My wife and I are expecting a baby. After visiting the doctor and getting the tests positive, she is not very happy. It is not that she is unhappy with the relationship but she keeps telling me that she is not ready. She is now telling me that she needs 2 more years of alone time with me. I am extremely confused; she was the one who wanted to have a baby in the first place. I am in mid 30s and she in 30. I feel this is the right time for us biologically but I don't want to be in a situation to force it on her. Our doctor recommended thinking and writing down a plan for next two years if we decide to abort the baby. She also told us not to regret our decision but to think about what we want in life.
I feel very sad and uneasy at this decision. On one hand, I want to have the baby but I don't want to pressurize my wife as I care about her well being. Just today we visited the doctor for the second time and could hear the baby's heartbeat. I was very happy but my wife told me that she couldn't feel the connection. It causes me lot of pain to hear that. My wife has also complicated things by informing everyone in her family. They have been calling us and congratulating us.
I know we cannot delay this decision for too long as it might jeopardize my wife's health. I am in a terrible state of mind and I don't know what to do.
I feel very sad and uneasy at this decision. On one hand, I want to have the baby but I don't want to pressurize my wife as I care about her well being. Just today we visited the doctor for the second time and could hear the baby's heartbeat. I was very happy but my wife told me that she couldn't feel the connection. It causes me lot of pain to hear that. My wife has also complicated things by informing everyone in her family. They have been calling us and congratulating us.
I know we cannot delay this decision for too long as it might jeopardize my wife's health. I am in a terrible state of mind and I don't know what to do.