Ok to take break from bd tonight? cd10

[kerri28]

Okay we last night and night before. Had ewcm yesterday. My fertile days should be the 12-16th. Can i give my dh a break tonight and resume tomorrow with out lessening our chances? Ive heard doing it too much can actually be a bad thing. But then again they say its better to bd 2 or 3 days before you O so its all in there waiting for the egg. Im starting to feel like a chipmunk storing nuts in my cheeks. Whoa pun not intended! Lol!!!

 

[mybabydreams]

I think youre fine to have a break hun! You cant be expected to do it every single night without a rest!! If your fertile days are 12th-16th I would have a night off then go for it over your fertile days! I did read something recently, apparently they used to think that doing it every night diminished sperm reserves, but now they reckon as long as his sperm count is normal, every night is fine! I would have a nice rest, recharge the batteries (so to speak) then go like the clappers for a few days!
Good luck xxx

 

[kerri28]

I would have no prob dtd every night but my dh is older so I worry his count isnt perfectly high anymore, but we have only been ttc a few times now so im not concerned yet in regards to him. He got me good two years ago but wasnt a sticky bean.

 

[mybabydreams]

Dont forget mens fertility diminishes much slower than ours, so Im sure hes fine! Sorry to hear the last one didnt stick hun, Ive had a couple of those and they suck!
Good luck xx

 

[kerri28]

The no stick bean was a blessing in disguise. They say He doesnt give you more than you can handle, and at that time we were in no place to bring a baby into such a new blended family.

 

[mybabydreams]

Ahh well lets hope you dont have too long a wait now that the timing is right. Fingers crossed for your BFP xxx

 

[kerri28]

Hey do you know if it matters if you let the urine sample get to room temp with ov test? Does it matter?

 

[mybabydreams]

Most of those cheap tests say you should, but to be honest I never bother and have found that they are still accurate. Im not really sure what that room temp rule is all about tbh. Good luck xxx

 

[kerri28]

I did one test yesterday right away and then let it sit for 30 mins and did another and got same result. Im trying real hard to hold my pee right now for anothet 20 mins because i drank gatorade an hour ago. When are you due to test again? Good luck!!

 

[mybabydreams]

He He I know that feeling!! I feel like I spend my whole time waiting, waiting to pee (not good at this!) Waiting to ovulate (pretty rubbish at this too) TWWs (find these impossible) ! Basically Im not very patient!
Im testing three times a day at the min but having no luck. Im on CD 24 and dont think it is going to happen this cycle, I think this is quite common after a mc, but I just wish I would O so I could feel like I am back in the game! Good luck xxx

 

[kerri28]

Im sorry, my fx for you!!! Im really worried im not gonna O, and then realising how long a road that can be. I skipped testing this morning because i have noticed the line is progressing at night, I think, lol. I compared 2 different brands last night and my internet cheapie should a line while the other one didnt. Tossed that in the garbage real quick!

 

[mybabydreams]

Hang in there! Im the same; I have had a second line for quite a few days and am starting to wonder if and when it will turn positive!! I have had cycles before where it has been quite late so I am trying to hold out a little hope!
Let me know how you go. Hopefully you wont have too long a wait xx

 

[kerri28]

Havent tested yet today simply out of annoyance and fear. What if i never O???? Gonna test now, but still feeling really bad that we will need to bd when dh gets home after 2am. Im gonna have to stay up and then get up at 6am. Are we just all insane doing this?

 

[mybabydreams]

I think we might just be lol!! What CD are you on now? Im on CD26 and still no sign of O. I am sooo blooming fed up with it right now!!! I, like you feel like it is never going to happen, but I guess we just have to try to be patient and trust our bodies etc. Personally I am finding this hard to do at the minute, but what choice do we have?
Hope you managed to get your BD done and so you can relax, knowing you have done all you can for this cycle xxx

 

[kerri28]

I couldnt stay awake so now i hope i didnt miss out on anything. Im cd 13 now so Im just hoping these tests turn dark soon and bd just incase the tests are faulty. Have you talked to your doc about not ovulating?

 

[mybabydreams]

No I havent, but to be honest I am pretty angry with my docs right now and avoiding them like the plague! When I was pregnant (last cycle) I went in there to see my doc as I was very upset. I explained that I had had multiple positive tests (including a CBD) followed by a negative test. I asked her if I could have bloods taken to confirm whether or not I was pregnant as I was really worried I was miscarrying. She said "we dont do blood tests any more for this sort of thing, they are too expensive! If you had a positive digital pregnancy test, then we can assume you are pregnant. If you are now having negative tests then it is not worth me testing you again. Go home and if you start to bleed we can assume you are miscarrying. If you dont start to bleed, take another digital test in a few days. If it is negative but you dont start to bleed, then come back and we will go from there!"
She made me feel like I was wasting her time and that I was silly to be concerned about this. I felt she was rude and inconsiderate! I explained that I had been TTC for a while and that my cycles were difficult to predict and she said that untill I had been TTC for 2 years, they would not consider anything to be out of the ordinary!
Sorry for the rant, but it really peed me off TBH and has put me off of going in there for anything else, in case I am turned away again for being OTT about something as trivial as a miscarriage!! What that doctor thought she was there for I dont know?? Maybe if my leg had fallen off, or I had been attacked by a shark (pretty unlikely in Cambridgeshire) she might have helped lol!
Hows things for you anyway? Any sign of O yet? xxx

 

[kerri28]

I personally would look into a new doctor, one that specializes in this and have a consultation. Then they can refer you to a new obgyn they know wont be so inconsiderate, and if it continues then the specialist can see you. Im avoiding mine as well because hes the one who pushed me to start depo regardless of the after math. I had some O pains cd12 but opks got dark, then after that i barely getting a faint line. Im worried my body tried to O and couldnt! I was too tired from cherry blossom fest yesterday to bd last night. Oh well..im losing confidence.

 

[mybabydreams]

oh dear, i think thats exactly what has happened to me too! my opks keep darkening up and then go light again!
i know what you mean; you start to lose faith in doctors after something like that. they prescribe you whatever they think is best in the moment, without thinking or informing you of long term effects. i think they sometimes forget to consider that your plans are subject to change, so they should inform you of how bc can affect fertility.
fingers crossed both of our ovaries start playing by the rules soon xxx

 

[kerri28]

My right ovary is doing today what it always use to long before depo. I get a cranpy pinching feeling then get Ewcm discharge, so i tested. Stupidthing is light. Im convinced im ovulating and these tests are all wrong. All 30 of them!

 

[mybabydreams]

HE He! You remind me of myself!!! Maybe it is your body gearing up to O. My O has been especially painful since quitting BC, which I attributed to my system being suppressed for so long and firing up again with gusto! Fingers crossed this is what is going on inside you now!
Still zilch for me I thought I might be getting close (due to cm) but the OPKs keep saying NO NO NO! I, like you, seem to be going through them like the clappers. Thank heavens for ICs!!! xx