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[wookie130]

D, sorry, we cross-posted! I think you handled it very well!

 

[Squig34]

Ok I took a Clexane - DH was inclined to wait until Monday but I tend to agree with you ladies, 2 days won't hurt but might help. Boy did it sting though! I will probably have a huge bruise but I did it in my thigh so that my tummy isn't bruised for the u/s & they're asking me what's going on... Thanks for all of your stories, advice & support. Still processing yet still hopeful that somehow things will be ok. (I did check the expiry dates, still ok!) Have been taking it pretty easy & will continue to do so

D I hope your mum takes what you've said on board without taking the hump. I think you put it well

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Squig: I hope that Clexane and aspirin is all what's needed to make baby better.
I found out that if I take my aspirin 1 to 2 hours before I take my Clexane shot, it hurts less. I guess because aspirin is also a painkiller, then it helps once it had time to work.

 

[Hope39]

Thinking of you Squig - keep resting x

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Oh yes! resting is important too. my friend who had growth restrictions was advised by her doc to rest and lie on the left side as it helps with blood flow.

 

[petitpas]

Squig, I'm glad you started on the clexane. Don't worry about bruises during the ultrasound. First of all they have a red dot in the middle and therefore don't look like beat up bruises. Secondly, you won't be the only patient on blood thinners. They'll have seen it all before. (Who cares that they think, anyway, as long as they scan you properly)
As for the stinging, this is how I inject to minimise any pain. Ignore if you're doing this already.
1. Grab a pinch of skin. Do not let it go until you have completely finished your injection and have pulled the needle out.
2. Inject the needle at a right angle to your body - right up to the hilt.
3. Slowly - very slowly - push the plunger down to inject the liquid. You do not need to get rid of any air bubbles beforehand. If you find the liquid is stinging you then you aren't injecting slowly enough. You need to go really really really slowly. If you feel a sting pause for a few seconds before continuing slowly slowly
4. Pull the needle out.
5. Let go of the skin fold.

D, you did the right thing. If your mother can't handle it then that's her bad not yours. She should not have posted something so personal without checking whether you had gone public. Stick to your guns!

 

[Hope39]

Great Squig, so pleased you started , I'm sure it will do no harm and If anything will help a little. X

 

[blueblue]

Squig - thinking of you, take care

D - sorry your mum is a pain, very well handled.

 

[Squig34]

Thanks Petitpas - I'm obviously not injecting slowly enough so will try that.

Hope, glad to see your BFP in your signature

 

[Hope39]

I'm a bit slow on doing things like that

 

[floridamomma]

Squig glad you started clexane. Xx let us know how the lo is doing.
D you handled that well.
Blue how are you feeling?
Umami how are hon? 30 weeks? Do you know what color your bump is?
Peti I tried that tonight as my last couple injections burned. I've mastered getting the needle in without pain. It did help but after I was done it still burned.
Hope glad to see your signature hon.

 

[loeylo]

I don't know what to do. I'm 5+2 by lmp, I called epu today and they can't offer me a scan until I'm 6+5 apparently! I was told I would be scanned at 5 or 6 weeks to rule out ectopic, with my last pregnancy they scanned me at 5+2 and it was almost too late to treat me without surgery. I really don't want surgery if it is another ectopic and I have had sharp cramping at the right side of my uterus (where my last ectopic was) so I feel that 6+5 is leaving it a bit late since I will be scanned at 7 anyway due to previous miscarriages. The woman was really short with me, I have been asked to go to a different hospital than the one I have been treated for all my previous pregnancies. I had to go to this one before and they refused to scan me despite the fact I was rolling around in pain at one side, that was my first pregnancy. I hadn't even known I was pregnant and was sent there from a&e, I was told to "calm down" then they gave me a foil tub to pee in, the tub was burst so I left it on the bathroom floor and told a nurse, then another nurse came in and told me I had "peed all over the floor" - it isn't even attached to a maternity unit, just a room to the side of the main hospital, and tbh I don't really want to go there. I don't know what to do!

