Praying for a 2012 BFP and 2013 Baby!!!

[MrsPTTC]

Ooh we need a piccie on Facebook! Maybe there was something wrong with your back in the first place & the yoga has tried to put it right but you need a few more sessions? x

 

[30mummyof1]

Yes will do!
Yes Maybe, I felt it start hurting when we had to bend back. I will carry on with it I think, see how it goes.

 

[30mummyof1]

Sad day today, we lost Dexter Rabbit. No idea why, as he was totally himself last night when I fed them but I guess these things happen. The hardest part was trying to explain to Thomas, in some ways he was quite matter of fact and said lets get another bunny and the other I don't think he really understands he's gone forever.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Awww Sorry hun, it's so hard losing a pet x

 

[KendraNoell]

Hey ladies, glad to see everyone is doing well. Yay for Claire being on Facebook finally!

My NY Eve was terrible. DH had too much to drink and then if he gets mad about something he just goes off his rocker... ended up leaving the house and walking to my mom's and staying the night there. Luckily Jackson was already staying overnight at the babysitter's house but I cried all night because I was so sad and then I missed my boy so much and wanted to snuggle him. Things have gotten better since then but things just aren't the same since we had the baby and there just isn't any romance in our house, I'm tired, I don't really even want my husband to touch me anymore.

Please tell me some of you mothers that have had kids for a while have gone through this and that it does get better

 

[KendraNoell]

Another question- anyone shower with their babies? I swear there just isn't enough hours in the day, Jackson is too big for his baby bathtub anymore so I've been giving him baths in the sink, but he doesn't mind getting sprayed with water so I was going to sit him in the tub while the shower is going and kill two birds with one stone. Our bathtub has high walls around the bottom so I can't just put him in there and lean over and bathe him because its too high to lean over comfortably so I have to figure out something for him.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi kendra, sorry you're having problems with DH After what happened with my BFF splitting up with her DH & Claire & her DH it really worries me how parenthood affects people. I don't want things to change with my DH I hope you two can sort it out, but your dh really needs to kerb that temper! And perhaps cut down the drinking x

 

[KendraNoell]

Yeah, the drinking thing has been going on for a while, and he really hasn't been drinking a lot, so it was frustrating, cause we went out with the intent to drink more than we usually do and that's why we left Jax with a sitter, but now I guess he realizes that he can't drink like that, maybe ever. He needs to me on medication, in my personal opinion, he's got some depression issues. He goes through the veteran's medical here, and they contact him every six months for an appointment, so he should be getting another appointment soon, and I hope they can help him.

 

[30mummyof1]

Yeah babies definitely change things. Our lives couldn't be more different. Going from going out all the time, to oh never wanting to now and me just every so often! There's days where I think omg my life is so boring (not sure if oh thinks that ever) maybe not as he works We do more or less the same thing every night, sex is much less. Had a surprising bd this morning though in fact, with Thomas shouting Mummy during it! (from his room I must add, not at the end of the bed or anything!)
I do get fed up with me having to make all the effort for us to anything, book a meal or night out etc.. and he doesn't help me much with boys or house.

HOWEVER that aside I still love him and love our little family and i'll put up with the downsides as deep down the man I fell in love with is still there. We're both trying to get fit as well now, so that has given us something shared to focus on and I think brought us closer again. I did feel we were drifting a bit for a while.

I think you just need to decide whether the ups are more often than the downs. Maybe take up a hobby or something to have something fun away from Jaxson to do?. Also whether he's willing to try and change and make sure he doesn't go drinking that amount again and address the depression issues?.

 

[Flowerbaby]

Hi ladies, hope you all ok xx

Rach so sorry about Dexter, so so sad losing a pet, my heart goes out to you and the boys

Kendra, Sorry to hear that you and DH arent the best at the minute, yes things certainly change when you have children! I thought my DH was my soulmate until i got pregnant then he just went off his rocker and decided too he wanted too be a single man again and things have got no better for us and we seperated....i wish i could tell you that things do get better but sadly for me they havent, but dont lose hope as ive heard lots of stories of relationships going through a lot of stress and strain in the first year then things just work themselves out, big hugs too you hun

