In short, my bf and I fell pregnant by accident, I am now 8 weeks. At first his reaction was far from ideal (he was an utter jerk!) and he said he didn't want to be with me.
When I didn't chase after him i think it was a shock, and he slowly came around, and has started to make an effort, seeing me, planning things, being very affectionate etc. Basically started acting like the man I fell in love with in the first place.
This is all great, but it doesn't stop me from feeling in limbo. He has told no-one of the pregancy, I have told only my best friend and mom. He hasn't metioned us moving in, hasn't bought anything for the baby etc...he hasn't even mentioned New years or xmas plans which makes me sad, as people are beginning to ask, and share their plans...
Since I'm now making a massive effort to be confident and not needy, preassuring/whingeing/demanding is out of the question. But it's hard when I want to make plans and decisions before the baby arrives in July, and I have no definite answers from him.
We're both going to the first ultrasound on thursday, which he wants to come to. He's being affectionate constantly, and acting as if he wants to be with me...but he has a history of volatility which means I'm still on edge!
How do I deal with this situation?
When I didn't chase after him i think it was a shock, and he slowly came around, and has started to make an effort, seeing me, planning things, being very affectionate etc. Basically started acting like the man I fell in love with in the first place.
This is all great, but it doesn't stop me from feeling in limbo. He has told no-one of the pregancy, I have told only my best friend and mom. He hasn't metioned us moving in, hasn't bought anything for the baby etc...he hasn't even mentioned New years or xmas plans which makes me sad, as people are beginning to ask, and share their plans...
Since I'm now making a massive effort to be confident and not needy, preassuring/whingeing/demanding is out of the question. But it's hard when I want to make plans and decisions before the baby arrives in July, and I have no definite answers from him.
We're both going to the first ultrasound on thursday, which he wants to come to. He's being affectionate constantly, and acting as if he wants to be with me...but he has a history of volatility which means I'm still on edge!
How do I deal with this situation?