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[blueblue]

Tasha - I hope everything goes well for you, sorry the doppler reading wasn't great, it's really good that Rudi isn't suffering from IUGR. I'm really glad your dr's are looking after you well

Mrs R - it's good the receptionist said that "no news was good news". Hope you get the results soon to put your mind at rest

Sweet, Hope & Dairy - lots of luck for today, hope everything goes well

Glad yesterday is over, 10w2d was when I found out my last pregnancy hadn't worked out. Symptoms are here now so fingers crossed. Like all of you it's been a really long journey, it's 4 years in April since my first loss and the last 2 years has been just losses and testing, hoping I will have good news this anniversary.

 

[SweetV]

Tasha - I agree that I don't care how it gets here as long as it is healthy. With my angel I was ready for a section and due to gestational age it would have been a classical. My doctor stepped in last minute and wouldn't allow it to happen. I hope your next scan shows maintained growth. I was only 5lbs at birth and was just small for most of my childhood and adolescence.

blue - I'm looking forward to getting over my milestones but not actually getting there (if that makes any sense). First scan is one (1/2 of them haven't gone well), 12 week scan is the other. Congrats on 10+3!

2 more hours until scan. I got this!

 

[Hope39]

My scan went perfectly, measuring 12w 4d which is spot on with my lmp . Big relief for now, hope the time passes quickly till my next scan which is hopefully at 14.5w xx

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Thinking of you girls with a scan today. I'll be stalking for updates.

Tasha: sorry the scan did go as hoped. When is your next scan? I you and and baby will be followed very closely by the doctors. Sending you lots of positive thoughts.

 

[wookie130]

Tasha- I pray they continue to monitor baby very closely...weekly, or however often is necessary to ensure his/her safety. I was at risk during my last pregnancy for IUGR, but Oscar never ended up being officially classified as IUGR. That being said, they did my c-section at just the right time, otherwise, there could have been issues. I couldn't agree with you more about getting the baby here safely. I think we're living in a time where women are placing far too much emphasis on the process (birth) over the outcome (a healthy mom and baby), and we need to get back to what matters...getting the baby here safely, and providing the care that both mom and baby needs to go home ASAP. When I see blogs such as "The Unnecesarian" I absolutely cringe. Oh, c-sections ARE necessary, particularly in the interest of keeping maternal and neonatal death rates low.

Dairy- I'm still praying for you. I hope you have all answers you need soon.

Hope39- That's great news! Every bit of reassurance helps.

SweetV- Good luck!

 

[Tasha]

Blue that's fab you got through one milestone.

Sweetv, that makes sense to me you dread being that gestation but you want to get there as quick as possible so you can be past it. We all just need fast forward buttons. Good luck sweetie.

Hope you know I'm delighted for you.

My next NHS one is the 8th but I have my 3D one before then. I then have another on the 13th and again the 22nd. Plus I am now being seen weekly. It's all good care.

Wookie, I think it's societies fault though as women are deemed less some how if they don't do it vaginally (notice I say it's vaginal not natural as that makes c-section unnatural, when it isn't). I do get why women find it important but I agree some of the important things get lost.

I'm glad they got Oscar out at the right time

Yesterday's scan as promised

 

[Ummi2boyz]

I can't believe I missed your post Hope! So glad for a great scan! Roll on next 2 weeks!

Wookie: totally agree!

 

[dairymomma]

Will update when I get home and post more but quickly wanted to pop in and say glad we had some good scan news on here.

Less than 2 hours til I know what's in my uterus. Feeling nervous and calm all at the same time. Nervous because I hate early scans when I've had bleeding-far more of them have been bad news than good, but calm because I'll KNOW. I can accept a loss if this is a loss and I can accept a baby and hb if it's viable but this not knowing is driving me nuts.

 

[SweetV]

Hope that is fantastic news!

Wookie I totally agree. I dont necessarily think that optional sections are the way to go unless it's a medical reason. Most important that baby is as healthy as possible.

