PND Support Thread

[stardust599]

Today has been a black hole

And today is over now, tomorrow is a new day. Go to bed and get a sleep. Even if you can't sleep just close your eyes and relax and rest your mind, it will help. When LO wakes take a deep breath, give her what she needs, settle her back down and get back into bed to rest again. In the morning when you get up send yourself a big wave of positive energy, get a cuddle from LO while doing the morning bottle, brush your teeth and wash your face and drink a pint of cold clean water to set you up for the day. Get breakfast and when LO goes down to nap get yourself ready to go out a short walk when she wakes.

It's all about baby steps, you can do it, you can cope and it won't be like this forever. Take it one day at a time.

Chin up sweetie I will be thinking of you tomorrow xxx

 

[gemini xo]

Has anyone got more then one child and had PND more then the once? I had bad PND with my son, I wouldn't say things are totally fine I get my bad days but I'm just worried about getting depressed again once my baby is born, currently 16 + 5 days pregnant.

 

[stardust599]

Has anyone got more then one child and had PND more then the once? I had bad PND with my son, I wouldn't say things are totally fine I get my bad days but I'm just worried about getting depressed again once my baby is born, currently 16 + 5 days pregnant.

I don't know hun, you say things still aren't quite right? Maybe if the depression hasn't fully resolved then the stress and worry of a new baby it could bring on another bout of PND. But this time you are prepared and know what to expect, you can watch out for the signs so you might be able to prevent it, don't be afraid to ask for help xx

 

[createbeauty]

I think I have PND. My LO is a week old today and I have cried every single day.

It took 2 days to be induced and I was in hospital both of those days and nights. LO finally came on the third day and I had to stay in hospital again that night. Then I was diagnosed with bladder retention and spent a further two nights in hospital with different catheters in. I am now at home with a catheter in and I have to go back to hospital on Friday to see if my bladder is working properly again. I am constantly anxious and tearful and worried that I will have to come home with another catheter in. I am only 28 years old and just spent my birthday with a screaming newborn, painful stitches, and a bag of urine strapped to my leg.

I've spoken to my husband about my worries and he has been very helpful but everytime he leaves to go shopping or whatever, I sit and cry and can't stop.

 

[HungryHippo]

I think I have PND. My LO is a week old today and I have cried every single day.

It took 2 days to be induced and I was in hospital both of those days and nights. LO finally came on the third day and I had to stay in hospital again that night. Then I was diagnosed with bladder retention and spent a further two nights in hospital with different catheters in. I am now at home with a catheter in and I have to go back to hospital on Friday to see if my bladder is working properly again. I am constantly anxious and tearful and worried that I will have to come home with another catheter in. I am only 28 years old and just spent my birthday with a screaming newborn, painful stitches, and a bag of urine strapped to my leg.

I've spoken to my husband about my worries and he has been very helpful but everytime he leaves to go shopping or whatever, I sit and cry and can't stop.

Has it gotten any better? Sometimes baby blues can be mistaken for PND in the 1st few weeks. Are you feeling better health-wise? If it's been as bad every day since please talk to your HV. There's help out there! And it does get better! I hope you're feeling better. Hugs!!!

 

[Linzi]

I need help I cant cope, dont know what to do

ive gone to HV today and broke down. she's sending someone out to see me.

i feel like a failure

 

[HungryHippo]

I need help I cant cope, dont know what to do

ive gone to HV today and broke down. she's sending someone out to see me.

i feel like a failure

Hang in there. I know (first hand) how hard it is. It does get better! Can you get a sitter or another adult to spend time with you? We don't have the $ for a sitter - but I'm doing it anyway just to have someone else around a few days a week while DH is working. Hugs to you - you can totally do this.

 

[Linzi]

I dont have anyone here. My family are in Newcastle and all my OHs family work full time to it's just me. Seth is at nursery 2.5 days a week which I can cope with, I can cope with both the kids I just don't feel like I can iykwim?

