Questioning everything

[Dimples81]

Really thought I was ready to try all this again but now I’m not sure. Had an exploratory hysteroscopy and d and c on Monday as have been bleeding in between periods and after sex. My boyfriend lives around 40mins away and has always been a bit short on common sense, sometimes I’m not a priority over certain things and I get that. He took Monday off so he could take me to hospital (he didn’t in the end but that is separate to all this) and Tuesday so I wasn’t alone for 24hours after general anaesthetic as instructed by hospital. I was alright after the surgery initially but by Tuesday evening I was in horrendous pain and have been since. He had to go home on Tuesday evening and I’ve hardly heard from him since. He messaged me this morning and I asked him to come over this eve as I’m in too much pain to do anything, can’t get in the shower etc and need a bit of help and he said he is too busy. I can’t believe how little he cares about me this week. Am I overreacting because I’m feeling vulnerable and in pain etc? How can I try to have a baby with someone who can’t even prioritise a partner when ill? Am I being nuts?

 

[Symphony7]

Honestly hun, from this alone I would say yes it sounds crazy to try to have a baby with a person like that. But no one knows the whole story but you and only you can make that decision for you. For me personally I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that let alone have a child with them. My husband moved mountains to help me during our dating days when my parents were divorcing and I had to deal with the aftermath of that. That’s when I knew he was the one, and he is still as amazing as a husband and father. We can’t control how others act, but we can control how we let people treat us by allowing them to be in our lives.