Dairy - I have everything so very tightly crossed for you.

Afm scan complete. Anxiously waiting to see the doctor and discuss results. I'm also going to discuss work and stress as they have messaged me half a dozen times already this morning while I've been waiting. I'm asking to work no more than 40 hours/week and no more overnight shifts. I hope they find that reasonable even though I'm not even 12 weeks.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Tasha: love the scan pic!!

Dairy: thinking of you

SweetV: hope the results are all good! You're definitely not asking too much, it's the bare minimum.

 

[nessaw]

Hi ladies. Would it be ok to join here? I just got a bfp today after 3 losses. Am terrified. Really hope this is it. X

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Congrats Nessaw on your bfp. Stick little bean! The ladies on this thread are just amazing! Hope you'll like it here! xx

 

[blueblue]

Hope - congratulations on a great scan!

Sweet - Hope everything goes well with the doctor, you aren't asking too much, even if it's not 12 weeks yet, it's important to look after yourself in the first trimester

Dairy - hope everything goes well today with your scan

 

[dairymomma]

Whew. Long busy day and it's not over yet. Still have some painting to do but figured there were probably some ladies here anxiously awaiting any news and I need to do some updating.

Hope-glad you had a good scan and all is looking good for the moment.

Tasha-I'm sorry your scan showed a bit of slowed growth but glad things are at least stable for the moment.

Sweet-I hope you find out the results soon. The waiting is excruciating, isn't it?

AFM-Ultrasound showed a baby measuring 6+4 with a hb of 128. I honestly thought it was over or something was wrong so to say I'm stunned in an understatement. My odds of miscarrying just dropped by a TON as I've only miscarried once while on the meds after seeing a heartbeat. So a big WHEW from me.

However, there is a second sac. It's smaller than the baby's sac but it's fluid filled. The dr isn't optimistic about it being viable if it's a twin because of the size (it's about half the size of bub's gestational sac) and said it could be a pool of blood too. The radiologist will officially decide if it's a hematoma or if it's a twin but either way, the bleeds I've been having are somewhat explainable now because the blood could be coming from the hematoma or from my body trying to miscarry the nonviable twin. I'm not sure how to take the 'twin' idea but right now, I'm just focusing on the one bubba that has a hb and waiting for the 'official' word.

 

[melfy77]

Whew. Long busy day and it's not over yet. Still have some painting to do but figured there were probably some ladies here anxiously awaiting any news and I need to do some updating.

Hope-glad you had a good scan and all is looking good for the moment.

Tasha-I'm sorry your scan showed a bit of slowed growth but glad things are at least stable for the moment.

Sweet-I hope you find out the results soon. The waiting is excruciating, isn't it?

AFM-Ultrasound showed a baby measuring 6+4 with a hb of 128. I honestly thought it was over or something was wrong so to say I'm stunned in an understatement. My odds of miscarrying just dropped by a TON as I've only miscarried once while on the meds after seeing a heartbeat. So a big WHEW from me.

However, there is a second sac. It's smaller than the baby's sac but it's fluid filled. The dr isn't optimistic about it being viable if it's a twin because of the size (it's about half the size of bub's gestational sac) and said it could be a pool of blood too. The radiologist will officially decide if it's a hematoma or if it's a twin but either way, the bleeds I've been having are somewhat explainable now because the blood could be coming from the hematoma or from my body trying to miscarry the nonviable twin. I'm not sure how to take the 'twin' idea but right now, I'm just focusing on the one bubba that has a hb and waiting for the 'official' word.

Great news on the scan dairy!!! The thought of vanishing twin syndrom actually crossed my mind as well. Yay for strong heartbeat!!!!!!

 

[wookie130]

Melfy- Hey, girl!

Dairy- Phew, what a relief!!! A small hematoma would explain the spotting/bleeding episodes...they're a pretty common issue, and most of the time, they shrink (now that you know what it may be, you probably need to take it easy...if I'm not mistaken, hematomas merit light work only, and lots of physical rest, but please correct me if I'm wrong.) Hmmm. There IS the possibility of a vanishing twin, though, yes. But one healthy baby in there is marvelous! I'm keeping everything crossed for you!

