Please labour start

[laura109]

Hiya I'm due a week today. Kinda hoped baby would come this week in next few days.but obviously I don't have control. The thing is every night around 6pm onwards this week Ive had period pain and gentle tightnings at the bottom of my bump. It always stops by morning.

I think I loose my plug each day??? Basically yucky snotty stuff all over the tissue most times I Wee. Unless it's just a sudden surge of cm? It certainly isn't what I get when not pregnant.

I have been hiding in the house for two weeks due to snow ice and feeling sore in pain and drained. I saw the midwife and she said she got this for about a week before her labour began and once she relaxed and took her toddler to her mums it kicked in properly. Unfortunately I can't send my toddler away until it happens so relaxing isn't really happening. It's the week before Christmas now. I'm aware people will want to swap presents and my mum will have to be told we want to stay home this year as ill either be very pregnant or have a very new baby and chances are ill be feeling rough either way.

Starting to feel the pressure as I had focused and hoped baby would come a few days early. I know that due dates are not accurate and it's usually either side but I really hoped it would be this side after going overdue last time. I think Christmas and paternity leave for dh and all the rush of trying to keep the house tidy and sort everyones things has totally worn me out. Hope it's not stopping me relax for it to begin

 

[Bevziibubble]

I hope baby arrives soon and doesn't keep you waiting for too much longer

 

[Cewsbaby]

Agreed! I hope your second one doesn't make you wait too much longer

 

[Bonnie11]

Ahh the waiting is the worst.. get bouncing on your ball and as much rest as you can. Sounds like you are worrying about a lot of things and your body will recognise this, as much relaxation as you can do is the best thing you can do get labour started. Your body is very clever and can hold off on labour if it knows the timing isn't good. I don't know what the answer is going to be for you to relax but limit all essential plans and don't be afraid to say no to plans. Maybe get someone to watch your toddler for a few hours while you rest?

 

[kewpie]

Hey laura109, don't be pressured by feeling you'll let people down by not being able to swap presents! This time is precious. Try to tune all that external stuff out. From the way you said 'my mum will have to be told' if you don't go for Christmas, it sounds like you are afraid of her reaction? Surely your mum is going to understand if you can't go there when you are either about to give birth, giving birth, or have just given birth!

Baby is doing its thing and there's not much you can do, and all these people can't expect you to control when you go into labour, so just try to focus on YOU. Babies come when they come and there's nothing we can do about it!

Hoping you're able to start relaxing. There are plenty more Christmases...try to let yourself completely off the hook for this one

 

[Take2]

My dd2 was 11 days early then dd3 was 10 days over and in the end I was induced. These things are not predictable and the little people come when they are good and ready. I know it is so exhausting and so frustrating but you are on the home stretch now so try to relax and hang in there. Looking forward to an update from you soon��

 

[ClairAye]

I get this! I was due Christmas Eve but 4 years ago, I had the cramping that went away from 39 weeks but it did turn into labour at 39+3 thankfully and funny enough after I spent 2 days at home relaxing. There is so much extra stress being due around this time of year, I hope baby makes their appearance soon!

 

[Talia12]

Baby WILL come soon. That's absolutely guaranteed so try to hang onto that.

Some suggestions: bounce on the ball if you've got one, lie down and watch telly, watch relaxation videos on YouTube, take pictures of your bump and body and try to cherish this time - and get yourself going to the toilet! I felt like this at 39w with my son and after I had a decent clear out of my bowels, labour started. If it doesn't help kick start labour, at the very least it might make you feel a bit more comfortable (most women get constipated towards the end).

 

[laura109]

Hiya I have been on my ball alot tonight. Been feeling queasy for a few hours. It's 2am and been to the toilet twice. Very loose but not diarrhea. I don't think it's a bug as I have not socialised for over a week and other than ten mins in with the midwife Thurs I've not been out lol. Not sure if things are gearing up. Thanks for your replies. I will try and relax abit. I think I'm just trying to work out how we can have a normal Xmas around everything but I have to accept it won't be but our dd will still have a brilliant day x

 

[Zephram]

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself! You sound so stressed out in every post. I think you need to accept that with a baby due around Christmas time things will be a little different this year and that is okay. It’s nothing to stress about, don’t worry about what anyone thinks, no one is thinking about it as much as you are. Christmas is one day, seriously, in the long run it really doesn’t matter!

I also want to say that ‘relaxing’ will not make labour start. You’ll have your baby when you have your baby whether you feel stressed or relaxed.

Not sure whether your poop indicates anything or not as I haven’t personally experienced a clear out. Lie down and get some rest, you’ll need it either way.

 

[Zephram]

Also, your DD is two, she won’t even remember this Christmas, so don’t feel stressed on her behalf. She’ll be absolutely fine no matter when you have your baby.

 

[laura109]

Lol wow sorry I'm irritating you was just looking for some friendly chat. I know relaxing won't help it start and I was only mentioning the clear out as it came from nowhere. I no she's only coming up 3 but this year she is really understanding and she's excited. It's just something I'm sentimental about. I didn't mean to sound like an annoying stress head it's just hard to speak with family as we arnt close and they don't bother visiting so kinda sat here alone waiting

 

[laura109]

I get this! I was due Christmas Eve but 4 years ago, I had the cramping that went away from 39 weeks but it did turn into labour at 39+3 thankfully and funny enough after I spent 2 days at home relaxing. There is so much extra stress being due around this time of year, I hope baby makes their appearance soon!

