ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[sherylb]

This has been the longest day ever. I can't wait for it to be 5:30 so I can go home and relax with DH.

 

[nypage1981]

Preethi- its fine! I didn't write my response with thinking "oh, that preethi is such a bad person". I just wanted to make sure you understood where some of that icky talk comes from with those who have been through it.

I agree with computer being hard to communicate effectively. Me and OH's first year the most we'd fight was over text because things were stated or read in the wrong way. Its tough!

I know you are very sensitive to negative talk of babies and pregnancy. I totally see you as a girl who worries a bit and needs to not know of the negatives. Its just tough, cuz it is possible that those who are TTC think its hard to hear of baby stuff all the time! That's why I want this thread to be completely open to all the stuff becasue we are all at very different stages and need to coincide with each other in that way.

Sheryl- it is super hard not knowing, but the majority of women are FINE. Just happens to be a lot more loss and such on here since its a place those women go for support, answers, etc. Im sure you are fine But hope that medical comes soon for you. You really don't need any sort of appointment until 8-10 weeks I believe it is....

Sarah-----where ya been?? Busy girl

Now, lets all just get on with it! No one meant to hurt anyone, I truely believe that so lets forget about it!

 

[MummyCat]

Oh Babyhopes... I know you didn't mean any harm.... I even said that, if you go back and have a read... I know you meant no harm!

I was not upset by what you said Baby... but I could see how it might upset others.. which is why I said saomething.

A lot can be misread in text... just like that bit you highlighted... I was trying to reassure Dew.. there is no way that when I read about her miscarriage it will hurt me, as much as it hurt her! Does that make sense? I wasn't directing it at you hun... I was trying to explain to Dew that she's been through a lot... the MC is a big part of her life and she should be able to mention it without feeling bad.

I think everyone is entitled to express their feelings, it's the point of a forum... there has been nothing but well wishes support for you and for everyone, by everyone... We've been a very supportive group, I jsut wanted to point out that asking someone to not mention their miscarriage is being unsupportive (I know you didn't mean it that way... I know you just meant that if we don't hear it we wont think about it) but I'm sure you might now realise why I said what I did.

I know you have suffered... Preethi hearing about your situation and the sad times you had made us all the more thrilled for when you finally got your bfp and supportive of you when you started bleeding. But we wouldn't have asked you to stop talking about it... when it could upset people who can't conceive... that was just the point i was trying to make... everyone has had their struggles.... be it the loss of a child because of a cervix that doesn't do it's job , or miscarriages at various stages , or LONG term TTC , or polyps blocking the ideal spot for implantation or having to abort due to the laws of the country you live in .... but they make us who we are!!!

Please don't feel like you can't talk in here... I just think we need to be accepting of everyones struggles!

 

[babyhopes2323]

Sincerely thank you both NY and mummy for understanding where im coming from and i have nothing but well wishes for all of you and do entirely understand what you mean now mummy

we have been a very supportive group, i throughly agree which is why i would hate it if we misunderstood each other, as i was fretting with worry now as to how i could make it up to those who felt bad about the comments.. thats how much i couldnt bear to leave this thread.. theres too much love and support filled into a closely knit group xxx

love to all. xxx

but i agree we should be able to talk about everything, even our DH's and our little hiccups we have with our lives and i agree we shouldnt leave something out because i said so, because it cant be fair !! xx truce .. xxx

 

[MummyCat]

Glad you understand I meant no harm.... and pleased you agree...

cos today my DH has annoyed the socks off me! it's like we have a conversation about something and he forgets it ever happened (this particular conversation was about a week ago) and he claims he remembers nothing.... not even the stuff he suggested!

His memory is bad... he knows it... but I get so angry sometimes, because I'm sure if he paid attention a little more, he'd remember things better!

it's like I have to remember everything from him and me!

 

[nypage1981]

Good, we can all laugh about this later. Lol.

 

[nypage1981]

Mummy- not just your DH, all men. I'm convinced. Its led to fights because it will affect my work or his plans because I had told him already something going on and he refused to remember it. Grrrrr!

 

[babyhopes2323]

me and my dh had an argument today over the birth because hes never been one for hospitals and blood and i insisted he cut the cord which he says he cant do because of all the blood and pulsating veins on the cord. he has never really gone to hospitals because he hates blood and cant stand the sight, he is very squeamish, we later agreed that he was anyway going to be there for the birth so he would be there but would leave the instruments to the doc..

 

[nypage1981]

Hahaha. Thats funny about your DH preethi. Mine is mad that he can't cut anything in my c section. What a dork! I know he was kidding- but really wanted the scalpel. He is actually for real bummed that he can't cut the cord though Me too, but thats the way it is with c section!

 

[MummyCat]

Preethi, do you know that you can request to wait until the cord stops pulsating before it gets cut?? It's one of the things that we were told about on our antenatal class when pregnant with Lottie. Basically it allows the placenta to pass as much nutrient rich blood to the baby as possible and once it stops pulsating, then it's stopped passing blood to the baby and hubby might not be so squeemish!

