Popping over from LTTC/secondary inf

[vkj73]

2 years ago, I didn't even think I'd try clomid,
and here I am, after several failed IUI's, ready to call our dr. and tell him we're ready for the steps towards a mini-ivf.


I'm scared, but excited. We were going to stop after this last iui, but stopping doesn't feel right.

I think turning 41 was holding me back, but my heart is saying move forward.

I'd loved to hear from other mamas who were in the same boat and had success.
How did you decide to move to ivf?
What was your epiphany to keep going?

Thanks all

 

[vkj73]

Bump.

 

[Whip]

I can't help you on that one. Just didn't want to read and run. Good luck on your journey. I'm sure someone somewhere will have a more useful answer for you than mine!! Haha xx

 

[manchester1]

with number 1 i was ttc with pcos for over 3 years. tried probably 12 cycles of clomid in that time but didnt conceive. had ivf booked for the january, had all the meds at home etc and then found out i was pregnant.

with this baby when my daughter was about 15 months i thought id try clomid....low and behold fell pregnant first month on it.

good luck xx

 

[mizuno]

unfortunately, I don't think there is one correct answer for every person.
What is your reason for not wanting to proceed with IVF? Is it financial, ethical or spiritual or that you feel like it's "un-natural" or are worrieed what will people say? Once you figure out what your reason is, you might be able to better rationalise what's the best way forward.

As for me, I did 3 medicated IUIs, and then my doc recommended IVF. I was really against it at first and hoping for one of those miracles where you hear of people getting pregnant as tehy are waiting for IVF and I even cancelled one cycle the day it was supposed to start because I just wasn't ready. Once I have convinced myself that I have tried every other option (acupuncture, naturopathy, diet changes, all kinds of teas and potions and finally medication), I just admitted to myself that it wasn't going to happen without IVF. I should mention that I was 35 at the time and felt like time was running out for me.

I hope that helps and good luck with whatever approach you choose.

 

[Mypreciouskid]

I didn't want to read and run. I suffered from secondary infertility. I had 3 children effortlessly, and then struggled to conceive this baby. We ttc for 2.5 yrs. It was so hard and emotionally drained me. We had an 8 week mmc, and tried 3 cycles of clomid and countless months of progesterone suppositories. Those things did not work for us, and IUI/IVF was beyond our financial means. Thankfully, God blessed us one more time. I'm 36, and dh is 42. I'm glad we didn't give up, and you shouldn't either!

 

[vkj73]

Thanks for the replies

 

[Jinga]

IVF wasn't something we could afford, but we tried for over 2 years for baby #2. I had many cycles of Clomid, including 2 failed IUIs. We took the 2013 Christmas holidays off because I was so mentally stressed TTC, then I went back on Clomid in January and conceived that cycle! It's still hard to believe I'm actually pregnant. It was so hard to keep going in the hard times, but we took it day by day. At the time, I was also reading some books about how great it could be being an only child and had accepted that my child might be an only child and he'd be still thrive wonderfully. Something about reading that made me less stressed and able to accept the TTC process as a potential bonus more so than a mega-stress inducing event. I don't know if any of that helped, but it was my experience. I wish you the best of luck!

 

[lilmonkey86]

I do not have personal experience in this, but my best friend of 22 years (we have known each other since i was 6) her Aunt has been having fertility treatment for about 4 years IUI after IUI, meds, tests, you name it she tried it, finally after years of trying she decided to get IVF in December and at the age of 49 she has finally conceived her first baby. It is a personal deision to continue to try or not but I just wanted to give you hope that it can still happen!! GL Hun!!

 

[BabyBlondex]

No advice here but i wish you ALL the best x

 

[BabyHopes1974]

We had 8 iuis and finally succeeded on the 8th with clomid. Keep trying is my advice. I will be 40 when our twins are born.

 

[vkj73]

IVF wasn't something we could afford, but we tried for over 2 years for baby #2. I had many cycles of Clomid, including 2 failed IUIs. We took the 2013 Christmas holidays off because I was so mentally stressed TTC, then I went back on Clomid in January and conceived that cycle! It's still hard to believe I'm actually pregnant. It was so hard to keep going in the hard times, but we took it day by day. At the time, I was also reading some books about how great it could be being an only child and had accepted that my child might be an only child and he'd be still thrive wonderfully. Something about reading that made me less stressed and able to accept the TTC process as a potential bonus more so than a mega-stress inducing event. I don't know if any of that helped, but it was my experience. I wish you the best of luck!

That's funny, I was just looking at only child books online.
I too realized that it could be fabulous. But another part of me realized I wasn't ready to give up yet.

Thank you again for your thoughts