PAL after Recurrent Losses - come join us!

[InVivoVeritas]

Ummi, what a scary story. So glad that you and Inaya (beautiful name) are safe and home, and glad too that you were in hospital where you needed to be when she took a turn for the worse.

Welcome NDH and EmpireBiscuit, you won't get any better support than here. Sending good thoughts for dull, uneventful pregnancies.

 

[olebb]

Hi this is the first time I join any forum but I think I'm really in need of some support. I had an uneventful first pregnancy so I never expected to have any problem when I started trying for a second child. When I had my first blighted ovum I thought it was bad luck and went straight back in to trying. 5 months later I was diagnosed with my second BO. I took a 6 month break and tried some Tcm treatment. I am now 6 weeks pregnant, I had some spotting last week so I went in for an early scan with a female Obs and saw a yolk sac and fetal pole via a vaginal us. Today we went in to see our original intended Obs hoping to see a heart beat but the Obs told us that there was no heart beat and the gestational sac is irregular. He took my hcg lvl and will be repeating one in 2 days. He said that it's likely another failed pregnancy. I cannot believe this is happening again after getting my hope up and is in an emotional wreck. He only did a vaginal us and the fetal pole is only 3mm so I am thinking of going back to the first Obs and asking for a vaginal us. But I'm also worried that that will seal my fate and wonder if I should wait it out and pray a lot.

 

[loeylo]

Sorry I have fallen behind on this thread yet again, so I apologise if I have missed anyone!

Dsemcho - how scary! Glad you have reached viability but haven't heard from you in a while - all ok?

Congratulations mowat! Great weights for twins!

Blueblue - I have been really breathless at times too. I'm sure it is nothing to worry about (increased blood volume and all that) but mention at your next appt. My nt also came back low risk (not got exact numbers as of yet) - it is such a relief!

Ivv - sorry for your loss.

Dairy - take care of yourself, it's nice to hear from you.

Ummi - congratulations! That sounds so scary but I'm glad it was a short stay in nicu!

Hope - if consultant isn't concerned then I wouldn't worry too much!

Mrs r - oh dear in hope your dog is doing better now. My dog is my baby (for now!) I would be worried sick. Congrats on 21w and all the best for your anatomy scan.

Tasha - love the name. Also true of me right now, I'm not having much action due to cramps so not as well maintained as usual! Haha!

Ndh empirebiscuit and olebb- welcome. Sorry that you all find yourselves here

Olebb - I would definitely wait and see what the bloods say, and go from there. You could just be a bit early?

And for me 16w today! Got my nt results today (low risk, it was just a phone call so not got my exact risk but it has been sent by post) alongside my own blood tests for sickle cell, etc. everything was good, i don't need anti d which was good! I was worried due to my ectopic although I didn't have surgery. I have a less common blood type (one of the b's I can't remember which) which worries me a bit but nothing can be done about that I guess. I have had some really intense cramping and back pain as well as pain in my cervix so I was scared of another loss, but I have rested up and I feel a bit better. Couldn't get the hb for nearly half an hour the other day which was scary but eventually got it. It seems baby is moving a lot so maybe that explains pain? We have a private gender scan on Monday which we are super excited about.

 

[Tasha]

Mrs R, I'm glad you're getting good signs. Not long until scan day

Ndh everything crossed for you.

Welcome empire bleeding is always scary. Did you get checked out?

Olebb don't give up hope. I had the weirdest scan early on, it was a very odd shaped sac apparently, I was told I was waiting to miscarry and to stop all my meds (I'm on loads since I've had 16 first tri loses and two stillbirths), that baby is now 29+2, so they don't always know.

Hahahaha loey, too funny. Glad you rested and everything is okay. Not long until scan day

Afm 29+2, we are under eight weeks away from meeting our baby first big purchase yesterday, a car seat.

 

[loeylo]

What car seat did you go for Tasha? We are hoping to get ours soon (we are chasing a special offer) but we are stressing because of the new I size regulations.