 

[floridamomma]

I'm from the us but here if you go to the emergency room and are having abdominal pain you must be scanned. No matter how early. Maybe just go to the hospital you'd like to go to and tell them what's going on

 

[blueblue]

Loeylo - is there anyway you can go back to the other hospital? It's really bad they are making you wait for a scan with a previous ectopic, esp. if you are in pain again. Not sure where you are based, but can you speak to your GP and get an urgent referral? are you under a consultant from the recurrent miscarriage clinic?

florida - I'm the same with the injections, they always sting a bit after. Usually because I forget to let go. I'm ok, trying to be positive about this one. Hope you are all good

 

[loeylo]

Thanks ladies. I called the other hospital and I have to call back again soon. To no honest I feel much better under their care, I would naturally always go to the other hospital even for a&e (which is why I have been treated there for my other pregnancies) the nurse was really nice and asked my whole history and I have to call back later as the midwife was with a patient.

I'm having nausea for the first time in any of my pregnancies so I am hoping that is a good sign and I'm thankful for it, even if I feel horrible! I nearly fainted in class whilst teaching and had to hold back from being sick. Hopefully a good sign!

 

[DSemcho]

You know sometimes I feel like maybe I'm just hallucinating being pregnant and maybe everyone is just playing along so they don't upset the crazy lady Lol.


Loey I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you can find somewhere to get scanned! Have you talked to your personal doctor, or was it your doctor that was turning you down??

 

[Tasha]

Loey are you in the UK? If so and you're not happy, get pals to help.

Florida, try even slower.

Afm- today was my cervical scan, cervix is still the same the baby was head down so could only show me the pulsating artery. So he did an abdominal scan too, baby seems a good size (didn't measure though) and lots of water (which is a real positive for me as my IUGR has always had low waters). They diagnosed placenta previa via both scans though, it's in my notes and in their system now, so told me any bleeding to get myself straight to hospital.

 

[loeylo]

Thanks again ladies! Up where I stay gp's don't really deal with pregnancy, In my area you don't really see the doctor for anything pregnancy related. I hopefully will get somewhere with the second hospital (they scanned me weekly with my second right from virtually when I got my bfp)

I actually just generally prefer their attitude. I feel supported by them, for instance when I phoned today they asked for outcomes of any previous pregnancies and the nurse immediately said "I'm sorry for your losses, I understand your worries, I will get the midwife to call you back" whereas the other lady just said "ok well we don't scan until at least 6 weeks but we are quite busy so can't get you in until the 27th"

I had some pretty painful cramp there so I'm really worrying. Going to call the hospital now.

Tasha yes I'm in Scotland, never dealt with pals before - I may need to go down that route. I'm petrified as t partner has just been diagnosed with depression and this pregnancy is giving him something to look forward to, I'm trying to put on a brave face for him but he told me yesterday that he can't go through another ectopic. I'm more worried about him than I am myself!

Glad you had good news today hopefully the placenta prevaria will not cause you any problems (don't know too much about that as I have never even made it as far as discussing placentas )

 

[petitpas]

Florida, I agree with Tasha. Try going even more slowly! Like a whole minute just pushing the liquid in little by little. That should get rid of the burn...

Tasha, is the placenta completely covering the cervix? If not, the good news is that about 90% of placentas move out of the way by 32-34 weeks. Fingers crossed you are one of those 90% cases fxfxfxfx

D, you are absolutely right! I can tell you, even right at the end when the baby comes out it doesn't feel quite real. Like, what's that? Where did it come from? It's not mine, is it?!?

Loeylo, a bit of healthy womb baby dust for you:

 

[Tasha]

lost, it's tough when your partner has depression, definitely used pals. They can be fab.

Thanks Pip, it was completely covering and he said that it could move but looked unlikely. We shall see. I'm not in the least bit bothered, I feel if it moves fabulous as I would like a vaginal birth, if not then that happened for a reason. In a really good place right now, clearly

Countdown to anomaly scan now.

How are you settling in as a family of four?