PND Support Thread

[moomin_troll]

i think everyone has been too scared to admit whats wrong i had trouble talkin to my hv and even when i did i kept afew things secret still.

i havent been to the doctors as the one im with is terrible, so ur not alone by not wanting to admit u have pnd.

its a scary thing to admit and still not alot of people understand it.

uve got past the hardest part n that was talkin to ur hv n then admitting u have pnd so make that appointment on monday it will be easier then u think once its over n done with.

good luck

 

[Shifter]

Thanks snetty I'm glad we're able to put our previous run ins behind us now and that you had a positive birth experience this time around.

Charlie&Bump - everything you describe sounds very normal and especially with your recent loss as well. Keep an eye on yourself, tell your OH how you feel and hopefully it will resolve itself in the next couple of weeks. If not then think about talking to your HV.

Jolyn - I hope you made the doctor's appointment. Don't worry about it, I'm sure it will be fine. Remember, the only person you need to admit your feelings to is yourself. It helps to have someone to talk to, be it your OH or a counsellor, but you don't need to let your other family and friends know if you don't want to

 

[jolyn]

Thanks for your support, I didn't make the appointment. I don't know why but I just can't do it. HV rang to see I told her no and she said ok, speak next week. This upset me a bit cos I think I need that extra push to do it.

After feeling really down for an hour or two I decided to ring HV back to see if she could make the appointment for me cos I won't have the opportunity to talk myself out of it, but it rang for a second and went to answerphone and she never rang back. Now I'm feeling crap and know I won't have courage to go to docs tomorrow. I wish I had someone to talk to I feel so pathetic cos I have no reason to be so upset. There are people a million times worse off than me and just feel so guilty and selfish for feeling like this.

 

[Shifter]

jolyn, you're not selfish, lots of women go through this hun and you do need to talk to someone

 

[JayleighAnn]

Hey everyone, sorry I only posted a couple times and then ran off

Basically I've been feeling loads better, feel like I care more for Halen, don't get so angry when he cries and actually feel a bit protective over him after a recent episode with MIL (wouldn't give him back when he was screaming for food and I wanted to phsyically punch her in the face for how she was making him cry)

TBH I think I just had a bit of the baby blues and feared the worst as now I feel fine, ok I don't feel this massive rush of love for him, but I do care for him and it's growing every day.

thank you so much for the replies from my last posts and for the help and suggestions.

 

[moomin_troll]

Hey everyone, sorry I only posted a couple times and then ran off

Basically I've been feeling loads better, feel like I care more for Halen, don't get so angry when he cries and actually feel a bit protective over him after a recent episode with MIL (wouldn't give him back when he was screaming for food and I wanted to phsyically punch her in the face for how she was making him cry)

TBH I think I just had a bit of the baby blues and feared the worst as now I feel fine, ok I don't feel this massive rush of love for him, but I do care for him and it's growing every day.

thank you so much for the replies from my last posts and for the help and suggestions.

u shud of punched her i no i would of lol

glad uve felt better ans yes it may have been baby blues but just keep an eye on it.

my pnd started from me being far too overprotective to the point i thought he was goin to die and that id lose my boy.

it happens in very different ways, so if u feel really down again talk to ur hv and get it sorted straight away x

 

[Shifter]

Glad you're feeling better JaylieghAnn.

Got my hospital notes this morning. Had a read through them with DH, which was tough because it is pretty clear now that we were coerced and manipulated into some of our decisions. There was progress, albeit slow, which is to be expected for a first labour when bubs is posterior. Jack did seem to turn a few times during labour and was heading in the right direction and upon delivery it was confirmed that he was not actually transverse, as had been predicted, but LOP. Lots of women give birth to LOP babies, it is not impossible, it just takes longer and is usually more painful. I am actually pretty angry about it now.

I've emailed the IM I made contact with and hopefully she'll be able to come over to go through them with us next week. Even though I feel we have come to the right conclusions it will be good to get her independent expert opinion.

 

[jolyn]

Well I finally made it to the docs yesterday. He gave me some meds to take, but I didn't have the courage to take them yesterday. I keep convincing myself that I am fine, then the horrible thoughts come rushing in my head, so I finally took my first dose this morning.

The health visitor is coming again tomorrow, I would like to talk to her more about it, but I am scared about any consequences on my babies. I know they are doing fine and they are in no danger, if anything I am coping better with them than anything else. Does anybody know how health visitors stand with these types of things? At the moment she is the only person that knows what is going on with me, but I am scared to talk more freely with her.

