pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

yea thats kind of how its set up here too...the nurses are available to help, but for the most part they want the parents to take care of the baby and get used to everything before going home. im sure theyll be so tired of all my questions by the end, but thats their job! lol. DH is already so tired of my questions too because i ask him EVERYTHING since hes already gone through this before. yea i like having the ability to have people there for most of the day, but we will probably only have visitors if my mom is here. shes buying her tickets for about a week after the due date because she doesnt want to come and then have me go late and then have to leave right after the baby is born. but if i go into labour early or on-time, she will try to change her tickets to come right then. but were not sure if she will be here when were in the hospital anyway, so visiting hours might not matter at all. lol. the pet thing is kind of worrying..i really want to get it all figured out soon so i can story stressing about it. i emailed some pet sitters in the area today and am hoping someone will have availability.

i heard the thing about an epidural sometimes only working on half of your body! i think that would be the worst, probably worse than just not having one at all. because that way you have to feel everything on one side, knowing that if it had worked right you wouldnt feel anything. lol. but im like you...i dont want to need someone to tell me when to push...i want to be able to feel what needs to be done. somehow it just seems more natural that way...the way our bodies are supposed to do it.

we got our bucket style carrier really early too and never really though about trying it out. but when we got the stroller i wanted to see how the carseat worked with it, and then decided to try it in the car. good thing we did too, otherwise it would have been pretty late to find out the seat didnt work...i could have seen us going trying to leave the hospital with the baby and finding out then that it didnt fit... :-/ were lucky we found one that will work, because buying a new car would have been...bleh. we could have afforded it, but it would have been a huge expense we just werent counting on...so it would have made finances a lot tighter. lol. i got some nursing bras this weekend and i love them! i think theyll be so much better to wear than my old ones once the baby comes.

oooh i dont blame you for not wanting a shared room. with 3 other women and babies in there, it seems like it would be pretty hard to get rest. one baby wakes up and cries and all the others are gonna wake up right along with it! eeek! so i can also see why they wouldnt want cell phones in there. our hospital is crap about the cell phones...i cant use one at all because i cant leave the ward. i did find out that there is internet access though, you just have to take your computer in before to the IT guys there and get it setup for their system. so at least we will have access to email and such. we are just going to take our iPad though, instead of the laptop, so things will be a bit limited. but better than nothing!

so....YOURE FULL TERM TODAY! woohoo! you must be so completely excited. now i bet youre hoping that the baby just comes now eh? it must be such a relief to know that whenever the LO decides to come now youre at a safe point and s/he wont be considered preterm anymore. when does your OH get off of work? i guess youre probably wanting the LO to hold out and not come until he is off work though.. congrats again!

 

[dizzy65]

I think the nurses are going to get really annoyed with me too lol well they are probably used to all the questions and stuff im sure, but i will probably have lots of questions as this is my first.. OH too.. Im really excited to get to share a room with OH and the baby but it kind of sucks too because theres no real rest before you have to deal with baby all night, so we will be basically going home from the hospital all tired lol.. Im really glad that they have showers and all that in the recovery rooms thou thats pretty great so i can just get up and have a shower when ever im feeling disqusting.. like i really want to have a shower right after i get moved to recovery before i have any visitors i dont want them to see me all yucky lol.. Hopefully you can get a pet sitter for your doggies, that will be good.. Ive made arrangements for my cat already so hopefully it will all be good

I think you are right, knowing if it had worked right you would have no pain at all would some how be worse than not having one at all.. i think it would get really annoying feeling all the pain in the one side.. Plus there is all the side effects after it and if you didnt even get the relief then there is like really no point in having it.. i dont want to take that chance.. I think it is more nateral too have to know when to push your self i think it would be totally scarey to rely on some one else to know when is the right time to get that baby out, id rather rely on my own actions!

That is so lucky you guys found one that works for your vehical , and its a good thing you found out about the car seat before it was too late or you would of been stuck at the hospital as the car seat wouldnt of fit in the seat. When OH gets home we are putting the car seat in, so hopefully it fits and everything im sure it will theres no reason for it too not.. I love my nursing bras too they are so comfortable way more comfy then the wired bras.. but im scared because they were expensive and now the lady at my prenatial class said not to buy them tell after baby is here because of how swollen the breasts get and such after when the milk starts coming in, so i hope my boobs dont get to much bigger and ill still be able to wear them!

Im sure at the hospital here to we have our lap tops and such OH said he will bring it just so that he has an easier way of talking to everyone but his exact words are "im bringing the lap top and you are not aloud to use it" haha so i guess for me its all baby time there will be no time to talk to any one.. even with phone calls OH wants me to relax so he canmake all the phone calls and stuff.. We have so many people to call thou i think we are going to need both of us making phone calls or he will be making calls for a couple hours hehe,,

Thanks im soo happy to finally be full term it is so amazing and scarey at the same time to know that baby can come when ever it feels like.. I had pretty steady braxton hicks all day yesterday i thought it was leading to labor but thank god they stoped as OH is not here.. this is his last week of work, so he will be home wednesday for good than the baby can come when ever it feels like, im so happy OH will be home to be with me and the baby he really doesnt want to miss the birth

