People putting down FF

[alio]

tell em to feck off..... silly buggers. xxx

 

[sparkswillfly]

I have encountered it in real life. At the hospital this woman, not sure of her actual job title but I call her the breastfeeding battleaxe... well anyway. She came round each new mum when we were put on the ward and thrust a breastfeeding leaflet at us and went thru each page showing me all the reasons why breastfeeding is great. At this point she hadnt yet asked me how I wanted to feed. Then I said I wanted to breastfed but she had already had 30ml of formula because I had just had a section and was very traumatised and physically couldnt hold. She then said "Oh well she wont feed of you now... not after you've given her that" and stormed off.

Later that day I heard her go to the woman next to me and ask her how baby was feeding. The woman then said she had given her baby 70ml of formula because she was struggling to feed him.... the horrible old cow then really laid into her basically saying she was stupid for doing that and shes just making things worse. She then stormed off again to the front desk and said at the top of her voice "How am I supposed to do my job when these women keep giving their babies bottles... none of them bother going to the classes" (bf class) I was so mad. I felt so sorry for the woman next to me she must have felt like crap.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

I kind of got judged by one midwife. She asked if I was breastfeeding. I said no, because I just weren't interested. She kept going on and on that I should '' at least '' give it a try. (as it's best for baby) - Shut up! Grr! I knew what I wanted. It's up to me how I feed my daughter. If I don't want to try breastfeeding, I won't try it. I really hate people like that. Lol.

 

[tasha41]

I got harassed while pregnant.. but after a traumatic birth experience they all screwed off and left me to formula feed Elyse. No one's said anything to me now that she's been born.. but I agree with ryder this is the only place I've encountered people with the "I'm better than you for breastfeeding" or "you're stupid for not breastfeeding" attitude.

Guess what, even if I wanted to, and my mind was made up for formula anyway, my milk didn't come (lucky for me, didn't have to deal with the pains either lol)! Not to mention I've had past health issues that would interfere with things.. *edit* I erased an important part lol! My nurse practitioner insisted we could work on them and things would go alright.. but it's not as simple as that, and after I came clean to her she stopped pushing it.

 

[Jem]

It really annoys me too. I've bottle fed both my children and while Faith was fine, Ollie has suffered allergies and is on a dairy free diet. And do you know what some people have said? That Ollie is the way he is because I didn't BF

 

[BlackBerry25]

I am pro breastfeeding, but it life, and especially babies don't always follow a plan.

 

[sparkswillfly]

I just didnt like it... I guess that makes me selfish. Never mind

 

[nikky0907]

No one is selfish here!


I was flat out told that I was selfish because I didn't even attempt to breastfeed. That it could harm my child...

Pfft! Tbh if I were selfish in regards to my daughter, she wouldn't even exist today. And she certainly wouldn't be a healthy, happy little girl who needs for nothing nothing...

 

[isil]

I didn't even read that thread but I'm really glad that I didn't by the sounds of it. I mix fed Alasdair and it was the best of both worlds for us. I didn't feel like I could exclusively bf him but I felt like I had to explain my reasons for feeding him with formula and breast everytime I got him weighed! In the end I decided to avoid them altogether lol.

 

[sparkswillfly]

My family actually pressured me to bottle feed funny enough

 

[pinkmac85]

Drives me nuts having people judge me because I FF! I had a lady ask the other day in the grocery store if I breast of bottle and I said bottle, she just said "oh" and walked away! First off I think it's somewhat rude to ask people how they feed their child..does it really matter?! They are getting fed regardless of the way!
I would have loved to BF but it just didn't work out for me and I wasn't comfortable with it! I felt terrible for the first few weeks bc people kept forcing me to try to BF even tho I had made up my mind...I could give 2 shits what people think now and when/if they make a stink about me FF I'll tell them where to go and how to get there!

 

[Lazy Leo]

I've got to say one of the first things I've asked my friends when they become pg is if they have thought about how they will feed the baby. BF gets a lots of press and there is a lot of pressure to BF. I think at the end of the day it is everyone's personal choice and in the case of my friends I felt it was important so that I didn't say the wrong thing at any point.

All my friends have BF so far and I have no issues with it, in fact I used to get frustrated with one friend who wouldn't feed in public because she was embarrased - it's the most natural thing in the world and you shouldn't be made to feel embarrased or dirty for it. Eventually she got better and stopped going home to feed, instead she expressed or gave Aptimal when she was out.

