Preg after miscarriage... just got back from dr

[ttcbabyno.1]

Hi ladies,

this is a bit of a rant, sorry in advance!

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in march, hubby and i decided to ttc again straight away (dr's advice was to wait one period for dating reasons only... as i know when i ovulate i didn't think waiting was necessary)

We got our BFP last wed/thur (and about 20 tests over the weekend LOL) i made a dr's appointment for today (and did another preg test this morning - BFP!!) I ovulated on 2 April, so put myself at 4wks 4days.

I've just got back from the dr's appointment and she fobbed me off!! It was a different doctor to my usual dr who saw me through the miscarriage. So maybe i shouldn't be suprised. But she won't put me intouch with the midwife for my booking in yet, and won't apply to the hospital for a scan yet either... she wants me to come back in 2 weeks time if i get that far.

I understand where she's coming from.... and i know i went to the dr early but i did that because i wanted the pregnancy noted incase the worst should happen. I suppose i expected a bit more help.... I wanted her to say she'd apply for an early scan for me to ease my mind. I didn't want her to remind me it's a dangerous time and one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage. I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!!!



Sorry for the long post.... but my hubby told me it was to early to go to the dr. And i can't vent at him (he's too rational! and i don't want to hear i told you so!) i know that you girls will understand and maybe have been though a similar thing.

It's given me more determination to go back to her in 2 weeks and say - ha i'm still pregnant.... now book me in for a scan and to see the midwife missey!

to you all xx

 

[JayDee]

I don't think it's too early to go to the doctors - I'm about the same along as you and I'm going tonight.

Just cos you had a miscarriage last time doesn't mean you will again, think it's a bit harsh for them to assume that you will.

Good luck and I hope you can go and rub her nose in it in a couple of weeks!

x

 

[Blondie]

Sorry honey - it sounds about right, pretty much the same happened to me - went to docs at 6w pregnant after a mc at 5w4d two months earlier and he pretty much said come back when you get to 8 weeks or if you miscarry before then.

Some areas seem to not be interested until you get a bit further along

I still haven't been back yet but I suppose I should try and get back there this week to get a midwife referral now.

 

[booflebump]

I totally understand you wanting to go to the doctor early, and get an early scan. It would have been much better for her to at least refer you for an early scan....then the appointment is there and organised all being well. Feel free to rant any time hun - sending you lots of sticky bean wishes xxx

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

When i miscarried, i had already recieved my scan date letter... and told the midwife at the hospital to cancel it (and gave her the letter). I just presumed it would be cancelled and that was that. But, about 2 weeks ago i recieved a text message that came up from the NHS confirming the day and time of the scan which is this friday (24th April) am i complete looney for wanting to go to the scan to see about this pregnancy!!

Actually i already know the answer to that - YES I'M A COMPLETE NUTTER, CANCEL THE DAMN THING ALREADY!!!!!!

Don't quite know why i'm owning up to that thought... but i say, i'm pregnant i'm allowed to be irrational sometimes. And i will cancel it in a min!

LOL

 

[JayDee]

I don't think you'll reall see anything at the minute will you?

Maybe you could ring them and explain, see if they can book you in for one in a few more weeks time rather than waiting for the doc to refer you again?

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

I don't think you'll reall see anything at the minute will you?

Maybe you could ring them and explain, see if they can book you in for one in a few more weeks time rather than waiting for the doc to refer you again?

I sooooo know i won't see anything.... that's the funny part of the crazy thing! but it's not stopping me wanting to do it!!!!

But phoning them and explaining the situation ooohhhhh, now that's worth a try!!!! and not even a little bit crazy! I didn't know that people can actually call the epu direct, i thought you had to go through your gp....

 

[JayDee]

I don't know if you can but it's worth a try given you're already on their books....

 

[babystar]

 

[ahava]

Did she offer any advice as to why you may have micarried? Did she take a progesterone test after ovulation to see if you were low? Might be a good idea now to have a progesterone level test done, as supplements could help you support the pregnancy.

 

[MrsO29]

I had a m/c in early January, and when I got pg again straight away, my midwife wouldn't give me my notes at my 6 week appointment (Thats when they do booking here now), told me to wait until after a scan and then she would give me them!
Although in fairness she did book me in for an 8 and 10 week scan to reassure me.
TBH, the girls at my EPAU were the nicest people I have seen so far. You can ring them up directly and they are so understanding, not like the various GPs and receptionists I have spoken to who couldn't give a damn.