 

[moomin_troll]

Well I finally made it to the docs yesterday. He gave me some meds to take, but I didn't have the courage to take them yesterday. I keep convincing myself that I am fine, then the horrible thoughts come rushing in my head, so I finally took my first dose this morning.

The health visitor is coming again tomorrow, I would like to talk to her more about it, but I am scared about any consequences on my babies. I know they are doing fine and they are in no danger, if anything I am coping better with them than anything else. Does anybody know how health visitors stand with these types of things? At the moment she is the only person that knows what is going on with me, but I am scared to talk more freely with her.

it is best u take the meds as u no, they will help u.

u can take to ur hv about how ur feeling sometimes all u need is to open up, nothing will happen to u or ur baby unless baby is in serious danger n from ive heard lo isnt in danger with u, she will just want to get u feeling better x

 

[JayleighAnn]

Hey everyone, sorry I only posted a couple times and then ran off

Basically I've been feeling loads better, feel like I care more for Halen, don't get so angry when he cries and actually feel a bit protective over him after a recent episode with MIL (wouldn't give him back when he was screaming for food and I wanted to phsyically punch her in the face for how she was making him cry)

TBH I think I just had a bit of the baby blues and feared the worst as now I feel fine, ok I don't feel this massive rush of love for him, but I do care for him and it's growing every day.

thank you so much for the replies from my last posts and for the help and suggestions.

u shud of punched her i no i would of lol

glad uve felt better ans yes it may have been baby blues but just keep an eye on it.

my pnd started from me being far too overprotective to the point i thought he was goin to die and that id lose my boy.

it happens in very different ways, so if u feel really down again talk to ur hv and get it sorted straight away x

I will deffo keep an eye on it and if I feel worse I'll go docs, but for now it seems to be getting better xx

 

[moomin_troll]

well JayleighAnn i hope iu never have to see u here again lol

ment in a very good way that is haha

 

[elm]

everyone xxx Didn't realise you'd had your notes Shifter xxx

Jolyn, your hv should be there to help you and make sure you're getting all the support you need. I'm sure if you tell her your worries that she'll be able to reassure you that she's not there to take your children away - that what stops some mums getting help with pnd and it's not the case xxxxx If you feel that talking through your feelings might help ask her about conselling please pm me whenever you like x

 

[Mama1985]

Hey everyone, I had a bad day today and broke my hoover because it wasn't picking the dirt properly....

Im scaring myself now, Ive never been this angry, Ive never had anything as simple as a clogged hoover make me so angry like that!!
Im now worried that during an 'anger attack' I might hurt my little girl, or throw something thats Annoying me the wrong way and it'll hit her...

I told my HV and she suggested that when I feel that angry/wound up/annoyed again I should ring my OH or mum up, or me staying at my mums or my mum staying over for a few days so I can get extra support, like it might help if I have someone there constantly.

Ive also just started seeing a infant pyscho therepist

 

[elm]

Mama1985 x How's it going with the infant psychotherapist? Have you got confidence in him/her?

Do you think it would help staying with your mum for a bit?

xxx

 

[Mama1985]

hey elm, I have only seen her the once now, she seems like a nice lady, and I think my mum is gonna stay with me, she doesnt have the room, I dont really have any room either but its just me and my OH and the sofa is quite comfy

 

[AboutWee]

A problem shared is a problem halved. So firstly, good on you for sharing. And secondly, hope some of us can make things a little easier for you even if it's just some kinds words.
Hang in there & let us stand underneath you in case your arms get tired.
Cheers,
AboutWee

 

[kmh2009]

feeling realy bad today. dont want to get out of bed. cancelled a friend coming over as i dont want to see anyone. lots of tears all night and a fight not to hurt myself. HV is on annual leave. so unhappy

 

[moomin_troll]

feeling realy bad today. dont want to get out of bed. cancelled a friend coming over as i dont want to see anyone. lots of tears all night and a fight not to hurt myself. HV is on annual leave. so unhappy

if u cant get hold of ur hv then call ur doctor or even ur mw.

when ur hv is on leave there shud be another hv on stand by to look after her ladies x

 

[elm]

That sounds good Mama1985 xxx

Hello aboutwee :wave: x

kmh, have you rang someone who can be with you? If you ring your hv number there should be someone there covering for her - please don't be on your own feeling like that if you can get someone there to be with you who knows what's going on so you don't have to make an effort xxx

 

[kmh2009]

ive rang hv and left a voicemail for them to call back. they havent yet. had a phone call from mental health team and they are coming to visit me monday but that doesnt helpme today. hope hv rings bac soon.
its so hard, pulse is racing. feel soooo anxious. getting dizzy. urgh