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PAL after Recurrent Losses - come join us!
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Glad I found this forum. Today I have just suffered my third consecutive miscarriage in 6 months. I have no children and I am completely devastated. I have no one in my life who has been through what I have, so it's really hard to talk about it. I feel so hopeless. Thought I made it to 8 weeks only to find out it was lost at 6, again. That seems to be the magic number, can't make it past there. Hope I will get some answers 
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Hi, all is well here, thank you! I could do with some more sleep but A is a cutie pie and lies next to me in the morning cooing at the ceiling. What a lovely wake up! J usually arrives around the same time, happy and excited to go downstairs and start the day 
Has anyone heard from D?
Olebb, there doesn't seem to be a hard and fast rule as to when you might start. With your hormone levels dropping it could be anytime now but then again it could take a while depending on how far along you were.
Hope4one, there is a thread in the loss section called recurrent miscarriages. You should really pop along as you'll find that you aren't alone in your situation and there is a lot of info in there to help you have your babies. Without that thread I wouldn't have my two!
Also, if you look around in this thread you'll see that there is hope! I've been around for a while (started miscarrying five years ago) and pretty much everyone who was with me on the thread then has had a baby. There is a lot of treatment out there; it just takes a while to figure out what is right for you. Good luck and please don't lose heart!
Has anyone heard from D?
Olebb, there doesn't seem to be a hard and fast rule as to when you might start. With your hormone levels dropping it could be anytime now but then again it could take a while depending on how far along you were.
Hope4one, there is a thread in the loss section called recurrent miscarriages. You should really pop along as you'll find that you aren't alone in your situation and there is a lot of info in there to help you have your babies. Without that thread I wouldn't have my two!
Also, if you look around in this thread you'll see that there is hope! I've been around for a while (started miscarrying five years ago) and pretty much everyone who was with me on the thread then has had a baby. There is a lot of treatment out there; it just takes a while to figure out what is right for you. Good luck and please don't lose heart!
Olebb - I'm so sorry . All mine were missed and then I had to have surgery/medical management so I'm not sure about how long it would be.
Hope4one - I'm so sorry to hear that . The Recurrent Miscarriage thread is really helpful and everyone is very supportive. RM is so isolating and hard to deal with.
Petitpas - glad everything is great with you
. D hasn't been on for a few days since she was transferred to Germany, I hope she is ok, I'm worried.
. All mine were missed and then I had to have surgery/medical management so I'm not sure about how long it would be. Hope4one - I'm so sorry to hear that
. The Recurrent Miscarriage thread is really helpful and everyone is very supportive. RM is so isolating and hard to deal with. Petitpas - glad everything is great with you
. D hasn't been on for a few days since she was transferred to Germany, I hope she is ok, I'm worried.hopeful23456
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hope4one, i'm a graduate of here too, had twins almost 3 years ago after 4 early miscarriages, it's truly awful to feel like you will never get to have kids. I would cry constantly. but like petipas said, most of us that have been on here awhile do have kids now or are currently pregs.
mine were unexplained but I did have a uterine septum removed (had 2 mc before and 2 mc after). I was lucky to be put on progesterone, lovenox, prednisone (etc) which that combo helped a lot of girls at the clinic I go to that had early recurrent unexplained miscarriages. I think it's implantation issues that there are no tests for with these early ones.
I started on the RMC thread too. this thread and the RMC thread saved my sanity I don't know anyone personally who has had a bunch of mc.
mine were unexplained but I did have a uterine septum removed (had 2 mc before and 2 mc after). I was lucky to be put on progesterone, lovenox, prednisone (etc) which that combo helped a lot of girls at the clinic I go to that had early recurrent unexplained miscarriages. I think it's implantation issues that there are no tests for with these early ones.
I started on the RMC thread too. this thread and the RMC thread saved my sanity
I don't know anyone personally who has had a bunch of mc.
