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[Hope39]

Getting out of first tri for any rmc'er is a huge accomplishment DS, well done you

No one can possibly understand unless they've walked in these shoes, they just don't get it. Those that haven't had a stillborn or neo natal loss but suffer rmc don't fully get it, i wouldn't expect anyone to get it unless they have experienced it

God im waffling now x

 

[kelly1973]

Wow that's fantastic news hope totally made my day xxx

 

[dairymomma]

Hope-CONGRATULATIONS!!! That news just makes my day! So happy to see you back here.

AFM-Thanks ladies. This shouldn't be a surprise really since I've had threatened miscarriage with all but one pg thus far but it never ceases to scare the bejeezus out of me. The red was just that one time. Back to intermittent small amts of peach stuff now but if my previous experience is anything to fall back on, I'll post this and something new will come up. Called the dr. He's out today, won't be in til 10am tomorrow, and his nurse can't schedule an ultrasound on her own. There's a locum today but she can't schedule a scan or use the u/s machine in office. Since I'm only 7+2, it's iffy as to whether or not their u/s would pick up baby abdominally and they don't do TV scans so I'm stuck waiting til tomorrow and hoping they can get me in for an u/s right away. The joys of being in limboland...

 

[Radiance]

dairymomma- The wait is always awful!! I hope today goes by quickly so you can be seen sooner.

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I'm excited to still be here! I can't wait for my dating scan. It's in a little over two weeks I'm definitely impatient! I should be around 8/9 weeks at that scan.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Dairy: sorry you couldn't get hold of your doc. I hope you get your scan tomorrow and it's good news.

Hope: I'm so so happy for you. What you say is right,no one can fully understand until they've been there themselves.
But we're all here for you. xx

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

dairy, I'm so glad the red spotting went back to the peach spotting. I know that colored cm can be very common. I'm praying you're seen soon so you can see everything is ok.

DSemcho, I've been putting my hand in my pants too! LOL!! I'll be sitting on the couch and just have it in my pants on my lower belly. My husband asked me the other day what that was all about...I told him I'm just holding my baby. Hahaha!!

Hope, congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you!!! This will be your rainbow baby!!

AFM: I'm trying to not worry, and I've been doing so good lately. But I'm 8 weeks today and I keep seeing in ladies signatures they've had mmc at this time or later. Then there is ladies like you Hope who have gone through horrible things and I'm so worried that something like that will happen with me. Did you ladies with mmc have any signs or you just went in for a scan and the baby had passed?

 

[DSemcho]

Doppler came in! Found a hb for a split second and after that I found the placenta but not the hb. Damn this tummy fat lol. I'll wait til this weekend.

 

[Radiance]

We had no signs. With our two early first trimester losses I just woke up bleeding. With Hope, all was well, I had a scan the day before and the next night while relaxing my water broke I had her two days later. With Elijah, Stephen, and Elena I had absolutely no signs. I had that mama feeling though. That something was wrong, that they were gone.

 

[Starry Night]

You gotta just take it one day at a time. In the beginning I refused to look to the next day. My mantra was "Today I am pregnant". I celebrated every completed 24 hours. When I was further in my pregnancy I started to look ahead one week at a time. It was the only way I coped. I also made a lot of calls to my OB's office. I also kept reminding myself that most pregnancies end well and why shouldn't mine too?

I crossed my fingers and held my breath at every appointment. I only got two scans with my rainbow so I relied on the doppler and feeling movements.

dairy - I'm glad the spotting stopped but I'm sorry you're in limbo. I hope you can be seen tomorrow and be put at ease.

 

[ab75]

Huge congratulations Hope xx

Dairy, I hope all is well xx

 

[Tasha]

hope, it does feel like a massively long road after rmc and then stillbirth/neonatal loss. You know I'm here.

Dairy I'm so glad it stopped.

Radiance I'm excited for you.

Mrs R, no signs for my mmc's.

Afm I had the mw this morning, just bp and urine check. She booked me in for vbac clinic at 20 weeks to discuss birth, that seems scary. GTT at 28 weeks too. This afternoon reassurance and cervix scan. Seeing that heart beating will always be amazing. Cervix is stable x

 

[Hope39]

I know your always there my dear, you've been my life saver, I'm surprised I not tipped you over the edge , lol

For now I'm not even worrying about it , 4w pregnant is so early so get me to 12w and you'll have the biggest worry wart ever here

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Thanks ladies,

DSemcho, how exciting it is you found the HB, even if it was only for a sec!!

