please read this and dont give up trying :)

[laura109]

Hi girls, i know how many of you are feeling right now. as some may know i had a chemical last march, i had to go on the pill for 3 months in the end to get my cycle back to normal.

anyway i ended up with a 24-26 day cycle. Mostly 25 days.

I bascially tried from december till april. it was only 5 months but i was worried as im only 25 and having sex around the expected time of ovulation aswel as other points just before and after. i popped to ask the doctor if my short cycles could be a problem (short LP)

everything worried me. what if i cant have babies and cant carry them. what if ill have another chemical even if i get pregnant. what if oh sperm does not work. what if my LP is too short.
then i convinced myself i was the unlucky one of the family who will struggle to have children. all stupid thoughts now looking back and probs was the reason i did not fall quicker. i was stressed. googling short LP and pcos. Googling way too much. trying to time everything down to sex and forcing us to do it when we probs wanted to sleep lol.

my dr said give it another 6 months then go back. every month i found a symptom or two or three. these symptoms usually appeared about a week before af. i longed to get ib and sore breasts. i wanted my cm to change.

After 6 disapointments i said to my partner thats it now i dont care this month whether it happens or not. i stopped looking for signs. we went out walking most evenings and chatting in the countryside. went to the cinema. had a bbq and just enjoyed the weather etc.

on 8dpo 1/6/14 i was holding a lamb on my sisters farm and my whole mouth tasted like metal. my sandwhich at teatime tasted like it had metal in it. that went and my sis joked i was pregnant. i did a test due to that joke 2 days later... and guess what.... very faint bfp!!!!!

BFP (only faint) at 10dpo, 11dpo another faint then at 12 it was confirmed. im now 18dpo and 4 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

relaxing helped me get pregnant im sure of it.

anyway my boobs are still not achy or sore.

My Cm is milky white and lotiony. i get lots of that.
i do feel tired and lazy over last 3 days.

try and switch off and enjoy sex. have a month of going back to when you first got together, go to cinema and just think of other things. sometimes i guess its all the therapy you need.

good luck girls xx

 

[MolGold]

Thanks Laura and congrats on your BFP! Here's wishing H&H 9 months ahead for you!

I hope there's a rainbow at the other side for me. I tried switching off, getting busy and not googling (lol), till now to no avail. Hmmph! Anyway, I tread on to another cycle.

 

[BearFamily]

Congratulations on your bundle of joy that is on your way

 

[Moet]

Congrats that was great to read. Needed it. Im 26 and have been having those thoughts of maybe I cant get pregnant. My cycles are long, averaging 42 days now. Plus this past month Ive been grieving for a close friend who died unexpectedly. So been stressed to say the least. This month I started bleeding light for a few days cd23-25 ish...hoping its a more reg cycle or implantation but chances are its af coming early because ive been a mess. Nice to hear a positive story. Was really hoping for a bfp this month because id be due around my friends birthday.

 

[laura109]

Congrats that was great to read. Needed it. Im 26 and have been having those thoughts of maybe I cant get pregnant. My cycles are long, averaging 42 days now. Plus this past month Ive been grieving for a close friend who died unexpectedly. So been stressed to say the least. This month I started bleeding light for a few days cd23-25 ish...hoping its a more reg cycle or implantation but chances are its af coming early because ive been a mess. Nice to hear a positive story. Was really hoping for a bfp this month because id be due around my friends birthday.

im so sorry to hear about your friend I do think stress makes it worse. You hear all the time about people getting pregnant on a one night stand! Thats what made me more stressed.

people on my facebook my age are announcing there 2nd and 3rd. That was hard for me. It made me really jelous. Im five weeks today. My worries have changed now to miscarriage fears and labour fears lol.

i think though that alot of people who think they get backache etc 3dpo are probs wanting to be pregnant soooo bad that they convinced themselves. I was one of them people.

Its soooo unlikely that you cant get pregnant. try and forget for a month or two and just enjoy life. It will work out in the end.

fx for you all xx

 

[Lirpa11]

Thanks, I'm 26 and gettin to be so down about it all.

Regular cycles have suddenly turned into 45 day cycles that I have no idea of what to expect and what my body is doing.
we've been trying actively since November, and not using protection since august.

