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[battyatty]

Nope Blues all she said was baby still measured 6wks so it stopped growing after my last U/S and that's when my Symptoms dropped a Lil !!

It's also around the time I finished those Antibiotics I hated to take cuz I've seen a lot of losses from them early on!
I also found out that week that I shouldnt be taking the Cortisol I was taking so IDK I keep blaming myself but the DR seems to think Chromosonal Issues!!

Sis please dont blame yourself, 6 weeks is the most common time for a MC, (Google it, up to 1 in 3 women mc at 6 weeks) its when the heart should form....... I looked into this after my mc.... and actually if you can get passed 6 weeks and see a heartbeat then the chances of a mc get so much lower..... this is not your fault, not any medication you have taken, its just what it is, the hardest part of creating a baby, the heart...............

thinking of you honey, don't give up, I know its hard but think of the positives, you O and you can conceive!

 

[Fezzle]

Oh, Sis- so sorry I hope you get some answers from testing, but don't be too hard on yourself.

garfie- yep, had my Day 3 blood tests this morning so should find out what's going on next week.

 

[kfs1]

I 100% agree with Atty. I no way, shape, or form is this your fault.

 

[Sis4Us]

At 6wks we saw the HB but it bothered me the baby was measuring 5 days behind 5 days B4 I started the MEDs and had fever!!!

I just can't believe it happened 2wks ago and I still have had Nothing NO spotting cramping Anything!!

It's so frustrating to think I have to start ALL over Again!!

I'm trying not to blame myself but it's Hard not too!!

 

[VJean]

Sis, my heart breaks for you! I am so, so sorry, Hun! I went thru this in December, and I hate that you are having to deal will the same pain and questioning of what you could have done different. Please believe us that you did not cause this. I know it's easier said than done, but as Atty said, it is so common at that time.

Take some time to grieve and let your family take care of you. When you are ready to TTC again we'll be here to cheer you on.

I know everyone is different but when I had my D&C I spent hours googling everything I could on when I'd get AF and be able to try again. My D&C was 23 Dec and my next AF was 24 Jan. I hope she returns quickly for you as well!

 

[Sis4Us]

Thanks Vjean I keep going back and Forth thinking maybe it would be easier to do it naturally but then again I won't get the testing that I think we need to prove its not a issue we can Correct!!

I just hate the fact that I would have had a Baby this Yr now it will be 2015 if we R lucky I was so looking forward to having a Baby at Xmas!!

Looks like U R the only one that made it from the FEB thread maybe it wasn't as Lucky awe thought just full of Ache!!

So glad U will get your Rainbow Baby did u go for a scan Mon??

 

[garfie]

Sis - Aw no hun not the news I wanted to see when I logged on BIG hun.

I know it is hard not to blame yourself - or go through the what ifs and if only - but please don't.

Also in my opinion it is harder once you have seen a heartbeat to then m/c - I have had most types of pregnancies and losses you can imagine.

I think a DNC is a good idea hun - I had one for my last pregnancy and they examined the baby I got to know the sex as well - which gave me a little comfort

It probably is a chromosomal problem but until you know one way or the other you will be surrounded by what ifs and if onlys.

I hope the end of this journey is not to long for you and if you decide to have a DNC that your little one hangs in there - that was one of my worries that I would pass my little boy before they had chance to test

Nothing I can say will make you feel better there are many stages you need to go through and once you get your results you will probably go through them all again.

I wish you the emotional strength to get through the first part and then the physical strength to get through the second so you can begin healing.

After a DNC in the UK we are told to wait at least 2 weeks to avoid infection (and some of us are still hurting) but as you are planning on having testing done I would personally wait until the results are back and then you can make your decisions from there.

I am so so sad for you right now hun - I hate that life can be so cruel.



X

 

[Sis4Us]

I just got a call from Finance at the Dr looks like the DNC will be 500-600 cuz we have to pay Hospital fees!!
Also the Dr only does Surgery on Tue so it might be another 2weeks IDK if I can keep going on Knowing the baby passed 2wks ago for another 2wks

This is just horrible

 

[oldermom1975]

Well the baby didn't grow at all and No HB

IDK what to do anymore I feel like I'm living a Nightmare!!

I just got a call from Finance at the Dr looks like the DNC will be 500-600 cuz we have to pay Hospital fees!!
Also the Dr only does Surgery on Tue so it might be another 2weeks IDK if I can keep going on Knowing the baby passed 2wks ago for another 2wks

This is just horrible

Oh, Sis. I am soooo sorry. I agree with everyone else, we trust our doc's to know what medications are safe to take during pregnancy. This is NOT your fault.
Whatever you decide as far as a D&C or not, we are here for you. Personally, I would want to know what issue made it happen, but to wait two weeks for it... I hurt for you, love. It is so long to wait. You are in my prayers.

 

[Solstyce]

Hi Sis,

I just saw your status too and I just wanted to send you some .

 

[felcity 45]

Just wanted to say Sis I have been thinking about you all day, wish there was something I could say that would help It was along time ago when I had a missed Miscarriage and I can understand your feelings about having to wait..I kept hoping mine would pass on its own but I had to have a D&C but I did fall pregnant with my DD 2 months later. x

 

[Smiles013]

Sis.....I am truly truly sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you As much as you want to blame yourself, know that it is NOT. Your fault in the least bit. I pray you get through this and get answers and above all I pray for your well being-emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. Big big big Please know that we are here for you for whatever you need.

 

[Sis4Us]

Thanks for ALL the kind words Ladies

I'm scheduled for a D&C on Tue I just can't understand WHY WHY Again or why I haven't had any signs of MC
The dr says its the P but I've always started AF on P so I would assume the same this time IDK I'm a zombie and keep thinking that I won't have a baby This Yr!!!

Once again thanks for all the kind words!!!

 

[felcity 45]

Your so very welcome Sis.big for as long as you need them.x

 

[oldermom1975]

Thanks for ALL the kind words Ladies

I'm scheduled for a D&C on Tue I just can't understand WHY WHY Again or why I haven't had any signs of MC
The dr says its the P but I've always started AF on P so I would assume the same this time IDK I'm a zombie and keep thinking that I won't have a baby This Yr!!!

Once again thanks for all the kind words!!!

I am glad you don't have to wait a full two weeks.
They may know more when you have the procedure. The placenta may be somewhat functional (like what happens in blighted ovums), and/or your elevated HCG may be supporting your corpus luteum still (allowing you to produce more natural P).
IDK, these are all guesses, I just want to help you have some peace of mind in something, through all of your grief.

 

[Wish4another1]

Sis - I am relieved you do not have to wait two weeks and I will be praying for answers for your heart... Please know my heart is heavy for you and I am praying for you and big huge to you

 

[battyatty]

Thanks for ALL the kind words Ladies

I'm scheduled for a D&C on Tue

Was thinking of you all last night...... Just want to say yet again I am so very very sorry......

 

[kfs1]

Sis - I, too, am happy that you don't have to wait another two weeks. Praying for your healing and hope that you are able to eventually get some answers.

 

[garfie]

Sis - I am pleased you don't have to wait two extra weeks - hope you get some answers soon BIG



X

 

[Sis4Us]

Thank U ladies U are All so Great

Lots and lots of Tears and even more Questions!! I still can't put my mind around not having any MC symptoms!!
I know the P can hold up things but 2wks seems like Forever!!

I'm going to take the boys to the Rodeo as promised and try to feel normal again!!

Love u guys