I cant explain my head has just turned to mushy peas

 

[HungryHippo]

I dont have anyone here. My family are in Newcastle and all my OHs family work full time to it's just me. Seth is at nursery 2.5 days a week which I can cope with, I can cope with both the kids I just don't feel like I can iykwim?

I cant explain my head has just turned to mushy peas

I know what you mean. I'm sitting here at the computer while a sitter is upstairs with my daughter. She leaves in 20 min and I'm already panicking at being along with LO. It comes and goes, so at least I have a reprieve. Does yours come and go, too? Are you getting any exercise? Eating right? All those things help, too.

 

[createbeauty]

I think I have PND. My LO is a week old today and I have cried every single day.

It took 2 days to be induced and I was in hospital both of those days and nights. LO finally came on the third day and I had to stay in hospital again that night. Then I was diagnosed with bladder retention and spent a further two nights in hospital with different catheters in. I am now at home with a catheter in and I have to go back to hospital on Friday to see if my bladder is working properly again. I am constantly anxious and tearful and worried that I will have to come home with another catheter in. I am only 28 years old and just spent my birthday with a screaming newborn, painful stitches, and a bag of urine strapped to my leg.

I've spoken to my husband about my worries and he has been very helpful but everytime he leaves to go shopping or whatever, I sit and cry and can't stop.

Has it gotten any better? Sometimes baby blues can be mistaken for PND in the 1st few weeks. Are you feeling better health-wise? If it's been as bad every day since please talk to your HV. There's help out there! And it does get better! I hope you're feeling better. Hugs!!!

Things got a little better once I had my catheter removed but I still can't stop crying. My husband took me to the doctor and I was referred to the Perinatal Psychiatric Service. My next appointment is Tuesday.
They feel that since I'm isolated with a newborn and I had a traumatic time right after the birth that my baby blues could become PND. My family is in the USA because that's where I'm from. My husband's parents are too elderly to help out and the rest of his family have kids/grandkids to care for so I really am all alone while my husband is at work.

Things seem to get more stressful when we have a bad night, especially after having a couple good nights in a row. Last night I broke down crying when the baby wouldn't burp after a feed and then he wouldn't stop crying. My husband took over so I could get some sleep but I felt even worse because he's the one who has to get up and go to work.

I really don't know how I'm going to cope with this baby as it seems like the sleepless nights will go on forever. We also have a 13 week old puppy that I have to look after and if the baby isn't crying or needing my attention, the puppy is!

Please tell me things get better. My baby is only 17 days old and when I read that they usually get easier by 6 to 18 months I'm asking myself if I can really last that long...

 

[HungryHippo]

I think I have PND. My LO is a week old today and I have cried every single day.

It took 2 days to be induced and I was in hospital both of those days and nights. LO finally came on the third day and I had to stay in hospital again that night. Then I was diagnosed with bladder retention and spent a further two nights in hospital with different catheters in. I am now at home with a catheter in and I have to go back to hospital on Friday to see if my bladder is working properly again. I am constantly anxious and tearful and worried that I will have to come home with another catheter in. I am only 28 years old and just spent my birthday with a screaming newborn, painful stitches, and a bag of urine strapped to my leg.

I've spoken to my husband about my worries and he has been very helpful but everytime he leaves to go shopping or whatever, I sit and cry and can't stop.

Has it gotten any better? Sometimes baby blues can be mistaken for PND in the 1st few weeks. Are you feeling better health-wise? If it's been as bad every day since please talk to your HV. There's help out there! And it does get better! I hope you're feeling better. Hugs!!!

Things got a little better once I had my catheter removed but I still can't stop crying. My husband took me to the doctor and I was referred to the Perinatal Psychiatric Service. My next appointment is Tuesday.
They feel that since I'm isolated with a newborn and I had a traumatic time right after the birth that my baby blues could become PND. My family is in the USA because that's where I'm from. My husband's parents are too elderly to help out and the rest of his family have kids/grandkids to care for so I really am all alone while my husband is at work.

