Pregnant after recurrent miscarriage and stillbirth or neonatal loss? Join me here!

[Tasha]

Hiiiiiiii!

I think it's a pretty unique situation to be in, so I thought we could have a thread to offer support to one another!

I will start with my story (as quick as I can).

Spoiler

I've had two babies born healthy, then a stillbirth at 36+6, another baby born healthy, seven first tri loses, a stillbirth at 24+3 and nine first tri loses.

I'm now 17+6 with 'Rudolph'

Feel free to share your story (or not).

 

[Tia30]

Hi Tasha,

Great idea for a group.

I'll second with my story. I've had three 1st trimester miscarriags, one midtrimester loss and my daughter was stillborn at 28 weeks in June 2014. No living children. (I don't know how to do a spoiler so apologies)

I am now 22 weeks pregnant, excited but scared.

xxx

 

[Tasha]

Hiya Tia.

So glad you joined me, I was worried about talking to myself

I only spoilered because my history usually is long but did the short version today.

I'm sorry for your loses

How are you doing today? It must be getting tough as you get closer to when your little girl was born sleeping?

I think we will both hit that point (well my second little stillborn girls dates) as for me that's 24 weeks (although she slowed down with her growth between 16+5 and 21 weeks but not sure when exactly) and that's mid-March I am 24 weeks (hopefully) and around the same time you're 28 weeks I think.

Are you being looked after?

 

[Hope39]

Hello girls

I also think this is a fab idea

My story so far is 6 first trimester miscarriages and then my son isaac Lucas was born at 27w due to a placental abruption. My little man had been starved of oxygen for too long so we switched his life support off 2 days later

I am currently pregnant again, wish I could say 8th time lucky but due to a bit of spotting any little bit of hope I had is fading. IWill be 6w tomorrow x

 

[Hope39]

cant believe your nearly 18w Tasha, it's flying by

Tia you only have a few more weeks till your little (or big) hospital stay is here

Oh I forgot to spoiler too xx

 

[Tasha]

*waves* hiiii hope.

Don't worry about the spoilering, it's just I'm use to it because if I write each individual pregnancy it is like a novel, so habit more than anything

I have everything crossed that this is nothing but normal instead of something to worry about

I know right? It is going in a blink of an eye. Scary.

I wish we all had a fast forward button though x

 

[Hope39]

Fast forwarding to 36w would be pretty cool, or just going to sleep and waking up at 36w would do even , lol

 

[Tasha]

Snap

IS the spotting staying the same?

 

[Hope39]

Yeah it's not really spotting today, toilet paper is a bit tinged brown, only very lightly

Maybe it's implanted near my scar which wouldn't be a good thing either

 

[Tasha]

Maybe or maybe you are just spitting as normal pregnancy bleeding because this journey isn't stressful enough for you?

 

[Hope39]

It's just dawned on me, our names all begin with T!! X

 

[Tasha]

 

[Tia30]

Hey to you both,

Sorry for delay in getting back to you. My mother wallpapered a feature wall in my house, as I'm not allowed to do anything and my other half isn't very good at diy!!

Tasha - they are looking after me, being very cautious which is good. But I still find you have to push a lot for what you need. There has been no support in terms of my emotional wellbeing but I guess I can be a bit closed off at times anyway. I'm struggling with the date approaching but trying to think differently but it's hard. The day Laurie died and her birth is replaying in my head a lot lately.

Hope - yep not long til they admit me. I fully expect it to be really hard but it will be worth it in the end if I get to bring her home.

I'm so pleased we all all here pregnant again after so much tragedy in our lives.

Tasha - things seem to be going so well with Rudolph. Are you getting all the support you need?

Hope - I know you will be really freaking out right now as I was there with spotting in the beginning as you know. It drives you to despair but it doesn't always mean the end. I know you are one strong lady.

As for me, it's still one long day at a time. I would love to press fast forward for us all. Xxx

 

[Tia30]

It's just dawned on me, our names all begin with T!! X

 

[Hope39]

Even freakier, my cousin that had her stillborn last year name also begins with T!

Too many t's for my liking

Anyway, I'm off out to a 60th bday party so have a nice evening ladies xx

 

[Hope39]

Home already

I couldn't be doing with the girl sat opposite me rubbing her pregnant belly , especially when my brown tinge is now pink

Tia what was your spotting like, was it every time you wiped?

Xx

 

[Tasha]

Oooooh what paper Tia?

I'm glad you will be admitted. I think it will give you more support and hope. And that they're looking after you.

Not really at the moment. I'm sort of in that limbo between recurrent miscarriage care and stillbirth care. It sucks but if I can get to twenty weeks the care picks up

Hope don't be freaked out by all the T's, my name doesn't begin with one. How's the spotting this morning?

 

[Hope39]

Oh yeah, forgot yours is really an N!

It's not pink today, back to brown but I'm sure it becomes pink when I've been up on my feet. I sat on my backside all day yday till we went out and that's when it became pink . I'm glued to the sofa again today, which means Adam has to do the food shopping and everything else, mwah ha ha. I could get used to this

Xx

 

[Tasha]

you really should!

 

[Tia30]

Just some Laura Ashley one, I swear you change one thing in a house then you end up changing kt all.

Mine ranged from orange, pink to brown mucousy crap and it was there off and on for about two weeks, between week 5-7. It drove me nuts! I was checking myself constantly.

Hope you're both feeling good today.

Baby has been quieter the last couple of days which always has me on edge. I know it's normal at this stage.

I also jusy got into an argument with my partner. He saw his friends mum in a shop and I hung back while he said hello. I don't want to discuss the baby with people. They said hello and asked when I was due but he said they could tell I was being rude and didn't want to speal to them. So he got annoyed at me. I don't feel comfortable with some people. I need to get used to it and try to be more in control and get a grip. People are just being nice but I just struggle as I'm more obviously pregnant. It brings attention and questions I don't always want to answer.

People prob think I'm a moody crabby bitch!!!

Xx