plus size and pregnant !
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Congratulations! Happy "V" day as well! 
lovelymiss
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Congrats on a boy!
How is everyone doing? We had our anomaly scan on the 21st. He's still a boy! Everything looks good, but they couldn't get his heart. He was stubborn, laying on his belly. We go back later this month.
I am looking into a birthing center but the receptionist could not tell me if obesity was considered an "at risk" factor or not. They'll only deliver for "low risk" women. I know every center is different, usually depending on law and policy. Going to an open house in a couple of weeks. Any of you ladies have experience? My BMI is morbidly obese so I'm not hopeful, but we'll see. Everything else has been great. Perfect blood pressure and no weight gain!
I feel like my bump finally rounded out, too!! Taken a few days ago at 20+5.
How is everyone doing? We had our anomaly scan on the 21st. He's still a boy! Everything looks good, but they couldn't get his heart. He was stubborn, laying on his belly. We go back later this month.
I am looking into a birthing center but the receptionist could not tell me if obesity was considered an "at risk" factor or not. They'll only deliver for "low risk" women. I know every center is different, usually depending on law and policy. Going to an open house in a couple of weeks. Any of you ladies have experience? My BMI is morbidly obese so I'm not hopeful, but we'll see. Everything else has been great. Perfect blood pressure and no weight gain!
I feel like my bump finally rounded out, too!! Taken a few days ago at 20+5.
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Just wanted to say you're looking beautiful, I can't wait to have a bump, yours is so cutey! And I'm really hoping to look into alternative birth options too if my BMI turns out to be my only complication by the end, but I have no experience to share with you as of yet, I'm very early All I can say is push for what you want, it's the womans choice. xx
All I can say is push for what you want, it's the womans choice. xx
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Bump looking great!
I guess bmi is an issue depending on location. For all 5 of my pregnancies that has never been measured, I know mine is 40 + but they have never made my weight a problem. In fact I don't even gain that much weight during pregnancy, and I usually weigh less after giving birth than pre pregnancy and I eat WHATEVER I want. Go figure!
I guess bmi is an issue depending on location. For all 5 of my pregnancies that has never been measured, I know mine is 40 + but they have never made my weight a problem. In fact I don't even gain that much weight during pregnancy, and I usually weigh less after giving birth than pre pregnancy and I eat WHATEVER I want. Go figure!
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Thanks, ladies! I am lovin' the bump.
My BMI is about 50. Insane. Higher than it's ever been. My OB doesn't seem to have an issue with my weight (she never even calculated my BMI) and is purely focused on my blood pressure and weight gain, like with any patient. Still, many birth centers won't let obese women give birth because they feel it is "high risk" so they need to be monitored in a hospital. I know many of my friends in other states have been shot down simply due to their BMI. The center is not opening until later this month, so the receptionist did not know their policies. I am hoping to find out at the open house in a few weeks. I also have an individual consultation set up for the end of this month.
My BMI is about 50. Insane. Higher than it's ever been. My OB doesn't seem to have an issue with my weight (she never even calculated my BMI) and is purely focused on my blood pressure and weight gain, like with any patient. Still, many birth centers won't let obese women give birth because they feel it is "high risk" so they need to be monitored in a hospital. I know many of my friends in other states have been shot down simply due to their BMI. The center is not opening until later this month, so the receptionist did not know their policies. I am hoping to find out at the open house in a few weeks. I also have an individual consultation set up for the end of this month.
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Great bump! My OB never calculated my BMI either and has not even said I'm high risk and I'm 42 and overweight. I hope you're able to go where you would like!
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You look great Donna! I haven't taken a pic in 3 weeks. . .need to get on that. 26 weeks today for me. Whew!
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Donna your bump is so defined! Love it.
Anyway, it's a no-go at the birthing center. My BMI puts me automatically "at risk." Boo.
Anyway, it's a no-go at the birthing center. My BMI puts me automatically "at risk." Boo.
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HUGS LovelyM! I'm sorry you can't do the birthing center!
