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[suzanne108]

If there is a clique then I have no idea who is in it!!!

If people were complaining of cliques in other parts of the forum I could maybe see where they were coming from but in Baby Club I don't see it at all.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

If there is a clique then I have no idea who is in it!!!

If people were complaining of cliques in other parts of the forum I could maybe see where they were coming from but in Baby Club I don't see it at all.

Exactly this! I have been accused of being in a clique but i have.NO idea who the others are must be me, myself and I

 

[XfairyhopesX]

If i post and no one replies I "bump" the thread till someone finally feels sorry enough for me to present me with a response.

 

[XfairyhopesX]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

most sensible thing ive read so far OP again PM me if you need me lovely xx

 

[NG09]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

Totally agree. Some of the responses on here have been shocking, TBH the poor girl is probably running in the opposite direction of this forum after some of the bitchy replies. I feel that somtimes it wouldn't do some people any harm to remember the old saying of 'if you can't say somethng nice, don't say anything at all!'

 

[leelee]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

Totally agree. Some of the responses on here have been shocking, TBH the poor girl is probably running in the opposite direction of this forum after some of the bitchy replies. I feel that somtimes it wouldn't do some people any harm to remember the old saying of 'if you can't say somethng nice, don't say anything at all!'

Totally agree with this

 

[blinkybaby]

Just an interesting observation - this exact same thread was started by someone else with the same issue in third tri about 3 weeks ago, the OP was worded very similarly...

It actually led to everyone being really friendly and supportive to the OP and even lead to another thread being posted in third tri as a result of that thread titled "introduce yourself so we can all get to know each other better" or something like that.

I don't think it was meant to be offensive at all, as you can see, the first few subsequent posts on this thread were from girls who did feel a similar way, but then the posts started turning less supportive and those girls who maybe do feel like that are discouraged from posting now!

If people do feel like that, I would say it's not down to "clicks", but more down to the sheer size of this forum - it's the biggest one I've ever seen with the most members, and sometimes people might feel like little fish in a big pond here! Posts do go unread due to the sheer amount of posts being posted and the speed at which they drop off the bottom of the page.

I have to say, I was one of those girls who felt similar to the OP until that particular thread in 3rd tri, then I realized it was down to the issues above and I feel better now. But I didn't stop feeling this way because people were telling the OP she was being insulting and also insulting her grammar and spelling (which is perfectly readable anyway), it was because people recognized what it was like to be a new poster here in such a massive forum and came out with supportive words.

Apologies for posting here when I don't actually have a baby yet - I just like to read to get clued up but felt the need to reply to this particular post. xxx

 

[ChuggaBump]

i kinda know what you mean but personally i dont look at who's asked the question, i just offer advice if i can!

 

[Fraggles]

I haven't read all this thread just the OP so i'll answer that.

I have noticed some sections move fast and it's easy to miss some posts, especially if you are looking at the forum using post spy or today's post (under quick links)

Also it's only natural to click on links of friends etc to see whtas happening which is why I think some threads get more replies.

Finally I think if a thread is in the wrong section it's liking to get lost in the mist of other threads so it works best to try pop threads in appropriate locations.

I'd hate for anyone to think people are being ignored as the forum holds a wealth of info that help so many people and if you think a thread as been missed it's worth giving it a bump at a busier time.

I know I often go to post and end up distracted after reading a thread as my little one needs me and so I forget to submit a reply

Everywhere gets the odd clique or people who might not be your cup of tea its just everyday life really so best to just try to participate. I really hope you can see more positives here as it's all the mummy's info and support that makes this place so nice to be in.

 

[XfairyhopesX]

yes and prob most folk dont tbh but she asked a question - the point now is the disgusting way this thread has gone - no wonder OP hasnt come back, and i now know where this will go - if you dont like whats being said "etc etc" and why should we chuck fairy dust on things so we dont hurt feelings... come on all aboard... i should be a phsycic.

 

[blinkybaby]

And the OP was not accusing anyone in particular of being in a "click", she didn't single anyone out so there's no need for anyone to feel offended or victimised?

 

[louisejoe]

Well I personally just reply to things that I think I can help with, or also need to know about. I would say that you get the same group of people being overpowering and argumentative in ther replies, but I can't really say I've noticed people replying in cliques.

You may be having a down day and feeling like everything is getting on top of you (which we all do at times) but I hope you begin to feel better about the forum as it can really help you/me out at times. If I can help with anything I will. xx

 

[Fraggles]

yes and prob most folk dont tbh but she asked a question - the point now is the disgusting way this thread has gone - no wonder OP hasnt come back, and i now know where this will go - if you dont like whats being said "etc etc" and why should we chuck fairy dust on things so we dont hurt feelings... come on all aboard... i should be a phsycic.

I know my post was purely things ive noticed that can make threads seem ignored so some tips on what I do to get threads noticed. No one should feel they aren't welcome and im sure the majority of people really do want to offer help and advise.

