Please help me -- But please don't judge or take offence..

[My_First]

I personally think that if you bring up a child that is confident and content in themselves and that ANY bullying and/or name calling is the bullies problem and not your lo's then I think you have done the best thing possible whether redhead or not!

 

[NewMummyx]

Im ginger and so is my little boy and i admit i was gutted at first, but then he was rushed into Neonatal at 4hrs old and I realised everything could be so much worse

 

[whoops]

I've always wanted red hair. But I'm a brunette and Lily is blonde.

Red hair is stunning - one of the cutest toddlers on here is a red head and I always admire her photo when I see it in her mum's signature.

Kids get bullied for lots of reasons - even if you dye her hair, she could get picked on for something else. Bring her up to have confidence in herself and that will minimise the 'risk'.

Oh, and Julia Roberts and Nicole Kidman have red hair and both are gorgeous!

 

[midori1999]

My baby girl has red/strawberry blonde hair and very pale skin. She is beautiful and I think red hair is beautiful.

Children are teased for all sorts of reasons, you can't avoid them all. What you can do is teach your child to be strong, confident and outgoing and they won't be negatively affected by teasing.

 

[Neko]

I wish my baby had hair so I could worry about this.

 

[Jem_x3]

I wish my baby had hair so I could worry about this.

This made me laugh bless you

I know two people who have literally orange coloured hair and they are the most popular people I know! Red hair isn't going to make your child unlikeable. Kids tease for all sorts of reasons unfortunately. Look at it positively, red hair will make them unique and stand out don't be worried! and no you're not a bad mummy at all. We all worry about our kids, just enjoy them now and you can deal with whatever happens later on

 

[JessicaAnne]

I'm a redhead and Evie is, although her hair changes colours a lot . Evie will know if she's bullied, she had every right to stand up for herself within reason. That may sound bad but I was bullied because of my hair, the teachers were no help so I started acting up, fighting, skipping class until I got removed from school. To this day I wish I would of just ignored them but being called names everyday gets to you.

I love my hair now, and I love Evie's. Of course I've worried about her being bullied, but I can't dwell on ifs and maybes!

I to think it maybe because of all the jokes during your pregnancy

P.S sorry for the long ramble :/

 

[whit.]

If kids want to bully someone they will bully them no matter their hair color.

That being said, my niece has ORANGE hair and she's one of the most popular girls in her grade. Is on student council & plays sports. No one makes fun of her because of her hair color, and if they did she has the confidence in herself to brush it off.

 

[Breezy]

I don't really understand why "gingers" get teased TBH! I love and would love to be red headed! I think it is so beautiful

 

[Melissa_M]

<<<<LOOK HOW GORGEOUS MY LITTLE STRAWBERRY BLONDE DAUGHTER IS!!!

I think the worst thing you can do is worry about something as simple as hair colour. Kids can be cruel, but you need to let her know how beautiful she is and then she won't be a target.

I do, however understand how annoying comments on hair colour can be. I think the comments are even worse when two people who don't have red hair have a red-haired child. Almost everybody asks me if Alia's hair is red (and where it came from)...and some people say it as if it's a bad thing!!! Boggles my mind

All I know is that Alia is gorgeous and DH and I are not worried about her being teased in school or at anytime in life for that matter. I hope you realize that your daughter will thrive best if you have the confidence in her

 

[Melissa_M]

TO further prove my point

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[summer rain]

I had strawberry blonde hair as a baby and toddler; it was so red it was almost pink as opposed to orange, now my hair is some blah dark auburn I would love it to be that strawberry blonde again. My two youngest had very striking ginger hair when they were small as well, and they are very olive skinned/mixed race so it was even more noticeable, consequently I had midwives and doctors believing their jaundice to be far worse than it actually was as they assumed my OH is some pale, freckly ginger guy when he is actually black! Although you really wouldn't expect it with their skin tone there are quite a few folks in his family with deep red hair as well. As they have got older their hair has turned into a darker version of my hair colour but with a ginger tinge in the sun, I miss their flame hair xx

 

[goddess25]

Red/Ginger hair over here doesnt have the same stigma that it has in the UK. Its very silly really.

I know I joked about it too when I was pregnant that if we had a ginger it would be awful.. really sad because it makes no difference. My son's hair looks red at times but its more just a mousy brown. I am sure your little one is just gorgeous.

 

[Brieanna]

I don't really understand the whole stigma with red hair. I think that it doesn't really have that stigma over here (or maybe I just haven't noticed). When my baby was born my MIL was kind of disappointed that she DIDN'T have red hair (it runs in my family) and instead had a boring brown!

Every baby is beautiful, imo, but what is more important is that they are not made to feel bad because of something they can't control, like hair color, skin color, etc.

BTW don't feel bad for your feelings because when we are pregnant we spend hours wondering what out LO will look like and after they are born we actually know and sometimes it is not what we think. It's like there is an end to that little person who COULD be ANYTHING and look like ANYTHING but the beginning to the new little person that we can actually see and love and watch grow. You are a good mommy, don't worry.

 

[amygwen]

This is a tough one. I have absolutely no advice other than just accept the hair color and move on. I mean, really, there isn't anything you can do about it. I love red hair. Kenneth has strawberry blonde hair and I absolutely love it. But I would've loved it no matter what color it was.

 

[gmh]

someone else has prob said this but just in case they havnt. children will always find something to pick on and tease about. its not about the appearance. they pick on the vulnerable kids. the kids with no self-esteem. im sure ur daughter will have plenty of that, so there is nothing to worry about!!

 

[lori]

I'm honestly shocked to read this thread because I've never been aware of any stigma attached to red hair. Seriously? Is this a UK thing? Maybe I'm just naive

Honestly, I think red hair is gorgeous and I was excited when it looked like Simon might be getting a little red in his hair (unfortunately, it seems to be back to pale blond).

 

[ellebelle]

A lot of people seem to joke about red heads and I don't know why.
In my experience many girls I know seem to covet beautiful red locks.
I know I love red hair.
Don't even worry about it.

 

[Canadianmom4]

Ryleigh is my second child with red hair. I personally think it's unique and very pretty.

 

[Al Syr]

Everyone gets picked on no matter what. For me it was my teeth. My two front teeth were bigger than my other teeth when they had first came out, everyone called me beaver or Roger rabbit. Thankfully when the rest of my teeth came out they all became proportioned lol.

By the picture I see that your baby is absolutely beautiful. I love red hair!