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i think the whole reason that they used to take the baby to the nursery is so that the parents can get some rest and recover, but now that doesnt really happen when you have the newborn with you full time. i guess in some ways the old way was good, but i definitely prefer the idea of my baby being with me all the time, even if it means im going to be like zombie tired im sure the showers will be AWESOME after we give birth. i told DH that im going to take one after we get her breastfed and all settled in in the mother-baby unit, but he thinks i wont because i wont want to leave her side. i just think i will feel so icky though and will need a shower to feel human again. lol. i got some pet sitters to respond and it looks like a few hava availability so now i just have to get everything setup. thats good that you got everything taken care of for your kitten, especially since youre so close to your due date and could litterally have the baby anytime now!

i think thats the problem i have with the epidural too...the fact that there are side effects. i dont want to risk side effects, especially if it doesnt even work right all the time. plus, not knowing how or when to push and not being able to feel what im doing, it just seems so unnatural. DH wants me to get the epidural, mostly because he doesnt want to have to see me in pain and everything, but im still going to try to go naturally. it could be that i change my mind when the time comes though! lol

i heard the same thing about nursing bras. so i only bought a few sleep bras and a couple of the sports bra style. i figure those will work for the first few weeks, and then after everything settles down and the milk is all in and breastfeeding is established, i will get the actual ones. i didnt want to buy a D cup and find out after the baby gets here that none of them fit anymore or something. hopefully the ones you got will be just fine after all of your milk comes in and everything...they are expensive and it would suck to have to buy more! i hope your carseat works fine. if you have a jeep i would think it would be okay...we just have a pretty small car and so we ran into the problem.

haha. thats funny that your OH banned you from using the internet while youre at the hospital. honestly though you probably wont want to anyway..youll be so involved in taking care of your LO. i know what you mean about the calls though..we are going to have so many people to call after she arrives. its going to cost us a fortune in calling cards! :-/

aww you must be so excited for being full term. and in just a week your OH will be home and your LO can come anytime after that. thats crazy that youre having so many BH contractions...but good thing they settled down. you gotta tell the little one to calm down and hang out a little longer until his/her daddy gets home!

 

[dizzy65]

No but i dont think im going to want rest and the thing about the baby being in the nursary if it was still like that is id be constantly worried about it and wanting to check on it all the time.. i also herd too that before when they had the nursary, if you were sleeping when baby needed to feed and if you were breast feeding they would just give your baby formula, which i wouldnt want i would want to breast feed the baby all the time.. and i would want to be woken up to do so , no matter when i fell asleep.. Im like you I think right after i get settled into the recovery rooms im going to want a shower even thou i probably will be so sad to leave my LO i know it has to be done, i dont want to sit in all that blood and sweat for the entire day especially if we have visitors, and its not like im leaving baby alone, he/she will be with OH Im glad we have people to take care of my kitten, i dont think id be able to cope not knowing whats happening to him, thats what i hate about going away when i have animals at home.. Thats good that you hopefully will have sum one to watch your puppies

OH and iwere talking about the epidural and we made a game plan pretty much, he asked me if, even if i begged for it if i wanted him to make sure against all of it that i wont get it, and i told him yes, that he just has to make sure i get my gas and air and ill be fine.. OH doesnt like the idea of the epidural either after he herd the side effects and stuff.. and i was thinking it must be pretty bad if they make you sign a form saying they told you about the side effects and you are in full awarenss ect of all that could happen and stuff. no thanks its defantly not for me!

Well thats good, you dont want to go right in and start buying tons of nursing bras that just going to end up not working and all of that, i would be so mad if i went and bought like 10 of them just to relise after my milk came in that i was a size bigger or what ever that would be such a piss off loll. So i have these for now and hopefully i wont need to be buying a bigger size or anything.. We will be trying the car seat in when OH gets home next week so fingers crossed hehe, im sure it should work fine thou.. it is a really good thing you guys could find a car seat that actaully worked for your car, it would of sucked to have to go and buy a whole new vehical.

That is so true, the only thing i think im going to want to go on the computer for after the baby is here is to up load pictures of my LO on the computer but besides that, i will be so involved with the baby i wont want to do anything else lol. It is crazy how many people we have to call and it sounds like you guys have lots to call too, i guess it is a really impotant day so there is going to be tons of people to call!

I am so happy to know that no matter when i have the baby from here on it wont ever be considered a premature baby, yay that is great i hope he/she can hang on just a little bit longer for daddy to get home thou Ooh congrats on hitting 35 weels, yay only 2 weeks more tell you are full term thats great

On the weekend we went to my grandma's 80th birthday celebration that was so much fun i got to see my cousins and my aunties and uncles and stuff and there were people that gave us presesnts for baby so it was like a mini baby shower it was so much fun and im so glad i got to go

 

[QueSeraSera]

thats what i think too...i think i will be exhausted after the labour, but at the same time ill be so excited that the baby is finally here that i wouldnt be able to rest even if i wanted to! and if they took the baby i would just be nervous...not like relaxed and sleeping or anything. and i would be really upset if they bottle fed the baby just because i was sleeping or something...giving the baby a bottle that young can really cause confusion and make breastfeeding so much harder. not worth it in the long run for a little extra rest, in my opinion. the shower thing will be essential! and plus, like you said, it will give the daddies a little time to bond with the babies without us around.

