Over 30 & still trying for baby #1

[MrsDuck]

After 2 losses and a period of wtt due to health reasons, I've just been given the ok to start ttc again. I'm over 30 and am still trying for my first rainbow baby.

Anyone else over 30 and trying for their first?

 

[Carybear]

Me! Me! Me! I've been trying for 3 years...

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Hello!
32 years old tomorrow ( happy anniversary carybear!) and ttc first. Had mmc then d and c in may. I waited one AF as doctor suggested and just had second AF this weekend. Frustrating and emotional to start this process again.
Question carybear- it says NTNP for you. What exactly does this mean (i am somewhat new to all this lingo). I don't use OPKs, chart, temp etc so is that what that would be?
DH and I were so calculating with BD this past month we are thinking of trying to relax and BD when we'd like. The stress of it is tough.

Sorry for everyone's losses

Leslie

 

[Kittycat155]

31 4 years to get first BFP and lost my lil angel around 9 weeks on the 15th of July(MMC). DESPERATE to have my baby in arms and depressing as I really wanted 4 kids and seems if I get one I will be lucky. We are really not looking to do meds but seems it may come to that. Iui/Ivf will not be considered so maybe clomid but that is it.

 

[MrsDuck]

Ladies thanks for posting, im so sorry for your losses

carybear I can't imagine 3 years of opks, temping, timed I hope the works for you soon. Happy Anniversary!

Buttrfly Happy Birthday! It sounds like we are at about the same with our cycles, I'm just waiting for af to finish then me and hubby can get back at the every other day bding. If you don't temp or use opks, how do you know when you O to do timed bding?

Kittycat I've heard of lots of people have success stories from using clomid, I hope it works for you

 

[ItsAWonder]

I am 36 and trying for my first. I had a chemical in April, got pg 10 days later and carried that to 8 weeks. Found out on 6/4 it was MMC and took Miso on 6/7. Miso did not work right and lead to major complications. Spent every other day in the hospital until d&c on 6/25. Had a very, very light AF about 7/8 when my HCG finally hit 6. Waiting for next AF and will try again. Our hope is to be back on the horse by mid-August but I really don't know what my body will do. I want to see heavier bleed than my last AF before we begin.

I am very scared. My thyroid is fine, I do not have lupus or other immune issues - so no blood clotting either. My doc said I could take aspirin but since I don't have a blood clotting issue he is not recommending it. I had an ultrasound done as well. I have two very, very small fibroids but they are not the cause. We will try once more. If I have another m/c we will see a specialist. It's really hard to think that could happen.

In the meantime, I am going to acupuncture 1-2 times per week and my CM is better, my mood is better, and I feel like it's helping me heal.

 

[MrsDuck]

Itsawonder I'm so sorry for your loss and that it was so dragged out for you I hope af arrives soon and you can get back to ttc. I'm glad the acupuncture is working, it definitely beats taking tablets x

 

[flou]

Hi ladies im 32. Took 19 months to get first bfp which unfortunately ended in a mc at 6 weeks. We have been trying for 8 months since mc with no luck so far. In total we have been trying for number 1 for nearly 28 months and i am feeling very frustrated by it all. Never thought it would take us this long. I always hoped i would have 2 kids by the time i was 35. Sorry for all your losses and i hope we all get our rainbow babies soon!

 

[MrsDuck]

Hi flou, sorry for your loss. I know how you feel, I wanted my first baby by the time I was 30 and I'm about to be 34! It's so frustrating are you temping or using opks or anything or just ntnp? I hope you don't have to wait much longer for your rainbow bfp

 

[flou]

I dont use opks or temp as i feel that it just puts more pressure on myself. I do calculate my fertile window as my cycle is fairly regular only a little bit of variation. I can also tell when my body is approaching O and i know when i have. So i make sure we bd either every other day or every day during my fertile window. I try to be as relaxed as poss but its so difficult. I hope you get your bfp soon!

 

[MrsDuck]

I don't blame you flou, it does put pressure on you. It sounds like you know your body well though so I hope you fall really really soon x

 

[highhopes2013]

I'm 33. Been TTC for 3 years. Had ivf in jan 2013 and got first ever bfp! Sadly lost the baby at 11 weeks. Just started ivf again and it's such a roller coaster being back at square 1 when I would have been 7 months pregnant.

 

[MrsDuck]

Hello high hopes, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think we all do that heartbreaking thing of counting the months and thinking 'I should have been this or that now' putting ourselves through even more heartache I really hope IVF works again for you and you get your rainbow baby or babies when will your transfer happen (if you don't mind taking about it)

 

[highhopes2013]

Thanks! I have everything crossed!

I'm on day 5 of stims, got a good 10 days or so to go before transfer happens. Egg collection will prob be in a week's time and then if all goes well I will go for blastocyst transfer when the embryos are 5 days old.

Feeling like a pincushion at the mo - so many injections!

 

[ItsAWonder]

Good luck! I hope all the pokes and prods are for good and successful reasons!

 

[flou]

Good luck with IVF highhopes! I hope this round you get your sticky bean!

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw high hopes I hope it all works out for you this go. All my crossables are crossed

 

[Carybear]

Good luck high!

 

[highhopes2013]

Thanks everyone! I'm trying not to get too hopeful - feels like I was so lucky to get the bfp last time, surely I can't be lucky enough for ivf to work twice in a row! It's costing an arm and a leg too coz my first cycle was nhs-funded but now I'm having to pay privately.

 

[MrsDuck]

Stay positive high hopes, it WILL happen first time again