PND Support Thread

[ALY]

Hello girls
sorry i ant been in here much but i thought i was getting better x
But iv had a really bad 3 days and i dont no what to do it just seems like im going downhill again all iv done is shout at karl and he doesnt really deserve it and im also feeling very low all i want to do is
Please tell me that this is normal

Hope your all ok

 

[moomin_troll]

i cant tell u if its normal but even if we didnt have pnd wed still need to let off steam n we all have a shout and a scream when we dont need to.

hope u feel better soon x

 

[kmh2009]

aww sorry to hear that hun. one step forward 2 steps back isnt it? its ok to have bad days sometimes. and eventually those bad days will get fewer and farther between. hang on in there. here if you need to talk.
xx

 

[ALY]

I no im going to have bad days but iv been feeling like this for 3 days and im getting worse

 

[moomin_troll]

i had afew good days then all a sudden the next i was screamin at my oh tellin him to get the f out cuz i was kickin him out.

when i have bad days i go over board haha but i try n laugh it off no point drivin myself crazy feel like crap about a bad day when i dont need to feel any worse

 

[ALY]

I hope i can start to feel more like myself soon and it is just a bad few days x
I have had a lot of strees so hopefully soon that will start to clear and i can start to feel like im back on track
sorry for moaning

 

[danni2609]

Hi i think i may be suffering too...although i dont want to admit it...im sat here crying again for the 100th time today im seeing my HV tomorrow

 

[elm]

Hi i think i may be suffering too...although i dont want to admit it...im sat here crying again for the 100th time today im seeing my HV tomorrow

Oh Danni, so sorry you're here too , did you make a special appointment with your hv to talk about it? Do you know what you're going to say? pm me if you want to xxx

 

[elm]

Aly and Moomin_Troll and everyone else who needs them xxx

 

[Shifter]

Aly. I'm the same hun, the last few days have been incredibly hard for me too. I've been crying a lot and getting very snippy with DH. I've been obsessing about Jack's arrival and going over and over it again. I keep telling myself I'm doing so because of going over my notes with an IM soon, but I'm getting upset about it and really angry with myself and the MWs. Last night I got really angry with DH too. I went to bed alone and broke down, asking myself why nobody helped me or stood up for me. DH and my mum both sat there at the hospital and let me get doped out on entonox. They didn't take it off me or try to get me up and active, when they knew I wanted an active birth. God I'm crying again now! I know that they were sick with worry for me and Jack at the time, I'm sure they wanted to help but didn't know what to do so I mustn't be angry with them. I just wish I could go back in time and do it again and correct the mistakes I made.

 

[ALY]

Holly im sorry your feeling like this again
it wasnt you who made the mistakes it was the MW x

I hope you get the answers you want hun and remember im here if you need to let it all out

Danni am sorry your having to go through this aswell hun were all here whaen ever you need us

 

[danni2609]

Just had my HV round did the test with me scored 22 apparently and i have to book an appointment to speak to my GP. She thinks alot of it is to do with Kaitlin and how she misbehaves aswell as money problems. And the lack of sleep due to Kaitlin again!

 

[elm]

Aly. I'm the same hun, the last few days have been incredibly hard for me too. I've been crying a lot and getting very snippy with DH. I've been obsessing about Jack's arrival and going over and over it again. I keep telling myself I'm doing so because of going over my notes with an IM soon, but I'm getting upset about it and really angry with myself and the MWs. Last night I got really angry with DH too. I went to bed alone and broke down, asking myself why nobody helped me or stood up for me. DH and my mum both sat there at the hospital and let me get doped out on entonox. They didn't take it off me or try to get me up and active, when they knew I wanted an active birth. God I'm crying again now! I know that they were sick with worry for me and Jack at the time, I'm sure they wanted to help but didn't know what to do so I mustn't be angry with them. I just wish I could go back in time and do it again and correct the mistakes I made.

I feel exactly the same way,except my mum was sent away from the hospital by DP because I'd only wanted him there. I hate how they didn't try and stop the pain in any way other than filling me with drugs! I was in no state to be making rational decisions and just wish that someone would have at least tried something! I didn't know what was going on - I didn't even realise that the room I was in was where we were staying! GRRRRRRRRR! Getting upset and angry now. The mw was hardly even there - a bit of help to calm down and for her to explain things would have made so much difference I'm sure.

I get angry with DP too especially when I remember him not doing anything and not being more forceful with me... At least if they'd have tried something else I would know now that I needed the drugs? Something I'm really scared to ask is why they didn't give me entonox before pethadine because if there's no reason for it I'm going to be so much more upset about it all, haven't shared that bit before and I'm crying too now. xxx

Sorry, got a bit carried away there. everyone.

Hope you're doctor is helpful Danni xxx

 

[elm]

So glad no one has replied to my post. I don't think I'm ready for an answer to my entonox / pethadine question yet. I'll get there eventually I just need time and to deal with it in therapy sessions I think xxx

 

[kmh2009]

So glad no one has replied to my post. I don't think I'm ready for an answer to my entonox / pethadine question yet. I'll get there eventually I just need time and to deal with it in therapy sessions I think xxx

elm, what time of day was your labour and how far into did you get given pethadine

 

[Shifter]

Oh elm, big for you. In the normal scale of pain relief entonox would come before pethidine, but not everyone takes that route and there may have been a reason to miss out the entonox with you. I hadn't wanted to use it as I don't like feeling drunk or sick and I knew that was what it did. I really waited as long as I could to use it, I probably would have managed fine if I'd stayed in the pool. The pain got worse when we started the transfer, classic fear-tension-pain syndrome

I had a chat with Andy and told him how I was feeling and he apologised for not being my advocate. He said that having gone through what we did he thinks he'll be better at it next time but hopes he won't need to be!

As we'll be hiring an IM or doula then if an advocate is needed for any reason the hired help will be there to do it. That's the great thing, even if you have to transfer you're not wasting money having an IM as they can come with you to hospital and be your advocate even though they can no longer give you MW care for insurance reasons.

 

[kmh2009]

i got offered pethadine before gas and air because it was night time and pethadine is more likely to help you rest in the earlier stages, saving energy for when its needed. didnt get gas and air until 8 hours into it.

 

[moomin_troll]

i was sleeping just using gas and air lol i was off my head haha.

didnt really do anything else for me tho lol

 

[saraendepity]

hi ladies mind if i join you??? just been dignosed 'properly' today

sara

xxxxxx

 

[Shifter]

sara