PND Support Thread

[ALY]

i think it would be nice u update us with how well ur doing it gives others hope and plus im sure we will all be happy for u getting better x

Do you really think so i just didnt want everyone to think i was getting better and them thinking well do i really need to no that when im feeling so bad

 

[moomin_troll]

i think it would be nice u update us with how well ur doing it gives others hope and plus im sure we will all be happy for u getting better x

Do you really think so i just didnt want everyone to think i was getting better and them thinking well do i really need to no that when im feeling so bad

i cant say id feel like that, its good for me to no that this wont last forever n that i will get better and i think that would help others. its like a good birth story v a horror story i no what id sooner read lol

i cant wait to get back to myself again if i ever will

 

[ALY]

Hun you will get back to yourself it just takes time
and it happened to me out of nowhere i mean i knew i was getting better but it just all seemed a lot clearer one day if that make sence

Im not sayin im better altogether but im def having less bad days and when i do have bad days i seem a lot more incontrol of the situation

It did take me a long time tho 2 years on and off

 

[moomin_troll]

my oh has noticed that i seem better but still no where near what i used to be im not expecting a miracle or a quick fix. i think its great ur getting better and i think it would be better for us all to hear about our good days and uplifting posts i think it will all help us even if it just makes us smile for 2 mins thats better then nothing x

 

[ALY]

Hun its great you are feeling a bit better
I do think if we post one good thing we have done and the others say how pleased they are of us it will help lift peoples moods and just make us more aware of how well we are doing xxx

Hoped that made sence

 

[Shifter]

to all that need them.

I took Jack to clinic for the first time today, he hadn't been weighed since the HV last came to me when he was 10 weeks. It was the other HV (of a team of 2) doing clinic today, who I just met once while pregnant. So inevitably she asked about the birth and I told her and didn't start crying! In fact, I was very together about it. My mum had come with me and so we ended up talking about it on the walk home and I still kept it together just fine. So that's progress. Also, I got a letter from the hospital today advising that my notes have been prepared and will be sent once they receive money for the photocopying and postage

(For those who don't know: I had planned a home birth but had a transfer and c/s with poor recovery. I am getting my hospital notes to go through with an independent MW to see if the c/s was necessary or not.)

 

[ALY]

Holly that is great hun

 

[kmh2009]

felt pretty good today until about 2 hours ago and just feel awful. it is so hard being here some days. sometimes i think wouldnt mind it if i went to sleep and never woke up

 

[moomin_troll]

felt pretty good today until about 2 hours ago and just feel awful. it is so hard being here some days. sometimes i think wouldnt mind it if i went to sleep and never woke up

things wil get better u wont always feel this bad, and we r always here when u need a good scream x

 

[JayleighAnn]

to all that need them.

I took Jack to clinic for the first time today, he hadn't been weighed since the HV last came to me when he was 10 weeks. It was the other HV (of a team of 2) doing clinic today, who I just met once while pregnant. So inevitably she asked about the birth and I told her and didn't start crying! In fact, I was very together about it. My mum had come with me and so we ended up talking about it on the walk home and I still kept it together just fine. So that's progress. Also, I got a letter from the hospital today advising that my notes have been prepared and will be sent once they receive money for the photocopying and postage

(For those who don't know: I had planned a home birth but had a transfer and c/s with poor recovery. I am getting my hospital notes to go through with an independent MW to see if the c/s was necessary or not.)

Shifter, how did u get the notes? When I emailed Beverley at AIMS she told me but dip shit here deleted the email and didn't realise before my deleted box cleared itself

 

[Shifter]

I wrote to the hospital requesting copies, addressed it to the maternity unit and they forwarded it to an administrator who has been corresponding with me since. They charge a fee, my hospital charge £10 to find the file then 30p per page of photocopying and £1 postage. It's extortion if you ask me, but if it gets me what I want I'll put up with it.

 

[JayleighAnn]

I wrote to the hospital requesting copies, addressed it to the maternity unit and they forwarded it to an administrator who has been corresponding with me since. They charge a fee, my hospital charge £10 to find the file then 30p per page of photocopying and £1 postage. It's extortion if you ask me, but if it gets me what I want I'll put up with it.

£10 to find the file? is it made of gold or something??

Beverley said I should look at mine if I want to complain about my homebirth going up the spout.

I'll write to mine and see what they charge, bloody ridiculous!!

