over weight

[bundle4me]

Is anyone else over weight? I'm so fed up i feel fat and disgusting.
I'm trying to eat healthy and i swim 3 times a week but i feel huge.
It's really getting me down and worrying me because I will be having a section in august and i know being over weight puts me at risk more.
Am I alone or is anyone else feeling the same

 

[maryanne1987]

Yep. You just perfectly described how I feel. I am a bigger girl, a size 16/18 and over the last few years I've lost a lot of weight (5stone) but now I'm pregnant and obviously can't diet im feeling like a beached whale. I have lost weight due to having HG but the thought of putting on weight later on terrifies me! I have a wonderfully supportive partner that always tells me I'm pretty and doesn't care about a few extra pounds but still I am nervous about gaining weight, even if it is for the best possible reason.

 

[bundle4me]

Firstly well done on loosing so much weight that is amazing!
I am also size 18 although prob bigger now with my tummy growing, i agree it's for good reason but i feel like it's going on my hips and arms and not just my tummy.
My partner is really supportive to and tells me he loves me just as I am, but I don't love me as I am. 4 more moths and at least dieting can begin.
Have u gained much?

 

[maryanne1987]

I totally agree! Regardless of what my partner thinks I'm not happy with how I look, although I do really appreciate his reassurance. I've gained 3lbs in the last few weeks but I lost almost a stone with the HG so at the moment I'm not back to pre pregnancy weight but I'm guessing it won't be too long as my bump is huge!!! I won't lie that even the thought of putting on more scares me. Might look into some pregnancy safe exercise classes like yoga and aqua-natal but to be honest im so tired all the time that I just don't think I could manage it at the moment. There's a pregnant lady who lives a few doors down from me and I see her out every morning for her run while I'm still sat reading the paper in my pj's and I feel super lazy haha.

 

[butterflywolf]

I started this pregnancy at 222 and at a day shy of 29 weeks I am now 227 lbs.

With my daughter I started at 216 and gained 23 lbs with her. I had no problem giving birth to her vaginally and my doctor didn't even suggest a C-section with her at all. (Daughter was 9 lbs 3 oz and 22 inches) and no I did not have diabetes at all. So sadly I can't answer the C-section part.

I wouldn't worry too much though.

 

[KylasBaby]

I'm technically considered obese. I lost 40lbs before becoming pregnant going from 220 to 180. Then gained a bit right before I got pregnant and now up somewhere in the 190s now. I don't think more than 10 or so pounds so far. Although I look about 40lbs lighter than I really am. No idea where the weight is. I had a mostly flat stomach before the bump grew and now my tummy looks clearly baby and not chub at all. With all the snow we've gotten I haven't been active at all. Maybe a 10 minute walk once a day.

I'm having a lot of anxiety about gaining wright and overall feel pretty horrible about how I look. It's definitely hard.

 

[bundle4me]

Thank you ladies for your replies, I'm so glad I'm not alone at feeling like this, with my other 2 I was so much lighter than I am now so this is all new to me being the heaviest iv ever been.

 

[xprincessx]

I am overweight too. I weigh about 16st. I am actually really self loathing about it atm as I was 5st lighter when pregnant with my DS. I actually cried after being intimate with my OH last night as I am ashamed for him to see me naked...it is really getting me down and I cannot wait until I can start losing weight and making myself feel a little more human again as I have been on a downward spiral gaining weight for a couple of years x

 

[eulmh82]

I lost two stone before being pregnant but still classed as overweight. I'm 24 weeks and have put on 8 pounds and have tried to continue with good habits etc. Honestly last time I ended up lighter than I started as I'm always far healthier in pregnancy. Just eat well and you'll only gain what you need to. All of my over weight friends ended up
The same weight at the end after birth or less xx

 

[spunky84]

I'm in the same boat.

I'm 5'1. With DD I started at 169 and gained 53 pounds (delivered at 222.6). I had a section with her, but it was due to her being in distress (which I have no idea if my weight was a factor in that or not).

When I got pregnant with this one, I was finally 164 (and still trying to lose until I found out). I'm trying for a VBAC this time and know that my weight may stop that from happening. I've been trying really hard to eat better, but I'm up to 175.2 now. I find it really upsetting. I've always gained weight really easily.

