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[mowat]

I know what you mean Ummi---I really never thought I'd be here. I'm really not ready to have these babies out of my body. I'm trying not to think of everything that could go wrong. Yep, grateful doesn't even begin to describe how I feel!

So sorry to hear about your care Hope. I'm in a very isolated town and we have no choice over care at all. I've had to meet the doctor that caused my Asherman's to discuss C-section. I really hope I can deliver naturally because I really not comfortable having him operate on me. Hope your new obstetrician can make you feel a little better.

 

[floridamomma]

Ummi and mow at congrats and good luck!
Ummi what was your protocol?
Hope I hope things start to straighten out. You shouldn't have to worry about these things.

 

[wookie130]

I agree, Florida! Hope39 should feel good about the care she receives, and instead, she has no faith in their ability to help or care for her or her child, in light of how Isaac's situation was handled (if that's even what you want to call it). It's sad and infuriating at once!

 

[DSemcho]

Whew crampy and back pain since Saturday =/ No fun. Hopefully it goes away soon. I have my usually appointment on the 4th which is when I'm going to mention the placenta stuff. We are packing out our house in exactly 2 weeks (yay!) and will not have most of my stuff then. Supa excited. hot flashes galore today and I'm super tired.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Hope: sorry for being a pain, I'm sure you mentioned it before, but why is it you can't change hospital?

Florida: I was on progesterone from ovulation till 14 weeks, aspirin 100mg from bfp (75 mg since I arrived back in the uk), and Lovenox/Clexane from week 7. I'll meet the consultant again at 36 weeks and we'll stop both aspirin and Clexane then.
I'm really glad I found some fantastic doctors from the start, because the ones at the rmc did not recommend anything after my 3rd loss, putting my losses down to 'bad luck', when clearly it wasn't.

 

[dairymomma]

Was out of town for a few days on a ladies weekend vacation. Had a blast but good to be home too. Anyway, I'll have to read back to catch up on everything as I only have a few min right now but I had to pop in.

I just got pink lines.... I'm quietly freaking out. I don't even KNOW how this happened! (Well, I DO but DH and I didn't have the timing right for this to even cross my mind as a possibility. Or so I thought. ) The lines are faint but visible and PINK. AND on TWO different brands... I've never had lines like this this early. I'm 9-10dpo and these are lines I'm used to seeing at 13dpo or later. Plan is if I have lines again tomorrow, I'll call the dr for blood tests but I'm operating in disbelief today.

 

[blueblue]

Hope - you shouldn't have to put up with their treatment, can't believe they are being so awful.

Ummi - I had the same thing with the consultant I saw after my 3rd loss, he thought it was bad luck and decided I didn't even need progesterone. I wish I had insisted now, but I wanted to hope for the best.

Dairy - fingers crossed x

D - hope you feel better soon

Loeylo - hope everything goes well at your next scan, the waiting is hard.

 

[Hope39]

Ummi - I can change to another hospital but it's further away, if something was to go wrong my oh can get me to the hospital i am at now in 20mins, the other hospital is probably a minimum of 40 mins

I wouldn't ring an ambulance again as they are part of the reason why I lost Isaac. I also run my own business which is going to be extremely hard to do as it is from a hospital bed. My OH will be bringing my work in each day which would be manageable at 20min away

And lastly the hospital I am at now is closer to my friends and OH family , they will visit, I've got no chance of any visitors for 10w if i go To the other hospital. Having visitors isnt really a major issue but it would be nice to see a friendly face whilst I'm there for 10-12w

I may just have to suck it and swap, I see how I feel when I Meet the new obstetrician

It's a real horrible situation to be in and I'm torn at the moment

Lastly, today scan showed a good strong hb still

Xx

 

[hopeful23456]

so happy for the good scan Hope! and you always have us to visit basically 24 hours a day

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

floridamomma, I'm so happy everything is going smoothly for you.

loeylo, I'm so glad baby looks good after you had some bad cramps. That is always scary. Just because the nurse mentioned the baby was stretched out doesn't mean that's a bad thing. They will do that as they're moving around. I'm sure all is well.

wookie, thank you for your kind words. I just know it will heal me if I get to hold this LO.

blueblue, I'm glad you are feeling pretty relaxed considering you've had some bleeding. I hope and pray it will stop for you soon so you can relax even more.

Ummi2boyz, thank you for your kind words. You're almost there!!! So excited for you!!

Hope, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with a hospital you are not comfortable with. That has got to be incredibly hard for you. I hope and pray you like your new OB and feel comfortable with them. I'm so glad your baby is showing a nice strong hb!!

