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[nessaw]

Dairy-Am sorry for your loss.x

Tui-congrats on 8 weeks.

Florida-thinking of you and hoping you find a doctor soon. Take care. Xx

 

[floridamomma]

I'm now a patient with the high risk clinic. 16 residents under a mfm. Went home Saturday and had first follow up appt today. Bp 146/88 in office and he was trying to send me back to hospital. I wouldn't mind if they weren't always just trying to bump up my meds. No one knows you because there are 16 of them. Right now I'm scheduled for induction at 37 weeks but at the rate we are going I don't see me pregnant past 32-35 weeks. And the resident is saying our baby possibly has downs due to short femur even though our previous ob said her femurs are short but ok due to our size. I feel so deflated. We are just still so early yet. I dont want to be the cause of her having lasting issues.

 

[SweetV]

Florida - I'm glad you are finally under somebody's care. When in doubt demand to see the mfm. I saw a resident today and I know how disconcerting it can be. I agree with your previous ob regarding the femur. It's normal for certain area's to be smaller especially since you are small. I'm sorry they scared you, really not nice of them at all! I'm in the same boat, scheduled for induction at 37 weeks but they have told me to be prepared for 34-35 if need be. You have had the steroids and my last little guy was born at 36 weeks with no steroids and is perfect so your little girl is in a good place (although hopefully she chooses to stay put until term!)

 

[floridamomma]

thanks sweet. Every time I go I need a day or two to detox their negative energies. I'll start to be monitored more closesly at 32 weeks so just 2 weeks. The attending I saw n hospital said they want 37 weeks but after 34 we are fair game. Crazy to think she could be here by Christmas.

 

[SweetV]

Even 34 weeks is a great gestation, it's obviously not ideal but most require very little extra care at that point. Are you comfortable with the plan the doctor has come up with?

 

[floridamomma]

I am. Knowing there is a plan feel so better but I am on my way to pick up a script for labs as those should be weekly even now. I'm nervous about having a preemie as my older 3 were all 38 at least and still on the smaller side. But I trust that we'll be ok.

 

[youngmamttc]

What a nervous time this must be for you Florida. I really hope your little girl stays put until full term but preemies do very well these day and having had steroid shots is a great help to baby.

 

[floridamomma]

Thanks youngmam I am feeling better as we getting further along.

 

[blueblue]

Florida - glad you have a new doctor, sorry they are scaring you. LO had small femurs on my scans and she was OK, the sonographer was a bit concerned she was on the lower centiles at 34 weeks but tracked the growth over the 13, 18 and 34 weeks scans to check it was consistent (it was). She was 5lb 0oz at 37w5d. Hope she is able to stay in for as long as possible, 34 weeks is still a good gestation x

Sweet - hope everything goes well for you x

 

[dairymomma]

Thanks all for the support. Hopefully, after a few months break here (I'm doing some stuff on the recommendation of my ND and it's not so good to get pg while I'm doing it so we're taking a breather.) I'll be back with a sticky bfp.

Florida-glad they finally got you in with a doctor but sorry it's still a headache. And try to remember that ultrasounds are an inexact science. My sis was told her first DS was almost certain to have Down's based on femur length and eye spacing on her 20 week ultrasound and she needed to have a more detailed ultrasound done as a result. Turned out to be nothing. Her son is a perfectly healthy 8 year old now.

 

[lolala]

Hi, I'm excited/terrified/impatient/a mess! About joining you guys! I'm 7w 4d based on an early 6 week scan. Under Dr Shahata (anyone else?) I had 4 miscarriages before my DS (nearly 3 now) and another miscarriage following. Each day is like a marathon of emotions! Have another scan booked for Monday - fingers crossed all still looking okay. Hope to get to know you all on our journey x

 

[floridamomma]

Thanks blue. My old ob said they think she was just small as well. I'm praying she'll hang in there. Only 48 days to go.

Dairy thank you. Hope you're doing ok and hoping this break does the trick.

 

[blueblue]

Lolala - welcome, hope this pregnancy is a sticky one. A few of the ladies on here before have been under Mr Shehata. Good luck for Monday.

Florida -

 

[floridamomma]

Hi Lola! Welcome and congrats. I'm in the states but I have heard lots of good things about Shehata. Hoping this is your sticky rainbow

 

[lolala]

Scan went well today, everything just seems so far away though - can't relax at all x

 

[floridamomma]

Lola after 6 early first tri mc I am 30+4 today and I still don't relax lol. It's more real but still.

 

[floridamomma]

Had my 30 week follow up today with high risk on and mfm. Bp was around 140s/90, labs are looking pretty good. Still really tired from taking the beta blockers. Will have level 2 us later today. Next week is my last slow week of appts. I will begin my nst and bpp. Will get my plan next week and labs biweekly. For now we've bought ourselves more time in utero. Very grateful. Hoping to make it another 46 days. They are refusing to schedule my induction at 37 weeks. The mfm said it's too soon, we don't know that you'll make it to that point. My grounds for induction are:
1. Baby starts to decline on nst, shows signs of not tolerating in utero environment, or signs of iugr.
2. Uncontrolled bp(either over 160/105 that won't decrease, or constant high bp like I have been having)
3. Labs that show sudden drop/signs of organ failure.

So I'm just coasting. I get frustrated with people because they don't get that I'm literally walking a tightrope trying to juggle giving the baby time to develop as much as she can(37 weeks at the most) without essentially killing me. There are days I feel so down like I failed. I finally stay pregnant and my body is having an immune response to the placenta. My heart is broken because I don't think I'll try again as I feel so traumatized over what we are enduring as well as every time I go to the ob I have to be packed and ready to be admitted/induced. I'm still grateful but it's hard.

 

[lolala]

Hey Florida,
I know I don't know your journey but sounds like you are having a really shit time. It's not fair is it after everything you've been through it's like an extra slap in the face. No one who hasn't struggled 'gets it'. I don't have anything useful to say to help other than it's crap, just put one foot in front of the other until you reach the other side �� xx

 

[floridamomma]

In l&d. Went for level 2 us baby was not moving. Had a nst and she did move quite a bit but no accelerations. I'm starting to worry. She is down to the 10th percentile and her amniotic fluid is low. Not sure if they are classifying this as iugr. I am 30+4, she is measuring a little smaller, and honestly am wanting them to push a csection. Is that wise? Her growth is slowing down, she wasn't moving, it's like our bodies are competing and she's not winning. I'm afraid she won't make it much longer. But I also don't want her to have lasting neurological or physical damage. She's about 2.7lbs estimated on us. Any advice? Should I push for Csection? I know a few ladies have dealt with iugr.

 

[floridamomma]

Thank you Lola I appreciate your support