PND Support Thread

[Shifter]

Fed up again tonight. How's everyone else?

 

[dizzyspells]

Sorry for posting in here not been diagnosed and its prob more baby blues than anything else but feeling so down in the dumps today!First day on my own with LO and my daughter who is 5 as its hols and hubby at work.I just felt like could not cope!!Was getting mad at my daughter for no reason really and just wanted to cry all day.The relief when hubby came home and could get in a hot shower!!Just had a small go at OH for no reason and again sat here in tears trying to settle LO.Feel like such a failure that I am a tearful wreck after one day with both children.

 

[moomin_troll]

Sorry for posting in here not been diagnosed and its prob more baby blues than anything else but feeling so down in the dumps today!First day on my own with LO and my daughter who is 5 as its hols and hubby at work.I just felt like could not cope!!Was getting mad at my daughter for no reason really and just wanted to cry all day.The relief when hubby came home and could get in a hot shower!!Just had a small go at OH for no reason and again sat here in tears trying to settle LO.Feel like such a failure that I am a tearful wreck after one day with both children.

dont feel like a failure having a baby is difficult enough nevermind having to cope with 2 children for the first time no wonder u felt awful.

its nice that ur oh took over and u got to have a shower, does he take the kids off u everynight for atleast an hour? if he doesnt then maybe ask him to so then u get u time and it will help alot.

a tip i got off my mum is if the kids are playing up or ur just feeling really shit stick them in a pram/buggy and go for a walk listening to ur ipod/mp3 and just keep walkin till u feel better or have a scream.

i no having a scream has helped me

 

[danni2609]

felt really down all week...today im feeling a bit better, anyone hate OH going to work in the morning? I feel awful cant drag myself out of bed and i try and get him to stay at home with me as i dread the day ahead but obviously he has to go i feel like such a nuisance to him

 

[kmh2009]

aww hugs danni

i had a horrible night. OH was being really nasty to me and kept winding me up watching me get more and more upset!! ended up crying myself to sleep.

 

[moomin_troll]

i dont like oh going to work either especialy when i had a bad night or the day before didnt go well but my oh cant even call in sick as hes in the army.

im not too bad today altho zanes started to moan cuz hes tired but wont sleep so hes in his cot now crying and i came on here.

 

[moomin_troll]

aww hugs danni

i had a horrible night. OH was being really nasty to me and kept winding me up watching me get more and more upset!! ended up crying myself to sleep.

what a dick. what the hell was his problem.

hope ur ok today x

 

[stephwiggy]

Hi ladies - i hope you dont mind me posting here - my son is 4 in setpember.

He wes born 6 spetember 2005, and it wasnt till the November that i "admitted" that i wasnt coping to well, it came to head when I called my neighbour and said "deal with him or he will be put in the garden and i am locking the door" (not to sure i meant this but she got the message) - within minues she was at mine and i was crying ! The health visitor arrived withing 20 mins and my hubby was home within the hour.

I had just watched ferm Brittain on this Morning tellin go her story abou PND and it helped me sooo much !

I was put on tablets and cried it out for 2 weeks .... but, by March ish i was 100% back to myslef and wow the difference was amazing

I just wanted to post this to say that you can get better and that you need to speak about it as soon you can - but it really does help.

Hugs to everyone

 

[kmh2009]

aww hugs danni

i had a horrible night. OH was being really nasty to me and kept winding me up watching me get more and more upset!! ended up crying myself to sleep.

what a dick. what the hell was his problem.

hope ur ok today x

i dont know what his problem was. just feel really shitty today now. hv isnt coming again until monday. kinda wish she would ring today just to see how i am

 

[moomin_troll]

aww hugs danni

i had a horrible night. OH was being really nasty to me and kept winding me up watching me get more and more upset!! ended up crying myself to sleep.

what a dick. what the hell was his problem.

hope ur ok today x

i dont know what his problem was. just feel really shitty today now. hv isnt coming again until monday. kinda wish she would ring today just to see how i am

call her up thats what shes there for u dont have to wait till ur appointment.

does ur oh understand how ur feeling and what pnd actualy is?

my oh wasnt supportive till i blew up in his face screaming at him how he was makin me feel n how i was already feeling n i said id leave with zane if he didnt pull his finger out of his fucking arse.

he still has times where he pisses me off but he knows not to push me cuz with muy depression i will blow n he wont like it

 

[Shifter]

dizzyspells - it must be hard adjusting to life with a newborn and a five year old. It may just have been because it was your first day on your own and it gets better every day, but if it doesn't then we are all here for you and you may want to tell your HV how you're feeling.

kmh - your OH sounds like a plonker. Do you think you can tell him about how you're feeling? Hopefully then he will realise how inappropriate his behaviour was.

steph - thank you for posting your story. It does help to know that others have come through this and that we can too.

 

[saraendepity]

dizzy - i felt/feel the same and i only have 1 to cope with! i'm sure it'll all get easier eventually, i've fpund that giving myself little goals really helps - sounds cheesy but something small like managing to go to the shop along the road for a bottle of milk on your own or something along those lines really makes you fell a little better ?