i know! thats what i keep telling DH, that there are side effects and everything, but i guess he just doesnt really agree because his ex had an epidural with his son. but i dont like the idea of the epidural very much. i think one of the major things is that he doesnt want to have to watch me be in pain for so long.. but we are just going to play it by ear, if it really is a pain that i just cant manage ill probably get one just because there really isnt another alternative. im just hoping it doesnt come to that! thats awesome that you and your OH have made a plan and he is going to back you up in your decision no matter what...im sure that will be a great support to have when the time comes

im hoping too that i dont need huge bras when my milk comes in! ive already grown so much and really dont want to end up like a F cup or something after the milk comes in! lol. i found some online that i think ill order right after the baby is born, and hopefully the sports bra types will work until they can get here. hopefully you dont have to buy any extra and the ones you have will fit perfectly even after your milk comes in. oh and good luck with the car seat! i bet it will work though, it seems like your truck is quite a bit bigger than ours is. you shouldnt have any problem, but i bet it will be a relief just to try it out and make sure

im not going to be on the computer too much after shes born, im pretty sure. im already so busy with my stepson that i hardly get time to get online except at work on my lunch break and such. we have been having my stepson since thursday because his mom is out of town, and ohmygosh we have been busy! i hardly had time to do anything. last night after he went to bed i had some time to go on facebook, but other than that i havent been able to get online the whole time. so im sure when the baby comes it will be the same thing.

your OH should be home soon and ready to stay with you until the baby comes huh? that must be so exciting! and youre only 2 weeks and 1 day away from your due date! ahhh...its getting so close! you must be getting so excited

your grandmothers bday must have been really exciting and im sure that everyone thought it was great to see you and your baby bump. they must all be getting excited for the LOs arrival too! my mom bought her tickets to come out here yesterday...im getting so excited for her to come. she bought them for a week after my EDD, just in case im late. if im on time or early she will try to change the dates then. and then we are planning on taking the baby and my stepson to colorado for thanksgiving to see the family....ahh, its so exciting that shes going to be here soon and i cant wait for everyone to meet her

 

[dizzy65]

Id be like you, id just be so nervous that the baby wasnt being looked after like they should if they were in the nursary.. i herd that also once a baby gets forumla fed it sees how much easier it is doing it that way and doesnt want to breast feed that would be so frusterating as i want to give my best shot at breast feeding before i resort to formula. Plus if baby was in the nursary i would always want to go down there to see him/her for sure.. i think for the first little bit ill just want to hold and look at my baby because its something ive been waiting for, for so long.. and i really cant wait to see what the baby is like!

I guess the only think he really cares about is your comfort and stuff its just like my OH, i keep telling him thou i am not getting an epidural no matter how bad my labour is that i can hold out until i get my gas and air because i really want to do this as natural as i possibal can, i really dont want to take unnessisary meds plus i dont want to have to have a cathedar in and stuff like that.. it seems kinda icky to me to have to have one of them in, and you know its bad when you wont even be able to pee by your self.. i think im much better with out the epidural..

That would suck if it went up huge sizes. id be so mad.. mine have grown so much since the begining but i really hope they dont jump up like 3 sizes or something crazy when my milk comes in.. ah i herd too that we need lots of breast pads ect because there is lots of leaking and stuff, am really not looking forward to that for sure lol..

I think ill be like you, i wont be able to get onto the computer very much i think just maybe facebook adding pics of the LO and keeping people up dated and stuff like that but as for anything else i probably wont be able to do.. As it is right now perpairing for the baby im so busy and dont have very much time for anything it really sucks.. but i cant wait tell the baby will be here so it will all be worth it

Yep OH will be home tomorrow morning yay and it is so exciting hehe i cant wait and he doesnt even have to leave this time so exciting hehe.. and also yay im 38 weeks toda, only 2 weeks from my due date so exciting

My grandmas birthday was really great everyone was like rubbing my tummy and stuff like that it was so weird i felt like a petting zoo haha.. everyone was like "wholy crap look how big you've gotten" and stuff like that.. everyone was just in major shocks.. and all of that

So its finally happened, im on bed rest well not by the doctor but by my OH because i have a really eally sore back that i cant even walk by my self i have to have some one with me all the time just incase i fall over because the pain is so intense that some times i just collapse.. on my next prenatial appointment im going to ask them if they can induce me earlier than 2 weeks over due because of my back i really cant handle this for too much longer..

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i already know im going to be so controlling over the whole thing in the hospital..i really just want to take care of her in the room instead of handing her over to a nurse. and, like you said, weve been waiting so long to finally meet the LO that we deserve to just spend all the time that we want to with them. for me, i cant wait to help her learn to breastfeed and i cant wait to see the little hands and feet that have been beating me up, see whos nose/mouth/eyes/ears/etc that she got. i just cant wait to see her and meet her! lol. im officially on countdown mode...29 more days. it still feels like forever away, but i think it will go by fast. i remember just seeing your count at like 40 days and now youre at 13 already! so it really does go by fast, even if it feels like its taking forever

yea the whole idea of the epidural seems unnatural...and having to have a catheter, thats never a good thing! lol. plus, for me personally, i absolutely hate the feeling of being numb. like when ive had surgeries before or whatever, it just annoys me so much when you wake up and part of your body is still numb. my knee is still numb right on the scar from my last surgery and it drives me crazy. so going through an entire labour numb like that, i think that would bother me more than the pain itself! lol.

we went and bought some breast pads last night. i heard that they are all different a bit and fit differently, and so some women might like one kind and hate another. so we bought 3 different kinds to try them out. im not really looking forward to wearing them. i was looking it up and they say that for some women the leaking subsides after a bit, but for others it lasts the entire time youre breastfeeding. i really hope that we are the type that is stops after a bit! im sure theyre going to be annoying to wear. plus they arent very cheap at all!