Things seem to get more stressful when we have a bad night, especially after having a couple good nights in a row. Last night I broke down crying when the baby wouldn't burp after a feed and then he wouldn't stop crying. My husband took over so I could get some sleep but I felt even worse because he's the one who has to get up and go to work.

I really don't know how I'm going to cope with this baby as it seems like the sleepless nights will go on forever. We also have a 13 week old puppy that I have to look after and if the baby isn't crying or needing my attention, the puppy is!

Please tell me things get better. My baby is only 17 days old and when I read that they usually get easier by 6 to 18 months I'm asking myself if I can really last that long...

They will get better! Ours had a rough patch during that time too...but it passes. It may be a few days or even a week. You just have to take a deep breath and remind yourself that you knew there would be sleepless nights...but you had no way of knowing you would feel like you do. I've ended up finding that cuddling LO helps. Even when she's a bugger and not sleeping. And even though your DH works...you'd rather him be sleep deprived and working than you being sleep deprived and taking care of the baby. So do lean on him for now!

 

[Linzi]

Hope Im ok to join in here

My little girl is nearly 8 weeks old, we had a difficult birth and first couple of days, I've been struggling with anxiety, depression and some other stuff Im not ready to talk about on here yet.

My HV came for a visit yesterday and got me an urgent GP appointment, my GP referred me to a mother and baby psychiactic unit at our local hospital and she wants me to be seen next week. She also wanted to put me on some meds but decided to let the psyc unit deal with it as she wasn't sure what is best.

Im exauhsted. I just dont know what to do with myself, my head is just battered and I dont even know where to start with anything... just looking for some support. My husband is amazing and has been my lifesaver this week, but Im worried he's going to get fed up with this and leave. I wouldn't blame him tbh!

xxx

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi Linzi. First of all massive hugs.

I spent six weeks in a psychiatric mother and baby unit. If you have any questions feel free to ask. Being things really turned things around for me. The staff were really supportive and it helped being with other mothers with PND too.

It's great your husband is supportive. My husband was really great too. I often thought he'd be better off without me but he never thought this. He just wanted to help me get better.

Take care. Xx

 

[Linzi]

thanks hun im really worried about it can i ask is it in patient care? thats what it says when i looked online but i never had it mentioned to me by the dr

xx

 

[Raggydoll]

Mine was in patient care but the nurses would also do community visits.

As an in patient I did one full week and then built up visits home over the remaining five weeks.

 

[Linzi]

thanks hun

Im so worried

 

[kgal28]

a little nervous to post here as i dont knw for sire whats going on with me.. my girl is now 4 months and around 3 months pp i started having negative thoughts and anxiety. my dr prescribed xanax and that seems to help take the edge off the anxiety but than it turned into seperation anxiety and worry. also ive had bouts of crying and just called my dr looking for some help. she presxribed 20 mg of celexa for everyday.. did or do any of u take this or knw how it made u feel..did it help u feel like ur old self again??

 

[lisaf]

Just saw this thread, wish I had known about it sooner.

I got diagnosed with PPD at my 6-week post-partum checkup. It was practically a relief because I didn't know if it was just how being a new mom was supposed to feel.

I have been on medication ever since, but I still struggle with some obsessive thinking and some bonding issues. Our birth wasn't the smoothest and he spent his first few days in the NICU, then follow that with a lot of painful breastfeeding issues and none of that really helped.
Everything just feels very disconnected in some ways. I am back to work which is actually a lot easier on me because I find being with my son to be so exhausting that I can barely go a full day on the weekend... and he's a very easy baby!

Just looking for some support from women who understand. I don't have the extra time or money to go to talk-therapy right now, and it is managable, but any bit of stress just kicks up all my symptoms that much more.

 

[kgal28]

Hey there, its totally normal from what Im reading online... alot of women go through this and its just hormones trying to go back to normal. Just hang in there and use this place to talk and vent, it will help. I pray it won't last too long for you and your hormones will go back soon.

 

[lisaf]

I sure hope so!