I wish my husband helped more but I was screaming in pain, rolling on the floor of the bedroom for over an hour when I was in labor, and I could not get him to wake. I had pulled all the blankets off and was pulling him off the bed by his feet before he finally woke up enough to understand what I was trying to tell him. But since day one he hasn't woken up in the middle of the night. He feels bad about it because he's always been this way, his mom used to have to pour water on him to wake him up for school when he was little.
He does what he can but he has school in the morning an hour after I go to work so now that I'm getting "used" to it I might as well continue to do it... he usually goes to bed after me though so a few days a week he will stay up with the baby and I go to bed around 9 or so and he'll bring the baby to bed around midnight and I get a couple extra hours sleep that way. There have been a few times out of frustration DH will start stirring in bed hearing the baby cry and I'll get him to wake up and feed him but that's usually around 7am so its not that early.
I think I jinxed myself because last night, LO had a feed around 9, and I wasn't quite ready to go to bed so I decided to stay up until LO had another feed around midnight and then go to bed. Well, LO didn't wake up, and finally at 1:30 I went to bed thinking, as soon as my head hits the pillow he's going to wake up. Well, he didn't. He woke up at 5am! So he slept through the night and I missed half of it because I was convinced he was going to wake up. So in the last 48 hours I had had 5-6 hours of sleep. I went to work today and was dozing off after the first hour so I came home sick and slept almost 5 hours while my mom kept the baby. I feel a lot better now and won't be trying to "stay up" anymore because I think he's getting to the age where he's going to be sleeping more anyway.
Claire I have to agree, sounds like she's teething. Jackson has been putting his fists in his mouth the last couple days too and has been very fussy, I wonder if he's teething early as he's been doing other things early too (like rolling over).