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[Susie28]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or don't have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

 

[suzanne108]

Urgh. Sorry but i am well and truely fed up of 'baby club bashing'. I love this site, it has taught me everything i know about parenting, mostly from debates where you get to see lots of different opinions.
My threads don't always get a lot of responses - i often only need one though to put my mind at ease. I doubt many people even remember user names - i know some people recognise me sometimes, but i think it is because my son has an uncommon name and from one particular debate.

If anyone finds this site 'cliquey' then i suggest you have a look at another and see what cliquey really is. And if you still have a problem with it here, you don't have to log in.

Sorry if any of that sounds harsh but any thread that starts 'i'll probably get slated for this but...' could be seen as deliberately causing debate. The admins and mods on this site dedicate a lot of time to running it, alongside being parents and their jobs,, and don't charge us a penny. It must be horrible for them to see people bashing it so much

Totally agree with you, especially the bolded part.

I don't understand why people are complaining about baby club all the time but still coming in here?!

I would hate baby club if everyone agreed with each other!!

 

[cherryglitter]

Urgh. Sorry but i am well and truely fed up of 'baby club bashing'. I love this site, it has taught me everything i know about parenting, mostly from debates where you get to see lots of different opinions.
My threads don't always get a lot of responses - i often only need one though to put my mind at ease. I doubt many people even remember user names - i know some people recognise me sometimes, but i think it is because my son has an uncommon name and from one particular debate.

If anyone finds this site 'cliquey' then i suggest you have a look at another and see what cliquey really is. And if you still have a problem with it here, you don't have to log in.

Sorry if any of that sounds harsh but any thread that starts 'i'll probably get slated for this but...' could be seen as deliberately causing debate. The admins and mods on this site dedicate a lot of time to running it, alongside being parents and their jobs,, and don't charge us a penny. It must be horrible for them to see people bashing it so much

Totally agree with you, especially the bolded part.

I don't understand why people are complaining about baby club all the time but still coming in here?!

I would hate baby club if everyone agreed with each other!!

I must admit I have moaned about baby club but I was having a really hormonal shite day and things were just getting to me.

A bit like OP really

 

[suzanne108]

Urgh. Sorry but i am well and truely fed up of 'baby club bashing'. I love this site, it has taught me everything i know about parenting, mostly from debates where you get to see lots of different opinions.
My threads don't always get a lot of responses - i often only need one though to put my mind at ease. I doubt many people even remember user names - i know some people recognise me sometimes, but i think it is because my son has an uncommon name and from one particular debate.

If anyone finds this site 'cliquey' then i suggest you have a look at another and see what cliquey really is. And if you still have a problem with it here, you don't have to log in.

Sorry if any of that sounds harsh but any thread that starts 'i'll probably get slated for this but...' could be seen as deliberately causing debate. The admins and mods on this site dedicate a lot of time to running it, alongside being parents and their jobs,, and don't charge us a penny. It must be horrible for them to see people bashing it so much

Totally agree with you, especially the bolded part.

I don't understand why people are complaining about baby club all the time but still coming in here?!

I would hate baby club if everyone agreed with each other!!

I must admit I have moaned about baby club but I was having a really hormonal shite day and things were just getting to me.

A bit like OP really

Only joking! xx

 

[suzanne108]

Oh, just to add. I made a thread about 20 mins ago and it's already about a quarter of the way down the first page....things really do move fast in here.

Also, I think the debate threads lately are taking up everyones time and they don't get chance to post anything else (thats the case with me anyway, I'm too nosy!)

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Set up a fan club if you like cherryglitter. With any luck it'll inflate his head so much he won't be able to fit through my front door and i won't have to put up with him any more

 

[suzanne108]

Set up a fan club if you like cherryglitter. With any luck it'll inflate his head so much he won't be able to fit through my front door and i won't have to put up with him any more

I'd join

 

[Missy86]

I join that fan club too haha

 

[cherryglitter]

Set up a fan club if you like cherryglitter. With any luck it'll inflate his head so much he won't be able to fit through my front door and i won't have to put up with him any more

LOL. Is he really that bad?!
Is he one of those nice to look at but keep your mouth shut!

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

And I can understand people making that assumption having read this thread through. It does seem like stirring, especially by implying that people are cliquey and therefore less sensitive to others' problems. That reads as there are some here that are self-involved and treat this place as more of a social networking site than somewhere that you can go to get good advice and support on parenting issues.

This site is not like that at all and I think the majority of people do feel they can come here for support but they also recognise that sometimes people are just 'busy' She may not have being particular about the members that she thinks are cliquey but she clearly had some people in mind.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Set up a fan club if you like cherryglitter. With any luck it'll inflate his head so much he won't be able to fit through my front door and i won't have to put up with him any more

LOL. Is he really that bad?!
Is he one of those nice to look at but keep your mouth shut!

Not as bad as he used to be. But i'm his sister, it is my job to be horrible about him

 

[cherryglitter]

Set up a fan club if you like cherryglitter. With any luck it'll inflate his head so much he won't be able to fit through my front door and i won't have to put up with him any more

LOL. Is he really that bad?!
Is he one of those nice to look at but keep your mouth shut!

Not as bad as he used to be. But i'm his sister, it is my job to be horrible about him

I agree with that, I wind my younger brother up no end. He loves it really!

 

[Lara310809]

I'm definitely not part of any cliques on here, but I'm aware that some people have been here for longer so know other members very well, or some members may have their friends IRL on here, and so they chat amongst one another, but I've never noticed anyone ignoring threads. I've had a lot of threads left unanswered, but I honestly believe it's because people either aren't interested to read about it, or they can't help. I'm not the type of person to say "sorry I can't help but didn't want to read and run" As for people writing similar posts and them getting lots of responses, well I can only assume that the title of their post perhaps caught more attention than yours, or that they posted their question at a busier time on B&B.

 

[louandivy]

I think maybe sometimes the same questions come up over and over again and maybe people get bored with repeating themselves?! (Not complaining BTW in a forum constantly bringing in new mothers I'm not surprised that we get similar threads frequently!)

 

[leelee]

Maybe the OP has better things to be doing on a Saturday rather than come on here or maybe she has been scared away by all the negative things that have been written?

 

[redpoppy]

If i post and no one replies I "bump" the thread till someone finally feels sorry enough for me to present me with a response.

 

[Lost_Plot]

I wouldn't dare start a thread in the first place lol

If I have a problem I just wait until someone else asks

 

[SKATERBUN]

^ yes this is what I usually do, I don't like starting threads for the sake of it, I feel lazy if I don't do a search first.

 

[Natnee]

I often do a search and leave it at that.

I have to agree with OP.

And just a thought, is this thread is perhaps becoming cliquey?

 

[PepsiChic]

I think by posting this thread it was asking for trouble, there are plenty of good replys though that might help her if she honestly feels like shes being singled out and ignored.

for example, using txt talk a lot of people dont like to read or find hard to read, it doesnt take a lot of effort to type full words out.

posting a weaning question in the weaning part of the forum is also another good tip given out, not to mention the numerous people who have said "pm me" for help.

bumping your thread by making a new post in it after a few hours if theres no reply. so it goes back on page 1 (because a lot of people dont have time to read past page 1 - i dont!)

also doing a search of this forum might bring up a weaning thread that may anwser some weaning questions she has as well as provide infomatin and tips for weaning she might find useful.

At the end of the day, this is a public forum, used by a lot of people, its sad that she feels the way she does, but i dont think anyone purposely ignored her thread, to accuse of such things rather then ask "why does my thread get no replies" (which probably would of got friendly responses and an anwser to her question), is just going to upset people.