yea i think that my one thing with the computer will be to upload pictures and update on FB and such. mainly because my family isnt out here and they wont be able to see the baby. my mom is coming out, but thats it. so i want to make sure and keep them all updated as she grows and such but i imagine that is about all im going to have time for. i cant wait for you to have your baby though and get everything updated! im still so curious about if its a boy or a girl! in a way i kinda wish we could have left it to surprise, but on the other hand i know that i never would have been able to. lol.

so your OH must be home now! you must be so excited and relieved that he is there now and you dont have to worry about going into labour with him far away. and i bet he will enjoy having some time to rest and recouperate before the baby comes. and now that hes home for good he can help you with all the things that have become too difficult in these last stages of the pregnancy. it must be an overall good feeling

so many congratulations on 38 weeks! and the party sounds like it was just awesome. i bet everyone is so excited for the baby to arrive. have you decided when the shower is going to be? is it going to be right after the baby is born, or are you guys going to wait a little bit?

awww...thats crazy that your legs are just giving out like that! i completely agree with you on the back pain though...i make DH help me out of my seat whenever im at home, and at work its so painful to sit down and get up on my own. it feels like all of the muscles in my back have been pulled. im seriously considering going to get a prenatal massage soon. last night i could barely sleep because of the pain and i just cant get comfortable anymore. i was waking up like every 20 minutes or so because of it, and so now today i am just exhausted. hopefully you wont go over your due date and youll just have to make it the next 13 days. but i think it was a good decision on your OHs part to tell you to stick to bed rest. and now that hes home with you he can wait on you! thats always fun!

 

[dizzy65]

oh yeah i know what you mean i have been wondering for days now what or who the LO is going to look like.. what features will be mine which will be OH's .. how big it is i hope that its not too big hehe and the main thing what gender it is.. i really cant wait to hold it and get to experiance what its like.. i to cant wait to see the little feet that have been trying to tear out of me and the little hands that have been punching me.. Its just an amazing experiance and i cant wait tell the baby is here.. I think i would be so upset if the nurses take the baby away to the nursary lol and id be like walking to the nursary all the time to see the baby anyway, i wouldnt get very much rest.

I know what you mean i hate that feeling too. when i woke up after my wisdom teeth surgary and my mouth was all frozen that was horrid i hated that feeling.. i would hate that if my whole tummy area was frozen and i couldnt feel any of that stuff that i should feel it would totally freak me out.. i Believe they have the morphine drip here too so if i need it, its there.. Im hoping and crossing my fingers i can do it as naturally as possibal but have alread discussed with them the gas and air.. im thinking ill probably end up being a big baby haha.

Ah i know ive herd that too thats why im nervous about buying them, i mean i have bought some for the hospital and stuff but the ones i bought are the washable ones so i hope they do alright.. maybe ill be one of the lucky ones that doesnt leak to badly haha.. i think they are going to have to be something to be used to like when i first got my perioid and i had to get used to wearing pads and stuff like that.. This will probably be the same plus its not like we have to wear them for ever.

Im like that too i think the only reason to be on the computer is just to update stuff about the baby for family.. my parents will be able to see the baby and stuff but OH's mom lives out of province and all of or other family lives in various other places so the only thing it will be used for is updating for sure!

Yep OH is home now.. ah his first day back and OH goes with his brother and cousin and mom and his moms bf fishing err so he dropped me off at my parents place this morning and took off he said he wont leave me with out a vehical .. so lame i feel like a kid that needs a baby sitter haha. its good he is home thou so i dont have to do much.. he wont let me do anything at all hardly walk by my self lol.

Thanks im so excited to be 38 weeks, well more than that now yay and look at you you are 36 weeks now that is great getting so close one more week tell your full term!

ah i know it realy sucks with the back aches.. i have an appointment at a chiropractor tomorrow it is my absolute last resort i hope they can make me feel better if not im going to be asking for an early induction or something this is really starting to kill me i cant walk i cant sleep i cant do much and its driving me mad.. i just want the pain to go away im hoping labour will start early thou fingers crossed

 

[QueSeraSera]

i know exactly what you mean. i keep having these dreams about the baby coming and it gets me so excited, but in the dreams i can never see her face because its kind of blurry. i cant wait until i see her and can finally know what she looks like. and for you, you guys have the even bigger surprise of finding out if your LO is a boy or a girl! have you guys come to conclusions about the names yet, or will you be deciding after the labour?

yea the whole idea of being numb all over is kind of terrifying. and i think it would just drive me crazy. plus, being numb like that...ive be scared that i would try to do something that was really actually painful, but because i was numb i wouldnt be able to feel it and end up hurting myself. they have the morphine drip here, but im like you and hope not to have to use it. im a little nervous that it will come down to it and be more pain than i am expecting though...we both might end up being big babies! lol

i havent bought any of the washable sorts of breast pads yet. i bought all disposable kinds because i really figure that in the first few weeks when im still trying to figure everything out with the baby and all, i wont be wanting to wash breast pads every day. so im starting out with the disposable kind, but will hopefully move to the washable kind after. the thing is, if i am the type that has to wear them throughout for a long time, the disposable kind are not cheap! i guess we will just see really. i agree though that they are definitely going to take some getting used to! i guess maybe it will be like wearing a padded bra kind of...

