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[filipenko32]

Love that Davies!

 

[daviess3]

Thanks ladies, puppy thank u, it's in boots to for £312 my mum found it tonight an she has £80 worth of points to use but were not sure if she can use them on furniture? Who nos but thanks Hun xx

 

[heart tree]

Thanks everyone. My husband goes through this money thing every so often. I know he's just trying to make sure we are comfortable, but sometimes I get defensive about it because I make half of what he does. I used to be a website producer like him and made a lot of money. I decided to go back to school and now get paid half of what I used to and also have student loans to pay back. But I love my job now and I know I'm good at it. The good thing is that we have enough space for this baby and plenty of money right now. We'll be fine. He just gets a little anxious about not having enough, but I have faith it will all work out. I appreciate all of the feedback.

Davies, so good to see you hon! I was wondering where you were. I love the cot bed. So cute! I can't wait to see how people put together their nurseries.

Just came back from the 3 year old's birthday party. I ate 3 pieces of pizza and 2 cupcakes! So much for healthy eating! I'm just so grateful not to have nausea anymore.

Speaking of...how is yours Puppy? I hope the tabs have done their job.

 

[3xscharmer]

Heart - my hubby freaked out before we had Olivia, about 3 months before we had her he bought a house! I asked him why was he in such a rush as we'd only been talking about it for a few weeks and he said b/c he felt like if we were going to have a baby then we needed a house! Men are so strange!

 

[3xscharmer]

Davies - I'm doing good, hopeing that morning sickness picks up! How are you doing?

 

[justwaiting]

Davies lovely cot, the one I'm ordering is similar but in the dark wood. So exciting to be buying a few little things.

Heart my DH is the same about money, always pressuring himself more than me though. Every few months gets his knickers in knot about our financial situation. WE are by no means poor but are in a fair bit of debt. He recently got passed up for a new job and has been stressing day and night about finding a new career something that pays better and better hours. I think it's the only thing they have control over or feel like they can contribute in some way. From what I know of you on hear a therapist sounds like the perfect job, life isn't all about money it's about happiness!!

afm - everything is going smoothly, feeling baby more and more.

Hi to everyone

 

[Pretty Please]

Morning ladies,

How is everyone? any exciting plans this week?

Davies I love your cot. Are you getting the wardrobe too? I love tiny little coat hangers.

Heart - try not to worry about cash. If you have enough space in your house everything will work out great. A lot of my friends live in a tiny one bed flat and still have the baby in their room and they manage. Also, cash is not king - happiness worth a million pounds ! I worked very hard in the City of London for 7 years and being a mum is the best job ever even though now im on zero wage (and id say the hardest job and previously ive done the 70 hour weeks week after week). My husband is a workaholic and earns lots of cash but all he does mon - fri is work - he sees Elliott 5 mins max which is sad but he is also trying to save for a house (houses in commuting land SW London are very expensive) - I really do question if cash is worth it at times - I only see him 30 mins a day so can be isolating. I think I would like to have a more steady live and see him more but he gets a buzz from his trading job. We used to live expensive lifestyle 2 long hauls twice a year and Europe once a month long we and now being a mummy thought of going on holiday - arent there and posh expensive restaurants/cocktail bars are a no no. Much prefer to chill out in Italians and pizza express as its so child friendly and if they do scream no one cares than the pressure of trying to keep your baby shhhh. Im sure things will change with your baby too and chilling in the park with a picnic is lovely.

Im trying to be on healthy this week and no muffins or chocolate. I try to do exercise (walking) and do aerobics class once a week but that depends if Elliott sleeps through the night - he can be a monkey as his teeth are coming through.

Anyone going on holiday before bubs born? Think im going to go to Egypt for the holiday in the next couple of weeks. Still unsure whether I should be flying or not but I went to Florida with El and he was ok - think im going to mc i will and it wont be down to the flight......

xxxxx

 

[daviess3]

Ah i think I may buy wardrobe but the matching ones are tiny only have one door an then shelving the other side! I to like lil hangers pretty an want to b able to buy lots to put on them lol! What about you pretty? X

Heart I agree with the ladies men always stress over money but you manage I can't wait I like getting ready organising I'm planning on buying things after 20 week scan just starting like nappies wipes etc you can buy through ages but just to add them to shopping each week before! Creams shampoos etc! I can't wait! X

Ladies my cousin had her baby this morning a week early!! She had her an hour ago! An she hasn't been weighed yet! But it's a GIRL!!!! Yay I get to go out an girly shop today so exciting! Won't get down there until end of the week now but I can't wait to meet her! Seems wierd my baby cousin having a baby before me! So pleased for them though x

 

[jenny25]

Awww Davis congrats yay lol

Pretty I'm flying in 7 weeks but it's only to Scotland for a few days to visit my family on the plus side I'm looking too move back home so going too see if we can see some property xx

 

[puppycat]

Davies i don't think you can part-pay with Boots points, you can only pay for something in it's entirity. I could be wrong though, they might have a different protocol with furniture?