 

[Tasha]

We went for the Cybex Aton Q, hubby is a car seat specialist so safety was a big thing for him, colour was my main concern I kid of course. He gave me the option between two car seats but preferred the Cybex and I did too

What's worrying you?

 

[Mrs Reineke]

NDH-Welcome!! I'm so sorry for you losses. It's really good your testing came back normal though. Some of the ladies have talked about hyperfertility...I'm wondering if that's what's happening with you? I don't know much about it myself, but some of these ladies know more if you're unaware of it.

EmpireBiscuit, Welcome!! I'm so sorry for your losses as well. You're into your second trimester which is a great sign!! I'm sorry you've had some spotting. That's scary for sure. Do you mind if I ask why you're taking baby aspirin?

olebb, Welcome!! I'm so sorry you've had trouble with getting pregnant the 2nd time. That has to be frustrating. I'm sorry you're having some scary stuff going on with this one. It could be just a tad early to see a heartbeat and with the sac being irregular, like Growingmybush said, she had some of the same stuff you are going through and she's over 29 weeks now. So there's definently hope. Hang in there.

loeylo, I'm so glad your NT scan came back normal!! Thank you for your kind words about my fur baby. He's feeling and acting like his normal self. Getting his blood calcium levels re-checked this coming Saturday. Praying for good news. Congrats on 16 weeks!! I have O Negative blood which is uncommon as well. I don't have to do anything special, but because I'm negative and my baby will most likely be a positive blood type as they're more common, I have to get a shot at about 28 weeks and within 72 hours of birth so my body doesn't build up antibodies to the positive blood type because I can only take my own blood type, but anyone can take my blood type. It's lovely!! LOL!! I have my anatomy/gender scan on Monday too!! Excited to hear what you're having!!

Growingmybush, you're getting closer to meeting your rainbow!! I'm so happy for you!!

I'm counting down the days until my anatomy/gender scan!! 5 days!!

 

[loeylo]

Tasha - we have a 2008 mazda 3 which has isofix connectors. We want the joie I-anchor as it complies with the I-size regulations and it is a decent price, but we tried to buy it in mothercare and they told me that they can't sell it to anyone with a mazda 3 older than 2008 as it is unsafe. We phoned joie and they told us to check the car manual as it just might not have been checked by them with it being older, but if our car can take a rear facing seat then it's fine. I think it does from reading the manual, but don't know where else to turn to find out for sure and mothercare (where was doing the offer) point blank refused to help us as it wasn't listed.

Mrs r - good luck for Monday! Ours is just a quick check of gender, a peek in 4d and a few pics on a disk but we are getting it for £35 which is less than half the price of the next cheapest place I can find. It is carried out by qualified staff as well! And of course good luck for next Saturday too.

 

[Tasha]

Loey, first I want to say that you don't have to have the isize car seats, the regulations run alongside the old regulations for years to come, however if you feel happier having that then that's understandable.

Dh just checked the information available to him and Mazda have been a pain and not provided information about your car any where he suggest that Mazda might be the people to ask, just ringing and saying will it take an isofix base.

 

[loeylo]

Tasha - I realised that the other day. We already have a car seat but it is seatbelt secured and really footery, and will only do up to around 9 months. We found the joie and the cybex which do from birth right through so that pretty much sold it for us. The joie can also be seatbelt secured and rear facing to approx 4 years but we are getting a fab deal and getting the isofix for free. I just don't get how our car could have isofix connections (it 100% does) yet not take isofix?! I think we need to call mazda for more info!

 

[NDH]

Pee cup was bloody this morning. Like red bloody :/ Line is still as strong as the first one two days ago (not darker though either) which gives me at least some hope... but it doesn't look good.

 

[Tasha]

That all makes sense. DH has looked at similar car seats for you and they can fit your car, that means the joie will too. He says what you can do is go into mothercare and ask for a test fit stating that you fully understand that if you take the seat it will be at your own risk. They shouldn't refuse a test fit. The reason for this is that although the joie is suitable for our car according to joie, it's actually quite a loose fit in our car so we ruled it out. Make sure you don't have the same issues before buying.