DSemcho, I'm sorry you're feeling icky. Hopefully you can get some rest.

dairymomma, congrats!!! I got my BFP at 9dpo with this one too!!!

 

[mowat]

Sounds good Dairy! Everything crossed. Ladies weekend sounds good too!

 

[dancareoi]

Hi danceroi

I know they using it as an excuse, the hospital are pretty good at lying to me , I can see straight through them

I even had horrible dreams last nights that involved the obstetrician that delivered isaac, subconsciously a lot must be playing on mind . I'm not having the same obs and I'm unsure of the response of my new obs when I meet her in a few weeks.

Wish I could swap hospitals

Xx

Hopefully your new doc will be brilliant And will put your mind totally at ease xx

 

[Squig34]

Hope, glad to hear of your good scan today

Dairy, congratulations! Wishing you a sticky I'm not sure what your timing was, but 2 of my pregnancies were BD 4 days before o & 1 was 3 days.

 

[dairymomma]

It was. Family, Fun, and lotsa delicious food to indulge in. It's an annual thing for us and it's almost as big a holiday as Christmas...(Seriously.) It was nice to have some time off from being Mom and my only complaint was that I felt slightly nauseated all weekend. Figured it was all the indulging I was doing after a month of pretty clean eating but now I know different. But it's still a shock.

Squig-I've gotten pg bding 6 days before ov and not again until 2 days before AF was supposed to come so I guess having at least 4 days before ov (can't remember for sure but I know it wasn't any closer than 4) and 3 days after this time should be a huge suprise.

Hope: It's got to be hard dealing with the same hospital but FX your new doctor will be more compassionate and do all she can to help you. Glad to hear you had a good scan.

Florida-I think I saw you had a good scan. Like to see that.

 

[Hope39]

Thanks Squig - how are you doing hun . You've been in my thoughts lots xx

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Hope: it's so hard to make choices. I sincerely hope you never have to deal with the other doctor ever again and that the new one will properly care for you and baby.
Have written a letter of complaint, or contacted a higher authority about the way they treated you and Isaac? How was it handled?
I'm glad you had a great scan today. Roll on for the next one!

Dairy: yay for a great week end and what a nice surprise! Stick little one!

 

[Hope39]

I wrote a complaint and asked for it be investigated fully (7 page complaint), there was 9 individual occasions that i had to complain about from the last 5 years, Isaac made up 2 out of the 9. We then had a meeting with 8 trust members to find out what their investigation found........

We came away not even asking that question (what their investigation found) because they threw the meeting back on us to discuss our concerns which wasn't what we was expecting , i certainly wasn't expecting to lead a meeting with 8 board members present.

My OH said i did a good job at taking the meeting. I had spoken to a solicitor before we went in and they told me to ask how long it takes to prepare and sterilise a theatre ready for a c sect (im not sure if you know but the patient before me left the theatre 10 mins before the theatre team walked in my room) . I was also put on a ctg at the same time that patient left theatre, (could be just a coincidence that it only went on once theatre was empty) The clinical lead director and obstetrician (who delivered isaac) didn't know how long it takes to prepare a theatre for a c sect, nor did anyone else in the room, they all sat their and shook their heads so thats when i knew they were still lying, im pretty sure she would know the answer to that.

Well i always knew someone was lying because the paeditrician gave me his story (which i believe) and then the obstetrician gave me her side of the story which differed from the paediatrician and its her that i don't believe

I'm currently waiting for an expert witness to look over my hospital notes and listen to the recording of the meeting so thats where we are at with my complaint

xx

 

[Ummi2boyz]

I think you've done really well considering the circumstances. That takes a lot of guts.
What a bunch of *******!!!
I hope you'll get answers and the people who needs to will take their responsibilities. xx

 

[DSemcho]

Ladies I'm worried :/

So when I had my gender ultrasound on Friday the doctor off base was pushing down kinda hard. And since then I've been crampy, wet down there and having lots of lotiony cm. Everyday (I shower everyday too) at the end of my work day I've had a heavy sour sweet smell coming from down there and I'm concerned. I have my normal appointment for tomorrow - and I already called and they can't move it up to today. Anyone else having this and everything is fine??

 

[floridamomma]

I agree, Florida! Hope39 should feel good about the care she receives, and instead, she has no faith in their ability to help or care for her or her child, in light of how Isaac's situation was handled (if that's even what you want to call it). It's sad and infuriating at once!

Exactly. I am in health care and that ticks me off when someone feels their dr doesn't care or have fine to properly care for them. My final miscarriage before I found my new ob I say out in a waiting room for 2 hours miscarrying and when I tried to ask a nurse when I could see a dr she yelled at me and I just broke down crying.