SweetV- Any word? I guess I feel that even planned c-sections are fine. I mean, part of the whole argument in favor of vaginal birth, is that a woman will have more control of her body, etc. Well, who is to say that a woman is not taking charge of her own bodily autonomy by having a c-section? A planned c-section should remain a choice, and I don't see anything wrong with it remaining on the table, as long as the woman goes into it with informed consent, and knows the risks, etc. There are women who have had traumatic vaginal deliveries (yet you hear very little of this, and rather, more of women who have had traumatic c-sections), and opt for a c-section so they can avoid reliving their former birth experience. I guess it's just another option, and women should be able to choose it without guilt, or without feeling like a failure, or that they haven't given birth, etc. C-sections are highly demonized in our society (particularly in the online birth blogging world), and much of the criticism toward the procedure is geared toward outdated methodology, and former surgical practices. The surgery itself is safer than ever, particularly in the U.S., and while it is known to be harder on moms, it IS often gentler for babies. So, there's my soapbox. LOL! I had 2 beautiful c-section births, and I do not regret for one second that I left my vajaybird out of the equation. My children were lifted from me, and it was wonderful. I wouldn't have changed a thing!

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Dairy: so pleased to hear your news!! Still take it easy.

Wookie: what you're saying is so true. One of my friend haemorrhage pretty badly during the last 2 births and she had 5 more children before and the deliveries were not a nice experience. For the last 2 she accidentally gave birth at home because the hospital midwives sent her back saying she was not in labour. Back home she just happened to be in full labour 30 min later. It happened twice and even if the birth itself was fine and almost painless, she had to have blood transfusion, that's how much she bled afterwards! So when she got pg the last time she was traumatised by the whole thing. And I think anyone would if it only happened once, so imagine twice! She asked for a c-section, but was refused at first, until she found a mw willing to listen to her. She now has a healthy baby and a stressless delivery. She was very pleased about it.

 

[SweetV]

wookie - That is a different perspective than how I was approaching it but you are absolutely right. I know a few people that have had very, very traumatic vaginal births and mine with my angel was something that I thought would give me ptsd (just horrible nightmares but that's another story entirely). I personally wouldn't opt for either... can't the stork just come lol. But sections do seem way less traumatic for baby with however a longer recovery time for mom.

Dairy - Again I'm so happy that everything has worked out for you! It seems as though we may be in a similar situation


afm.... Scan showed a 7 week old baby with a strong hb (I meant to ask for number but it escaped me after I got talking to the dr). I do however have "a number" of fluid filled blood pockets in the uterus. I have to go for another scan next week to ensure that they are not growing.
When I started talking to the dr about work and wanting a note to ask for no more than 40-45 hours/week and rest periods off my feet every two hours, her exact words were "you're adorable" and has written me off work for 2 weeks minimum. I brought the note to work however and standing over my shoulder my boss made me call the dr to see if they would instead opt for modified duties. I had to leave a message and they haven't called me back. My boss will not cover off my shifts until I hear back from the dr. I'm off tomorrow and Saturday anyways so I think I will just call work tomorrow afternoon and let them know that the time off is not optional. I need to take care of myself. They still have no idea I'm pregnant. I think if the scan had of been perfect I would have told them. The doctor said not unlike Dairy that I can expect episodes of bleeding to start and not to be alarmed when it starts happening.

I am continuing to just be thankful that there is one little baby in there with a good heartbeat that has a great doctor. Maybe next Wednesday I will get to see it

 

[SweetV]

Hi ladies. Would it be ok to join here? I just got a bfp today after 3 losses. Am terrified. Really hope this is it. X

Welcome! Congrats on your BFP

 

[mowat]

Hi Nessaw!

Congrats Dairy and Sweet! Amazing news.