Congratulations

 

[laura109]

Bless u hun. I even tracked on my phone when we dtd and i realised i never did it on cd 13 always dtd the night before.
did it on day 13 and fell pregnant.

Take folic acid aswel. You will get there hun xx

 

[AMB1216]

First off congrats! Secondly I would like to agree with you and share part of my story as well.
I have wanted a baby for a long time, about 6 months prior to actually TTC but I never told my DH because he always said he wanted to wait a few years when people would ask us. I honestly hate being told no when I've got my heart set on something so I would just pray that I "accidentally" got pregnant, even though I knew the chances of that were slim as my DH always wore a condom.
Well last december I was late, and I thought I was having pregnancy symptoms. I told my DH and he bought me a test but said I was probably not pregnant. So-I look the test and it was negative. Took the second one in the morning and prayed so hard that it would say pregnant.
"Not pregnant"
I was heartbroken.
A few days later I woke up with cramps and finally AF showed up. I was so upset that I could burst into tears at any second. My husband came home and asked if I started and I nodded, getting teary eyed.
"Good! you kinda had me scared" He said, which made me burst into tears.
He kind of got confused and asked me if I wanted a baby, I shook my head yes and he kind of laughed and said "Why didn't you tell me?"
So we decided that after AF we could start trying, I was obsessed. Googling anything and everything to see what helped getting pregnant the fastest, I wanted so bad to get a BFP that first month. I was 23 when we started trying and figured since I was still young I would have a better chance, especially since no one else seemed to have problems in my family.
So I got AF in January, was really bummed out but decided okay next month will be the month. I started taking prenatals, started using OPK's to make sure I was on track with my ovulation, I checked my CM and CP multiple times a day. I logged every sign and symptom I had and then AF came again. This time I was devastated, looking back on it I really shouldn't have been seeing as how it was only cycle 2 but I get discouraged very quickly. I sat in my room sobbing and told my husband I was scared I couldn't get pregnant. That had always been a fear of mine. He told me it would happen when it's meant to and we would keep trying but stressing out about it wouldn't help anything. So I turned 24 in March and DH got sick, I was still using OPK's but I wasn't obsessing over making sure everything was perfect. I Ovulated sooner than I thought I was going to but did end up BDing around that time. I decided that I would write down all my PMS symptoms since I always forgot by the next cycle and that way I wouldn't confuse them with pregnancy symptoms. I started to get crampy a few days before AF was due, and even told my husband that we didn't get it this month either.
So the day AF was due, there was nothing but I was still cramping like she was coming. Then I woke up the next morning and expected to see blood when I went to the bathroom, again no sign of AF just the cramps. I almosted tested but decided against it and went back to bed. A few hours later DH woke up and asked if I had started yet. I said no, and he asked if I had a test. I told him I wasn't going to test yet but he made me. We sat in the bathroom and almost immediately a light second line appeared.
"Do you see that?" My husband asked as I stared at the test in shock.
"No way..."
"You're pregnant"
I honestly couldn't believe it. I thought for sure that we had missed it with DH being sick around my O time and me O-ing earlier. I took another 4 tests that week and all positive.
Now I know that it only took 3 cycles and that isn't a long time compared to some of you girls. But I do think me not stressing about it and not putting so much pressure on us timing our BD's really made the difference.

 

[laura109]

Congrats hun. Thank you for your story. U sound like me lol. I wish you all the best!! I was crampy lime af was coming for the best part of a week after i was due af think thats really common. Even now ive known 2 weeks i still feel my bodies lying to me lol. Cant wait to get to 12 weeks so chance of mc drops. X

Xx

 

[babylaw720]

Hi girls, i know how many of you are feeling right now. as some may know i had a chemical last march, i had to go on the pill for 3 months in the end to get my cycle back to normal.

anyway i ended up with a 24-26 day cycle. Mostly 25 days.

I bascially tried from december till april. it was only 5 months but i was worried as im only 25 and having sex around the expected time of ovulation aswel as other points just before and after. i popped to ask the doctor if my short cycles could be a problem (short LP)

everything worried me. what if i cant have babies and cant carry them. what if ill have another chemical even if i get pregnant. what if oh sperm does not work. what if my LP is too short.
then i convinced myself i was the unlucky one of the family who will struggle to have children. all stupid thoughts now looking back and probs was the reason i did not fall quicker. i was stressed. googling short LP and pcos. Googling way too much. trying to time everything down to sex and forcing us to do it when we probs wanted to sleep lol.

my dr said give it another 6 months then go back. every month i found a symptom or two or three. these symptoms usually appeared about a week before af. i longed to get ib and sore breasts. i wanted my cm to change.