If you make sure you're signed up to the Boots Parenting club before you buy it then you'll get more points per pound on baby products

Heart i've been sick-free for 3 days so far which is obviously fab, but, i have started a pattern of having a sick day, a weak day, a few days to recover then it starts all over so i can't say YET if i'm 'cured' but trying to stay positive. Had a bit of nausea yesterday but no sick, that i can deal with! Xx

 

[puppycat]

Oh and no holidays booked any time soon but we have a bike rally the end of May and end of June to go to. Only weekends and it'll be camping so may be uncomfy with my huge bump (then) but excited all the same!

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

Morning ladies, how are you all?? hows all the bumps?

xxxx

 

[daviess3]

Thanks pup I have been told that bout part pay! The one you found includes mattress to! X

 

[puppycat]

Morning Tracie. Bump growing!

How's isabelle? I love the name Grace - if i wasn't so stuck on Emily i'd have that instead. Don't think DH would go for it though because he'd assume i was being 'religious' and it's totally not his thing!

 

[petitpas]

Congratulations, Puppy, on your baptism! It looked really lovely

I'm not religious but would consider the name Grace for a girl. Don't count DH out just yet!

Heart, I am sorry to hear about your struggles. I think you are doing exactly the right thing by following your heart and pursuing your career as a therapist! As others have mentioned, it is a normal thing for caring men to worry about finances when fatherhood dawns on them.
We know a couple where three days after having a positive pregnancy test the husband went out and bought a house!
Even my husband who pursued a career for personal fulfillment rather than money (he prefers to work in the public sector) and supported me in going part time when I struggled with the losses keeps bringing up that he expects me to continue my career and become the main earner (we earned the same until now) once ducky is a year old. Hmmmm. I'm not sure I'm looking forward to the stress and long hours I used to have. I'm thinking of changing careers and going freelance! Even though I know it will be paid less with no career progression it will hopefully fit around kids better.

In essence, heart, I think your DH is just having a little panic as he realises that his life is about to change dramatically. He can't complain about the arrival of the baby directly so this is how he is letting his frustration out. As hard as it is, try to stand your ground and wait until the panic subsides. Once your baby arrives and reality hits I'm sure he'll be besotted and his attitude will change yet again.

 

[Pretty Please]

oh jenny - is that where your family is from? bet it will be nice to be close to your family....moving house too - do you reckon you will do it b4 bubs born? when you wanting to go? or is it dependent on when you chap can get a job up there?

Davies - oh bet it will be great seeing newborn so sweet !!!! oh and stocking up on items - ive only used half a bottle of shampoo in nearly a year (as you literally need a spot i thought i would need more but havent). If you wanted to use huggies nappy when asda do their baby event they do huggies starter packs for £3 (includes wipes, 30 naps, hat and £5 of coupons) so I bought 25 boxes of them as it was the cheapest around and it was best value. Not sure on other nappy offers. Ive got 2 bottles sudo crem, baby lotion, wipes, cotton wool, capol and i think thats all you need - I bought loads of useless items if you know what i mean.....Always good to buy in asda/boots events as save loads of cash ) i havent got a wardrobe for el but i have wardrobe envy love the ocean range oak mamas and papas I always look at that - but we have huge built in wardrobes so dont need one. Maybe in our next house )

puppy - you can get some amazing big blow up mattresses for camping - id defo invest in one if you havent got one. are you going to be a watcher on the bike rally?

 

[jenny25]

Well funny enough I contacted my old letting agent and they are willing to help me I've to go see them when I am up Paul wants to go to uni so he can go up there it's a big decision moving back but it will all depend if we pass the credit check and Paul either gets a job transfer or we will have to put an application in for housing benefit I'm not bothered I really want to go back home my poor mum isn't keeping well and she is on her own her brother is having major health issues which isn't helping mum so I want to be close to support her she has mental health issues I miss my friends and family and I know it's so much cheaper which will benefit us as a family xxx

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

Grace was first choice for her first name in my books but OH didnt like it... so i got it as her middle name. plus isabella is a special name for him.
shes all better now, got over her poorliness.
I bet your bump is growing, i miss mine. Iv just got flab left now

 

[Pretty Please]

Tracie - do you reckon you want 2 close together?

Have you been to a sure start program? - I do a class on Wed morning one hour talking about nutrition and one hour on aerobics (the tutor is amazing all for exercises after birth) - its called new mum new you - its amazing and free - you should see if they have that course in your pineapple area !! good toning exercises. All the babies play in the middle on gym mats or in their prams

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

lol no... 3 years atleast! iv waited far to long i want to enjoy every second with izzy before i have another and she goes to nursery.