 

[dairymomma]

NDH-hopefully it's just a scare but just the same. We all know how scary seeing red is.

 

[olebb]

loeylo, Mrs Reineke and growingmybush - thanks for your kind words.
sorry i haven't plough through the thread yet so i don't know each of your story but growingmybush you are one strong amazing woman i'm so super glad you are just 11 weeks away from holding your angel.

NDH u mentioned about pv bleeding? i know PV bleeding happens in 30-40% of the woman and can just be implantation bleeding. try not to be too pessimistic about it, take care and lots of luck~

 

[blueblue]

Ummi - Inaya Yasmine is a beautiful name, I'm glad you are both ok after a scary start

Dairy - hope you are ok

NDH - I hope the bleeding stops and this is your rainbow, it's good the test line is still dark. I bled early on with this one esp just before the 6 week scan and thought it was over

Olebb - Welcome. When I had the 6 week scan, the sonographer said it was not always possible to see the heartbeat at 6 weeks and she wondered why they hadn't left the first scan until 7 weeks. I hope the next scan is more reassuring

Mrs R - I'm glad Butch is ok! Looking forward to hearing about your scan .

IVV - I hope you are getting on ok and looking after yourself

Loeylo - I'm glad the NT results came back low risk.

EmpireBiscuit - welcome, can you speak to your MW about the bleeding? Hopefully it will stop soon, I know it's very scary

Tasha - it's great it will only be 8 weeks until your little one is here

I hope D is getting on ok.

 

[EmpireBiscuit]

Thanks ladies, bleeding stopped later that day but I went for a private ultrasound anyway £39 well spent as baby was wriggling away merrily, ultrasound tech couldn't see any problems that would have caused it (NHS couldn't fit me in for 2 days so it was well worth paying for my sanity)

So, I'm writing it down to Spin class/and sexy weekend fun but it probably took about 2 years off my life with the fright.

Mrs Reineke the baby aspirin is routinely prescribed in my health board region, from 12 weeks - 35 weeks. Midwife tells me it's to help build a strong bloodflow to the placenta. Certainly if you're going to bleed in any way it would make it worse, or bruise. I have my first consultant appointment in 2 weeks and I will ask for a better explanation then and post it back on this thread.

Vino Veritas - yes the most dull routine pregnancy ever would be fab

 

[blueblue]

Empirebiscuit - I'm really glad your bleeding has stopped and your little one was fine on the scan.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Thanks everyone.
I'm back to triage today. I have been vomiting since Sunday, and it's not getting better. Yesterday I had blood clots when I got sick. Not nice at all.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Hello ladies,

loeylo, thank you for your kind words regarding my fur baby and my upcoming scan.

NDH, it very well could be implantation bleeding. Keep us posted.

blueblue, thank you for your kind words regarding my fur baby and my upcoming scan.

EmpireBiscuit, I'm so happy your bleeding stopped and the scan showed a happy baby!! I asked about the baby aspirin because I'm on it for my blood clotting disorder Factor V Leiden.

Ummi2boyz, I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. Please take care of yourself and keep us posted. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

AFM: 3 more days until my anatomy scan!!! Woot woot!!!

 

[hur575]

Hi all,

I haven’t been for a long time First of all Congrats to Tasha, and Hope39, I am so happy for you both, hope you have a healthy 9 months xxxxx

Mowat Congrats on your twin xx

Ummi2boyz congrats on your baby, and sorry you are not feeling well xxx

Mrs Reineke Congrats on your pregnancy, and good luck for your anatomy scan xx

ginny83, petitpas, wookie130, dairymomma how are you ladies?

Sorry if I missed anyone

Hello to everyone, I am hoping to join you, I had 5 early miscarriages in total, and one premature birth at 24 weeks but my boy is a fighter he is now 18 months. I have gone to dr shehat’s team again, and I was told my NK is higher than last time before my baby, so I am in the normal does regime but told to test 10 days after ovulation, and if negative stop medications, and try next month, my af is not until Wednesday but I tested today with one pound tests, and it was negative, will try super drug or first response tomorrow I have one of each but still think it is too early to consider myself out?