Ahh thank you I didn't see this post yestetday. Thanks for your positive reply that it eventually happened too. It's definitely extra stressful. My dd can't go to anyone for a couple of hours so everything is always so loud and full on and around all that I'm trying to buy and wrap everything which I've about done now. Everyone you think you have finished you need to do something else don't you lol. I had what I presume was a clear out in the night not feeling ill at all just a little rubbish. So just maybee it's things gearing up. My dd was overdue and I had no signs at all just felt normal lol. She was a Feb baby too so had alot more time to breathe especially as she was my first. Be all worth it once he is here xx

 

[laura109]

Ahh the waiting is the worst.. get bouncing on your ball and as much rest as you can. Sounds like you are worrying about a lot of things and your body will recognise this, as much relaxation as you can do is the best thing you can do get labour started. Your body is very clever and can hold off on labour if it knows the timing isn't good. I don't know what the answer is going to be for you to relax but limit all essential plans and don't be afraid to say no to plans. Maybe get someone to watch your toddler for a few hours while you rest?

Thank you there's nobody to have dd unfortunately. Bit complicated but the in laws don't bother with our dd much they have favoured their daughters toddler right from the of. My dad works still and my sisters so I'm. Abit stuck. I'm definitely going to try and just be calm. Might try arrange oh to do a present run one night this week so it's all done and I don't have to stress about getting stuff to people. I did lots of exercise on the ball last night. Had a midnight clear out. Feeling a little more relaxed this morning having an hour in bed. Sorry for my whingy posts 😊 I appreciate your help xx

 

[laura109]

Baby WILL come soon. That's absolutely guaranteed so try to hang onto that.

Some suggestions: bounce on the ball if you've got one, lie down and watch telly, watch relaxation videos on YouTube, take pictures of your bump and body and try to cherish this time - and get yourself going to the toilet! I felt like this at 39w with my son and after I had a decent clear out of my bowels, labour started. If it doesn't help kick start labour, at the very least it might make you feel a bit more comfortable (most women get constipated towards the end).

Thank you ive done lots of exercise on the ball last night and sitting in bed this morning trying to chill out abit. I have a hard time stopping and not worrying about what I should be doing. I actually had what I think was a clear out in the night but honestly don't know as labour hasn't started. I don't feel ill but had to go to the loo twice quite loosely in the night. Totally out of character for me and I did feel a little sick for an hour. Unlikely a bug as we have been home x

 

[Missbb2591]

Hope baby gets a wriggle on and comes soon for you. I know it can feel miserable but try to hold on to the fact baby will come soon, it might not be exactly when you wanted or planned but it won’t be too much longer

 

[ClairAye]

I get this! I was due Christmas Eve but 4 years ago, I had the cramping that went away from 39 weeks but it did turn into labour at 39+3 thankfully and funny enough after I spent 2 days at home relaxing. There is so much extra stress being due around this time of year, I hope baby makes their appearance soon!

Ahh thank you I didn't see this post yestetday. Thanks for your positive reply that it eventually happened too. It's definitely extra stressful. My dd can't go to anyone for a couple of hours so everything is always so loud and full on and around all that I'm trying to buy and wrap everything which I've about done now. Everyone you think you have finished you need to do something else don't you lol. I had what I presume was a clear out in the night not feeling ill at all just a little rubbish. So just maybee it's things gearing up. My dd was overdue and I had no signs at all just felt normal lol. She was a Feb baby too so had alot more time to breathe especially as she was my first. Be all worth it once he is here xx

I get that! My DS was with us until I went into the hospital, I think the last couple of days before I told FOB that I was sitting and relaxing, he could do all the stuff for DS. He was just 18 months old, though! Well I drove 30 minutes to my parent's house near the hospital when it felt like I could go into labour (thankfully because I did that night!) and finished my shopping and wrapping whilst having contractions. Ah hopefully it's a sign! You do just want them out before Christmas, that way you don't have to worry about a Christmas Day baby lol. My first was the same! I sat up in bed and my waters just went out of no where! I'm glad DD gave me that bit of build up so I had time haha.

 

[flipporama1]

I hope labor starts for you soon! Good luck!

 

[Bonnie11]

It's not whinging, you can say exactly how you feel! Last few weeks are tough, especially around Xmas time so don't worry. And yes stress can actually delay/stall labour so finding some time to relax is important. Worst case scenario and you have baby Xmas eve/day honestly your lo won't know the difference so don't worry that you are ruining things. Hang in there, not much longer to go either way xx

 

[laura109]

It's not whinging, you can say exactly how you feel! Last few weeks are tough, especially around Xmas time so don't worry. And yes stress can actually delay/stall labour so finding some time to relax is important. Worst case scenario and you have baby Xmas eve/day honestly your lo won't know the difference so don't worry that you are ruining things. Hang in there, not much longer to go either way xx

Thanks hun I appreciate it. It's definitely a weird feeling not being able to an Christmas but your absolutely right. Thank you he will soon be here I'm sure. Hope u have a lovely Christmas x