PND Support Thread

[mumexpctinno3]

Hi guys, think i may be suffering from PND.

Symptoms:

Crying alot
Constantly feeling down
Dont want to do anything/go anywhere but hate being in the house all the time
Constantly tired
Anxious
Feel like im a bad mum for shouting at my 2 older children ALL the time
Just basically feeling like im not coping very well.

I had my 6 week check up and the Dr said to keep an eye on things and if i feel worse, to come back. Im just so fed up of feeling like this, wish i could just shake it off

 

[better2gether]

Hi guys, think i may be suffering from PND.

Symptoms:

Crying alot
Constantly feeling down
Dont want to do anything/go anywhere but hate being in the house all the time
Constantly tired
Anxious
Feel like im a bad mum for shouting at my 2 older children ALL the time
Just basically feeling like im not coping very well.

I had my 6 week check up and the Dr said to keep an eye on things and if i feel worse, to come back. Im just so fed up of feeling like this, wish i could just shake it off

Hi hun. I think you should be firm with your doctor and mention that you want more help and support. The baby blues only last a couple weeks, I think. It sounds like you have PND. The sooner you get help, the better. If only we could shake it off... I know what you mean. You aren't a bad mom at all! You're admitting that you don't feel well. That is the first step. I recently admitted this to myself. I was in denial a long time. I called up my doctor and am seeing them early next week. I feel such a sense of relief.

 

[Luke's_mummy]

I feel so shit

I just dont know what to do, my meds aren't working and my eating has gone up the wall. I've had alot of problems with eating disorders and self harm in my past, and i just feel like im slipping back into tyhat.

I self harmed the otherday. I can't believe i did it again. I feel awful but i dont know what to do with myself ='{

 

[Pixie71]

Hey ladies, sounds like you both need to go to the doctor, am on cipralex and its really starting to help, I am starting to feel like my old self from before I had my first 13 years ago, so its definitely a good thing.

I had all the same symptoms with the crying, shouting, not wanting to go out, not sleeping etc.

Take care
Big hugs
XXX

 

[Luke's_mummy]

I'm on Venlaflaxin XL 75mg

but its crap! Im gonna have to go and see if i can get my meds chjanged. but i dont have another psyc appt till 7th october. xx

 

[Raggydoll]

I'm on Venlaflaxin XL 75mg

but its crap! Im gonna have to go and see if i can get my meds chjanged. but i dont have another psyc appt till 7th october. xx

I had periods of self harm, I used to ask my husband to put the sharp object somewhere I couldn't find them so if I did feel this building I either wouldn't be able to or I would calm down enough. The Crisis team also advised, whilst no ideal, to safely harm yourself. Things like plunging your hand into something icy cold or flivking an elastic band on your wrist. I also found tensing all my muscles really tight, holding it in then slowly releasing helped relieve some tension.

Your seems an awfully long time off, can you review your meds with your GP?

 

[Raggydoll]

Hey ladies, sounds like you both need to go to the doctor, am on cipralex and its really starting to help, I am starting to feel like my old self from before I had my first 13 years ago, so its definitely a good thing.

I had all the same symptoms with the crying, shouting, not wanting to go out, not sleeping etc.

Take care
Big hugs
XXX

I'm really glad you're starting to feel like your old self. I hope things carry on improving for you.

Take care.

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi guys, think i may be suffering from PND.

Symptoms:

Crying alot
Constantly feeling down
Dont want to do anything/go anywhere but hate being in the house all the time
Constantly tired
Anxious
Feel like im a bad mum for shouting at my 2 older children ALL the time
Just basically feeling like im not coping very well.

I had my 6 week check up and the Dr said to keep an eye on things and if i feel worse, to come back. Im just so fed up of feeling like this, wish i could just shake it off

I really think you should speak to another doctor. I'm quite shocked your doctor didn't do more at your six week check.

You're not a bad mum at all you're just going through a difficult time.

 

[Luke's_mummy]

I'm on Venlaflaxin XL 75mg

but its crap! Im gonna have to go and see if i can get my meds chjanged. but i dont have another psyc appt till 7th october. xx

I had periods of self harm, I used to ask my husband to put the sharp object somewhere I couldn't find them so if I did feel this building I either wouldn't be able to or I would calm down enough. The Crisis team also advised, whilst no ideal, to safely harm yourself. Things like plunging your hand into something icy cold or flivking an elastic band on your wrist. I also found tensing all my muscles really tight, holding it in then slowly releasing helped relieve some tension.

Your seems an awfully long time off, can you review your meds with your GP?

Thank you so much hunny! I think that I'm going to try and get a GP appointment to see if i can review it with them, I just need to make the time to do it. thatnks so much =]

 

[fi123]

Hi does this sound like PND? Or am I just taking a while to adjust.

Bit of info, tired to conceive for 16 years before we had our wee boy. Was successful on the fourth try of IVF. We have been on our own for 20 years.

I love him to bits and am sure I have bonded with him, but feel like I am not enjoying motherhood. Sometimes I think I would like my old life back, which I did not like anyway!!! Other symptoms

Tearful a lot of the time
I feel a bit anxious some of the time
Feel like a failure as could not breastfeed and also cause have given in to a dummy to settle him.
Some of the day I am fine, then at other points feel like I can't do it anymore (but I can)
Want to go back to work.
Feel so guilty for feeling like this.

Does this sound like it will pass or the start of PND, I was on anti-depressants before concieving due to infertility.

