we confide in each other first.

 

[Cuddle4]

I think that it boils down to respect.. Liking pics on FB of other women is not respectful of You.. Heck yeah id be embarrassed and upset! Thankfully my hubby isn't into porn, but if he was and watching it in the House then I May Not have a problem with it... But publicing approving the looks of another woman?? Oh no. You just have to tell him how you feel though... Like someone posted, he probably doesn't realize that his "likes" are being made public to Everyone...and he is probably thinking it's okay becuase it's some stranger..