I hate my body. I've been with DH for 5 years and I've never let him see me naked. Anytime he's at an appointment with me, I threaten his life if he looks at my stomach I freak out if he tries to even go near my stomach or my sides with his hands. He doesn't care how I look, but I can't get over it.

I have a B shaped stomach, so even with DD, my stomach never rounded out. The fact that I can't have a round stomach during pregnancy really depresses me. I just look fat.

I was planning on starting 30 day shred and was hoping to start getting rid of the fat on my stomach and hopefully get rid of my B shaped stomach, but that was the day I found out I was pregnant.

It's been cold here, so can't get out and do anything. I've been trying to get DH to set up the treadmill for me, but time for him to do so hasn't come so easily. I'm praying it really starts warming up soon so I can out.

 

[babifever]

I'm over weight as well, but refusing to let it be the certain of attention during this pregnancy. I walk and plan to not over indulge. But after baby I really want to lose.

 

[Abbey08]

I used to weigh approx 190-200 and lost 50 lbs. and then I gained about 10 back after I stopped dieting so strictly. When I found out I was pregnant I was 5'2" and 160 lbs. and at my 17 week appt was at 169 lbs and my doctor lectured me that I gained 9 lbs to quickly... I am due for my 21 week appt in 2 days and am at 172 so I have gained a total of 12 lbs and am almost 21 weeks pregnant. The doctor doesnt seem to understand that I had recently lost 50 lbs then got super bad morning sickness for 8 weeks and could barely eat so as soon as I felt better and could eat I gained the 9lbs in about a month. Since then it has leveled out and I am able to maintain it with a healthy diet and some minor exercise although I havent exercised as much as I should be... I work fulltime and am gone from 7am to 6-7pm and have to cook dinner and by the time I am done I just want to relax before I have to go to bed and start all over...

The docs said I could gain 15-25 lbs and be ok so they are really stressing me out and I hope I dont get another lecture Friday when I go back... I think they should be nicer and maybe warn you of what could happen... I am hoping to keep the weight gain at 1lb a week from here on out which would mean I gain 30 lbs total so only 5 more then they said I should... We shall see!

 

[spunky84]

Honestly, I hate when doctors get on pregnant women about their weight. I understand why it's bad for there to be too much weight gain, but I think some doctors are way too harsh.

Even when I gained 53 and starting out overweight, I did not get one word said to me about my weight gain, and I truly appreciated that. I wasn't oblivious to it, but I also gain weight ridiculously easy (my metabolism is absolutely shot).

I'm making more efforts this time, but even then, it's taken nothing for me to gain weight.

Try not to take their comments too hard. I've always said, if you eat healthy and within moderation, your body will gain what it needs to, even if it's *gasp* outside what the textbook says.

 

[Abbey08]

Honestly, I hate when doctors get on pregnant women about their weight. I understand why it's bad for there to be too much weight gain, but I think some doctors are way too harsh.

Even when I gained 53 and starting out overweight, I did not get one word said to me about my weight gain, and I truly appreciated that. I wasn't oblivious to it, but I also gain weight ridiculously easy (my metabolism is absolutely shot).

I'm making more efforts this time, but even then, it's taken nothing for me to gain weight.

Try not to take their comments too hard. I've always said, if you eat healthy and within moderation, your body will gain what it needs to, even if it's *gasp* outside what the textbook says.

Thanks!! I am really going to try and take your advice!! I figure if I gain 30 lbs from making a baby thats still alot less then what I gained from making unhealthy choices and splurging on food before I lost alot of weight!!

 

[babifever]

My doctor told Me she would like to only see 10-15 pounds weight gain. But she wasn't harsh about it.

