Over 35 and first pregnancy?

[April2012]

Is anyone else in here that is over 35 and this is your first pregnancy? I am 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I am just wondering if anyone else is in the
"same boat" so to speak.

Oh my gosh. Is that your first? Its hard to get pregnant in that age and they said that it's hard to deliver.

Yes, this is my first and as far as being "hard to get pregnant in that age" I wouldn't know as I was not trying to get pregnant. And I have yet to hear any delivery story, no matter the age, where I thought,"Now that sounds easy."

I am 44 with my first!!!! Nrs2772 we are nearly due date buddies! ROCK ON!!!
It can be hard to get pregnant at 22 if you've got issues....Age alone is not a barrier and certainly I have not heard about an automatic 'hard to deliver' story for older moms....If you have medical issues, you may have trouble with pregnancy and delivery at ANY age...

Baby dust!!!!!!!

I thought....well, it is going to be hard to get pregnant at my age. I have been on birth control for ages. never had children. I consumed a fair amount of wine (alcohol is supposed to decrease fertility). So...when I get pregnant the first month off the pill...I was like..."WTF!"

 

[Nrs2772]

Is anyone else in here that is over 35 and this is your first pregnancy? I am 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I am just wondering if anyone else is in the
"same boat" so to speak.

Oh my gosh. Is that your first? Its hard to get pregnant in that age and they said that it's hard to deliver.

Yes, this is my first and as far as being "hard to get pregnant in that age" I wouldn't know as I was not trying to get pregnant. And I have yet to hear any delivery story, no matter the age, where I thought,"Now that sounds easy."

I am 44 with my first!!!! Nrs2772 we are nearly due date buddies! ROCK ON!!!
It can be hard to get pregnant at 22 if you've got issues....Age alone is not a barrier and certainly I have not heard about an automatic 'hard to deliver' story for older moms....If you have medical issues, you may have trouble with pregnancy and delivery at ANY age...

Baby dust!!!!!!!

I thought....well, it is going to be hard to get pregnant at my age. I have been on birth control for ages. never had children. I consumed a fair amount of wine (alcohol is supposed to decrease fertility). So...when I get pregnant the first month off the pill...I was like..."WTF!"

That's the thing, you just never know how difficult or easy it will be to become pregnant and age alone is not a factor.

 

[Nrs2772]

Is anyone else in here that is over 35 and this is your first pregnancy? I am 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I am just wondering if anyone else is in the
"same boat" so to speak.

Oh my gosh. Is that your first? Its hard to get pregnant in that age and they said that it's hard to deliver.

Yes, this is my first and as far as being "hard to get pregnant in that age" I wouldn't know as I was not trying to get pregnant. And I have yet to hear any delivery story, no matter the age, where I thought,"Now that sounds easy."

I am 44 with my first!!!! Nrs2772 we are nearly due date buddies! ROCK ON!!!
It can be hard to get pregnant at 22 if you've got issues....Age alone is not a barrier and certainly I have not heard about an automatic 'hard to deliver' story for older moms....If you have medical issues, you may have trouble with pregnancy and delivery at ANY age...

Baby dust!!!!!!!

We are nearly due date buddies and yes, I agree, age alone does not dictate how your pregnancy will fair. I get a little irritated when some people seem to think anyone over the age of 35 is "ancient" and should not have a baby or they treat us as though we are some freak show at a circus. Both of my grandmothers had their last child in their late thirties as do many women, this has been going on since the beginning of time.

 

[April2012]

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We are nearly due date buddies and yes, I agree, age alone does not dictate how your pregnancy will fair. I get a little irritated when some people seem to think anyone over the age of 35 is "ancient" and should not have a baby or they treat us as though we are some freak show at a circus. Both of my grandmothers had their last child in their late thirties as do many women, this has been going on since the beginning of time.[/QUOTE]

To a large extent, it is all relative. Perhaps society should look at the overall health of the women. There are 25 year old women who are in far worse health than many 40 year old women.

 

[LancyLass]

Yep me too. (But very early days and had a serious scare this week where thought I'd miscarried. I've got to go back next week for another scan so not counting my chickens... and not spending much time on the PG forums as a bit too scared to acknowledge I'm actually pregnant in case it doesn't last!)