so will your parents be coming up to stay with you when the baby comes? i bet they are so excited! its so great that we have the internet these days to keep people updated and share our thoughts and stories with everyone, no matter where in the world they are

i totally would have kicked my DHs ass if he had left me on his first day back! i mean it was nice that he left you with someone who has a car and all that, but i would want him nearby. i guess i am really clingy lately though and i sort of just want my DH really near at all times just in case something happens. i honestly think that when labour does come ill probably be pretty terrified by it all, and i dont want to have to worry about calling DH and tracking him down and waiting for him to get home. that just seems like it will add more stress to an already pretty stressful situation.

how did the chiropractor end up going? im thinking about getting a prenatal massage this weekend because my back has been so sore lately. its kind of expensive, but im thinking it might be worth it anyway. i wonder if your back pain is an indication that the baby is coming soon? i dont know about there, but here they wont induce before 39 weeks unless there is some sort of complication. i remember when my brothers ex was pregnant...poor girl was tiny and pregnant with a 10lb6oz baby. she was in an amazing amount of pain because she started out at only about 5'2" and 110lbs. needless to say her body wasnt equipped to handle a baby that size. she begged them to induce early, but they wouldnt because there wasnt a medical reason for it. hopefully for you the chiropractor helped out, and if not then hopefully the baby just decides to show up soon!

 

[dizzy65]

i know what you mean ive been having dreams like that im always sad because i really want to know what my LO looks like and what sex it is.. ah i cant wait tell its here we have both come so far.. Yes we have picked out names, For a girl it will be tatiannah Louise and for a boy it will be Scottie Leon.. We have decided not to tell our families tell the baby is here so they can meet the baby with its name and fully apreciate it and stuff i cant wait, they all have been dieing to know, they keep trying to trick OH and i into telling them, but its not working

I think you are right ive never thought about that, but id probably do the same, if being bumb from the waiste down id probably end up hurting my self.. Its like at the dentist when they freeze your mouth and you chew on your lip with out relising it i think it would probably be about the same. Ah i hate having my mouth frozen at the dentist so i dont think id like to have my waist down frozen that would just be too weird! It really doesnt seem natural to me. I'm about 90% sure im going to end up being a big baby haha im so nervous.

Yeah i have some disposable ones too just for that reason that i dont want to be washing breast pads all the time.. when the baby is just here, cause ill probably be doing so much more laundry any way with all the clothes for the baby and such..

My mom will be coming to stay here for a week to help out with the baby so thats good she says she just wants to make sure that everything is well and that i can handle the baby and all that lol. Yes thank goodness for internet i dont no how we would get along with out the internet lol.

The place where OH goes fishing is only like a 15 min drive from my parents place so i would of been able to get a hold of him easily but i probably would of been on my way to the hospital when i answered him or something lol. Thankfully nothing like that happened. OH is fishing again today but i opted to stay home just because my leg is killing me and doing trips every day like that is really stressfull on the body. Plus Salmon fishing here is only open tell Aug 22nd so after that i wont have to worry about OH leaving me so much.

The Chiropractor was good it was really weird it felt weird when he cracked my back for me but it was so nince, it started feeling better right away tell i went to my prenatial appointment and i had to stretch out then my back hurt really bad again for the rest of the day but today my back is feeling lots better so hopefully it will continue to improve, i have a nother chiropractor appointment on friday just a follow up to see if my back needs to be cracked again and what not.. That will be cool if you go get a massage it will make you feel soo much better! I asked them yesterday at my prenatial about if they can induce me, they said not because of my back but if my blood pressure continues to stay high that they will induce me by the end of next week. i have another appointment tuesday to see how my blood pressure is doing..

So are you going into the doctors every 2 weeks now? wow you are getting so close to the end soon you will be able to pop that baby out at any time. When do you start your maternity leave?

 

[QueSeraSera]

aww i love your names! they are both adorable! are they named after anyone in the family or are they unique to this baby? i think thats very cool to keep it a secret, especially since you havent found out the gender either. we thought about keeping the name a secret, but since i talk to the bump all the time and use her name, i knew it wouldnt last long. but with you, when you make your calls you can introduce the little one not only as your baby boy or girl, but with the surprise names to go along with it! i bet the family is just bursting to know! i know my family would have been pestering me to tell them too

haha! that is exactly where i got that fear from! i HATE going to the dentist and everytime they have to numb my mouth for something i end up biting through my cheek or my lips. its horrible and i jsut hate the numb feeling overall. so the thought of hurting myself because i dont feel the pain, and doing it after labour...seems like you could do some damage. i really dont want that to happen. plus i want to be able to know i need to pee too...losing that sense and urge just seems soooo weird.

 

[QueSeraSera]

ooops...posted that before i was finished writing! sorry bout that...now for the rest...

i agree on the nursing pads. i think i will eventually buy some reusable ones, but in the beginning im going to be so overwhelmed that i dont want to have to worry about "did i wash the nursing pads?" or suddenly find out i dont have any and it be in the middle of the night or something. but if i leak too long ill go with washable...because its just not financially feasible to use the disposable for too long really

that will be really nice to have your mom there to help out. and plus i bet she will love getting to spend some time with her new little grandbaby. with her there she can probably take up some of the slack too so that you can have a little bit of room to rest and recover. then when she leaves youll be better able to take care of everything. my mom is doing the same thing, only i think she is staying almost 2 weeks. im so glad that shes going to be able to come, as im sure it will be a great help.

