On hold?? Advice needed

[nosurprise]

Ladies I could do with some advise/ perspective!

We've been trying about 7 months now and I've a couple of little hurdles to get past before I'll conceive (I've Endometriosis & Polyps, but have recently had a hysteroscopy so all systems should be go)!!

Two friends are getting married next year, one in May and one in June. The one in May has asked me to be her bridesmaid and without even asking has mentioned that we may need to be crafty when buying dresses as she could have a pregnant bridesmaid on board...
The other, in June, I'm not bridesmaid for but she's already said numerous times how it would be disappointing if I couldn't come / drink / have a good time (in her own words...) if I was pregnant. Anyway, that one doesn't concern me, the one I'm bridesmaid for does. Should I hold off trying until Nov when I'd (if it happened quickly) would be 6 months or less or should I just carry on and leave it to chance even if the dates meant I could be very close to due for either or both?!

 

[patienceiav]

I wouldn't plan my ttc around anyone but me and my hubby, that's just my opinion 1 year down the line and our only regret it not starting sooner! The "i best avoid this just in case" went out the window pretty quick!

 

[nosurprise]

Thanks for the reply. I thought I was being really selfish which is why I wanted a second opinion! I really don't want to back out of being a bridesmaid but getting pregnant is more important than anything to me so I guess I need to be a little selfish on this one!

 

[patienceiav]

It's not selfish at all! They can't possibly hope you'll not be pregnant just to suit their needs, go ahead as planned, maybe if you're unlucky you won't be expecting (or maybe showing) but if you do get preggers you can let them know with good time to change their plans your plans are most important!

 

[starluck]

I agree with the previous poster - go on and TTC! Do what is right for you and your husband. You never know if it will happen fast or not and you may regret waiting later on. If she is a true friend, she will understand that you could not put your life on hold to suit her needs.

 

[Maddy_desie]

I wouldn't wait. I put off ttc for a year and really wish I had started sooner. Hopefully things go well for you and you get your BFP soon, but there is always a chance that it could take a little longer than planned. You are not being selfish at all!

 

[TTCgamer2.0]

That's like telling her not to get married because you wont be able to drink then. haha.