 

[Maple Leaf]

Yep me too. (But very early days and had a serious scare this week where thought I'd miscarried. I've got to go back next week for another scan so not counting my chickens... and not spending much time on the PG forums as a bit too scared to acknowledge I'm actually pregnant in case it doesn't last!)

Sending you all the best wishes LancyLass. Google is NOT your friend - stay away from any negative posts they don't do any good. We are all a positive bunch on here!

 

[LancyLass]

Sending you all the best wishes LancyLass. Google is NOT your friend - stay away from any negative posts they don't do any good. We are all a positive bunch on here!

Yup, I banned myself from Google last week and so far I'm sticking to it! Mind you I banned myself from the PG forums too but decided to dare to sneak a little look today!

 

[Lyvid]

Sending prayers your way LancyLass. I found those first few weeks to be such a scary time. Make sure you come back on here and let us know when next week's scan comes back a-ok!

 

[studentMW]

Hello ladies,
I hope everyone is well and enjoying your pregnancies so far! I am a 3rd year student midwife from Edinburgh, Scotland and have joined this forum for some help! I hope you won't be annoyed I have joined but I have to make a poster and leaflet regarding 'Mothers over 35'. I was wondering if any of you have any stories in the way you have been treated. Have there been any prejudice/discrimination against you because you are older? It is mainly aimed at first time mum's but if any of you have a story I would love to hear it so I can develop a theme. My poster will most likely be aimed at Midwives to inform them about care and management for women over 35. Please help if you can. Thank you!!!
Melanie

 

[Samah007]

Is anyone else in here that is over 35 and this is your first pregnancy? I am 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I am just wondering if anyone else is in the
"same boat" so to speak.

I know I'm late on this post but yes. I'm 36 and this is my first child. I noticed I get surprised looks or raised eyebrows from the nurses and medical assistants at my OB. I spoke to a nurse over the phone and she sounded surprised too.

 

[DeeM73]

My doctor and midwife didn't comment on my age at all and were so happy for me Said I was just a young thing at 37!!!! I think I worry more!!! ha ha x

 

[cluelessnow]

I'm 37 and it's my first.

 

[DeeM73]

Congratulations!!! x

 

[April2012]

After further thought, I think my age stigma is relatively self-imposed.

 

[Nrs2772]

I saw my doctor today and he checked for the baby's heartbeat and found it easily. The baby's heartbeat was 162. I was all smiles. My doctor is very professional and doesn't treat me like I am "ancient."

 

[AngelUK]

I have only encountered this age stigma on line. I thought nowadays it was getting more common for older women to become first time mums. It doesn't really bother me what other ppl say however. I don't think it would have been right for me to have a baby in my 20s. I wanted to finish uni and then I did an MA and I was not at all grown up enough then. But I admit I often wonder a lil when I see mums in their late teens or really early 20s. Ah well.

 

[minkymoo]

I'm not pregnant but I had my first (and only 1) 2 weeks before my 37th birthday this year. I'm glad I waited and enjoyed my life and career first, not that young mums can't do the same.

The only things I have struggled with - and what I *think* might be age related - is the lack of sleep and the aches in my bones. I also took a while to adjust to no 'me' time at the beginning, after having it for so many years. She's totally worth it though x

 

[LancyLass]

Sending prayers your way LancyLass. I found those first few weeks to be such a scary time. Make sure you come back on here and let us know when next week's scan comes back a-ok!

Thought I'd check back in with you all. Second scan was all good. Heartbeat good, measuring the right size. Back again for another scan in two weeks though because I'm still spotting

 

[Lyvid]

Sending prayers your way LancyLass. I found those first few weeks to be such a scary time. Make sure you come back on here and let us know when next week's scan comes back a-ok!

Thought I'd check back in with you all. Second scan was all good. Heartbeat good, measuring the right size. Back again for another scan in two weeks though because I'm still spotting

So glad to hear the scan was good! I've read about gals who've spotted a lot and gone on to have perfectly healthy babies. Try not to worry too much, at least now you know baby is just fine.

 

[davecr033]

I am 35 and first time pregnancy after IVF. I totally changed doctors when my first OB told me I had to have all these extra tests due to my age. New doc is wonderful and doesn't want any tests I don't have to have. She understands that its not age related but more genetics related.

I agree iwth all of you that its not an age thing but people should be happy for you no matter what.