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Dair- I'm so sorry:( I bet after just having a LO, the pressure was off and you felt confident. I don't understand RPL!! Were you taking the same supplements you were with your last rainbow?

I'm a firm believer in-if you feel the itch for more babies- do it! I think it's a very sad thing for any woman when she realizes her child bearing years are over. And you never hear any woman regretting her children, but you do hear of women regretting NOT having had more children. I'm already thinking about #2! But I'm not sure if that's just because I'm engulfed in "baby" world right now with being a first time mom or because a lot of my friends are pg with #2 already (I got a late start with all of the miscarriages). Some days I forget the struggles I went through and then I realize just bc I had one rainbow does not guarantee I won't suffer anymore losses. It's scary to think we've "figured it out" to find out we haven't.

I really want to NTNP- not TRY so hard for the second if that makes any sense. I want to experience the surprise and excitement of a BFP- not stress. But I don't know with my history if I'm afforded that luxury. What do you all think? My LO was a clomid baby but I also was on high dose Progesterone, 2.2mg of Folic acid and BA. I think my main inssue was progesterone- it was low in every pregnancy including my rainbow until I upped the dosage. I would just be afraid if I'm NTNP I won't catch the pregnancy in time to start everything I would need to start. But maybe after having a rainbow already, the pressure being somewhat off will have an effect on the pregnancy? Thoughts thoughts....DH isn't ready, but I think I'd want to start NTNP when my DD is 9-12 months old.
 
Oh dairy :hugs:

If it was a blighted ovum I personally think there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. My last pregnancy, the one between my two babies, was also a blighted ovum. I passed it naturally and then shortly after fell pregnant with my daughter. I hope you follow the same pattern! With the number of pregnancies us RPL ladies go through we are all bound to have some genetic losses as well but it does feel like an added insult. And it still hurts! I am very sorry to know that you are going through this :hugs:
 
Hello ladies,

dairy, I am truly sorry you are going through this again. I am so impressed with your go get it attitude and already planning ahead and making goals for yourself. You are a stong lady. :hugs:

mowat, glad things are going well for you so far. :thumbup:

DSemcho, I looked online and my doppler is out for delivery today!!! :happydance: I have to admit I'm a bit nervous to try it and praying I hear that heartbeat. I'm 8 weeks 2 days today, so it's a bit early possibly, but we'll see. I'll let you know!!

floridamomma, good luck and praying you get your bean!!

Tia, yay for team pink!!! I'm praying everything continues to go well for you. This is your rainbow!! :hugs:
 
Newly-yes, I was on the same meds but I think the egg was damaged somehow and after implantation, something went haywire leading to the blighted ovum. This isn't my first BO nor is it the first one from the left side so I'm going to have that checked out. And I had been a bit more confident but I've also never had consecutive successful pregnancies so I knew not to be overly confident.

Also we ntnp for the most part and I just go on the progesterone/baby aspirin when I get my bfp and it's been fine for my successes. But it's really what YOU are comfortable with.

Petit-I know. That's why I think my BOs have been so much easier to work through emotionally than my 'normal' losses. If I've seen a baby and a hb, it's been SO much harder to m/c and the grieving process is much harder. I'm pretty much back to normal today and that's how all of my BOs have been. And yes, I've tended to get rainbows after BOs so I'm hoping it happens again. Though I DO wish I'd have about a 6 month break here before another bfp...It would put me at 5-6 months when DH and I have a hiking vacation planned for next winter so I wouldn't be outrageously huge AND it would give me that Spring Baby I'm hankering for.
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Edit: MrsR-cross posted with you but thanks. It's not my first go-round but BOs are easier to get through I think, hence the go-get-em attitude. And it helps that I've had my P90X box staring at me for the last 3 months just begging me to pull out a workout and go to town. :haha:
 
Dairy: sorry for the loss. I hope they find out the cause so you will not have to endure another lost.

squig34: thank you :)

Newlywed: my ob is very much aware of the situation however the solution is to prescribe medication. I am already on 4 different types of medication n just don't want to keep taking pills in fear it might harm the baby. I am trying to just ride it out n hopefully time will pass by fast. I have to say in pregnancy year everyday feels like a year.

Florida: I was in an out of the hospital last month and all the nurses that I met were very sympathetic bc they have been around many patients with hyperemesis therefore are very empathetic. The hardest thing is to get people to understand the disease is not simply morning sickness and drinking ginger ale n sucking on peppermint does not help.

Hopeful: thanks for the kind words.

Umami: sorry to hear that you are also feeling very sick. It must be really hard to take care of your children n deal with morning sickness. Sometimes I just break down n cry in front of DH as well. There are days I just feel like I can't take another day n that feeling of hopelessness just makes you want to sob your heart out.

Mrs: the two pregnancies I've had, I didn't feel sick at all. I have to say nature has a twisted sense of humor. When you're supposed to be feeling happy bc the pregnancy is going well, you end of feeling sick to your stomach instead. On the brighter side, looks like third time is a charm for the both of us. I hope you get your rainbow baby.