Anyway, I digress, I will not be BF'ing, I'm not comfortable with it and its for my own reasons. I don't believe I am doing my baby any harm, it certainly didn't do me any harm. I am just under 12 weeks and already I am sick of the BF literature that has been sent to me or given to me. The hospital exalts that 'it supports the decsion of the mother' but goes on to give about 10 pages of tripe n BF and two lines of how FF will mean that the baby doesn't need the third oral dose of Vitamin K because the Formula contains it.

I had a run-in with a friend at the weekend who looked at me appalled because I won't BF. Her tone of voice was infuriating. But after a rather heated discussion she did apologise. I am already gearing up for an ongoing fight with the medical world LOL!

 

[PitBullMommy]

One of my 'friends' BF her daughter who is EXACTLY 2 months older than Char and she goes on and on about how much better her daughter is doing than Charlotte, which, honestly I don't understand. Char walks more than her daughter does and she's only 10mo old. She talks, the other doesn't, stands better...I dunno. I wanted to BF, but was so sick and then got put on meds so I couldn't...and with this one...I'm going straight to FF cause it's SO much more convienent, especially if I'm gonna have a 1yr old and a newborn.

 

[suzan]

OMG first off, u cracked me up with the little faces with the fingers

Second, I hear ya. I dont understand what everyone has to do with our LIFE. I mean, it's a choice!! and sometimes circumstances take over it. C'mon, they talk as if it's something bad. If it were bad then it wouldnt be a choice to feed our kids.

I wish they would just zip it!!

 

[suzan]

Ah.. and I always tell people.. would you guess if I was BF or FF? Of corse no.. it just doesn't matter at all as long as I am here standing and healthy. Again, BF is best, wont argue about that. But do believe that FF children are healthy as well. I think it's the body who does it. Sometimes FF do better than BF. And now tell me who doesnt think so. A friend was FF and her kid only got a cold, while another friend was BF while her kid got 2 colds and an ear infection. NOW TELL ME HOW CAN THIS HAPPEN!

It's their bodies! This is what I believe.

 

[alice&bump]

my hv looked down her nose at me when i said i'd switched to FF. she was just like "oh". that was just before i got her weighed and she arranged to come round the next week. didnt see her after she'd got weighed.

the next week, she was all for it when she reallised my milk had dried up and katie's weight had dropped to the 9th centile. int he first ff week, she gained 17oz and is so much happier. i actually wish she'd suggested FF when her weight started dropping at 12 weeks rather than telling me to "stick with it"!

 

[mrsstreet0417]

I usually just don't say anything on most threads, just stalk them blush but I just wanted to say that I think it is a personal choice, and whatever is best for you,your lifestyle, and your baby, it is your choice...I,personally,am going to try to breastfeed when the time comes, but if that doesn't work out, I will not feel bad at all about giving my baby formula, I think everyone just does what is best for their babies,as a mother, that's all you can do. There are always going to be people that have something to say about every little thing you do,but when they had their kids, they did what they wanted, so they can basically, just, BUGGER OFF! That's all. to all

 

[BlackBerry25]

I breastfed at first I think it is great if you can do it. I hope you find lots of encouragement here on the site and in RL when the time happens.

 

[bex]

I really wanted to breastfeed Niamh but when she was 2 days old we were told that she had Pierre Robin sequence and that i would never be able to breastfeed her.

I was devastated.

After being unsuccessful with breastfeeding my son, i was desperate to succeed this time, but it wasn't to be.
We had to tube feed Niamh for 10 weeks, so we weren't even able to botttle feed her! For the last 10 weeks we have been feeding Niamh with special squeezy bottles. I did express breast milk for 4 wks but it was exhausting as i had to tube feed niamh every 3 hours and express 8 times in 24 hours along with trying to care for a sick baby and a 4 year old!

It is personal choice on how to feed your baby but i don't think people realise that some babies are bottle fed for a reason and no one should ever be made to feel 2nd class or guilty by anyone.

 

[nessajane]

I never wanted to BF from the start i was always planning on FF. I dont understand the big debates that go on with BF & FF? Each to their own i say.. why do people make it their business to care how you feed your child? theres no right or wrong way