After 6 disapointments i said to my partner thats it now i dont care this month whether it happens or not. i stopped looking for signs. we went out walking most evenings and chatting in the countryside. went to the cinema. had a bbq and just enjoyed the weather etc.

on 8dpo 1/6/14 i was holding a lamb on my sisters farm and my whole mouth tasted like metal. my sandwhich at teatime tasted like it had metal in it. that went and my sis joked i was pregnant. i did a test due to that joke 2 days later... and guess what.... very faint bfp!!!!!

BFP (only faint) at 10dpo, 11dpo another faint then at 12 it was confirmed. im now 18dpo and 4 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

relaxing helped me get pregnant im sure of it.

anyway my boobs are still not achy or sore.

My Cm is milky white and lotiony. i get lots of that.
i do feel tired and lazy over last 3 days.

try and switch off and enjoy sex. have a month of going back to when you first got together, go to cinema and just think of other things. sometimes i guess its all the therapy you need.

good luck girls xx

Thanks for your inspiring story and Congrats on your BFP!
We've been trying for 11 months and it has been a rollercoaster for sure... I'm not as obsessive about it, but I still wonder about everything that happens to my body after O, whether its a pregnancy symptom or not. I don't google much anymore, and I don't obsessively track, but I do obsessively think.... how do I stop the thinking?? lol

 

[laura109]

Lol well i just decided to enjoy our relationship and forget babies. Every night we went for long walks in the countryside chatting. Had a bbq. Went to the cinema. Just decided to give up.

The truth is i had less symptoms when i was pregnant than all the other months.

Take folic acid and plan some days out enjoy the weather and relax x

 

[babylaw720]

Lol well i just decided to enjoy our relationship and forget babies. Every night we went for long walks in the countryside chatting. Had a bbq. Went to the cinema. Just decided to give up.

The truth is i had less symptoms when i was pregnant than all the other months.

Take folic acid and plan some days out enjoy the weather and relax x

I have been taking folic acid for a while now.... I wish I could just give up... I wish it was that easy.... but we have been making more time to enjoy each other and the weather lately, hopefully that helps...

 

[laura109]

Yeah its not like your giving up... just when you want to google something dont lol.

i forgot how to enjoy things non baby related. Thats why we went out and stuff. Its easy to make srx a chore not because you have had a lovely day together.

I am glad i did ov tests tho as i knew i ovulated on cd 13. I never did temp charts because id get stressed by that.

i heard eating pineapple after ovulation for 5 days helps.

Good luck with everything im sure you will get pregnant soon.

and i think dtd at different times of the day helped aswel xx

 

[Moet]

Thanks for the positivity. Think my friend in heaven gave us a helping hand, because I got a solid bfp today

 

[babylaw720]

Yeah its not like your giving up... just when you want to google something dont lol.

i forgot how to enjoy things non baby related. Thats why we went out and stuff. Its easy to make srx a chore not because you have had a lovely day together.

I am glad i did ov tests tho as i knew i ovulated on cd 13. I never did temp charts because id get stressed by that.

i heard eating pineapple after ovulation for 5 days helps.

Good luck with everything im sure you will get pregnant soon.

and i think dtd at different times of the day helped aswel xx

Well, af is late now..... Putting off taking a test because at this point it feels like I'll never see a BFP. If she hasn't come by next week, I suppose I'll take one... Thanks for your kind words and positivity.

 

[laura109]

Yay gppd luck girls keep in touch xx

 

[laura109]

Yay good luck and congrats xx

 

[Pearly86]

Hey Laura really liked ur thread!..I am also not stressing over what to do what not but m sure the change in bd plan might also have clicked in ur case..so the month u guys just left to think about anything what was the plan u guyys followed for bd?
just want to knw as we are planning eod this month and yes no stress for sure
!

 

[laura109]

We just bd when we was in the mood rather than ooooo im ovulating lol. When i planned it we always bd on cycle day 12 and it was forced alot of the time.

xx