pip7890
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I'm so excited for you. Can't wait to hear back from you.
ciarhwyfar
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Hey Pip!
How are things going?
How are things going?
pip7890
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:wave: not too bad thanks. Off to see the consultant today to decide whether I'm going to have shared care or consultant care. Nausea has gone but I'm randomly retching about a dozen times a day and heartburn is killing me!!! Think I'm going to miss out on the glowing stage!!!
How are you?
Pip x
How are you?
Pip x
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At the moment, things are pretty good. I don't know about the glowing stage but I get sick every time I don't get enough sleep and I so hear you about heartburn. I think I am doomed to get it from here on out.
No mystery bleeding for two weeks and we are at 23 weeks today so I am hoping that our random scary problems are over.
No mystery bleeding for two weeks and we are at 23 weeks today so I am hoping that our random scary problems are over.
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Hello everyone
I saw my "consultant" for the first time today. Well that appointment didn't quite go to plan! I was invited to see the consultant for a 2.10 pm appointment. I got there at 1.45 pm as I needed to collect a specimen bottle and fill it beforehand. I then sat and waited, and waited and waited some more. Eventually I was called in at 2.50 pm!
The clinic midwife took my BP (136/72 whereas it was 110/70 at my 12w booking appointment) and listened to the baby's heartbeat. At that point the registrar came in and starting talking over the midwife and the heartbeat so I didn't get to hear either properly.
The registrar was quite patronising really. I thought we'd talk about my age, weight and mental health. I'd also made a note to talk about the pain in my sacrum/pelvis and my heart murmur. Instead he started banging on about what operations I had had and when I had them. He clearly wasn't listening properly as I had to keep repeating myself. Everything he was asking about - including all the detail - were in my notes anyway.
He pronounced that the arthritis in my feet would not bother me during my pregnancy (it doesn't because I wear orthotics) and nor would my knees (I've had both kneecaps moved). He went on and on about this and I was like, wtf, I'm 40 things wear out and I expect to ache a little. I actually said I wasn't bothered about my knees or feet but that I was really concerned over the pain in my sacrum and my pelvis. He poo pooed me. He said that there was no way this could be SPD as it was too early and that progestorone released during pregnancy relaxed things so I was bound to be a little uncomfortable. I pressed him about it and eventually he said that if I was still having a problem in a couple of months then we could consider some physiotherapy but that he didn't think it was necessary at present.
He started asking me about my mental health. I explained that my mental health issues were a long time ago and that I had coping techniques now to help me. I didn't think it was a big concern. Again, he completely ignored me and starting quoting dates of depressive episodes in my file (even managing to get the dates wrong). The poor midwife was practically rolling her eyes out of her head behind him.
Finally he mentioned my heart. I explained the history again (first picked up when I was 13, then again when I was pregnant with DS - aged 25 - and then again a couple of years ago when I was very stressed). I told him that I'd had lots of tests at the very same hospital we were in and they had come back to confirm I had a leaky heart valve but that no further action was necessary. He started rooting through the file asking me questions which I'd already answered. He then stands up and takes the midwife out of the room.
I'm sat there like a lemon for 5 minutes until the midwife walks back in and pulls up a chair opposite me. She puts on this really serious face and says the registrar wants me to go to the city hospital to have a fetal heart scan as he's concerned about the baby's heart. I'm totally like wtf. I say did you hear something on the doppler when he was talking? Have I missed something? No she says, he wants it checking because of your heart problems.
I say I haven't got heart problems. I have a leaky valve like lots of people. I asked her if all pregnant women with a murmur have to have this test because I sure as hell didn't with DS. She admits that not all do, but that the registrar is keen that I go and I'll get an appointment through to have the scan when I'm 19-21 weeks.
Prince Charming then came back in. He'd spoken to the consultant and it had been agreed that I would be referred to the fetal heart specialists and, clearly because I have nothing better to do with my time, my own heart specialist to get checked out. I tried asking him about the pelvic pain again - not interested.