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Hope4one-I am a graduate of this thread as well as a frequent poster on the RMC thread (found here) for the last 7.5 years. I've had recurrent (mostly) unexplained miscarriages before, in between, and since the births of all three of my kids. I can honestly say there is hope because I've lived it. If you look at my history-10 unexplained losses and 11 angels (I lost twins about a month ago)-I shouldn't have kids yet I have three amazing miraculous rainbow children to love. It's hard being the only one in your circle of friends to have this experience (and believe me, I know how that feels too), but once I started talking about my losses, I realized that I'm by no means alone in having at least one miscarriage or trouble with fertility and it's helped immensely to not only talk about my feelings/fears/wishes/hopes but to talk to someone who at least somewhat gets it. Hang in there. There really is hope. We've all been there and know what it's like.
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Hello ladies.
I would like to join you here. I just got a bfp on Saturday and I am terrified of losing this pregnancy.
It's already been an agonising four days.
I'm already convinced that this pregnancy will end badly. I know I need to keep positive but this cycle has been wierd from the start.
I usually ovulate cd18to 21 but this cycle I think it was around cd27. I expected to o around cd20 because I pre ovulated spotted cd15 to 17. I had ewcm around cd17 to 27. It seemed like my body struggle to ovulate and I have read that that can mean the egg is bad.
Id really like to hear about successful pregnancies when o has been abnormally late.
I examine toilet paper thoroughly. Not that that makes any difference because one of my mc was a mmc.
Sorry I'm just very stressed About this and terrified that even if I do not miscarry my baby won't be healthy.
Sorry to go on. Im normally more cheerful but I just needed to share my fears with people who would understand.
I would like to join you here. I just got a bfp on Saturday and I am terrified of losing this pregnancy.
It's already been an agonising four days.
I'm already convinced that this pregnancy will end badly. I know I need to keep positive but this cycle has been wierd from the start.
I usually ovulate cd18to 21 but this cycle I think it was around cd27. I expected to o around cd20 because I pre ovulated spotted cd15 to 17. I had ewcm around cd17 to 27. It seemed like my body struggle to ovulate and I have read that that can mean the egg is bad.
Id really like to hear about successful pregnancies when o has been abnormally late.
I examine toilet paper thoroughly. Not that that makes any difference because one of my mc was a mmc.
Sorry I'm just very stressed About this and terrified that even if I do not miscarry my baby won't be healthy.
Sorry to go on. Im normally more cheerful but I just needed to share my fears with people who would understand.
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Hello ladies!! Sorry I've been MIA for a few days. Really busy week!! So...IT'S A BOY!!! His name is Lincoln Terence. Terence is my dad and we just loved the name Lincoln. The ultrasound tech said everything looked normal, but the radiologist will look at the pictures/measurements and send the offical report to my doctor and then they'll call me to tell me the scoop. Praying for no surprises. He measured 5 days ahead and weighs 1.2lbs!! He looked perfect!! He wasn't cooperating with showing his manhood. So the tech had to jiggle my belly around quite a bit to get him to wake up and uncross his legs. Once she did that he did and was more than happy to show us he was all boy!! LOL!! The only concern I have is because she was interruping his peaceful world is when she measured his heart rate towards the end it was 167bpm when it's been right around 150-160 at the highest lately. Should that concern me or just up because he was being poked and bugged? I checked it yesturday again with my doppler and it was right around 150-155 again. Let me know your thoughts.
hur575, welcome and I'm so sorry about your losses. It's awesome your baby boy was born at 24 weeks and is now 18 months!! Do you mind if I ask if he's had any complications from being born that early?
Hope4one, welcome and I'm so sorry for your losses. These ladies are great support!!
olebb, if your HCG dropped it could take a bit for you to start depending on how high it had gotten. I'm so sorry.
Spudtastic, welcome and congrats on being pregnant!! I constantly check the toilet paper and I'm 22 weeks 2 days. Totally understand that!!
hur575, welcome and I'm so sorry about your losses. It's awesome your baby boy was born at 24 weeks and is now 18 months!! Do you mind if I ask if he's had any complications from being born that early?