 

[poppy]

Hi!

They might not give you an early scan (usually they won't give you an early scan until 6 weeks but that is when there is a reason) but they could give you a couple hcg tests if you press them. These are blood tests that tell you the level of hcg hormone in your blood - in early pregnancy they should roughly double every 48 hours or so. So they could give you a couple of hcg tests spaced out to see if the hcg is increasing in your system, therefore showing you good progression and putting your mind at rest.

I had an early miscarriage in November 2007 before waiting for one period and trying again in January 2008 when I fell pregnant with my son. I went to the doctor at about 4 and a half weeks pregnant (very early) and told her how nervous I was given what happened in the November. She offered to give me three hcg tests spaced out. These were very reassuring and showed me that the levels were high and were doubling up well.

Alternatively, you could go for an early pregnancy scan privately. Most places will do a normal 2D scan for around a hundred pounds - again, you might have to wait for six weeks as it is hard for them to see anything before that.

Good luck, I am sure everything will be fine this time round.

xxx

 

[ninamama]

Hiya..just wanted to say im thinking of you and how frustrated you must be. I mc around the 10th of March and am now pregnant again..i called my doctor straight away to ask if i could come in for a scan and he pretty much said the same..theres not much use..not because he thought i would mc again but said it would only worry me if he scanned me and couldnt see anything! I have a scan planned in 9 days time and hope that I would be far along enough to be able to see something then. My last mc started with spotting on the day my period was due and lasted about 2wks untill I did a home test and it said negative. I didnt have severe cramps or terrible bleeding so its difficult to pinpoint the exact date of mc. I just hope that when I go I should see something! Thinking of you and lots of hugs from me..a fellow post mc pregnancy worrier!!

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

ahava - they didn't look into the miscarriage because it was my first one. Apparently you have to have had 3 before they look any further. They just put it down to the baby not developing properly. (i was only 6/7wks) Are there any signs for low progesterone? How would i know other than a blood test? Is this common? I didn't think anymore about it at the time and just took there word for it that the reason was genetics - although how they know this i don't know. I had a natural miscarriage, so nothing showed on the scan.

I will endevour to speak to the unit about the scan... and possibilty of having an early one done. But failing that i will persue the HCG blood tests - this sounds like a good thing!

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

I've just phoned to cancel the other appointment.... and had a very very lovely midwife who i could talk to normally about my anxiety and worry about this pregnancy. She cancelled the dating scan/annomily scan that was booked for my last pregnancy. She said the NHS doesn't do reasurrance scans and the earliest dating scan i can get would be at 10weeks. So i should pressure my gp to get a 10week scan.

 

[JayDee]

Glad the midwife was nicer than your doctor was. Hope you manage to get them to push for the 10 week scan (assume that's instead of a 12?)

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

Yeah... she said that the range for that first dating scan is between 10weeks and 13weeks 6days. ??

She also said that although the statistics for a miscarriage are ridiculously high (1 in 3/4 pregnancies) i have no higher risk with having had one miscarriage. She said that the risk if you make it past 10weeks is only 1% apparently!!! So fingers crossed little bean can make it to 10 weeks and beyond!

xx

 

[MrsO29]

Just to let you know my 2 early reassurance scans were on the NHS at my EPAU. Maybe your midwife meant they don't do them in your area?
Or maybe I only got them because of my 2 previous m/cs.

 

[ttcbabyno.1]

Just to let you know my 2 early reassurance scans were on the NHS at my EPAU. Maybe your midwife meant they don't do them in your area?
Or maybe I only got them because of my 2 previous m/cs.

I think she ment the NHS wouldn't just give me a scan for reassurance. Having had one miscarriage isn't enough to put me in an at risk catagory. So i just have the normal dating scan and 20wk scan.

 

[poppy]

Glad to hear that you got good feedback from the midwife. Even though you can't get an early scan on the NHS, you could go private - some places offer good deals on private scans.

I wouldn't worry about the progesterone thing - early miscarriages are fairly common, in particular, first time pregnancies (where often the body is getting used to things)and most women go on to have normal pregnancies afterwards. Your previous experience was probably just a random thing and probably nothing to do with low progesterone - this time, you will probably have a problem free pregnancy.