Radiance, I can't even imagine going through even part of what you have had to go through. Makes me sad.

Starry Night, I gave in and bought a doppler online today. I'm 8 weeks as of today and I think it will help ease my mind inbetween appointments until I can feel the baby move.

Tasha, I'm so glad everything looks great so far and they're keeping good tabs on everything that is going on.

 

[Squig34]

Dairy, sorry you've had such a scare - I hope you can get that u/s tomorrow & all is well.

Hope, congratulations! I know you do have a long road ahead of you but remember this is the first step. Very much hoping that all goes absolutely smoothly for you this time. Are you getting early delivery due to the placental abruption with Isaac?

Mrs R, my symptoms just switched off, it really was like flicking a switch. They came back a bit in a day or two, but not as strongly. That's happened with all 3 of my mmc's & didn't happen this time, so I know I'm definitely right.

Tasha, glad you had a good appointment

 

[Tasha]

Lol, never Hope. You're there for me as much as I am for you. Just glad that i can count you as one of my closest friends.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

MrsR: for my mmc I had a bad feeling that something was wrong. Somehow I just knew. Epu wouldn't want to see me because I 'only' had one loss prior to that pregnancy so booked a private scan. One day before the scan, I had some spotting which stopped after 2-3 hours.
On the day of the scan, I was supposed to be 7 weeks, the scan showed a sac measuring 4-5 weeks. I knew my dates as I was temping, so it confirmed my fears.
Then the tech wrote a letter so I could go to the epu and be seen. A bit more than 2 weeks later I was seen at the epu, and the sac had grown to 6 weeks but was empty and bleeding actually started the day before that 2nd scan. So even if I had the dates wrong, the growth was not enough anyway to be viable.

I would suggest enjoying being pregnant everyday, just like starry night said, one day at a time, one appointment at a time. I did not buy a Doppler because I would have freaked out in case I did not hear the hb. But I had scans every 2 weeks at the beginning (5, 7 and 9 weeks and then 12 weeks). That helped me a lot. Actually my 9 weeks scan was not planned, I just went to check my blood tests results with the doctor and told her. I was worried, asked for a scan and she did one. That was life saving for me. The hardest part was between 12 weeks until I could feel movements. (When I got back to the uk and it took ages so I could be seen by a doctor).
Hth.

 

[petitpas]

Hello Hope
I'm so pleased to see you in here as I cannot imagine a better place to support you

Dairy, how scary! I hope that all will be well at your appointment!

AFM, our little girl arrived last Tuesday by planned section. All went well although a day after the birth someone pointed out that the sighing/singing noises our daughter was making were actually efforts to breathe. They took a chest xray and inserted a cannula into her hand for IV antibiotics. They also ran some blood tests. Otherwise, our little girl was doing well, feeding, pooing, peeing, alert, no temperature, good heart rate. So they decided it was probably all benign and we were finally allowed home. It is so incredible to have two children now! So much hard work and emotion went into this and it feels like the start of a new era. Thank you so much to everyone for your support!

 

[Tasha]

Pip, congratulations again. She is a little beauty xx

 

[Hope39]

Hi squig - yes delivery at 36w, hospital admission at about 25w till I deliver, although I have visions I be camping out with my suitcase ready at 23+6

Pip - I nearly made it before you left your little girl is beautiful xx

 

[dairymomma]

radiance-Don't know if said congrats before so Congrats (again if I already said it. Pg mom brain...)

Sorry if I'm being such a debby downer on the thread right now. It's just this is my way of getting it all out with ladies who understand the fears I'm dealing with. DH is sick of hearing it and I haven't told any other friends or family yet because I want to see what the scan says first. I had more pink this afternoon and I'm cramping again too. If the can't get me in for an ultrasound tomorrow, I'm making an appt. Maybe he can see baby on the abdominal u/s in-office after all. Either way, I'm getting an answer as to whether or not this pregnancy is viable tomorrow. I'm not waiting any longer.