well its good that your OH isnt too far away really. and that the fishing season is ending soon. youre a more patient woman than i am though, because i would throw a fit if DH tried to leave me to go fishing right now. but i think im unusually clingy lately too. i just want him around all the time. i can understand you not wanting to go though...i dont have the energy or the desire to do much of anything lately. yesterday DH wanted to go to the store and i had to seriously talk myself up to it. lol

it sounds like the chiropracted did some good! i know when i went to one before, it took a few sessions to get everything just right, and after the first one my back did get pretty sore again. but after she got everything realligned, it was so much better. im glad its helping you feel better! im still wanting to go get a massage, but i didnt this weekend. maybe next weekend..im going to get a haircut then and maybe ill make a day of it and get a massage too. so has your blood pressure been up lately? hopefully it gets itself under control soon! or else they may have to induce? or would you prefer to be induced?

i go to the doctors today, and then i think again in 2 weeks, and after that every week. im excited to be down to the final few weeks for sure. my maternity leave is when the baby comes though. we get such a short time here in the states that im not starting leave until i go into labour. it kind of sucks because im pretty uncomfortable at work. but its worth it so that i can spend all my time off with the baby after she comes

 

[dizzy65]

Thanks the Middle names we have for the baby are after our Grandparents. Leon is after my grandpa who died when i was 10 years old and Louise is after OH's grandma that passed away when he was 15, so those names are special to us.. But the first names are just there because we liked them.. they are unique to the baby Every one is dieing to know the names, they only know the middle ones.. Everytime i see my mom shes like "so what are you going to name this little one" lol and than i always reply with "mom you know i cant tell you" and than i laugh.. OH and i love the fact that all of this is secretive and stuff from everyone else.. it makes it more special to us any way.. That totally makes since that it would be harder to hide it with you talking to your bump all the time and calling it that name.

You are very right it would be so weird to not have the sensation to pee or anything, i dont no i dont think id really like it at all.. id feel nervous all the time and stuff not to know whats going on in that area. id probably be getting them to constantly check on me and stuff. Plus i dont like the fact that you have to sign papers saying you know the dangers of having and epidural and stuff like that.. it really freaks me out, because if it is bad enough to have to sign papers for i dont think its really worth it.

Yeah thats true i hope the leaking part doesnt last to long.. i get grossed out really easy like when i first started lactating i was like "uhm eww" lol.. So i hope this fase doesnt last for too long.. and also i dont want to have to be washing my nursing pads all the time and stuff. it sucks,

It will be good to have my mom here for a while to help out with the baby since she has had babies before she knows what to expect and stuff like that, where is OH and i are new to this whole thing so it will be good to have another women that is really knowldgeable about all of this stuff. Thats good that your mom will be there to help you.. you must be happy that you will have that support too, some one there when you are tired ect hehe.

I am like that too really clingy but I know that fishing season is only once a year for a couple of weeks and if i was to say no to him he would get really cranky. its not like i could walk down to the fishing hole with them either id end up like killing my self lol its a really steep hill.. climbing is not my thing right now.. I am like that too the last couple times OH has gone up town and asked if i wanted to come im like "no i think ill just stay here" it takes me so long to walk or anything like that.. i feel bad for slowing people down plus with limping because of my back its never any fun.

I have another appointment to go see him on the friday if i dont have the baby by then so hopefully it will help.. my back got worse again it is really starting to frusterate me, ah what i wouldnt give to feel good again.. I cant wait tell the baby is here and all of that so exciting I will find out today how my blood pressure is and if they need to induce me or not.. i dont no why they would tell me this because im so nervous my blood pressure is going to be a bit on the high side anyway just because how i feel lol. They are also going to do another sweep today.. i hope it doesnt lead to an induction but you never no.

wow not long now.. must be good feeling to be going in every couple of weeks now rather than every 4.. im going in once a week now.. it kinda sucks having to do this but oh well.. i only have one week left tell my EDD

 

[QueSeraSera]

awww thats really nice that youre using the middle names to commemorate people in your family who were special to you and have passed. but at the same time the LO will have a unique first name. for me, i always liked the idea of a unique first name for kids...that way they dont feel slighted for having to share that is too funny that everyone is trying to get you to spill the beans on the name! my mom would be doing the same thing! im pretty sure it would drive her absolutely crazy not knowing but i agree that having a secret thing for just you and your OH would be nice too...something that is just between the two of you that you dont have to share. im so horrible at secrets, i wouldnt be able to manage it. but its cool that you guys have

i think that is what scares me too...the whole "there are dangers and you have to consent to them" thing about an epidural. and if you start reading the possible side effects or things that can go wrong...talk about terrifying! but i might not care when it comes down to it, if the pain is that bad! lol. its all just a matter of waiting to see how it will go i guess

i havent had any issues yet with leaking or anything, so i really have no idea what to expect. im so scared its going to start at work though and im not going to have anything here with me to do anything about it. :-/ i imagine that i will be a bit grossed out by it too, but i suppose it will be something we will get used to. hopefully were just both lucky and it doesnt last long

i totally agree. i think it is a nice thing to have someone to help out right when the baby is first born and things are crazy. im really looking forward to having my moms help with it all. and then i think after my mom leaves, my MIL might be moving out here and renting a studio to be closer to us and to my stepson. we usually dont get along at all, but after some major fighting we sat down with my DH yesterday and had a long skype conversation with one another. we both apologized about things we had said or done in the past and kind of agreed to let the past be the past and work on having a better relationship from here forward. it was a big relief because the issues with her had been stressing me out for a long time. plus, it needed to happen if she is going to move out here. without the peace between us i wouldnt have been allowing her to keep audrey at all. so, now that things are better...it will be nice to have her out here if she comes. that way we can have extra help when we need it and such.