 

[Starlight34]

I'm plus sized and was 180 lbs when I conceived. I have no idea what I am now, definitely fatter and heavier. I might have gestational diabetes, due to the results of some blood work, but so far no comments have been made by my doctor about my weight. I'm very self conscious about it, and very sensitive. I've struggled with weight my whole life. I feel very unattractive right now, but my husband is very supportive and says he loves me no matter what, which helps, but I still get fat shamed by other people sometimes. I was in a maternity clothing store last week, and the clerk asked me if I was expecting. I guess I just look fat at this point. She also called out to me while I was browsing that the plus sized clothes are on another rack. Yes lady, I know I am plus sized, you don't have to broadcast it. To make matters worse, none of the plus sized stuff fit. Skinny pregnant ladies have so many cute clothing options, there's nothing for me. I feel like a whale.
I'm just glad I don't have my friend's doctor. My friend has always been super skinny and has suffered from numerous eating disorders. Her doctor had the nerve to tell her she gained too much weight during her pregnancy. She didn't look heavy in the slightest when she was pregnant.

 

[spunky84]

I don't think it's a bad thing for a doctor/midwife to say how much weight gain is ideal. I just think it's horrible for them to give women such crap for their weight. I see it as it making the woman feel bad about herself (when she already might be) and maybe risk that woman go the other direction, which I think would do more harm to the baby than a little extra weight.

There are definitely some higher risks associated with higher weights and high weight gain, but I think they could be more proactive by asking them to keep a food journal to see where they are having issues and, if they're willing, see a nutritionist to help them. I feel like I could benefit from something like that. Or even just offer support. It's not always that it's the woman just giving into cravings. Sometimes there's just a real issue.

I've struggled with an eating disorder for over a decade, so I'm particularly sensitive to the whole weight deal (but obviously doing what I have to do for baby). I just think doctors/midwives need a different way of handling weight related issues.

So I don't think it's bad that doctors/midwives discuss recommended weight gains or even show concern over weight gain, but I think it's how they deal with it and discuss it with the patient. Not all doctors/midwives are like that, but I've heard some horror stories of what some providers have said to their patients.

 

[LittleLala]

I am overweight, australian/uk size 16/18. I have been trying really hard and have lost over 18kgs since becoming pregnant (40lbs). My gp is proud of me, but my OB doesn't care. He told me off yesterday for not booking a dietitian appointment, and when I asked him to look at my history and see how much I've lost he said "it doesn't matter, you are pregnant and you are going to gain it all back". It was really rude and I wanted to cry.
At least my gp is nice. Each appointment he kind of winces when he tells me it's time to weigh me because he knows I get upset about it, but I know it's important to keep track of throughout the pregnancy.

 

[eulmh82]

I used to weigh approx 190-200 and lost 50 lbs. and then I gained about 10 back after I stopped dieting so strictly. When I found out I was pregnant I was 5'2" and 160 lbs. and at my 17 week appt was at 169 lbs and my doctor lectured me that I gained 9 lbs to quickly... I am due for my 21 week appt in 2 days and am at 172 so I have gained a total of 12 lbs and am almost 21 weeks pregnant. The doctor doesnt seem to understand that I had recently lost 50 lbs then got super bad morning sickness for 8 weeks and could barely eat so as soon as I felt better and could eat I gained the 9lbs in about a month. Since then it has leveled out and I am able to maintain it with a healthy diet and some minor exercise although I havent exercised as much as I should be... I work fulltime and am gone from 7am to 6-7pm and have to cook dinner and by the time I am done I just want to relax before I have to go to bed and start all over...

The docs said I could gain 15-25 lbs and be ok so they are really stressing me out and I hope I dont get another lecture Friday when I go back... I think they should be nicer and maybe warn you of what could happen... I am hoping to keep the weight gain at 1lb a week from here on out which would mean I gain 30 lbs total so only 5 more then they said I should... We shall see!

I was similar actually (only lost 28 not 50 well done on that!!!) but I was very ill so from weeks 15-18 I gained 8 pounds just like that. Now at 24 weeks I've not gained anymore so it's balanced out. I'm 5 7 but started at 185 so cant really afford to put on loads

 

[cherrished]

Snap! Same here it's getting me down so much I am 18 weeks pregnant and gained around 1 stone already I must say I don't think quitting smoking helped but it's the best thing I've ever done, I'm now 16st @ 18 weeks with DS1 I didn't hit 16st till 38 weeks pregnant just gets me so down, I'm trying to eat as healthy as possible, I'm even following the slimming world diet, I just know I'll be massive in the summer time and I don't want that, just want to feel nice again lol xx