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[newlywedtzh]

Florida- totally normal to feel like that! These next few weeks are going to be rough for you- just try to find relaxation methods- I read a few books (I think one was called 10% happier) that helped me relax, kept myself occupied.. and just got through the days by counting down til my next scan. Are you not going to see the RMS anymore? That's odd- I had weekly scans with my fertility doc until 8 weeks (I think if all looks well and a HB is seen at 8 weeks- the risk drops for a 1st tri MC)... It wasn't until then that I "graduated" and started to see the regular OB at 9 weeks. Maybe they can still see you for a couple more weeks?

Mrs R- I had chronic headaches starting the end of first tri that lasted basically all of 2nd tri. it was rough (especially bc you can't take any effective medicine). I would drink a cup of coffee and take two tylenol... and then repeat that every 6-8 hours for an entire 24 hours. It was what my OB told me to do to "break the cycle" of the headache. (I was having headaches that lasted for days on end). Hope that helps!

Dairy- FX!

Hope everyone else is doing well!

 

[floridamomma]

Thanks for the support ladies.
Newly I thought he said id be with him until 12 weeks. In going to ask tomorrow when I see him. That's what we were to we'd stay with the specialist until 12 weeks and then go back to ob

 

[dairymomma]

Florida-I think it's normal for all of us to question our pg. I think it's part of how we insulate ourselves from more hurt. Deny the pg, expect things to go wrong so if/when it does, it might not hurt so bad. I'm doing it already and I'm not even 4 weeks yet. Hang in there and hopefully your doctor lets you see him as long as you want if it helps you stay calm.

Thanks everyone. Still waiting on results but my fears of 'the worst' are settling down. A good nights sleep helped alot I think. Nauseated, breaking out like a teenage girl, and boobs are tingling so symptoms are defo here and there are still lines on my tests but not huge jumps in progression so I feel a little more confident today. It's still hitting me though. It's like I have this ticker tape running behind my eyes with YOU ARE PREGNANT! emblazoned in neon blue on it. I still can't quite believe it and I feel like I'm walking around with this 'deer in the headlights' look.

 

[hopeful23456]

florida - I understand being worried but by your ticker you have 3 kids? your body can obviously do this! did you have m/c before them?

sweetv - congrats!

 

[floridamomma]

No. I had them extremely young. Now since we are trying I've had 5/6 miscarriages back to back. I have lost a lot of faith in my body at this point

 

[hopeful23456]

florida - were you on the meds you are on now with the other miscarriages? I pray and hope this will work out for you! if you are on a new protocol maybe this is the time it's going to happen

also - with the stim meds, they give you the best eggs! so hopefully the combo of everything works! it did for me and doesn't sound like either of us technically have egg issues. I think it's all implantation issues

 

[floridamomma]

Hope I wasn't. Only baby aspirin and 200mg of progesterone. I think maybe I was ovulating early. Hoping clomid pumped up my egg. I'm very hopeful this will be my rainbow. I think if I see a hb at 10 weeks I'll gain more confidence. I felt do good until we got to 6 weeks

 

[Squig34]

Congratulations Sweet

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

SweetV-congrats!! Glad you joined us!! Thank you for your advice on the headaches. I drink a lot of water, so just trying to do what I can like you said. They're not absolutely horrible, just irritating really.

Dairy, I'm praying for the best for you and hopefully everything looks great and you can try to enjoy it. I'm horrible at Googling everything and the regret it afterwards because I freak myself out even more.

DSemcho, I'm glad you got it checked out and something that is easily taken care of. Hang in there.

Thanks for your advice Mowat.

Blueblue, I've had very vivid mc dreams. They're horrible!!

Florida, I felt the exact same way in the time leading up to my mcs. It's scary, but I'm praying everything will be just fine and you'll fly by that time!!

Thank you Newlywedtzh, yeah I took a couple Tylenol the other evening even though I worry about doing that. I know they say it's completely safe, but I'm a worry wart.

Speaking of being a worry wart, for you ladies that have had your membranes rupture early, what was the cause of that if you don't mind me asking?