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Hey ladies!! This is my first time posting here!
Just wondering about your weight gain during your pregnancy..
I was worried that since I am already considered obese.. BMI of 39. That I would put the pounds like crazy! However I haven't.... My 2nd appointment, I had lost 7 lbs.. then the 3rd appointment I gained .8 of a lb back.. I just had another appointment yesterday and was told I lost another pound!
I mean I don't get much to gain anyways, just worried I should be gaining something! I don't watch what I eat or anything.. Just found it interesting..
How has weight gain been for you ladies?
Just wondering about your weight gain during your pregnancy..
I was worried that since I am already considered obese.. BMI of 39. That I would put the pounds like crazy! However I haven't.... My 2nd appointment, I had lost 7 lbs.. then the 3rd appointment I gained .8 of a lb back.. I just had another appointment yesterday and was told I lost another pound!
I mean I don't get much to gain anyways, just worried I should be gaining something! I don't watch what I eat or anything.. Just found it interesting..
How has weight gain been for you ladies?
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I don't think mine is caused by my bmi because my Mom and Grandmother both lost weight while pregnant and the were not overweight. But I have lost 13 lbs so far and with my son I lost a total of 80 lbs by the time he was born. If your doctor isn't worried don't worry about it. Some women just lose while pregnant. Maybe our bodies go into overdrive. 
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My BMI is significantly high (50), and I've broke even. I lost weight the first trimester and I'm right around my prepregnancy weight now at 21 weeks. My doctor is happy about that and would not have been concerned if I continued to lose. As long as you are eating regularly, drinking water, getting your vitamins in... you and baby are probably fine! Don't worry too much at all hun. Congrats on the pregnancy! Enjoy it. 
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I'm not exactly sure what my BMI is but I started at 216 (I'm 5'7"), I lost about 8 lbs, gained that back and now I'm around 220 or so. It's been nearly a month since I've been weighed though. I go in on Monday so we'll see. According to my doctors office I had gained 8-9 lbs by 23 weeks and they said I was fine.
Did a bump yesterday. . .sorry for the "angry" look?! I was probably concentrating on hiding my double chin with the right angle. I hate pictures! 26 weeks even. . .
Did a bump yesterday. . .sorry for the "angry" look?! I was probably concentrating on hiding my double chin with the right angle. I hate pictures! 26 weeks even. . .
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I've been trying *very* hard not to care and I not only don't own a scale (they all went with my attempt to overcome disordered eating habits), but I ignore the scales at the monthly appointments. But, it's hard not to care when your doctor tells you that at the rate you're going, you'll be too fat to deliver any way but C-section, "because that's the only way overweight women like yourself can deliver". Also that "heavy women like you just tend to be uncomfortable post-partum". Crap like that kicks up those old voices that whisper at you to stop eating, your body can take care of the baby like it's meant to, just don't eat. My hubby actually got pretty mad at the doctor (since he's been a major factor in helping me with my eating problems) and he's been keen to the fact that I've spent my days since the appointment fat-shaming myself and self-hating (almost to the point of resurrecting self-injurious behavior) because the doctor said the words I've been happily ignoring for almost six months now. My hubby loves me for far more than my dress size (and thank God he loves more weight on my bones than less), has thoroughly enjoyed watching our son grow, and keeps telling me I'm beautiful no matter what. I trust him, but sometimes it's nice to hear a stranger echo the sentiment that you're beautiful no matter what.
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Hun, I would not see that doctor again if that is possible. There is no call what-so-ever for a medical professional to make a pregnant woman feel that way. Especially since you already struggle with self-image and eating issues.
Besides that rant, I will tell you that you are beautiful and special exactly the way you are. We should not be made to feel bad just because we don't all fit into a mold of the "average" size. Your husband is the person who knows and loves you just as you are so his opinion should overrate any "doctor" who can't see past his BMI chart to realize not everyone is built the same. You are unique, your body is unique and you are bringing a special, unique, wonderful child into the world.
Blessed be.