As the midwife escorted me out I said I was going to ask Gill (my own midwife) about the pelvic pain when I see her in a couple of weeks. I explained that I was about 8 months pregnant last time when I felt this sore so it couldn't be right that I was feeling it so early on. She said that she would make a referral to the physio for me. At last, someone listening to me.
Pip x
I saw my "consultant" for the first time today. Well that appointment didn't quite go to plan! I was invited to see the consultant for a 2.10 pm appointment. I got there at 1.45 pm as I needed to collect a specimen bottle and fill it beforehand. I then sat and waited, and waited and waited some more. Eventually I was called in at 2.50 pm!
The clinic midwife took my BP (136/72 whereas it was 110/70 at my 12w booking appointment) and listened to the baby's heartbeat. At that point the registrar came in and starting talking over the midwife and the heartbeat so I didn't get to hear either properly.
The registrar was quite patronising really. I thought we'd talk about my age, weight and mental health. I'd also made a note to talk about the pain in my sacrum/pelvis and my heart murmur. Instead he started banging on about what operations I had had and when I had them. He clearly wasn't listening properly as I had to keep repeating myself. Everything he was asking about - including all the detail - were in my notes anyway.
He pronounced that the arthritis in my feet would not bother me during my pregnancy (it doesn't because I wear orthotics) and nor would my knees (I've had both kneecaps moved). He went on and on about this and I was like, wtf, I'm 40 things wear out and I expect to ache a little. I actually said I wasn't bothered about my knees or feet but that I was really concerned over the pain in my sacrum and my pelvis. He poo pooed me. He said that there was no way this could be SPD as it was too early and that progestorone released during pregnancy relaxed things so I was bound to be a little uncomfortable. I pressed him about it and eventually he said that if I was still having a problem in a couple of months then we could consider some physiotherapy but that he didn't think it was necessary at present.
He started asking me about my mental health. I explained that my mental health issues were a long time ago and that I had coping techniques now to help me. I didn't think it was a big concern. Again, he completely ignored me and starting quoting dates of depressive episodes in my file (even managing to get the dates wrong). The poor midwife was practically rolling her eyes out of her head behind him.
Finally he mentioned my heart. I explained the history again (first picked up when I was 13, then again when I was pregnant with DS - aged 25 - and then again a couple of years ago when I was very stressed). I told him that I'd had lots of tests at the very same hospital we were in and they had come back to confirm I had a leaky heart valve but that no further action was necessary. He started rooting through the file asking me questions which I'd already answered. He then stands up and takes the midwife out of the room.
I'm sat there like a lemon for 5 minutes until the midwife walks back in and pulls up a chair opposite me. She puts on this really serious face and says the registrar wants me to go to the city hospital to have a fetal heart scan as he's concerned about the baby's heart. I'm totally like wtf. I say did you hear something on the doppler when he was talking? Have I missed something? No she says, he wants it checking because of your heart problems.
I say I haven't got heart problems. I have a leaky valve like lots of people. I asked her if all pregnant women with a murmur have to have this test because I sure as hell didn't with DS. She admits that not all do, but that the registrar is keen that I go and I'll get an appointment through to have the scan when I'm 19-21 weeks.
Prince Charming then came back in. He'd spoken to the consultant and it had been agreed that I would be referred to the fetal heart specialists and, clearly because I have nothing better to do with my time, my own heart specialist to get checked out. I tried asking him about the pelvic pain again - not interested.
As the midwife escorted me out I said I was going to ask Gill (my own midwife) about the pelvic pain when I see her in a couple of weeks. I explained that I was about 8 months pregnant last time when I felt this sore so it couldn't be right that I was feeling it so early on. She said that she would make a referral to the physio for me. At last, someone listening to me.
Pip x
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Pip, that sounds just terrible. Hugs.
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Our third lovely little flower is here! Margaret (Maggie) Rose was born on 5/24/11 @9:15 a.m. weighing 7 pounds, 7 ounces and measuring 20.5 inches long. We are both doing well and will be home later today. Pictures posted when I can get them from my camera. Birth story another time.