 

[snettyb]

I haven't posted here for a little while and i'm sorry to hear that you's are having a tough time

Aly- i hope your bad spell has passed and your back to feeling better

Elm- just wanna give you hugs

KMH- my OH used to be a nob at times but now he knows how serious things are after my breakdown last month. I hope he learns to tred carefully xx

Shifter- the way your little boy arrived is not a reflection on you. I followed your story and i know what your wishes were. When a medical profesional says that you need to do something, you kinda just take it as gospel and do it. I hope you get the answers your looking for and you can move forward. Its not your fault hun x

I had my appointment with the psychologist yesterday and he doesn't think i have PND as such, he says i am very troubled and have been for many years (even as a child) He says i have traits of BiPolar, not sure what that is and i don't fancy Googling it either. He wants me to have intensive psychotherapy. I need to see a shrink every week (maybe twice a week!!) and he says this could go on for months. The way he described it is that in my head is full of tangled yarn and during my sessions we will untagle it all all learn to understand things, therefore move on and recover. He said anti depressants are like pain killers, they treat the pain but not the cause of pain iykwim and the sessions will treat the cause.

I feel positive about it but i know it will be a long road. Hope u guys don't think i'm a nutter now xx
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[ALY]

Snetty my bad spel is more or less over all i feel now is paronoid but im not shouting at karl so thats a good thing

How is everyone

Snetty if you need me to talk to anyone then just pm me xxxx

 

[Shifter]

Thanks for saying that snetty, it means a lot because I suspect you didn't exactly think highly of my birth preferences lol!

Bi polar is perfectly manageable hun, I'm only familiar with it from fiction, but it seems like a supportive family makes it easy to deal with. I hope you find the psychotherapy sessions useful

 

[dizzyspells]

Thanks you guys for your supportive words it really means lot!I am so lucky my OH is fantastic and really is my rock,he does his fair share with the children and if he can he will always let me get my head down or just take a bit of time out.I feel a bit better today and felt like I have managed the day even though I had fright when Finnlay started choking on his milk!!I see the HV on tuesday so will mention how I have been feeling,sure its just the baby blues but I am carefull as I had a traumatic birth with Mia and we waited nearly 5 yrs before we decided to try for another and even then I was so scared through the entire pregnancy about the birth.I ended up being induced this time so again my natural birth went out the window but his heart rate was erratic so they wanted to get him out.But I do have to say that it was actually a positive experiance and feel ok about it all so I think that has had a huge bearing on my emotions if that makes sense?!.Thank you again girls!

 

[snettyb]

Thanks for saying that snetty, it means a lot because I suspect you didn't exactly think highly of my birth preferences lol!

its not that i didn't think highly of your preferences, i just didn't understand them. the birth of DS1 was long and very painful and i wondered why anyone would want to put themselves through that with no pain relief especially if they had had no children in the past. with nothing to compair it to i guess i found the hypnobirthing thing a bit cock sure iykwim. After having jake with only a bath and a few puffs of gas and air as releif i now understand it can be done and if i had been familiar with relaxation tecniques it may have been even more exhillerating. (i did plan on having an epi but he was waiting for no one)

You weren't cock sure, you just beleived in something and your own ability. There are too many interventions these days and i hope that in your research you find out that you could have done it your way if medics hadn't have stepped in, i'm sure this is the case.

I might not agree with everything you say (we have had run ins in the past ) but i am with you on this one!! xx

 

[moomin_troll]

not everyone uses pain relief while giving birth.

with my son (my first and only child) i tried gas and air but just used the mout piece to bite down on and i got thru it just fine, i was induced and zane was back to back so all things ive been told make labour more painful.

i just dont see the point in diving straight in and having a epi if uve never had a baby before so u have no idea how its going to feel or how well u will take the pain.

if i have another i wont be using pain relief and i want my water birth this time lol

i havent read much about hypnobirthing so i cant say i understand it but anything that helps relax and keep u calm during childbirth i think is a great thing to do.

ive learnt what i will need to do if i have another is to try n keep active (i was not allowed to move) breath and just try to relax

 

[Connah'sMommy]

Hi every1,my LO is only 6 days old and i know its common to get the 'baby blues'

But since the 3rd day i have cried and cried and i am terrified that i will end up depressed.

I lost my grandad the day after Connah was born aswel and this cant be helping...

To explain my feelings....

I cry most of the day...usually set off when i have fed Connah and he is sick...when i burp him somethimes he will fetch up quite a bit of milk(doesnt do this all the time tho)
I will feel guilty as though iv done it to him and then the floodgates open.

I constantly feel like something bad is going to happen to him...
e.g we needed to go to asda for a few bits so OH put him in his car seat(rear facing) and strapped him in....i was so paranoid i had to sit in the back and i was on edge and almost in tears all the way there and back....

Also i have gone right off my food...its not that i dont want to eat or that im not hungry...bcos i am.
I just cant seem to bring myself to eat!

Made a sarni erlier and sat looking at it for an hour and just couldnt put it in my mouth.


Sorry for the long post but i really dont want to be ill.

I hope this is just the baby blues and that it will go away soon...
what do you guys think?
If any1 has any advice for me that would be great
thanks in advance xxx

 

[jolyn]

Hey everyone, ain't been on here for a while cos I been feeling so down. MY HV says I have PND and wants me to go to docs, but I have been putting it off. No one in my personal life knows what I am feeling and I really don't know what to say to them, especially DH. In my mind I think if I go to docs I have to admit it to everyone and I just don't know how to do it

I'm so down at the mo and can't bring myself out of it. Everyone around me is too busy with their own lives to notice or care about what I'm going through, I just don't know where to turn.

My HV is ringing me on Monday to see if I have been to see the doc, but I know on Monday morning I just won't be able to make the appointment

Has anyone kept this a secret or have any experience of being scared to admit what is wrong?