Petitpas : I laughed when I read your comment bc I understand what you mean when you said how wonderful you felt after delivery. I can't wait to hold the baby in my arms without all the hormones surging through my body. Now I fully understand why Mother's Day is such a big deal.

I think the hardest thing for me to deal with is knowing I will not be able to provide a sibling for my child. After 2 miscarriages and 1 very miserable pregnancy, DH and I agree we will just appreciate what we have n hope our one child will be ok without the support of a brother or sister. Being that my sister is my best friend, I have to say the decision to not have more haunts me. However I did outweigh the pros n cons. I have to say my relationship with DH has suffered much due to the emotional n physical ups n downs of the miscarriages n now my ongoing illness and I don't think I can cope with another hyperemesis n caring for a child at the same time as well. in addition it is definite not easy to balance a demanding job n family for the modern woman. I do envy women who have husbands that are supportive n know the value of a stay at home wife. My DH is a loving husband but does not believe in a stay at home wife despite the fact he makes a ton of money which puts a ton of pressure on me bc no matter how sick I feel I will still need to earn my own money. I think that's another reason why I am so adamant about not wanting a second child. I have to say sometimes i miss the traditional role of a husband and wife n I could see now why working women do not have a lot of kids. Trying to balance a demanding job, take care of the kids, nurture the marriage is a boat load.
 
Miracle1902 said:
I think the hardest thing for me to deal with is knowing I will not be able to provide a sibling for my child. After 2 miscarriages and 1 very miserable pregnancy, DH and I agree we will just appreciate what we have n hope our one child will be ok without the support of a brother or sister. Being that my sister is my best friend, I have to say the decision to not have more haunts me. However I did outweigh the pros n cons. I have to say my relationship with DH has suffered much due to the emotional n physical ups n downs of the miscarriages n now my ongoing illness and I don't think I can cope with another hyperemesis n caring for a child at the same time as well. in addition it is definite not easy to balance a demanding job n family for the modern woman. I do envy women who have husbands that are supportive n know the value of a stay at home wife. My DH is a loving husband but does not believe in a stay at home wife despite the fact he makes a ton of money which puts a ton of pressure on me bc no matter how sick I feel I will still need to earn my own money. I think that's another reason why I am so adamant about not wanting a second child. I have to say sometimes i miss the traditional role of a husband and wife n I could see now why working women do not have a lot of kids. Trying to balance a demanding job, take care of the kids, nurture the marriage is a boat load.
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You just wait til you have that baby Miracle;) you might feel differently- and if you don't then that's okay too. I hear you about the struggles of the modern working woman. I too valued my education, and am very much for woman rights but after having my LO I really wish I could be a SAHM. I just reduced my hours at work to part time because I was having a really hard time juggling it all and still feeling like I was being the mother I want to be. It's rough but I think it all works out in the end. You just wait til that baby gets here- it changes everything!
 
Miracle: that's exactly what. I said after ds2!! (Ds1's pgcy was a dream tbh), and that's what I'm saying now too. But the truth is, we do forget all the bad stuff! I'm even finding myself saying to dh that I must be mad wanting to put myself through that again!
I'm just like petitpas, I felt so much better once ds2 was out! (Though I did not have a c-sec). I was making my bed right after giving birth!
I hope that the time passes quickly for you.
 
Tia i wish i could give you a hug too :hugs:

Just a few more weeks then you be in the best place xx

I havent got time to reply to everyone tonight, sorry, been way to busy at its tax year end and trying to get OH new business off the ground, i say his business, i seem to be doing a lot towards it, lol
 
Miracle, yes I'm hoping and praying for both of us that this 3rd time is the charm!! :kiss:
 
Newlywed: people tell me all the time I might change my mind once I hAve my child but right now the thought of it brings shiver to my spine.

Ummi: I hope time passes by quickly too. Can't wait to wake up morning sickness free n with a baby in my arms. I feel like such a whiner compared to women like diary who went through so much but never gave up. I wish I had a higher pain threshold n will power. I hope I am at least blessed to enjoy some part of the pregnancy n get out of this slump I'm in.
 
I don't have hyper emesis Miracle, but I sort of understand what you're going through. This pregnancy seems to be getting harder and harder and my nausea seems to be increasing, not going away. I've had very little interest in food this whole pregnancy and now I'm also suffering from crazy swollen legs/ankles/feet, shortness of breath, intense upper rib pain. I'm just happy the daily migraines I was having have stopped! Just yesterday I realized how crazy emotional I was and took a step back. I'm back to trying to enjoy this pregnancy because it will certainly be my last. The pain will lead to something amazing and I can certainly deal with it for another few months (although I'm really hoping to deliver early!).

I know my situation isn't like yours, but trust me, we feel your pain!
 
MrsR - when you get it try in the direct middle - right above your pubic line. and then slowly try the left or right of the middle line. Also when you hit one spot, and have it straight up kinda roll it over that spot. That's what I have to do. I find mine about half an inch, to an inch on the left of the middle line.

Today I found it in less than a minute and a half. I was only checking because I noticed my lower tummy was bruised from when I was trying to find it on Tuesday (I bruise easily) and that plus having the whole middle of my back having a dull ache yesterday made me scared. As soon as I found the HB I felt better.