Well XDH has been over today, he was suppose too be having Poppy tonight but due to the snowfall we are due too have i dont want too leave her with him incase i cant get back into our village tomorrow, id be past myself with worry so hes buggerd off back too his mates. We've had a good chat and he said he dosent want too think this is the end of us, or call divorce or put our house on the market just yet so we've decided we will continue seperated as we are and will re-evaluate in June (when our mortgage is up for renewal) too see if we will give things another go or not, seems so bloody far away but hey were almost into Feb already! So ive agreed as id only be wanting a divorce for a quick end to all this iykwim rather than just taking babysteps too see if we can work things out. Uggghhhh so fucking confused again We cant live together but cant live without each other, life is such a bitch at times isnt it

 

[30mummyof1]

omg how confusing, though least he hasn't given up on the two of you. Yes see how it goes, no need to rush things. Big hun

 

[deafgal01]

Wow- Babyhopes, that is confusing. Hope things work out for the best for all of you involved. Sometimes time helps you all to see things more clearly and whether it's worth trying to work it out. But definitely make sure you do what is best for your baby and you. If he's wanting to be "single" man, then he should be let go but he'll have to prove to you that he wants to be a family man, not a single man.

30- sorry to hear of the family pet bunny. Never fun when life happens and a pet dies but that's the way of life.

Kendra- I have no advice or experience regarding the situation you're in. I'll pray that things look up for you soon though.

How's everyone else?

 

[MrsPTTC]

Fine thanks DG, excited that an IRL friend and 2 BnB friends have just had their babies this weekend! All becoming rather real now lol! I had my whooping cough vaccine today. And the builders have finally knocked through to the kitchen! Plastering getting done tomorrow onwards, which means DH and his friend can start fitting the kitchen this weekend! Though it'll take a few weekends to fit....

How's you DG?

Kendra I'm sorry love, it must be very hard on you and your relationship with DH's troubles. Hope the doc can sort him

Rach you BD'd this morning and oopsie, 1 day to ovulation according to your ticker!! LMAO at Thomas and you pointing out he wasn't at the bottom of the bed!

Claire very confusing for you, but I'm pleased things aren't defo over, I hope DH proves himself as a husband and father!

x

 

[30mummyof1]

Ticker isn't correct hun don't worry, got no signs of ov' yet. Ticker seems to only have a standard ov on day 14 option. Last month I ov' cd18 but I think it might even be later than that this month. If I had, had signs I would have told him to pull out! sorry tmi!
We still want to wait for a 2014 baby. I keep wondering whether I do really want a 3rd baby, even that soon. Oh I don't know. I've got a few months to decide if i'm sure any how.

Won't be long then before it's all sorted then hun then you can get on and nest.

 

[deafgal01]

I'm good- was in a cooking mood this afternoon so made lunch for DH and me... Usually that's DH's thing, not mine...

 

[MrsPTTC]

You lucky duck DG! My dh can't cook to save his life!

Aw Rach you were so sure about a 3rd a few weeks ago, I think you'll have one in the end!

Yeah I know I can't wait to next. Found this fab wallpaper on next website, it's faux brick & think it'd make a brill feature wall!

x

 

[30mummyof1]

Yeah you're prob right, lol
Sound fab, I'm not allowed wallpaper, im well jel!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks hun, if DH won't allow it he's probably being sensible lol. I don't like the wallpaper on our staircase wall & it's only been up a year or two however I love the paper in our living room x

 

[30mummyof1]

New fruit week mrsp!

 

[MrsMM24]

:wave: Hi Ladies!


KENDRA Having a DW, I have no experience in the DH category, but will say that having kids although glorious and exciting, definitely has an effect on a relationship, whether it is something we want to admit to or not. It is going to come down to what you all do to prepare and get through the changes. Because you CAN get through. I hope things work themselves out (with work from both of you) and you can revel in the happiness of your little one together properly soon.


HOPES this is definitely a confusing situation. I mirror my advice above, my 2 cents. What is meant to be as cliche as it sounds will be, you continue to remain strong, and care for Poppy and help where you can to work these things through.


DG My LO immediately jumped when I read that you were cooking, LOL, she is getting her appetite about her these days.


MRSP CONGRATS on a new fruit Hun!


30 GL which ever option you choose, you do have a few more months to decide. With Thomas and Harry I can see how it would be a hard decision to think about, they look so fun and handsome...