You may find that in the moment, he finds he doesn't care about the blood etc. it's quite an experience and my DH's fondest memory of everything is when he saw Lottie's head, he said her face all squished up will stay with him forever (she came out the wrong way, facing up) LOL

NY.... WHAT are we going to do about our men??? I think I might threaten mine with no until he remembers things!

 

[babyhopes2323]

aww thats so sweet that your dh wants to do it.. bless him. xx

hey youre not having a c this time are you..? because how can you know so early on that youre having a c? read on here that dh is not ellas biological dad, so youre talking about this pregnancy right?

im having an epidural,.. i think i decided that after watching too many birthing videos !

 

[babyhopes2323]

yeah wow, it would be awesome if he would be willing to do it, but mines got a hard head and he is quite sure and does not budge when he means something, and this i know he means, but lets see at that time, maybe he will be willing, i think i will be in too much pain and anxiety and relief to care to be honest about who cuts the cord. as long as im stitched up back fine and dandy if i have any tears !

 

[babyhopes2323]

wow cutie lottie, loved her pics at 4 hours, that image will stay with me and i wouldnt need to go past 3 pages to find it.. them eyes were sure cheeky !

 

[nypage1981]

Preethi- yes I am talking about this pregnancy. I had a c section with Ella so then I am to have one with this one too. So, no going into labor surprises for me. We will schedule a day and time!

 

[MummyCat]

I didn't want an epidural before I went into labour.... but after 2 days in hospital having been induced... I changed my mind and had one!

I slept for ages once I got it... it was a welcome relief... but i have a lot of friends who managed fine without it... I think everyone's different and Preethi you may surprise yourself with how much you can handle!

x

 

[flyingduster]

hahaha, ohhh ladies, I just read through all that drama and I could see all the emotions flying around and then see them simmer down, and in hindsight (having read it all at once) it is amusing to see all these very hormonal women being emotional and everyone getting a little worked up over nothing... I'm surprised it's taken us this long to have a little misunderstanding like this!!!!! We are women, we are emotional. Put in pregnancy hormones as well as the normal ones and the high emotions when TTC, and it's like a recipe for disaster; like I said I'm surprised it took so long! LMAO!

We all love each other here I think, and it's BECAUSE we love each other that we got all OTT emotional about it. to all!!!!!!!!!


I think perhaps there was something in the air last night. I was crying basically all night long for NO reason. Hell, I'm tearing up now cos I'm thinking of how I was crying! sheesh! These hormones are nuts... lol.


You know how yesterday I said I was thinking how I have no symptoms and it does make me worry a little, especially with my scan only 2 days away...? I threw up last night. lol. I don't feel worried at all again now!! This happened last time I threw up; I was worrying through the day about my lack of symptoms, and the next morning I threw up for the first time ever. Yesterday I was feeling utterly crap and was starting to worry if we were about to be devastated in a few days rather than elated. And then I threw up for the second time ever. lol! Ahhh, my body knows me too well; it's like "HERE! Here is your blimmin symptom already! Now QUIT WORRYING, I have it in hand!!!" heh. I do love my body, it's doing SUCH amazing things right now, I can't even fathom it all, and it's looking after me mentally too... The throwing up was more from me being over-tired (from the weekend) and having not eaten very well yesterday too, but it was still reassuring to throw up and have a SOLID symptom pop through!


TWO MORE DAYS! I'm only working a half-day on thursday too, so I will work today, and tomorrow, and the half-day on thurs and then MY SCAN!!! Sooooooooooo looking forward to it!


Ny! LOVED the pics! I'm soooo happy for you! You should change your sig, it still is asking the 'bean' to stick, but it's a BABY now, it's certainly ain't a bean anymore!!! So happy for you.

 

[Dew]

Just read all new posts....seriously, I do not want to be that new girl on the thread who caused a commotion....once again best-est wishes and a big hug to all!!!

 

[Dew]

We are women, we are emotional. Put in pregnancy hormones as well as the normal ones and the high emotions when TTC, and it's like a recipe for disaster;

Flying: Add PMS to that list...

 

[sarahincanada]

K- figured out how to get the pics in here so here's my baby at 12 weeks! Or 11w5d...dunno what to go by but here it is .....the 3rd pic is just the baby with head at opposite end, and the fist kind of up by head. Not the clearest one to see.

OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG!!!!!
Its our first BABY pic!
I had no idea they looked like this at 12 weeks are you kidding me?
Im in awe.
This is just amazing and I felt like a proud friend looking at these pictures even though we only have known eachother online

 

[nypage1981]

THank you sarah, that was such a sweet response! Love it! Yes I know, I told OH before we went this morning that I couldn't remember exactly what a baby looks like on ultrasound at this stage so was excited to see. And wow! A real baby! I am quite proud of producing that!

Flying- so funny about all the drama and hormones. Yes, we've done quite well! I have seen some nutty threads where things got really catty. Ick. I do not like that at all! That's why im finding it hard to go to any pregnancy threads, they seem a bit more....IDK how to describe it. Competitive maybe? Not as supportive. Today OH called it Bean since thats his nickname and im like "no, its a baby now, not a bean!". But, he will still call it that im sure, he's taken to that nickname. Now its "please please please please please stick baby!"