Hope4one, welcome and I'm so sorry for your losses. These ladies are great support!!
olebb, if your HCG dropped it could take a bit for you to start depending on how high it had gotten. I'm so sorry.
Spudtastic, welcome and congrats on being pregnant!! I constantly check the toilet paper and I'm 22 weeks 2 days. Totally understand that!!
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Spudtastic - welcome, I'm sorry it's such a difficult time, PARL is very stressful. I'm not sure about ovulation dates as I don't usually track mine. I hope this is your rainbow.
Mrs R - congratulations! That's lovely news.
Mrs R - congratulations! That's lovely news
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mrsr - CUTE pics!! congrats on a boy! the heartrate is fine
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Congrats on your little SON, Mrs. R! 
Boys are fabulous! And I love his name, btw. His heartrate is FINE. At this gestation, their heart rate can take some rather drastic dips up and down, and 167 bpm is not out of the ordinary, whatsoever. He looks great in his scan too, btw.
I'm another PARL grad from this thread, twice over now. I had Hannah in 2013, after having recurrent miscarriages, and then when she was 9 months old, I went on and became pregnant with my son, Oscar, who will be 9 months old in about a week. I know that virtually all the women who became pregnant while I was on the RMC went on to have their rainbows...there were very, very few women who didn't eventually go on to have a baby or babies.
Boys are fabulous! And I love his name, btw. His heartrate is FINE. At this gestation, their heart rate can take some rather drastic dips up and down, and 167 bpm is not out of the ordinary, whatsoever. He looks great in his scan too, btw.I'm another PARL grad from this thread, twice over now. I had Hannah in 2013, after having recurrent miscarriages, and then when she was 9 months old, I went on and became pregnant with my son, Oscar, who will be 9 months old in about a week.
I know that virtually all the women who became pregnant while I was on the RMC went on to have their rainbows...there were very, very few women who didn't eventually go on to have a baby or babies.
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Thank you so much ladies for your kind words and the reassurance on his heart rate.
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Spudtastic, Congrats, and welcome here, I don't have much advice for you because I do the same even though I tell myself, there is nothing I can do will change the outcome but I still do it but the worry never stops specially with our history.
Mrs Reineke Congrats on your scan, what a cute picture. Regarding having my son so early, it was not easy but I am glad he made it through, we spent 7 months in neonatal, and every baby is different, there were two girls born at 24 weeks the same week with us both left on their due date with no major issue.
We end back in hospital 3 weeks later, and we have been in and out latest was in March this year. Every baby is different but generally girls do better, and the longer the baby is inside you the better. You see 25 weekers or 26 do miles better. Considering all this, I am so glad he made it, he still require mimum oxygen which we think he will come off it in a month time but he is active healthy boy, and his smile every day means the world to me, and we are lucky to have him.
Hope congrats on your scan, and good luck for your next scan. XX
I considered myself out this month because I keep getting BNF but AF didnt turn up yesterday, I thought to wait until tomorrow, and do a test again! The wait is killing me.
Mrs Reineke Congrats on your scan, what a cute picture. Regarding having my son so early, it was not easy but I am glad he made it through, we spent 7 months in neonatal, and every baby is different, there were two girls born at 24 weeks the same week with us both left on their due date with no major issue.
We end back in hospital 3 weeks later, and we have been in and out latest was in March this year. Every baby is different but generally girls do better, and the longer the baby is inside you the better. You see 25 weekers or 26 do miles better. Considering all this, I am so glad he made it, he still require mimum oxygen which we think he will come off it in a month time but he is active healthy boy, and his smile every day means the world to me, and we are lucky to have him.
Hope congrats on your scan, and good luck for your next scan. XX
I considered myself out this month because I keep getting BNF but AF didnt turn up yesterday, I thought to wait until tomorrow, and do a test again! The wait is killing me.
