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[floridamomma]

I didn't realize how that part about traveling sounded kind of rude. Sorry I get frustrated sometimes and I think about the last 2 1/2 years of my life and how much time I spent being depressed and crying and being the age that I am I really should be traveling and learning and exploring but instead I'm seeing a fertility doctor i
And am being poked and prodded and I should be getting more tattoos but I spend more time with people tell me I have great veins before they take more of my blood. But I keep going because I know in the end it'll all be worth it. Plus hopefully I'll still be pretty young when all the kids are out of the house so I'll just say goodbye to them and travel then LOL

 

[SweetV]

Florida - surviving off 70% would be tough but it's better than zero as my DH says if I don't do something I'm going to have to just quit, I don't think he understands that not having any $ would be just as stressful to me. I know exactly what you mean about travel. I can't tell you how many plans I have put off either because I was expecting to be pregnant or expecting to have a newborn and there comes a point where you just have to live. You didn't sound rude at all.

Tasha - If I make it to 12 weeks I think I will have the biweekly appointments as well (another reason that work will become difficult). May I please ask are cervical checks transvaginal? My pprom had no known cause so they said IC (as I said before pretty sure the 14 hour days on my feet had something to do with it). I've had episodes of bleeding after tv us so they kind of scare me.

blue - my MIL is the same. She means well and she is really the only person that talks about my losses but it's always at the most awkward times and she just doesn't seem to get it.

Ummi - That's exactly what DH says. Any other time I'm happy to put in the hours. My boss and I (I'm the second in command) are known in our company as being the absolute best. It's really hard to put myself before my career but it's time. Thank you.

Progesterone ladies - do any of you take a peanut free progesterone suppository? My doctor has struggled in the past to find one for me. Although I didn't have a reaction when I took it last time I'm peanut intolerant and just don't want to take any chances.

 

[dairymomma]

Sweet-I'd try to get signed off but if you can't, can they at least decrease your hours or allow you breaks if the dr says you need it? That's not fair for you, especially with your history, to be working that much. And on your progesterone question, I can't help much. I've only ever taken the oral Prometrium and it's peanut based. I know you can find creams made from yams but I'm not sure how the dosing would be if you went that route...

florida-I want to travel so badly too but I haven't because I'm so often in the first tri and I hate to be somewhere else if I were to start miscarrying. I nearly lost a baby on the trip home from my parents once and that was bad enough. Got home a 3 hours later, I was miscarrying. I don't want to go through that again. But I'm traveling next weekend and there's really no way I can get out of it. My mom is so looking forward to it (esp with my brother's situation being what it is, this trip will take her mind off things for a bit), my 94 year old grandma hasn't seen LO yet, and if this pg continues, this will be my only trip home for the rest of the year. I *think* I'll be okay because I've never m/c before 7 weeks and I'll only be 5 weeks at that point so I'm hoping things stay okay.

Afm-lines still darkening daily so I'm backing off from testing every day. The only reason I've done this much is because I have a pile of cheapies that will expire before I can use them again if I make it full term so I'm being positive/hopeful that I'll make it 9 months and using them up now. My only concern right now is that my cervix is really low. I checked it the day I had that spotting/discharge and it was high. The next day it was even higher and I couldn't hardly touch it. Haven't checked it since but this morning it felt like something was pressing on it so I decided to see where it was. Sure enough, it's down low. Feels like it's going to fall out almost. I know cervical position can change daily even at this point but it's bringing a bit of nerves because the last time it was this low, I m/c. If it isn't one thing it's another when you are PARL.

 

[SweetV]

I would love to decrease my hours. My boss always says that he is ok with it but then just keeps piling work on me and tells me it's my fault I have to work so long. Work harder, work faster etc. I'm only scheduled for 8 hour days, never work less than 12 and I am damn good at my job. I'm also salaried which means no matter how much I work I get paid the same and it's the reason my boss gives all the work to me (every single other person except him and I are hourly). It also means I can't prove I don't take breaks. The head of HR is really good friends with my boss so I feel like if I went above him I'd be at risk of losing my job.

I'm holding on to my last FRER (I'm not sure why really). I almost wish I had a few IC's around, I think I am going to do the digi next week though. Take confidence in those lines getting darker and (easier said than done I know) try not to stress about the cervix. Mine always seems really low and then some days I can't find it?

Enjoy your trip!

 

[petitpas]

D, no phone? That's such a man's thing to suggest! Crazy!

I couldn't live without mine. Mostly, I use it to send messages via whatsapp, viber or similar. I have an unlimited text allowance but hardly ever use it because the other message apps are so much more useful. You'll definitely need an Internet allowance on your plan and don't let your man talk you out of it! You can save on his phone

Hi to everyone else I'm not keeping up well as it's been crazy busy with family visiting from afar.

 

[floridamomma]

Dairy hold on to the line progression for now. Praying for you. And that's always been me too. Too early in pregnancy or expecting a lo. When I got to Vegas next month I'll be 11 weeks 17 weeks in May for the cruise and 20-23 weeks in June/July to go to California. I'm a regular jet setter this year lol

 

[floridamomma]

Sweet do what you can to either decrease your hours orgo ahead and take the leave. You'll thank yourself later.

 

[blueblue]

Dairy - try not to worry too much, I know it's not easy with PARL. The lines darkening is good news

Florida - you don't sound rude, it's very difficult when RPL takes over your life. We've put a lot off too.