i cant imagine climbing anywhere! i was having a stressful day on tuesday because of the MIL thing and i wanted to go to my favorite spot...its this secluded cliff where nobody goes and the water forms a blowhole below so the waves crash in and the water spits up through the rocks. its peaceful and amazing...but then i realized that even if i got down the trail, im not so sure that i could get back up! :-/ at least for you the fishing is almost over and you dont have to worry about it much longer

so has anything started yet? when i went in on monday the doctor said that audrey is head down, but that im not dialating or anything yet...so nothing happening here. my back is starting to hurt really bad though, and i hope it doesnt get to the point like yours is. if so, i dont think ill be able to continue to work through it. has your back gotten any better? that really sucks that it started hurting again...hopefully the chiropractor can do something tomorrow that will give you a little longer-lasting relief from the pain. hopefully the baby will just come soon and it will all be over! youre only 5 days away from your EDD now! that is so exciting and you must just be so ready by now. i just turned 37 weeks today and i know that im ready...so by the time that im in your position ill probably be trying anything to get labour started. hope youre doing well!

 

[dizzy65]

OH and i both thought it was a good idea to name the baby after some one we really cared about.. I hope the name suits them once they are out.. I have been dying to tell my family the name we have chosen but have been pretty good about holding it in.. It doesnt help with them bugging me all the time about iot thou haha. Im usually a really bad secret keeper too thats why im surprised ive kept this one for so long.. Ive been telling my friends and stuff thou as i cant hold it in just to us that would be crazy i think id explode haha.

I dont no what ill do if the pain is really that bad i cant handle it because i think an epidural is a really bad choice to me.. Everyone keeps saying just to breath threw the pain and keep thinking every contraction is just bringing you closer to meeting the LO but i honestly dont no if that will be enough for me.. im such a big baby lol and i even almost cry when i get really bad Braxton hicks contractions so this should be interesting..

Ah that would totally suck.. If it went like right threw the shirt and everything and you didnt bring a clean shirt to change into.. i think i will probably be packing extra clothes with me for the first l ittle while lol.

That is so great for you that you worked things out with your MIL.. now after the baby is here you will be able to be less stressed if things keep on good terms.. there was probably a lot you and your MIL talked about that just helped things get more out in the open.. it is good to not have to hold that stuff in any more.. Must be such a relief.. and it will be so much better once the baby is here so that you guys can work as a team rather than against each other.. hopefully she will be lots of help too for little audrey so that it will be more relaxing and easier on you.

Ah i totally know what you mean. i can go down hills but coming back up i think id have to camp out until the baby came lol.. it is even hard for me to do stairs right now it sucks so bad.. I cant wait tell the baby is here

Thats great news that your little girl is head down and getting ready and in position hopefully she will come soon and you wont be kept waiting too much longer.. Back pain really does suck so bad.. For me the nervousness has set in, i had a prenatial appointment today where the doctor told me that There are going to induce me next week and she is going to let me know the date and time and such, she said that im not to go very far past my EDD. So im so nervous now that probably this time next week ill be holding my LO.. eek i cant believe it !!

Ooh congrats on hitting your full term mark must be great now that the baby can come at any time and stuff you must be getting excited hehe

 

[QueSeraSera]

you are a strong lady...i so would have caved and told everyone by now! im horrible with the secrets to be honest. plus, i probably would have just forgotten at some point and let it slip...thats how absent-minded ive been this pregnancy. it seems like my head has been in the clouds for the entire past 9 months! lol. im sure the names will suit your LO perfectly! i just cant wait to find out if youll be having a little tatiannah or a little scottie.

im just really nervous because while ive had BH contractions a lot and they tighten and make my stomach rock hard...they are just uncomfortable, and i havent actually experienced any pain yet. so i still have absolutely no idea what to expect out of labour. i dont have any indication yet as to how painful it is going to be, or what the pain is going to feel like. so its all going to come as a big surprise i guess. and thats what makes me nervous! lol

after talking about it, i decided to stach an extra shirt and a couple breast pads in my desk drawer i started getting really nervous and so i brought that to work today. so, now if anything does start leaking here at least i will have a change of clothes for the day.

yea its really a big relief to not have that tension with the MIL hanging over my head. i mean, things arent perfect and i dont think anything will ever make it that way...but its soooo much better than it was before. she is pretty sure that she is moving out here. she wanted to be the childcare provider for audrey and have us just pay her what we would have paid the centre on base, but i am not comfortable with that. i want audrey to learn to socialize and be around other babies, so we told her no to that. but shes still going to move out her to be closer...spend time on the weekends, watch the kids when theyre sick...things like that. so it will be an extra help and that will be nice. it wasnt going to be good for either up us to keep fighting, and it wasnt going to be good to have her mom hate her grandma and her grandma feel the same about her mom. this is a much better situation.

i jsut saw on facebook that youre getting induced on monday! that is amazing news! are you super excited or getting nervous? you will have to upload pictures and updates when you feel well enough to do so! ahh...im so excited for you! speaking of impending labours...i lost a decent sized part of my mucous plug this morning. on a trip to the toilet it just came out and i cant think of anything else it would be besides that. i know they say that labour can still be weeks off when that happens though. did it happen to you at all? its seems like ive been having more BH contractions today though...and ive been super crampy. im trying not to get my hopes up that its something beginning, because im sure its just me overanalyzing things. im just so impatient these days! lol

 

[dizzy65]

I almost do some times let it slip lol i cant believe ive kept it this long ah only a little while longer to hold it in lol.. I have been really spacey lately or for like this whole pregnancy too.. OH will tell me something and ill talk to him about it and like 5 min later i will have forgotten we had even had a conversation i think he gets really bored and tired with having the same conversations with me over and over again lol. Plus he will tell me to do something and i say i will than like a few seconds later when i go to do it ive forgotten what it is i was supposed to be doing lol i cant wait tell i have my normal thinking back..