I dont think its fair for the OP to be slated as we all have feelings and it doesnt matter if we are being sensitive or having a bad day all feelings are justified.
I know personally I commented in this thread to say I understand why some threads are missed or it can seem they are ignored.

I think we all can forget there are feelings at the end of each of these screens and mix into that pregnancy hormones, being tired from lack of sleep and worries over baby issues I think we all can get frayed nerves sometimes.

to all

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

Totally agree. Some of the responses on here have been shocking, TBH the poor girl is probably running in the opposite direction of this forum after some of the bitchy replies. I feel that somtimes it wouldn't do some people any harm to remember the old saying of 'if you can't say somethng nice, don't say anything at all!'

Shocking? Really I think people need to stop being so sensitive and I think the most 'bitchy' thing about this thread was the accusation in the first place that there is a clique here. This thread should never have been started in the manner it was from the start and I think people will get defensive of the site because it seems the OP hasn't not returned to this thread because of the apparently' shocking' comments, but more the fact that she's fanned the flames and is now sitting back and watching it burn.

 

[leelee]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

Totally agree. Some of the responses on here have been shocking, TBH the poor girl is probably running in the opposite direction of this forum after some of the bitchy replies. I feel that somtimes it wouldn't do some people any harm to remember the old saying of 'if you can't say somethng nice, don't say anything at all!'

Shocking? Really I think people need to stop being so sensitive and I think the most 'bitchy' thing about this thread was the accusation in the first place that there is a clique here. This thread should never have been started in the manner it was from the start and I think people will get defensive of the site because it seems the OP hasn't not returned to this thread because of the apparently' shocking' comments, but more the fact that she's fanned the flames and is now sitting back and watching it burn.

I don't agree there is a clique but some of the replies were horrible. It is downright nasty to criticise someone's grammar. And it doesn't matter if she doesn't come back, other people have come forward and said they don't like posting on here so surely as a group we should be looking at how we can be more welcoming and inclusive instead of telling people not to be so sensitive.

 

[XfairyhopesX]

as a group we should be looking at how we can be more welcoming and inclusive instead of telling people not to be so sensitive.

 

[blinkybaby]

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-third-trimester/447221-like-school-ground-times.html

This is the thread I was talking about earlier. An example of how a thread like this can be a positive thing. It lead to another thread where we all introduced ourselves and said a bit about our pregnancies so that all users felt more comfortable.xxx

 

[NG09]

So much for this forum being supportive. From what I have read from some of the responses (ETA to this thread), she isn't getting much support at all. Perhaps she is exaggerating and being too sensitive, but so what? She cared enough to post and lots of the points made may have done nothing but confirm her worries.

to the OP. x

It's not an issue of being supportive, this thread just comes down to a little immaturity and petulance to be frank The general consesus is that the members here are supportive but at the end of the day we are all parents and it's a bit silly to expect every single thread you start to get the response you think it deserves.

People have different priorities and busy lives to lead, so therefore not enough time to always answer a thread, stamping your feet and slating the site and other members is just rude really

She posted a thread stating her concerns and worries, and so far it has been implied that she is a liar, exaggerating, stirring, and of being too sensitive and has been told that her grammar and spelling is bad. I'm not referring to people who haven't responded to her previous threads because they have been busy or have to advice to give, I'm referring to people who have responded to this thread in a less supportive way.

She is not slating any particular members at all! She is stating that she doesnt feel she gets support. And I can totally understand that.

Totally agree. Some of the responses on here have been shocking, TBH the poor girl is probably running in the opposite direction of this forum after some of the bitchy replies. I feel that somtimes it wouldn't do some people any harm to remember the old saying of 'if you can't say somethng nice, don't say anything at all!'

Shocking? Really I think people need to stop being so sensitive and I think the most 'bitchy' thing about this thread was the accusation in the first place that there is a clique here. This thread should never have been started in the manner it was from the start and I think people will get defensive of the site because it seems the OP hasn't not returned to this thread because of the apparently' shocking' comments, but more the fact that she's fanned the flames and is now sitting back and watching it burn.

Maybe not shocking to you, but they are to me. I don't tend to associate with people who talk to others like crap so maybe that's why I found some of the comments a bit off....... or maybe I'm just to 'sensitive'?????

 

[PepsiChic]

https://www.babyandbump.com/baby-club/461879-introduction-thread-say-hi.html

 

[lizzieredrup]

When i first started coming onto forums I also felt like the OP, I did a few threads, would only get 1 or 2 replies and feel like nobody liked me! LOL

BUT after a while I realised that definitely wasn't the case, its usually either because its the wrong time of day, forum is busy or just nobody has any advice on my subject. Even though I did feel like that at the beginning I don't think there is any chance in the world I would start a thread like this. I don't see how its going to help the situation.

I hope the OP is going to come back I totally understand the feeling but would like her to know that it is definitely nothing personal