 

[Tia30]

Hi Ladies,

Glad to read of the new bfps on here this week.

Squig - you are in my thoughts, I know how you must be feeling right now. The road to motherhood can be so difficult for some of us.

Tasha/Hope - glad to read things are moving along nicely.

AFM - well I am now 26 weeks pregnant. My bile acids rose out of the normal range last Thursday and baby's movements had slowed so I was admitted. Luckily by morning they had gone back to normal and she was wriggling and kicking me all over. So they let me home until tomorrow when I will be admitted back to hospital for a few weeks.

My doc advises he is reluctant to prescribe me the urso acid if obstetric cholestasis does reoccur, and it is very likely it will as the stats are pretty high for reoccurrence. I am being tested weekly. If they hit 14 I could start the mess if he allows. Laurie died when they were 28 and it was the only abnormal result in all tests. For now I am waiting to see if the itch starts and trying to reduce fat in my diet to see if it helps the liver function. He has agreed to weekly screening but says I really need to go on symptoms more so than screening as they are more of an indication of the disease.

Other than that it is just a waiting game, with each passing week her chances are better as long as they can detect any issues before anything bad happens. He is hoping to get me to 36 weeks but says to keep in mind that it could be 34 weeks or sooner so she may need to spend some time in NICU.

Also having screens for preeclampsia just to keep an eye on that.

Fingers crossed the next 10 weeks fly in and my acid stays low.

Good luck everyone x

 

[dan-o]

Progesterone ladies - do any of you take a peanut free progesterone suppository? My doctor has struggled in the past to find one for me. Although I didn't have a reaction when I took it last time I'm peanut intolerant and just don't want to take any chances.

Cyclogest made by actavis in the UK is vegetable fat based. 200/400mg supps. I have to be careful as my eldest rainbow is nut allergic! X

 

[Tasha]

Sweetv, I'm there two times a week sometimes but it all picks up soon as my pre-eclampsia starts around now. They are transvaginal, I know that's scary when you've had bleeding before but if they suspect IC then they will be able to get a stitch in. Are you having one any way?

Toa, a scary time for you. I'm glad they're keeping a close eye on both of you. Important that they keep an eye on your pre-eclampsia markers. RR the post-Mortem said there was undiagnosed pre-eclampsia x

 

[Hope39]

Tia

I'm glad they are keeping a proper eye on you hun and I hope the OC doesn't come back. As you say though it does have a high % for reoccurring if you've had it once

I'm keeping everything crossed for you

Afm, back to spotting again so I'm on sofa rest again, least I get out of cooking Sunday dinner today

 

[SweetV]

Tia - Good luck with your diet! Although hospital stays are hard at least they will be able to monitor and provide immediate care when needed. 10 more weeks to 36!!

dan-o - I hope I am able to get that in Canada. They couldn't find anything the last go round but maybe if I give them the name they will be able to locate it for me.

Tasha - they are going to monitor me for ic before doing a stitch. The hospital for that is farther away but I think depending on how I feel I may ask for weekly scans.

 

[Tia30]

Seeetv/Tasha, part of my protocol was having a stitch in at 13-14 weeks. Belts and braces approach is how my consultant describes it.

I haven't technically got IC but the shape of my womb puts more pressure of the cervix as baby grows and also means the uterus is unstable.

The procedure wasn't too bad, kind of used to it now I've had it twice. Was dreading having it removed but it was fine, mind you I think I was in too much shock to feel anything when I had it removed last time.

The thing I dislike most about the stitch is the antibiotics I have to take every 4 weeks to stop infection setting in. I was on flagnl and erthromycn last time but they havw replaced the erythromycin with amoxycillan because of its links to obstetric cholestasis. And the fact I ended up with the disease means I defo should not have that anti-biotic. They didn't even know about the advice.

 

[SweetV]

part of me wants them to just do it. I know the stitch if put in preventatively works better than an emergency stitch when the cervix starts shortening.

The infection would scare me endlessly.

 

[Tasha]

Keep resting Hope.

SweetV, I think I would too if I was you. I don't have IC but have scans for cervix change every two weeks. Prematurity clinic is fab though, they tell me to just come any Monday I want for a scan if I'm worried

Tia, that seems like a good idea. I had erthromycin for two weeks when my waters broke with H, that was vile.

 

[SweetV]

Tasha - that's amazing that they let you come when you feel you need to. I won't be transferred to the high risk doctor until 12 weeks and I haven't made it to 12 without complications since A was born so I have no idea what their protocol is. It is about 45min-1hr away so that will convince me I don't need to go as often as my mind will convince me I do.

 

[Tasha]

Yeah they're fabulous. Helps that the head of reproductive stuff is my consultant and he's the head of Prem clinic too. So well looked after. Hopefully it will be the same for you. We need it after everything, don't we?

 

[Tia30]

Yes Hope, like Tasha says get those feet up and don't move a muscle unless you absolutely must.

Sweetv - the infection scares me too. They have already picked up strep b. I'm having regular doppler scan and anti-biotics should stay on top of the infections. I did discuss not having the stitch but he said it was better to be safe than sorry.

Yep stay away from that antibiotic, there are safer alternatives xx

 

[SweetV]

We absolutely do need to be looked after and our mental health is just as important as the physical!

I think I will push for the better safe than sorry approach. Much better to say "guess I didn't need that" than "should have got the stitch sooner".
Feet up sounds fabulous Hope I would take that advice!