pre xmas mummies-what are you doing about visitors and baby at xmas?

[AmyR]

We are going to my hubby's parents house. We are taking a float plane (15 minute flight) to save hours of driving and ferries. We will be going to a big boxing day party of his whole family too. I sort of feel overwelmed too, my baby will be only around 4 weeks, I too will be breastfeeding and probably still recovering! When the plans were made it sounded great but the closer we get, the more I am nervous about it! I hope it all works out

 

[candyfloss]

We plan on heading back to the town my parents and FIL live in and will divide our time between them, it's what we always do, I love a big family Christmas! My dad is unwell with cancer so hoping baby here in time to make thus one extra special for him, he's always wanted a granddaughter he's got such a special bond with W too that want him to share the excitement of Christmas with him!

Hope you dad gets well soon
Sounds you have a nice Christmas planned
xx

Thank you. Already been told it's terminal so determined to make this Christmas extra special. My birthday is dec 16th so he's looking forward to another baby as his present

 

[princess_bump]

we always have christmas with my parents, and this year my godmummy and cousin are with us too. i'm really pleased about this as these are the people i feel most relaxed about so can just enjoy it.

mum's said just to take it easy and see how i feel come christmas and it's lovely. you don't want to feel stressed about lots of visitors etc sweetie.

we're really lucky though, as any family who visit will come when we're ready and are so easy going i don't feel i need to be 'up' to visitors if that makes sense?

maybe speak to inlaws that your worried as it's so close to baby being born that they need to play it by ear with visitors to see how you feel? xx

 

[mummy2anangel]

im at my mums for xmas and OHs mums for boxing day there will be lots of people around but thats how i like it, i want to share our happiness with other people, Ill be breatfeeding too but will go into another room x

 

[wtt :)]

If i feel up to it, we'll most likely be celebrating at my MIL's and i will go breastfeed in a different room but if not, like i said, they will just have to come visit instead

 

[lovingmom2]

I told my DH a while back that I don't plan on doing anything for the holidays. I'm due Dec. 16th so I don't see myself wanting to pack up and go to any big family parties. I told my parents and his that they are more then welcome to stop by though.

I don't blame you for not wanting lots of visitors and I think it's a good idea to talk about it now before they tell other people as well. I understand they are excited but it's up to you and your husband.

 

[raychmumtobe]

Im actually really looking 4ward to xmas this year. Were goin to visit my family on xmas eve, then my mum and dad wil pop round 4 an hour xmas morning, then well be spending xmas day with our friends, (OH's ex, son and her partner and new baby) were all great friends and the day is mainly for the 3 kids :-D.
Then boxing day, were spending with OH's parents and his brother. Its the perfect plan for us as it means I get my family outa the way first, and then we can spend the 2 most important days chilling out and enjoying ourselves. :-D

 

[DebzD]

This year we are due to be at OH's parents, but think I have managed to get out of it! I'm due xmas eve which makes it difficult to plan anything since the bub may or may not be here, but MIL has a dog that's not very child friendly, they smoke in the house and won't not do just coz we're there, we'll have a 17month old and maybe a newborn so my parents it is!!!
If am not in labour, I'm thinking we should invite MIL & her boyf round on xmas eve or something so that we aren't boycotting them completely but we can say not to bring the dog (they only live a 5 min walk away so easy enough to go check on it) and no smoking - our house, our rules!
Hope it all turns out to be that simple!

 

[lynnikins]

we are doing a quiet Christmas might have 1-2 people around no family though unless they plan to surprise us and fly out here but they will have to put themselves up somewhere in anycase theres no room here lol, dont expect lots of visitors probably mid-late Jan we will arrange for a dinner party where people who havent had the chance ( were away over christmas ) to come meet baby

 

[Emleexx]

I'm having a c-section on the 23rd of December so our Christmas will be spent in hospital. My DH will bring our 2 year old to the hospital & if immediate family would like to visit for an hour they will be more than welcome to. We had already agreed that regardless of my c-section date we would be having a very quiet Christmas! I'm a bit disappointed I can't be home to see our son but I'm happy that I get to avoid the festivities - I love Christmas but I think the day always drags!!!

 

[rocketb]

My sister is actually coming into town (She lives in California) with her 1-year old so Mom is going to have an open house night (at her house) to show off her grandchildren. My baby will likely be around 2 weeks old (I hope) at that point.

Basically Mom has asked people who may be sick to stay away (or at least stay away from the baby) and we'll have big pump bottles of hand sanitizer all over the place. I'm not too concerned and I have confidence in my ability to say "enough is enough" when my baby is too tired to be out any longer.

 

[Cashewnut]

We've asked both sets of parents what there plans for Christmas were as they each live over 4 hours away. My parents will be coming up the week before Christmas to see baby, drop gifts off and stay for a few days. OHs parents will then come at Xmas weather permitting. As for friends, I'll be throwing a kinda meet the baby party when I feel ready. Obviously my closest friends would have met her by then, but this is more for work colleagues etc.

 

[joeyjo]

My parents & PILs both live within 45min of each other about 3-4hrs drive from us. Usually we divide our time & sleepover at both houses. Baby due 2nd Dec so should be between 1&4 weeks old.

I have put my foot down & said this time I am only comfortable sleeping at my folks so we have to go back to theirs each night (bigger, we have 2 rooms to use & a separate bathroom, baby less likely to disturb everybody).

We will drive up on 23rd, 24th at inlaws, 25th with my parents, 26th bigger gathering at my parents (bro, SIL, pil, family friends), 27th PILs

If baby really late & I don't feel up to the journey etc my folks will come here on the day & bring food in that case we have organised to go up jan 7th for a long weekend

 

[shortie1990]

Not really sure, MIL lives just at the end of the road, but I've said to OH I may feel like Eli g nothing, which means baby can't go visit either as she will be breast fed, but will have to just see how things are when the time comes as to how IM feeling