Lirpa11
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I have been on at DH for nearly a year now saying I am ready to TTC. DH always said we will, later on. So in August I decided to go off the pill and told DH he could be in charge of protection. For the first couple of weeks he said let's just see what happens, so I thought yay TTC! Then he all of a sudden got cold feet and said never mind as he wanted to wait because he wants to finish some toys (doing up old cars an stuff), before a baby. So I said ok get to going on them so they can get done by early 2014 and then we can TTC. Well a few weeks later again he said never mind again as he wants to go on a last holiday overseas and then TTC, but not TTC before then so I can drink on it with him (I'm not worried about drinking!). So I unhappily said ok again...
Well, then I didn't want to plan this trip as all I could think of is 6 months + 9 = nearly a year and half before kids! I tried talking to him that we try in January or March and I just go while expecting so we have a baby next year which he shot down without even considering.
So back to a few days ago, another friend came out and told us they're expecting and all I could think of was that could have been us if we had started when I asked rather than being pushed back. So I got upset and resented this holiday even more. I didn't want to talk to DH for a couple of days, as I knew it was a dead end and I just
felt down.
So DH said yesterday that he wanted to talk as he knew something was wrong. I told him that I didn't really want the trip if it was going to push us back so far and that the money could be better spent on our house ($15-$20k for this trip). So DH said ok, and I should have said so if that's how I felt (guessing he hasn't been listening for the past few months...) so last night he said he is happy to not do the trip and look at TTC/NTNP.
So I am happy, but I'm wondering If it's the right choice. I don't want to push yet compromising with him seems difficult... Anyone have some thoughts please?
Well, then I didn't want to plan this trip as all I could think of is 6 months + 9 = nearly a year and half before kids! I tried talking to him that we try in January or March and I just go while expecting so we have a baby next year which he shot down without even considering.
So back to a few days ago, another friend came out and told us they're expecting and all I could think of was that could have been us if we had started when I asked rather than being pushed back. So I got upset and resented this holiday even more. I didn't want to talk to DH for a couple of days, as I knew it was a dead end and I just
felt down.
So DH said yesterday that he wanted to talk as he knew something was wrong. I told him that I didn't really want the trip if it was going to push us back so far and that the money could be better spent on our house ($15-$20k for this trip). So DH said ok, and I should have said so if that's how I felt (guessing he hasn't been listening for the past few months...) so last night he said he is happy to not do the trip and look at TTC/NTNP.
So I am happy, but I'm wondering If it's the right choice. I don't want to push yet compromising with him seems difficult... Anyone have some thoughts please?