 

[dairymomma]

It's been one heck of a day so far and it's not even noon! I started out on a high with nice darkening of lines (but not OVERLY dark) but now the waiting for my test results is just eating at me. Still nothing to report there. Then I just got a call from my sister. She's got company coming this weekend and two of her kids came down with chicken pox. One of my brothers was supposed to part of that company coming and instead of being to celebrate his nephew's baptism, he'll be sitting in a jail cell for probation violations. Honestly, it's the best place for him atm but I'm just so sad because he's really a good-hearted, kind, amazing person despite all his faults. Seeing someone you love in the throes of addiction is not an easy place to be but it's where we are right now.

Started out well but the day is just sort of tanking atm...

 

[Mrs Reineke]

dairymomma, I'm sorry your day has taken a turn for the worse and your brother is in jail. I know how it feels to have a family member struggle with addiction. It's awful and I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this right now.

 

[Hope39]

Hugs Dairy - seems we all have a brother/sister with addictions, lol

My sister was an addict once, she all good now though

Mrs R - you really do worry yourself unnecessarily . I didn't have a rupture of membranes when i lost isaac so i can't help im afraid. You may not find the answer here because there is only a few of us that have had late losses. I think most of the girls on this thread have suffered first and second tri losses x

 

[hopeful23456]

florida -when is your next appt?

Dairy - that sucks about your bro but sounds like a good place then he can't do any drugs. my coworker's son died of heroin addiction at 20. so sad when kids get addicted!

 

[wookie130]

My ex-husband died last year of an overdose. Addiction is a horrible, horrible disease. Ack.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Oh my gosh wookie, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I couldn't even imagine.

I know I over worry Hope. I'm terrified of any little possible thing that could cause me to lose my baby. It's awful I do this to myself. I naturally worry a lot and was actually diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder when I was 12. I'm 31 now and I've been on medicine for this ever since then. Luckily the current medication I'm on is safe to use in pregnancy and I'm on a vary small dose. But because I have this I worry normally and now that I'm pregnant it's worse. I need to try to just realize all I can do is take good care of myself for my baby and the rest is in God's hands.

 

[Hope39]

There's not a lot you can do to prevent any of the awful things happening regarding late losses in afraid. Try not to think about it, that's what I did with Isaac pregnancy , I use to try and forget I was pregnant full stop , lol

 

[SweetV]

florida - I think I will feel better if I see a hb at 10 weeks too.

Mrs. R. - I had my membranes rupture at 25 weeks. For me there were a number of factors but no actual cause given. From others and research the main reasons I can gather are infection and incompetent cervix. I agree with Hope though about the worrying (sometimes I think it's better to be ignorant of these things) and there isn't much you can do for prevention.

Dairy - I'm sorry you aren't having the greatest of days. Addiction is a very hard thing to deal with. Did you get your test results back? Hopefully something to feel a little better about?

 

[floridamomma]

So aoery dairy. Many members in my extended family including my dad have been addicts. Most are better now but some still struggle.xxx

My next appt is tomorrow for a scan. I'm going to ask to remain with the specialist until 12 weeks.

 

[wookie130]

Mrs. R, I know it sounds like I'd be devastated that he passed on last year, but in reality, it was a relief that he was finally gone, as evil as that may sound. He beat me, stole from me, abused his sons, and was a terrible, horrible, no-good man. I was very lucky to have gotten away from him. Although we had been divorced for a few years, learning of his death actually set me free, if that makes any sense.

You remind me so much of myself during my pregnancies. I too, worried myself sick with both of my babies after having two losses. It wasn't always rational, although in my mind it certainly was, and I had a really hard time pulling the plug on the anxiety. Take it one day at a time, and force yourself to develop some positive pregnancy affirmations...tell yourself, "This baby will be here" or "I will meet my baby." And TRY to believe it. I know that's hard, but if you can do it, I found that it does direct the anxiety to a more positive place.

 

[Radiance]

This pregnancy has been a roller coaster. A big, hard, emotional roller coaster. I am a few steps away from 2nd trimester. Baby has been great. Saturday I started gushing. It got really scary at one point. They got my blood transfusion bracelets and all. At that point my heart and mind were fighting one another. There was no way my baby could still be alive. I talked to the technician and asked if he would let me watch, he did! I actually didn't see baby's heart beating for the first few minutes but then I asked and he showed me. Baby looked like a boy!!! I've felt that this whole pregnancy. However, I have bled daily almost. Yesterday was my first day, went most the day today and then bam I have an appointment Friday but called before the bleeding started again and asked if they would call me if any one cancelled for tomorrow (Thursday). My heart hurts. I'm not feeling positive at this point.