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Yeah, good to hear! Can't wait for the follow up.
Pip, you are so much more patient that I am. I would have had that lemon out of the room and insisting on a "real" medical practitioner immediately. I've gotten too old and impatient to deal with people who can't be bothered to do their job properly. When it comes to medical health, there is no reason to put up with it.
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congratulations sweetmama, you must be thrilled
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I just wanted to say how much I've enjoyed reading this thread and congrats to you all! I will be nearly 35 when our first baby is born in August but we want a big family and I was really worried we'd left it too late starting out! So I'll be back to join you when we get around to having number two 
Congratulations sweet mama!
Congratulations sweet mama!
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Congratulations Sweetmama!
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Congratulations SweeetMama
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Congrats Sweet Mama!
Haven't been back here for awhile. Everything is going well. I have had morning sickness every so often. Fortunately it isn't that bad. I am about 9.5 weeks and finding it hard to hide my belly. I just look fat. Last time I was completely in maternity clothes at 11-12 weeks. One more week and we will tell people. I can't wait.
I met with my dr and she agreed to induce me one week prior to my due date. So the latest the baby will be here is Dec. 21. Around Dec. 14 she will scrape my membranes and maybe that will start labor. It didn't work last time I was pregnant. Either way, the baby will be born and home before Christmas.
Haven't been back here for awhile. Everything is going well. I have had morning sickness every so often. Fortunately it isn't that bad. I am about 9.5 weeks and finding it hard to hide my belly. I just look fat. Last time I was completely in maternity clothes at 11-12 weeks. One more week and we will tell people. I can't wait.
I met with my dr and she agreed to induce me one week prior to my due date. So the latest the baby will be here is Dec. 21. Around Dec. 14 she will scrape my membranes and maybe that will start labor. It didn't work last time I was pregnant. Either way, the baby will be born and home before Christmas.
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I wanted to let everyone know that Maggie and I are finally at home and doing well. Neither of us ever exhibited any symptoms of infections and were treated proactively as our blood tests had shown elevated levels of white blood cells and something else I can't remember.
The hardest part was that Maggie had to be on an IV and then I was discharged first, but stayed with her in the Pediatric unit (not the NICU), which was quite uncomfortable to stay in overnight for someone who has just given birth, especially since I was alone, sore, exhausted, and stressed out.
I'll really have to write out an entire birth story... one that outlines the birth process and a separate one that outlines everything that went wrong because it was such a miserable experience... just one that had an awesome outcome with a perfect baby.
We are working on the whole sleeping thing, but last night was only our first night at home. She eats like a champ... I've never had a baby take to breast feeding so well like she has and that makes things so much easier. I'm engorged right now, so that bites, lol, but she doesn't seem to care.
I'm so excited for everyone that has already delivered and is about to deliver. It's been a wonderful few months and a you are all a wonderful group of women to have been hanging out with.
Finally, pictures:
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/Maggieafewhoursold.jpg
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/Maggiewideeyes.jpg
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/IrishMaggie.jpg
The hardest part was that Maggie had to be on an IV and then I was discharged first, but stayed with her in the Pediatric unit (not the NICU), which was quite uncomfortable to stay in overnight for someone who has just given birth, especially since I was alone, sore, exhausted, and stressed out.
I'll really have to write out an entire birth story... one that outlines the birth process and a separate one that outlines everything that went wrong because it was such a miserable experience... just one that had an awesome outcome with a perfect baby.
We are working on the whole sleeping thing, but last night was only our first night at home. She eats like a champ... I've never had a baby take to breast feeding so well like she has and that makes things so much easier. I'm engorged right now, so that bites, lol, but she doesn't seem to care.
I'm so excited for everyone that has already delivered and is about to deliver. It's been a wonderful few months and a you are all a wonderful group of women to have been hanging out with.
Finally, pictures:
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/Maggieafewhoursold.jpg
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/Maggiewideeyes.jpg
https://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h110/sweetmamags/IrishMaggie.jpg
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