He is five weeks old today so I know it is early days.

thanks

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi does this sound like PND? Or am I just taking a while to adjust.

Bit of info, tired to conceive for 16 years before we had our wee boy. Was successful on the fourth try of IVF. We have been on our own for 20 years.

I love him to bits and am sure I have bonded with him, but feel like I am not enjoying motherhood. Sometimes I think I would like my old life back, which I did not like anyway!!! Other symptoms

Tearful a lot of the time
I feel a bit anxious some of the time
Feel like a failure as could not breastfeed and also cause have given in to a dummy to settle him.
Some of the day I am fine, then at other points feel like I can't do it anymore (but I can)
Want to go back to work.
Feel so guilty for feeling like this.

Does this sound like it will pass or the start of PND, I was on anti-depressants before concieving due to infertility.

He is five weeks old today so I know it is early days.

thanks

Firstly Some of your symptoms do sound familiar to what I experienced but it could be the shock of finally having what you've longed for, for 16 years.

Don't feel guilty about the breast feeding and dummy, you're doing what is best for your baby.

I think it would be worth get assesed by your GP.

 

[Hattie80]

I've got full blown insomnia due to my major anxiety / not being able to switch off mind at night. Has anyone any advice? I'm at my wits end... Got some sedating ads - mirtazapine. any1 eva taken this??

 

[annawrigley]

Today i lied through my teeth to my psychiatrist so she would discharge me

 

[Pixie71]

Hi All

Anna, that was a bit naughty!!!!!

Hatty, no idea on the meds, but you could try some other remedies,like honey, hot milk, hot bath, avoid caffiene at night and alcohol, get some fresh air and exercise. Do some mental activity during the day like sudoku etc?

Fi123, sounds like Raggydoll was spot on, you have had a major change to your life after 4 attempts and a large number of years trying, I use a dummy nothing wrong with that at all, and as for BF it doesnt always workout for people and formula is fine.

I am on cipralex for coming up to two months and it is really starting to help, Ive been doing baby massage on Thomas now for a few weeks and he loves it and settles much better, he slept through the last three nights without a hitch and I actually slept well last night. I know what the insomnia is like!!

Hugs to all
Pixie
xx

 

[better2gether]

I still feel like I need help. This sounds so stupid... But I just can't make myself call the doctor. I didn't think I feel ashamed. Or do I? I'm dragging my ass and I don't know why. Is this part of it? Just don't feel like doing it?

There are times when I'd rather sleep than tend to my crying baby. Of course I tend to her, but I feel like I'm forcing myself. Just going through the motions. At night I definitely can't be bothered. We co-sleep and I have OH feed her. And he works and I don't! Ugh, I'm terrible.

 

[Justagirlxx]

This is so much harder than I thought. My baby needs me constantly and sometimes wont stop crying. He just wants to nurse 24/7. I miss my OH so much because he's at work all the time and when he gets home we cant really be close because of the baby. I feel so alone and overwhelmed and exhausted. Sometimes I cant stop crying. My LO is only 6 days old. How can you tell the difference between PND and baby blues? Do anti depressants really work? I love my LO but I feel so so alone. I never thought it would be like this. Is it normal for them to not be able to fall asleep unless he's at the breast? And to not want to be put down ever? He just wants to be held constantly or sleeping next to me. The $180 bassinet we got for him is completely useless because he refuses to sleep anywhere besides right next to me.

 

[Raggydoll]

I still feel like I need help. This sounds so stupid... But I just can't make myself call the doctor. I didn't think I feel ashamed. Or do I? I'm dragging my ass and I don't know why. Is this part of it? Just don't feel like doing it?

There are times when I'd rather sleep than tend to my crying baby. Of course I tend to her, but I feel like I'm forcing myself. Just going through the motions. At night I definitely can't be bothered. We co-sleep and I have OH feed her. And he works and I don't! Ugh, I'm terrible.

Oh Hun, you're not terrible. Also don't feel bad about your OH helping with night feeds, Looking after a baby all day is work.

It's so hard to make the first call. Could your OH make the appointment & also go along. It may be easier with him there.

 

[Raggydoll]

This is so much harder than I thought. My baby needs me constantly and sometimes wont stop crying. He just wants to nurse 24/7. I miss my OH so much because he's at work all the time and when he gets home we cant really be close because of the baby. I feel so alone and overwhelmed and exhausted. Sometimes I cant stop crying. My LO is only 6 days old. How can you tell the difference between PND and baby blues? Do anti depressants really work? I love my LO but I feel so so alone. I never thought it would be like this. Is it normal for them to not be able to fall asleep unless he's at the breast? And to not want to be put down ever? He just wants to be held constantly or sleeping next to me. The $180 bassinet we got for him is completely useless because he refuses to sleep anywhere besides right next to me.

It could be baby blues at six days. Is there anyone you could talk to. I'm not sure of the follow up care in the US.
The difficulty settling is quite usual. Have you tried swaddling. I also rolled a blanket into a sausage and put it at the foot of her crib to make her feel more secure.
I hope you're feeling better soon. The important thing is to keep talking. Xx

 

[annawrigley]

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[ohmybabybump.]

i want to get help but i am so ashamed. i didn't go to my doc appt today just so i wouldn't have to face it.
i hate being a mother and i feel so guilty for feeling this way. i'm so sad and depressed and i feel ugly and worthless. my body is ruined, and i feel like i will never be the same. idk what to do. i love my daughter, i feel she deserves a better mom.