 

[Shifter]

Something I only thought of after I had put in writing that I was willing to pay for copies and postage (when I had already paid the £10 search fee) is that under the Data Protection Act an organisation is only able to charge a maximum fee of £10 for a Subject Access Request (don't ask how I know this, v long story!). Now it may be that the hospital get around this by charging for "copies" and "postage" above and beyond the SAR, but I'm not sure if that is a valid loophole or not. Essentially, by requesting your notes you are making a SAR and I don't see why the NHS would be exempt from government guidelines on this. If you like I can get you more info on SARs and DPA, but I'll do so by PM so as not to further clutter up this thread lol!

 

[kmh2009]

after telling the health visitor my sleep wasnt affected, i have had horrendous nights. Start re-living everything bad that has happened to me (quite a lot of stuff) get really anxious, have heart palpitations. I cant take anything to help me sleep coz i need to hear and wake up for zach. Any advice on this one?

 

[JayleighAnn]

Something I only thought of after I had put in writing that I was willing to pay for copies and postage (when I had already paid the £10 search fee) is that under the Data Protection Act an organisation is only able to charge a maximum fee of £10 for a Subject Access Request (don't ask how I know this, v long story!). Now it may be that the hospital get around this by charging for "copies" and "postage" above and beyond the SAR, but I'm not sure if that is a valid loophole or not. Essentially, by requesting your notes you are making a SAR and I don't see why the NHS would be exempt from government guidelines on this. If you like I can get you more info on SARs and DPA, but I'll do so by PM so as not to further clutter up this thread lol!

If they charge me I'll ask u for the details on SAR and DPA but for now I'm ok, but thanks

Well I woke up too late to go the doctors drop in and my dogs really poorly (theres a thread in general) and doesn't look like shes going to come home from the vets, let alone make the 3 months left they've given her. So I don't really feel like leaving the house, let alone seeing anyone

I'll go next drop in which is next week, I won't be able to get an appt before then as their always fully booked for what seems like an eternity!

 

[Shifter]

JayleighAnn, sorry about your dog

 

[JayleighAnn]

JayleighAnn, sorry about your dog

I'm absolutely gutted they said if she doesn't respond to tablets its best to let her go

 

[Mama1985]

aww , Im sorry about your dog, I hope he gets better! *HUGS*

Ergh I just feel really low right now, my little girl is in the hospital and im at home not missing her, not wanting to go to the hospital (it just feels like a chore to me) I shouldnt feel like this at all!! I should be down there morning and night but....I can't be bothered.... ERGHH ITs anoying me typing that, Im just..... not a good person at all
I dont like talking to my mum about it anymore because she says things like "Well you shouldnt be feeling like this" and "i'll have to kick you up the bum" and " you should be at the hospital" Blah blah blah, which basically makes me feel even worse... I just doubly hate it cos it makes me feel really low which makes me have bad thoughts, like keep sharp things and tablets away from me thoughts.... is that a bit over the top??

I have asked my HV if I could go on the medication and she said that she doesnt want me on the medication, she wants to work with me first and i have to see a infant psycho therpist as well...

ERGHHH I just want to feel normal.... I hate feeling like this....

 

[snettyb]

JayleighAnn, sorry about your dog

I'm absolutely gutted they said if she doesn't respond to tablets its best to let her go

sorry to hear about your dog. They become part of the family don't they

I haven't been on this thread for a wee while so i hope everyone is ok. I'm pleased your able to talk about the birth of Jack now shifter and i think your blinkie is lovely

Pleased your feeling better ALY, success stories are great to hear!!

Welcome to all the newcomers, sorry your suffering

I have been on my pills for 4 weeks now and i am feeling chilled, not happy as such but things are bothering me less. Y'know, less tears and sulking. I am still experiencing the anxiety, paranoia and anger problems. All in good time tho, i am still feeling positive that i will recover My OH was given 4 weeks off work to help out and its made a world of difference but i'm hoping it doesn't hit me like a ton of bricks when he goes back!! xx

 

[moomin_troll]

after telling the health visitor my sleep wasnt affected, i have had horrendous nights. Start re-living everything bad that has happened to me (quite a lot of stuff) get really anxious, have heart palpitations. I cant take anything to help me sleep coz i need to hear and wake up for zach. Any advice on this one?

all i can say is nap when he does, zanes never been a very good sleeper so i havent had many full nights sleep myself so i have started to try n nap when he does.

i wish i could give u more advice but good luck x