I would be nervous too if i havent had any thing really painful. I would rather no what to expect than to go in blind folded thats for sure... It does feel really uncomfortable the BH contractions i dont like them at all i hope real labour pains dont feel like these. people say just to imagin them as really bad period cramps.. But i usually do get really severe period cramps i mean when i got my period so i hope this wont be too bad and i can have a shower or what ever to relax if it gets too intense.. i dont want to be one of those ladies thats in labor for like 24 hours i wouldnt be able to handle that lol and my poor OH i dont think he could handle seeing me in pain like that for that long.. Like when they did my vaginal exam and i was in tears OH looked like he was going to cry cause i was in pain hehe.

That is a good idea just so you arent stuck there with nothing! that would suck

Yes you defantly wouldnt want little audry to grow up in a world where her mommy and grandma couldnt get a long.. Its good that you guys have come to terms on stuff it probably makes things a lot easier now and less stressfull for you.. thats good that she is wanting to be around to help with your daughter she will probably make things so much easier.. to have her there when she is sick ect i would feel the same as you id rather have my LO at a day care where it could interact with other kids other than being on its own all the time it is probably best that way.

Yep induction booked for monday.. I am so nervous and so excited about it i cant believe its actaully going to happen.. They said it can some times take a couple days, but i should have baby by the end of next week im so excited i cant wait to meet my LO.. Thats good you lost a good size chunk of your plug, it does still take some time before the baby comes thou, i was loosing bits and peices of mine but have yet to loose all of it, i guess that will all happen on monday.

 

[QueSeraSera]

i am the exact same way lately! i swear this pregnancy has rendered like half of my brain useless or something! i say some of the most off the wall, doesnt make sense things lately. or i will do the forgetful thing too. i pretty much have to write myself notes for anything i really need to remember lately...otherwise im bound to forget and whatever it was wont get done. must be a pregnancy thing... i hear it gets worse though after the baby gets here, mainly because of the exhaustion sets in with taking care of a newborn. eeek! im wondering when ill ever get my brain back! lol

we went to a party this past weekend for one of the DHs friends that is leaving the island. they all got super drunk and were partying, but i was just hanging out with these two wives who were there. one was 16 weeks pregnant with her second and the other has an 11 month old. so they were giving me tips about labour and birth and such. they both said the best thing that you can do in early labour when youre waiting to go in to the hospital is have a warm bath. it helps you relax your body between contractions and save some energy. i dont know if your hospital has it, but ours have jacuzzi tubs in the labour rooms too. she said use it as long as you possibly can. so that is one thing i am going to try to do. i have been having BH contractions a LOT lately though...but they still arent painful or anything. they kind of take my breath away though because im not expecting them. other than that though, i still have no idea what to expect. hopefully the real contractions wont be so painful for you. or youll be used to the BH ones and it wont seem so bad. thats crazy that your internal was painful for you though! i had one at my last appointment and it didnt hurt at all...it did make audrey upset though and she was kicking around like crazy. lol. i have heard that some doctors can be much more rough than others though when it comes to those kind of exams. :-/

yea its much better that MIL and i are getting along now. especially because she has decided that she is moving out here for at leasst 6 months starting in the middle of october. it never would have worked having her live so close if we hadnt have come to terms over everything that has been said or done in the past. and it will be nice when DH is on business trips and such, because at least ill have someone here who can help if i need it. i was kind of nervous about those times when he would be gone and i would be all on my own..so it really is better. but i am sticking to my guns on the daycare thing. i want her to be around people and other babies and kids...i think the socialization will be good for her. my stepson was cared for by his grandma (his mom's mom) until he was over 3 years old and he hardly ever had interaction with other kids. and even to this day you can tell that he is kind of socially awkward, shy, and has a hard time interacting with other kids sometimes. so i dont want the same thing to happen with audrey...were gonna make sure she isnt shy! lol

i saw on here and facebook that the LO wasnt cooperating yesterday for the induction. that really sucks that your hopes got all up :-/ but at least you get to go in again tomorrow and dont have to wait to long. hopefully s/he will be in a much more cooperative mood then.. and today is your official EDD! congratualtions! you must be so excited! i cant wait to hear how everything goes tomorrow with the induction. fingers crossed that it all works out and you have your LO in your arms soon!

 

[dizzy65]

hey! me and scottie are home now i just wanted to say, try not to stress about the labor and delievery of your little miricle it is totally worth every second of it just to be holdng your little one in your arms.. It may seem scary at the time but it is really worth it good luck in the delievery of your LO and i cant wait to here how everything went and to see pictures you are just about there now yay so exciting

 

[QueSeraSera]

awww im so glad that you guys are home safe! i saw your pictures on facebook and it looks like the big day went marvelously! and everyone got to be there to welcome little scottie into the world too...i bet it was great. im glad he is doing better over getting jaundice...me and DH both had that when we were born so were a little nervous that audrey might too.

when you finally get some time youll have to post your birth story so that i can hear how it all went! if its not before audrey comes then we can swap stories after...im sure youre so busy these days! ill definitely fill you in when my LO arrives too