Pregnant teen with a problem...

[Claudia2008]

Hi, My name is Claudia, I'm 16 and i found out about 2 and a half weeks ago that i was pregnant. At first i was actaully very happy, me and my boyfriend have been together since 8th grade(were in 10th now) and we were always so happy together. We always talked about growing up and getting married and having a family, so i figured he also would be excited that i was pregnant. But last week when i told him he seemed to be shocked, he told me that he needed time to think and he left. Now he hasn't called or talked to me for a week and i'm beginning to get worried, I don't know what to do, I fear that he will leave me. I want to try to call him or go to his house, but I'm afraid of what he will say or what will happen.... I need some good advice please.. i really want this to turn out right, and i don't want my baby's father to not be in his/her life...

 

[tasha41]

Well it is a big shock and a lot to deal with when you're young, for both the girl and the boy. I'm sure you understand what I'm saying about what a girl goes through.. guys also have this idea in their heads that it's their sole responsibility to support the baby and the girl, they worry about going to court and paying child support and, boys being generally a little more immature than girls, freak out, they're not ready to grow up, give things up, etc.

Give him a call and check up on how he's doing. Tell him you NEED to figure out what's going on with the 2 of you, because you guys need to tell your parents ASAP, and it helps a lot to know what your plans are BEFORE you tell them.

 

[PixieKitty]

He's probably just in shock, and out of place, out of mind. Remember that whatever you decide to do, you do it for you and your baby. Even if he wants nothing to do with his child, would you really want to go back to him after knowing he wouldn't be there to look after you if the need arose? Don't mean to assume anything hun, he might just be taking some time out to adjust. You need to sit him down and see what he thinks about it all, and discuss your options. Don't rush any decisions though hun, this is a decision that will affect you whichever option you chose, you'll know already it isn't something you can chose lightly.
Best of luck hun, and also welcome to BnB

 

[Alexas Mommy]

 

[Pyrrhic]

hun. As the others have said, he's probably still in shock. I'm married and my husband and I had talked about trying to get pregnant. When I did get pregnant though it took him a couple of months to come round to the idea fully. Now he's a very hands on Dad and loves it.

I would give him a call and see if he wants to talk as this is something you both need to face together.

Good luck.

 

[Alexas Mommy]

hun. As the others have said, he's probably still in shock. I'm married and my husband and I had talked about trying to get pregnant. When I did get pregnant though it took him a couple of months to come round to the idea fully. Now he's a very hands on Dad and loves it.

I would give him a call and see if he wants to talk as this is something you both need to face together.

Good luck.

I agree. OH and I were ttc and when we got pregnant it took him a few months-actually until our 19 week scan, for him to get used to the idea... And we have been together for almost 7 and a half years.

 

[nikky0907]

It's a huge shock for him,you have to understand. Talking about a family in an abstract sense is completely different than having it actually happen to you at such a young age.
Give him some time to cope with it by himself.

 

[baby#4due2/16]

give him time..its a big adjustment even for him....he will either come around and be with you or move on..but whatever he does you just worry about yourself and that baby.

 

[bubbybump]

I'd go over to his house, its a lot better to talk in person than on a phone.

I became pregnant when the father and I weren't together, we started seeing eachother then he cheated on me, i guess hes too young to have the responsibilities of than an adult,

But overall your the mummy and you dont need a male to gratify that.

I hope you make the right decisions.

Hope i've been of any help.
xxx

 

[nataliecn]

Give him time to think about it.. Like it's been said, it's a big shock.
When I told my OH, he was very quiet about it for nearly a week because it wasn't expected at all. Mind you, he didn't ignore me or leave or anything. But he was just quiet and it took him about a week for it to click and him to be excited about being a daddy.

Your OH may just need a bit of time... your both young, and I'm sure there's a lot more going through your minds when you're young and it's very unexpected!