AFM - I have some weird kind of rash going on on the underside of my boobs so I'm going to the doctor about it today O.o
 
I'm just glad human pregnancies only last 9 months and not 2 years like elephants. (Even though I start looking like one ^^).

Miracle: wait until you feel baby moving, it makes it better. That what I'm trying to enjoy in pregnancy, that and having a big bump (pregnancy is the only time when I don't feel 'fat' despite being huge. Usually it's just my flabby mummy tummy!) you'll get there hun.

Tia: sending you millions of hugs too. I hope the time passes quickly for you too and you get to cuddle your rainbow soon.
 
Mowat: sounds awful what you are going through. Based on your symptoms, it seems you're much further along. I am almost at 15 weeks. The symptoms have subsided but it's still hard to cope bc I feel so worn out at this point. The hardest part is being adverse to food. During the 1st trimester I didn't eat at all n that was ok but now with the 2nd trimester I feel really sick when I do eat but I feel even sicker when I don't. I really miss enjoying food. My ob tells me I need to drink at least 4 bottles of water everyday but at best I could only drink one n that's me trying really hard. They say it's ok not to eat much but it's important you keep yourself adequately hydrated so I'm really nervous my inability to take down fluid is harming my baby. They say 2nd trimester is the golden trimester so I'm still waiting for that crazy food craving stage to come. I pray I won't be one of those mothers who are adverse to food all through their pregnancy. I hope your nausea will ease up soon.

Ummi: I can't wait to feel the baby kicking. It's been very difficult to bond with the baby due to the illness n plus I had two miscarriages so I refuse to allow myself too be overly attached until the baby is born. My sister says once you feel the baby kicking, the bond automatically increases.
 
Hello ladies,

Miracle, you have every right to complain!! No worries!!

DSemcho, I tried it last night for like maybe 5 min or so and couldn't find anything. I didn't try for too long, but think I may try again tonight with your advice. I tried it starting in the middle right next to my pubic bone and then moving it, but I think I need to move it a lot slower and really listen carefully. There were a couple times I think we may have barely heard it and then I moved it and it wasn't there. But not 100% sure on that. I'm 8 weeks 3 days, so maybe too early?
 
Mrs R: it may still be really early. Hope you find the hb soon.

Miracle: I completely understand how you are feeling. As for water, I had exactly the same worry. I couldn't drink a single drop of water (literally), until 16-17 weeks. Lemonade was going down well, sparkling water and lemon juice, and juice was all I could drink. I knew water would be better but simply couldn't drink it. Just try anything else, even it's not as hydrating as water. Wish you the best hun.
 
I know what you mean about being sick when you eat and sick when you don't Miracle---so difficult! I'm not throwing up, but I'm just not interested in food. Having said that, today was a little better. A good day is when I can eat some fruit and vegetables. Funny how my doctor's haven't been worried at all about my food intake and haven't mentioned liquid at all either. Medicine is so un-scientific!
 
Mrs Reineke said:
Hello ladies,

Miracle, you have every right to complain!! No worries!!

DSemcho, I tried it last night for like maybe 5 min or so and couldn't find anything. I didn't try for too long, but think I may try again tonight with your advice. I tried it starting in the middle right next to my pubic bone and then moving it, but I think I need to move it a lot slower and really listen carefully. There were a couple times I think we may have barely heard it and then I moved it and it wasn't there. But not 100% sure on that. I'm 8 weeks 3 days, so maybe too early?
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I'd probably wait until 10 weeks to try it for an accurate thing. If you want I can make you a little video showing you what I do lol. But you'd have to excuse my fat roll ha.



Is hyper emesis when you are vomiting frequently no matter what??




So yesterday I had my appointment for my weird rash, doc thought it could be because I have to wear the same bra all the time and with me washing it so much the perfume and dye from the detergent could be "impregnated" into the bra.. I giggled when he said impregnated. So he gave me a anti-fungal and steroid cream to help which it is. Also suggested I switch to a dye free and perfume free detergent until I can get access to buy more properly fitted bras. Also yesterday at the appt the nurse wanted to do fetal heartrate with the Doppler they have there and I told her I'd do it for her since I know how my body is but she insisted on doing it herself. I pointed to where baby likes to hang (by the placenta) and she didn't push down at all and wasn't finding it so I took the probe and found baby in less than 5 seconds. She said she wasn't gonna push down because she didn't hurt me. I was like honey, I'm a fat chick you can press down and it'll take a lot to hurt me lol. Honestly if I hadn't had my own Doppler and been doing it at home I would have been freaking out at there being no heartbeat.


Also didn't realize this before... So... Baby's tail is gone by now correct?? And the nub theory is that if it's a girl that the nub will go along with the spine... And I JUST noticed this from my scan from 20Jan at 11+3... Do you see a nub at the base of the butt??

https://i53.photobucket.com/albums/g55/blissfully_rebellious/imagejpg1_zpsb8a2c3da.jpg

And that paired with my girl dream the other day... idk...
 
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