OH liking half naked pics of women on fb!!! >:( MAD!!

[Gizzyy]

Look, it really doesn't matter what everyone's opinions of his behavior are, or how WE would react to this behavior.

What matters, is how his behavior is making the OP feel, and that is the only issue at hand.

It's hurting her, denigrating her, and making her feel less-than. It does not matter if others find those feelings irrational, over-the-top, or whatever. She is entitled to those feelings, and if we're being honest with ourselves, a lot of would admit that if our own OH's were doing this, we'd be hurt too.

That is the first thing that needs to be conveyed to OH. That this behavior hurts, and if the tables were turned, and she were liking hunky scantily-clad men on FB (no matter WHO they were), then he would probably feel insecure and hurt too.

I am a believer of being mentally faithful. Fidelity is more than how things play out in the flesh.

Agreed!

 

[mysteriouseye]

I agree with that also x

 

[TwilightAgain]

I don't think you're overreacting at all. I think its incredibly disrespectful, especially when it will be public. If anything he's just publicly portraying himself in a poor light as he's not only got a partner, but a pregnant one. I'd hit the roof! Would he like it if it was the other way round

 

[Mrsb3]

I would be more worried if he was liking pictures of girls fully clothed (normal pics) if you know what I'm meaning...

 

[AMB2013]

She did ask us whether we thought she was overreacting, so that was why we were giving our opinions. I'm sure she'll handle it however she sees fit, but you can't say that it doesn't matter what we think when someone specifically asked us for our opinions.

 

[wookie130]

I guess, AMB.

In which case I'd rebuttal that her feelings are valid, and that it doesn't matter how we would feel in that situation, or if we feel she's overacting. What matters is that her feelings are REAL, and legitimate, and she has every right to them.

 

[Wannabe Mommy]

For me, I think you're over reacting. A lot of women arent going to agree with me though, I know Im the minority. I dont get all worked up over that kind of stuff; men are visual. Have you ever watched a movie and thought "Oh, he's hot..." To me its no different.

However, pretty much every other poster is going to disagree with me, lol.

I agree with this.

 

[CharlieKeys]

I get men are visual ,.. And that's okay if he looks - BUT, it's the liking the pictures on there that I'm uncomfortable with. Like if you saw him like it - who else has?

 

[HopefulMarla]

Well. In my opinion it is an over reaction, and it's not. I think it's fine if he wants to look at other women. Men are visual. They are going to no matter what. On the other hand, I think that it's a bit disrespectful to show that off on FB! You're his pregnant lady. Everyone is gonna see that, and it sends the wrong message. The downfall to that, is you kinda gotta respect him not hiding it. It proves he has no shame! ahaha. Honestly, I would let it go. Life is too short to fight with the people you love over stupid stuff. I did this with my OH, and he left me. Now I wish I would have thought before getting huffy over the small stuff. It created too many unnecessary problems!

 

[purplecat]

Just remember hunni, guys will be guys and looking is only a natural thing my hubbi checks out girls all the time and it doesn't bother me and this isn't pictures on Facebook its when we are at resteraunt and we always have a good laugh at it because I always catch him. I can also see where you are coming from too. Its only natural for us women to a get a little insecure and such but just remember he wouldn't be with you and vise versa if you guys didn't love each other.

 

[purplecat]

I think if you are really hurt and uncomfortable with that then you should talk to him and ask him if he wouldn't do it because of your feelings and such. I'm sure if you tell him how you felt he wouldn't have an issue with it. Good luck girl

 

[GdaneMom4now]

I would be furious. I would be the same exact way as you...Especially with it showing on fb. Sorry you're going through this

 

[GdaneMom4now]

i think i'm the only one but i would feel just as op does. I know exactly how those terrible butterflies feel... First thing i would do is get my dh and sit him down for a chat. Tell your oh how you feel about it. Its upset you and he should know that. I think its 100% not ok...same with porn. Unless you both agree its ok to do those things of course. I say, if he wouldn't do in front of you then don't do it all.having said that, he did like these things on a public forum where he knows you can see it so maybe to him its nothing and he doesn't realize its affect on you. So talk to him. Ask him to explain why he said he only has eyes for you but then is liking half naked women. Because then he's sending you conflicting messages.
I know most women could care less if their oh looked at other women ..especially online. But that is not me and dh/oh need to understand how it makes us feel.
Good luck

thank you so much for this response. We obviously have exactly the same ideas on what is morally right and what isn't. It's good to know that someone else would be feeling exactly as i do now. I couldn't have put it better myself by the way, if a man wouldn't do something in front of their partner then they clearly shouldn't be doing it at all. Thanks again

amen!